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Post by moutonrouge on Aug 15, 2018 7:36:11 GMT -6
I am still so undecided about having a second kid, otherwise I could sell some of the things I have to fund new things. Bah. Saaaaaaaaaame. Although I mostly want to get rid of things to get space back.
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Post by gingy on Aug 15, 2018 8:24:43 GMT -6
I am still so undecided about having a second kid, otherwise I could sell some of the things I have to fund new things. Bah. Saaaaaaaaaame. Although I mostly want to get rid of things to get space back. I am mostly sure we're done, but even on the chance we're not, I would rather have the space back now and deal with buying for a new kid when s/he comes along. Baby stuff takes up so. much. space.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 15, 2018 8:32:30 GMT -6
I am still so undecided about having a second kid, otherwise I could sell some of the things I have to fund new things. Bah. Saaaaaaaaaame. Although I mostly want to get rid of things to get space back. Yea, that too. I need to put the infant car seat away but I don't have a good place to store it. I don't want to risk mice getting into it in the barn. Ugh.
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Post by cmb on Aug 15, 2018 8:58:47 GMT -6
Saaaaaaaaaame. Although I mostly want to get rid of things to get space back. Yea, that too. I need to put the infant car seat away but I don't have a good place to store it. I don't want to risk mice getting into it in the barn. Ugh. What about one of those travel bags? We have ours in the top of a closet while the bases are in the garage
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Post by piratecat on Aug 15, 2018 8:59:50 GMT -6
Saaaaaaaaaame. Although I mostly want to get rid of things to get space back. I am mostly sure we're done, but even on the chance we're not, I would rather have the space back now and deal with buying for a new kid when s/he comes along. Baby stuff takes up so. much. space. I just can't get myself to spend the money again if we were to have another.
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Post by gingy on Aug 15, 2018 9:03:57 GMT -6
I am mostly sure we're done, but even on the chance we're not, I would rather have the space back now and deal with buying for a new kid when s/he comes along. Baby stuff takes up so. much. space. I just can't get myself to spend the money again if we were to have another. I hear ya. We got off easy because DS hated most of the larger items we had anyway. Sit Me Up, bouncer, etc. He loved the RNP, which is being loaned to a friend, and the jumparoo, which we got off a BST page for cheap. We never had a swing. Now watch my hypothetical second child be bougie AF and need all the things.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 15, 2018 9:05:30 GMT -6
Yea, that too. I need to put the infant car seat away but I don't have a good place to store it. I don't want to risk mice getting into it in the barn. Ugh. What about one of those travel bags? We have ours in the top of a closet while the bases are in the garage I'm not sure that would be enough to keep the mice out... And we really have very little storage space inside the house. Hmm, maybe it'll fit in a sort of dead space in my closet.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 15, 2018 9:19:26 GMT -6
"No" has become J's favorite word. He says it for everything, regardless of whether he understands the question, and sometimes when he actually means yes. It's the cutest, I love the way he says it. And when I ask him if he can say "yes" he smiles and nods.
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Post by ttcbabyj on Aug 15, 2018 9:52:17 GMT -6
I am mostly sure we're done, but even on the chance we're not, I would rather have the space back now and deal with buying for a new kid when s/he comes along. Baby stuff takes up so. much. space. I just can't get myself to spend the money again if we were to have another. This is where I am at. I just don’t know if we are having another one, so I haven’t gotten rid of anything yet. I do know if we have another it will be a boy. We only have male embryos left. So I’ve started to purge some of DD old clothes. DH has strongly expressed he doesn’t want his son wearing pink...lol! 😂😂🙄🙄🙄
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Post by moutonrouge on Aug 15, 2018 10:49:11 GMT -6
"No" has become J's favorite word. He says it for everything, regardless of whether he understands the question, and sometimes when he actually means yes. It's the cutest, I love the way he says it. And when I ask him if he can say "yes" he smiles and nods. DD has enjoyed her discovery that you can say no to something and just not do it. She says it with this big smile (she also says it like Nah). It's cute for now
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Post by piratecat on Aug 15, 2018 11:06:27 GMT -6
"No" has become J's favorite word. He says it for everything, regardless of whether he understands the question, and sometimes when he actually means yes. It's the cutest, I love the way he says it. And when I ask him if he can say "yes" he smiles and nods. DD has enjoyed her discovery that you can say no to something and just not do it. She says it with this big smile (she also says it like Nah). It's cute for now I'm learning I have to be careful of asking certain questions, like should we brush our teeth? No. Oh okay, let's brush our teeth anyway.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 15, 2018 11:31:41 GMT -6
F doesn't say no, but she shakes her head to everything. It's really funny. Her favorite word to say besides mama is cheese 😂 He used to shake his head, or more like just dramatically move it to one side and down, then he was doing this thing where he would shake his whole body, and now he's into actually saying no. Cheese is hilarious, I don't think J says that yet.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 15, 2018 13:46:22 GMT -6
Oh and J might have said "Nana" for his grandmother, which is adorable because we don't even call her that. Or he was just babbling, which is more likely.
