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Post by muscari on Oct 30, 2017 4:58:18 GMT -6
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Post by muscari on Oct 30, 2017 5:01:40 GMT -6
I was hoping to find some black or green leggings or such to go with D.s pumpkin onesie but I'll be darned none of the places I looked had any. It is similar to this one but has short sleeves. once I got any pics of D as a cute little pumpkin I will share 🎃
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Post by king26 on Oct 30, 2017 6:15:34 GMT -6
Even with all the sleeping yesterday j had a good night sleep. I feel like he's getting into a night routine although days are still all over the place. Nights are usually 5 hours then or 2 and a half hours then 1 hour. So not bad and I am getting 6 or 7 hours a night so that's been good.
My main thing now is doing things with j. He will sit for 10 minutes or so but then wants to do something. We go in bouncy seat, play mat, sit in crib, walk around, look at rattle. When do they start grabbing and playing with toys? When can I start sitting him up to play? Like in exersaucer or bumbo? I know it's stupid but I like to do stuff with him. Walking around is his favorite though .
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Post by happyfeet9 on Oct 30, 2017 6:23:55 GMT -6
Even with all the sleeping yesterday j had a good night sleep. I feel like he's getting into a night routine although days are still all over the place. Nights are usually 5 hours then or 2 and a half hours then 1 hour. So not bad and I am getting 6 or 7 hours a night so that's been good. My main thing now is doing things with j. He will sit for 10 minutes or so but then wants to do something. We go in bouncy seat, play mat, sit in crib, walk around, look at rattle. When do they start grabbing and playing with toys? When can I start sitting him up to play? Like in exersaucer or bumbo? I know it's stupid but I like to do stuff with him. Walking around is his favorite though . I think you can start around 3-4 months as long as they have good head control and some trunj strength. I wouldn't expect them to be able to sit for long periods of time though and be ready for a lot of slumping over.
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Post by king26 on Oct 30, 2017 6:34:32 GMT -6
Even with all the sleeping yesterday j had a good night sleep. I feel like he's getting into a night routine although days are still all over the place. Nights are usually 5 hours then or 2 and a half hours then 1 hour. So not bad and I am getting 6 or 7 hours a night so that's been good. My main thing now is doing things with j. He will sit for 10 minutes or so but then wants to do something. We go in bouncy seat, play mat, sit in crib, walk around, look at rattle. When do they start grabbing and playing with toys? When can I start sitting him up to play? Like in exersaucer or bumbo? I know it's stupid but I like to do stuff with him. Walking around is his favorite though . I think you can start around 3-4 months as long as they have good head control and some trunj strength. I wouldn't expect them to be able to sit for long periods of time though and be ready for a lot of slumping over. I figured he won't sit for a long time. I'm hoping for 10 or 15 minutes just so I can do something while he s in them even just eat or wash bottles.
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Post by jexxa on Oct 30, 2017 6:55:21 GMT -6
king26 P has just started to grab at toys, like within the last 2 days (she’s 11 weeks).
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Post by jexxa on Oct 30, 2017 6:56:41 GMT -6
I dropped P off this morning for her first day of daycare. I’m having her do a half day today, then full days tomorrow Wednesday and Thursday, then i’m keeping her and DS home on Friday since my parents are coming into town Thursday evening for the weekend. I thought dropoff would be a little easier since I’ve been through this once before...but no, no it wasn’t 😢
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Post by addymac on Oct 30, 2017 7:15:11 GMT -6
jexxa awww I’m sorry. I know I’ll be a mess the first day I have to go back to work and don’t get to see him. DH was on baby duty last night so I think I went to bed around 9:30-10, woke up at 2 to screaming / body needed to pump, and then ugh. DH was being so whiny in his face about being tired and awake with N who he was rocking to sleep at 2:30 so I told him I’d take him and we snuggled until he was passed out I was able to put him in a swaddle sleep sack and he didn’t notice around 3. Then the kid made so much noise and DH was so unaware of him crying I had to wake DH up around 5 and be like DUDE! He’s up. And DH’s response was “what do I do? I just fed him.” ....... me: “that was four hours ago!!” DH: “what? Oh. Ugh.” Then he got up and what not, but wtf? Like... what?! This doesn’t help my worry about him taking care of him at night when I have to go back to work. He doesn’t hear him fussing, he didn’t think much time had passed where he needed to feed him, his feedings with him take FOREVER (he said he got up at 1, when I was up at 2 he had finished a 5oz bottle and was giving him a 6th oz- but that shouldn’t take over an hour!), I told him to put N in a sleep sack last night before I went to bed and his response was “what is that” 😒, AND Baby bottles that that been in the sink from the afternoon were still there at 2am so I was up at 2:30 washing bottles. Like, that doesn’t help me get sleep. Then I’m wide awake at 3am. I did keep quiet while N was screaming his head off at 2/2:30 and only asked if he needed to be BF (answer was no), so I just let DH figure it out, but it killllllsssss me to hear N screaming to the point where his cries and voice sound hoarse. 😔 I don’t know what to do. If I try to talk to him about it he gets super defensive and mad at me. If I keep it in I get super mad and then snippy at him. Sigh.