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Post by thechickencoop on Aug 15, 2018 19:02:15 GMT -6
I just can't get myself to spend the money again if we were to have another. I hear ya. We got off easy because DS hated most of the larger items we had anyway. Sit Me Up, bouncer, etc. He loved the RNP, which is being loaned to a friend, and the jumparoo, which we got off a BST page for cheap. We never had a swing. Now watch my hypothetical second child be bougie AF and need all the things. Ehhh....just get rid of the stuff. Maybe save the carseat but the rest of it 🤷♀️ We saved the infant seat from DS1 but by the time I finally got pregnant with DS2, it had expired (actually expired the month he was born) so I had to get another anyway. But other than that, I borrowed or was given a swing, stoller, bouncer, rnp, etc etc. And I've been giving them all away as we're done. There's so many people with baby shit just sitting around that I've found it's super easy to grab up most things free then just pass em along. Only other things we saved were the crib because it was kind of flat when taken apart, and a high chair. It's been fine.
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Post by cmb on Aug 16, 2018 10:09:48 GMT -6
I hear ya. We got off easy because DS hated most of the larger items we had anyway. Sit Me Up, bouncer, etc. He loved the RNP, which is being loaned to a friend, and the jumparoo, which we got off a BST page for cheap. We never had a swing. Now watch my hypothetical second child be bougie AF and need all the things. Ehhh....just get rid of the stuff. Maybe save the carseat but the rest of it 🤷♀️ We saved the infant seat from DS1 but by the time I finally got pregnant with DS2, it had expired (actually expired the month he was born) so I had to get another anyway. But other than that, I borrowed or was given a swing, stoller, bouncer, rnp, etc etc. And I've been giving them all away as we're done. There's so many people with baby shit just sitting around that I've found it's super easy to grab up most things free then just pass em along. Only other things we saved were the crib because it was kind of flat when taken apart, and a high chair. It's been fine. Depending on the age gap, I would agree. If there’s only going to be 2-3 years, save it all. More than that? Meh
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Post by ttcbabyj on Aug 16, 2018 12:41:59 GMT -6
How does everyone deal with the temper tantrums?? DD is almost 15 months, she has the wildest melt downs. Sometimes I’m afraid she is going to hurt herself. Please tell me this gets better once she starts communicating. Ugh
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Post by cmb on Aug 16, 2018 12:54:41 GMT -6
How does everyone deal with the temper tantrums?? DD is almost 15 months, she has the wildest melt downs. Sometimes I’m afraid she is going to hurt herself. Please tell me this gets better once she starts communicating. Ugh Oh, the temper tantrums... No, they haven’t gotten better. Less frequent but more intense
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Post by ttcbabyj on Aug 16, 2018 12:58:02 GMT -6
How does everyone deal with the temper tantrums?? DD is almost 15 months, she has the wildest melt downs. Sometimes I’m afraid she is going to hurt herself. Please tell me this gets better once she starts communicating. Ugh Oh, the temper tantrums... No, they haven’t gotten better. Less frequent but more intense Like I don’t even know why she’s melting down...what do you want child?? I’m looking forward to the less frequent, but not the more intense. 😐 DH wants to spank her and I’m just not on board with that...for one thing I think she’s too young.
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Post by moutonrouge on Aug 16, 2018 13:01:27 GMT -6
How does everyone deal with the temper tantrums?? DD is almost 15 months, she has the wildest melt downs. Sometimes I’m afraid she is going to hurt herself. Please tell me this gets better once she starts communicating. Ugh I've been trying to move toward reasoning with DD and getting her to calm down. Like at the park last week, she started to melt down because I didn't want to hold her on the big kid swing. So I asked her to calm down and listen to me and said, "Mama doesn't want to swing anymore. But I will push you in the little swing. Do you want to go do that?" That worked out okay. If I'm not sure why she's upset, I'll just encourage her to calm down (let's take a deep breath, whoosh, it's okay) and sometimes I'll redirect to something new once she stops crying. But I do sometimes just ignore her, especially if she wants to be held while I'm in the middle of something and can't pause for her. And sometimes my patience has just run out.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 16, 2018 14:01:06 GMT -6
How does everyone deal with the temper tantrums?? DD is almost 15 months, she has the wildest melt downs. Sometimes I’m afraid she is going to hurt herself. Please tell me this gets better once she starts communicating. Ugh I have been listening to a lot of parenting podcasts and I think some of it is OTT but it is helping me to feel less flustered when dealing with J when he is fussing or throwing tantrums or whatever. I am also trying to be more sympathetic, like they don't really know why they are feeling the way they are feeling, and they just don't know how to deal with their emotions. So I usually just say "I'm sorry you're feeling frustrated". I have also heard it's healthy for them to release their emotions in a tantrum and to allow them to do it at home, which is not that different from many advice you hear to ignore them, but with a gentler spin. We thankfully have only had a few full-on tantrums and only at home and there really wasn't anything I could do to console him anyway.
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Post by gingy on Aug 16, 2018 14:10:20 GMT -6
How does everyone deal with the temper tantrums?? DD is almost 15 months, she has the wildest melt downs. Sometimes I’m afraid she is going to hurt herself. Please tell me this gets better once she starts communicating. Ugh It's been a while since tantrums with SD, but we would mostly let her ride it out. Encourage her to go to her room if we were home, so she could get it alllll out, but mostly ignore and let her do her thing. She largely wanted the attention, so when we went about our business around her flailing body, she lost her steam. It sucks. I'm not looking forward to it with DS, and he's already well on his way.
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Post by billyhorrible on Aug 16, 2018 16:57:42 GMT -6
How does everyone deal with the temper tantrums?? DD is almost 15 months, she has the wildest melt downs. Sometimes I’m afraid she is going to hurt herself. Please tell me this gets better once she starts communicating. Ugh It gets better around 4. But waaaaay worse before that time. I have 2 different kids, and they needed it handled in two very different ways. With both, I fed them emotional vocabulary, because kids don't have that for a looooong time. "I'm sorry you're so frustrated/sad/etc." With my oldest, I offered a hug. He just needed to be held and that would have him calm down. My youngest needs alone time. He does not want to be touched or comforted. At 3, he runs to his room and throws himself on his bed, at 15 months I would just let him stay where he was (if it was safe) and let him know I was there if/when he needed me. If the tantrums involved destructive behavior I would remind them it was okay to be upset, but not okay to throw things/break things/kick/hit/spit/whatever and give alternatives like screaming into a pillow, screaming "I'm angry" or punching a pillow.
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Post by lupincat on Aug 16, 2018 17:13:54 GMT -6
I just ride tantrums out but in full disclosure I've been #blessed in this department. DS1's only true tantrums are out of frustration with his speech disorder or being beyond tired. DS2 just flings himself down very dramatically and sobs.