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Post by king26 on Oct 30, 2017 7:21:49 GMT -6
I'm sorry jexxa that's tough addymac DH doesn't hear j at night half the time either. I don't get it. When he dors get up he washes bottles though so im grateful. Thankfully I work during the day so DH will be up when he has j and I'm at work.
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Post by kristyw on Oct 30, 2017 7:24:11 GMT -6
I think we started to use the bumbo around 4 months with W. The excersaucer not until he had more trunk support and was actively pushing up with his legs, otherwise they just dangle by their crotch and that seems not good/uncomfortable.
I'm officially back to work today (last Sunday doesn't really count to me). E has her first day at daycare. I hope she does ok. She really likes to be held a lot which is a downside of in-home care where there's only 1 person. E will also still only take an oz at a time by bottle so she'll probably be up a bunch the next few nights to make up the calories.
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Post by jexxa on Oct 30, 2017 7:45:39 GMT -6
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Post by happyfeet9 on Oct 30, 2017 7:49:13 GMT -6
I dropped P off this morning for her first day of daycare. I’m having her do a half day today, then full days tomorrow Wednesday and Thursday, then i’m keeping her and DS home on Friday since my parents are coming into town Thursday evening for the weekend. I thought dropoff would be a little easier since I’ve been through this once before...but no, no it wasn’t 😢 Sending you so many hugs. I go back to work on Monday and I'm totally not ready.
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Post by happyfeet9 on Oct 30, 2017 7:53:45 GMT -6
jexxa awww I’m sorry. I know I’ll be a mess the first day I have to go back to work and don’t get to see him. DH was on baby duty last night so I think I went to bed around 9:30-10, woke up at 2 to screaming / body needed to pump, and then ugh. DH was being so whiny in his face about being tired and awake with N who he was rocking to sleep at 2:30 so I told him I’d take him and we snuggled until he was passed out I was able to put him in a swaddle sleep sack and he didn’t notice around 3. Then the kid made so much noise and DH was so unaware of him crying I had to wake DH up around 5 and be like DUDE! He’s up. And DH’s response was “what do I do? I just fed him.” ....... me: “that was four hours ago!!” DH: “what? Oh. Ugh.” Then he got up and what not, but wtf? Like... what?! This doesn’t help my worry about him taking care of him at night when I have to go back to work. He doesn’t hear him fussing, he didn’t think much time had passed where he needed to feed him, his feedings with him take FOREVER (he said he got up at 1, when I was up at 2 he had finished a 5oz bottle and was giving him a 6th oz- but that shouldn’t take over an hour!), I told him to put N in a sleep sack last night before I went to bed and his response was “what is that” 😒, AND Baby bottles that that been in the sink from the afternoon were still there at 2am so I was up at 2:30 washing bottles. Like, that doesn’t help me get sleep. Then I’m wide awake at 3am. I did keep quiet while N was screaming his head off at 2/2:30 and only asked if he needed to be BF (answer was no), so I just let DH figure it out, but it killllllsssss me to hear N screaming to the point where his cries and voice sound hoarse. 😔 I don’t know what to do. If I try to talk to him about it he gets super defensive and mad at me. If I keep it in I get super mad and then snippy at him. Sigh. Is there a place for him to sleep near N to be closer to him while he's on duty? MH is also a heavy sleeper and won't wake up unless he's right there. I'm not sure what to do about the bottle situation bc we have the same problem here. I'm just constantly washing them bc I need so many between pumping and the twins. With DS1 we had an Avent sterilizer that went in the microwave that seemed to work well. Maybe that's an option so you can get some relief?