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Post by cmb on Aug 16, 2018 18:21:09 GMT -6
DS2 threw a tantrum tonight while we were in the kitchen because he wanted me to go into his room and read him “Babies on the Bus”
Kid, how am I supposed to know that when all I here is ARRGGHHHH
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Post by ttcbabyj on Aug 16, 2018 20:29:32 GMT -6
ttcbabyj, I really like "How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen" for the tantrum talk. Our daughter is also about 15 months and starting to lose it at times. I'm with you on the no-spanking bench, especially for such a little kid. Stay strong! <3 Thank you for the book recommendation. DH thinks just because she does the sign for “I’m sorry” (sometimes after her tantrums) that she really knows what she’s doing. It’s like everyone is in the spanking camp, I’m just not sold.
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Post by sheilathetank on Aug 17, 2018 12:28:54 GMT -6
Oh, the temper tantrums... No, they haven’t gotten better. Less frequent but more intense Like I don’t even know why she’s melting down...what do you want child?? I’m looking forward to the less frequent, but not the more intense. 😐 DH wants to spank her and I’m just not on board with that...for one thing I think she’s too young. Depending on the trigger, I would let it ride out and ignore or I get down to her level and hug and rock her. Even as a honey badger, pushing me away, sometimes she just needed some comfort. I tried the happiest toddler on the block method but it only pissed her off more. Too bad because we lived or died by the happiest baby 5 Ss. For us it comes and goes in phases and is triggered a lot by overtiredness or overstimulation. My kid is crazy verbal, but even with an enormous vocabulary, it doesn't mean she knows how to handle the emotions she is feeling. I know you know this, but spanking would only exacerbate the problem.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 17, 2018 15:56:07 GMT -6
I tried making dinner with the kiddo so H could take a break and it is a disaster. Broccoli everywhere. Everything everywhere.
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Post by sheilathetank on Aug 17, 2018 17:49:28 GMT -6
I tried making dinner with the kiddo so H could take a break and it is a disaster. Broccoli everywhere. Everything everywhere. But was he happy? Because I personally am ok with major cleanup if it means my kids is not melting down and clinging on me while I try to cook dinner. Can you give him pasta? Even if you aren't eating it. Have him pour the pasta into a bowl. We used to have a pasta and bean bin in the kitchen. Costs like $2 to put together and when it gets gross you just toss it. Easier to sweep up too.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 17, 2018 18:19:42 GMT -6
I tried making dinner with the kiddo so H could take a break and it is a disaster. Broccoli everywhere. Everything everywhere. But was he happy? Because I personally am ok with major cleanup if it means my kids is not melting down and clinging on me while I try to cook dinner. Can you give him pasta? Even if you aren't eating it. Have him pour the pasta into a bowl. We used to have a pasta and bean bin in the kitchen. Costs like $2 to put together and when it gets gross you just toss it. Easier to sweep up too. He was happy enough for a little while. I was scrambling but I did successfully make a very simple meal so really I guess that’s good enough. So dry pasta in a bin to pour? That could work, he generally likes putting things into containers. I was trying to give him things to do, which mostly ended up on the floor. And in the end I just let him crawl around unloading everything off the island shelves.
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Post by sheilathetank on Aug 17, 2018 18:26:41 GMT -6
But was he happy? Because I personally am ok with major cleanup if it means my kids is not melting down and clinging on me while I try to cook dinner. Can you give him pasta? Even if you aren't eating it. Have him pour the pasta into a bowl. We used to have a pasta and bean bin in the kitchen. Costs like $2 to put together and when it gets gross you just toss it. Easier to sweep up too. He was happy enough for a little while. I was scrambling but I did successfully make a very simple meal so really I guess that’s good enough. So dry pasta in a bin to pour? That could work, he generally likes putting things into containers. I was trying to give him things to do, which mostly ended up on the floor. And in the end I just let him crawl around unloading everything off the island shelves. The two buckets on the left were the sensory bins I did for DDs 18 month old Halloween party last year. I ended up just taking them and pouring them into a Tupperware bin with a lid. I did black beans, chick peas, and the big ziti. Bigger is better. I tried rice and it was a disaster. Now, don't be surprised if a lot ends up on the floor, but I would make her help me clean it up (sometimes with tears involved) but it kept her occupied for a long ass time and she would beg to play with it
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