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Post by addymac on Oct 30, 2017 8:04:25 GMT -6
happyfeet9 I should look into a sterilizer. I also may just need to buy more even though DH was all “we can just wash them & save money!” And same for pumping bottles - I bought some more but this morning I used the last two clean ones. I did just empty four of them by freezing the milk in them but they’re in the sink now bc I decided to let them soak while I took a nap. Maybe we need to switch sides of the bed? I’m on the side closer to N, maybe that would help me sleep more and him notice the wake ups more if we switched. That’s an idea for sure!
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Post by king26 on Oct 30, 2017 8:17:24 GMT -6
kristyw i hope daycare goes well today. I'm on my own all day today as DH has a delivery 3 hours away. My plan is yo run out and do errands with j in the afternoon. I like going out around 1 or 2 as it helps break up the day. Question..when it's nap time how do you get your lo to sleep? I wait until j starts yawning and then give him his bink and rock him to sleep. He still can't stay up more than 2 hours or he is a beast so when we get close to 2 hours I just start rocking him whether he seems tired or not. It usually works. Can your lo stay up longer than 2 hours? How long? We are still taking 5 or 6 naps a day (usually 4 short ones and 2 long ones)
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Post by cwbh928 on Oct 30, 2017 8:49:30 GMT -6
king26 , we use the sit me up chair. It’s perfect for this stage. The chair leans back just enough so he doesn’t slump forward, but also keeps his sitting straight. addymac , my DH never hears the baby crying at night. It tough and annoying especially when he is suppose to watch him. jexxa , aww that’s tough! kristyw , hope it goes well!
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Post by cali on Oct 30, 2017 9:30:40 GMT -6
addymac, that is super frustrating, mh also rarely wakes up to M crying and it drives me nuts. Husbands! So... my MIL is coming to stay with us today for two days. I'm annoyed. She lives 30 minutes away and acts like it is so far. She has been here once since M was born 10 weeks ago. Prior to that she had been to our house twice in five years. We've had to take M to her house every other time she has seen her. So now MH is insisting on her coming and staying over so she can spend time with M. This is all at his insistence, she has never asked to send more time with M and doesn't seem that interested in it. MH is picking her up and then dropping her back off when she goes home because she says it's too far for her to drive (guys, I swear it is 30 minutes MAX). She's a very nice woman and I generally don't complain much about her because she doesn't bother us at all but she's also never shown much interest in being involved in our life. She also acts very helpless and she has been really hands off with M when she has seen her so it's not like she's going to be helpful. I have a really hellish week this week with school and it's like the worst time for a house guest. MH insists she's going to be helping and that's why he invited her this week but I can't see it. I heard him talking to her on the phone this morning and she did not sound like she was looking forward to it AT ALL. Also, mh is going to be working the majority of the time she is here so it will be up to me to entertain her. I tried saying something to MH about it but he accused me of hating his mom (which I do not). I feel like I'm being an ass but I'm so dreading it. Side note: MH has been a real jerk lately, but I'll save that for another post since this is a novel.
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Post by addymac on Oct 30, 2017 9:42:02 GMT -6
cali ugh I’m so sorry. That sounds AWFUL. I say don’t even stress or bother yourself with trying to entertain her and just go about things as you would. Ugh I’m so mad for you!!
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Post by muscari on Oct 30, 2017 10:03:40 GMT -6
Even with all the sleeping yesterday j had a good night sleep. I feel like he's getting into a night routine although days are still all over the place. Nights are usually 5 hours then or 2 and a half hours then 1 hour. So not bad and I am getting 6 or 7 hours a night so that's been good. My main thing now is doing things with j. He will sit for 10 minutes or so but then wants to do something. We go in bouncy seat, play mat, sit in crib, walk around, look at rattle. When do they start grabbing and playing with toys? When can I start sitting him up to play? Like in exersaucer or bumbo? I know it's stupid but I like to do stuff with him. Walking around is his favorite though . D. is like this as well. Her night routine seems pretty solid but days are like alllll over the place. I love getting like 6h of regular sleep - though it still doesn't feel like it's enough.. guess because the days are go go go go from waking up till D. goes back to bed? I'd love to get some downtime during the day as well I've been wondering the same thing king26! I'd love to do more interactive stuff with her rather then just walking around (which she likes a ton as well). Funny, so D. is enjoying herself on her playmat and has been for a little while. So MH just commented that he thinks it's so strange/funny that she can do that. He often sits next to her when she's on her playmat and he's home, cause he felt he shouldn't leave her alone too much (he felt like he was abandoning her then somehow), and I think it's good he sees that she actually is fine for little whiles here and there on her own as well.
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Post by cali on Oct 30, 2017 10:14:11 GMT -6
muscari, M also can entertain herself for short periods of time. Sometimes I will leave her in her crib or on her playmate while I wash bottles or pump or make a sandwich or something and she just looks around and plays with her hands and is fine for 10 minutes or so. It's nice to be able to get a short break! Glad yh is realizing it's ok. As for activities, I bought this baby Einstein toy that plays music and lights up and she loves when we play with that. Also, we read books a lot. I know she doesn't really understand them yet and she really just watches me and doesn't look at the book but I usually try to use fun voices and stuff and she laughs and smiles so it's a fun way to interact.
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Post by king26 on Oct 30, 2017 14:31:17 GMT -6
Anyone else's child scream bloody murder when you try to burp them in the middle of a feeding? J used to whine but now he screams when I burp him halfway through .
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Post by king26 on Oct 30, 2017 14:44:05 GMT -6
Also when I look up how long babies sleep it says 15.5 to 17 hours from 6 weeks to 2.5 months. J never sleeps that lobg. Does your lo? Then it says 15 hours at 3 and 4 months. J sleeps around 14 hours a day and I thought that was good.
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Post by addymac on Oct 30, 2017 15:30:59 GMT -6
Anyone else's child scream bloody murder when you try to burp them in the middle of a feeding? J used to whine but now he screams when I burp him halfway through . N HAAAAATES to be burped mid feed. Will scream his head off 95% of the time. I usually just stop and go back to feeding 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by king26 on Oct 30, 2017 15:55:26 GMT -6
cali I hope the visit goes better then expectede
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 30, 2017 16:18:48 GMT -6
Sorry that sounds so frigin stressful cali! Ugh I’m sorry your dealing with that. king26, daily naps are so all over the place that it seems hard to pinpoint but thinking about it I don’t think she is getting that much sleep even when she does nap well
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Post by happyfeet9 on Oct 30, 2017 16:26:15 GMT -6
Also when I look up how long babies sleep it says 15.5 to 17 hours from 6 weeks to 2.5 months. J never sleeps that lobg. Does your lo? Then it says 15 hours at 3 and 4 months. J sleeps around 14 hours a day and I thought that was good. My toddler is what I would call the anti-unicorn when it comes to sleep. He was always on the lower end of what was expected of a baby and now toddler in terms of sleep. He was maybe around the 14 hour mark as you mentioned. He's now maybe at 12.
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Post by cali on Oct 30, 2017 16:34:55 GMT -6
Anyone else's child scream bloody murder when you try to burp them in the middle of a feeding? J used to whine but now he screams when I burp him halfway through . Yes, always. Usually I just give up and give her the bottle back because she starts turning herself bright red from crying so hard.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 30, 2017 16:50:29 GMT -6
cali That sounds awful. So sorry you have to deal with her and DH isn't listening to your concerns
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Post by jexxa on Oct 30, 2017 18:27:44 GMT -6
cali I’m sorry your H is being a jerk. I hope your MIL isn’t too awkward. king26 DS has always been on the low end of sleep. He dropped to 1 nap at around 8 months 😒 Some babies need more sleep than average, some less. I wouldn’t worry about it unless your pedi is worried.
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Post by jexxa on Oct 30, 2017 18:31:01 GMT -6
P did well today! They said she was content pretty much the entire time and that she’s such a smiley and happy baby. She only ate 2oz though, although she was hungry when I picked her up but they didn’t want to feed her because they knew I was coming. Tomorrow will be the real test with it being her first full day. I’m curious how much she’ll eat.
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