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Post by billyhorrible on Aug 3, 2018 8:49:16 GMT -6
grover, Congratulations! I'm betting on 2 girls, because everyone I know who had a daughter and then twins ended up with 3 girls!
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Post by cmb on Aug 3, 2018 9:07:20 GMT -6
My kids listen to my music 🤷🏼♀️ DS1 is quite fond of rock music. DS2 seems to be more into the heavy rock side of the genre We do this too. I've been listening to the new Panic! at the Disco album (lol @ cmb 's comment about them) in the car. And DS loves the Hamilton soundtrack, likely because that's all I listened to while pregnant. We never did kid music with SD. I just tried to avoid heavy profanity during her parrot-like years. I just try really hard not to snicker anytime DS1 goes “go fuck themselves” at the exact right moment in the song 🤣 But we adhere to the “words are just words” mentality with profanity. At least they know the right context to use it 😂🤷🏼♀️
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Post by thechickencoop on Aug 3, 2018 13:18:33 GMT -6
So um....my life is about to drastically change. At yesterdays ultrasound, I found out I'm due with twins. A week after A's second birthday. Aaaahhhh congrats!!
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Aug 7, 2018 8:09:22 GMT -6
I'm working the election today. For some reason I thought it would be a good idea not to bring my pump. Good lord, I might die. Bfing after a year is fun (?)
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Post by ttcbabyj on Aug 7, 2018 14:04:38 GMT -6
I’m so glad DD is starting to sign more, it really helps with communication. I was running bath water this morning and she did the sign for bath...so cute. DH is proud he taught her to make a fart noise, whenever you ask her, “J who farted?” Lol...🤷🏽♀️
I think I’m going to have to talk to her daycare teacher or the director about her lunchtime. It seems like she’s always the last one to finish and sometimes it looks like she’s still eating when they start cleaning up. I mean really give my kid a break, she only has two teeth.
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Post by ttcbabyj on Aug 7, 2018 14:07:46 GMT -6
I'm working the election today. For some reason I thought it would be a good idea not to bring my pump. Good lord, I might die. Bfing after a year is fun (?) Hats off to you! This is my last month. DD will be 15 months on September 1st . I gave myself the deadline, when the fall semester starts. I’m soooo tired of taking my pump everywhere.
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Post by cmb on Aug 7, 2018 14:10:02 GMT -6
I’m so glad DD is starting to sign more, it really helps with communication. I was running bath water this morning and she did the sign for bath...so cute. DH is proud he taught her to make a fart noise, whenever you ask her, “J who farted?” Lol...🤷🏽♀️ I think I’m going to have to talk to her daycare teacher or the director about her lunchtime. It seems like she’s always the last one to finish and sometimes it looks like she’s still eating when they start cleaning up. I mean really give my kid a break, she only has two teeth. IME, most daycares are not accustomed to late teethers. DS1 was over 13 months when he got his first tooth, so they had a field day with him lol
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Post by lupincat on Aug 7, 2018 18:36:55 GMT -6
Well for anyone that remembers, DS1 is severely speech delayed and today we met with a new private speech therapist that we'll be using our insurance for. She pretty much diagnosed him with apraxia of speech so we'll be starting a new more intense program with her.
I'm bummed but I knew it was coming based on my internet research. I am relieved to have a clear path going forward.
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Post by cmb on Aug 8, 2018 3:43:01 GMT -6
lupincat that’s great that you have a plan! I hope things go smoothly for you- I know how long therapy can take before there’s any form of real noticeable improvement with speech. Are you going to see a developmental pediatrician as well? We have an appointment in October for DS1 Edit- correct words are hard
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Post by lupincat on Aug 8, 2018 6:05:19 GMT -6
lupincat that’s great that you have a plan! I hope things go smoothly for you- I know how long therapy can take before there’s any form of real noticeable improvement with speech. Are you going to see a developmental pediatrician as well? We have an appointment in October for DS1 Edit- correct words are hard We haven't considered a development pedi yet. Probably should now that we have a diagnosis.
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Post by cmb on Aug 8, 2018 7:11:22 GMT -6
lupincat that’s great that you have a plan! I hope things go smoothly for you- I know how long therapy can take before there’s any form of real noticeable improvement with speech. Are you going to see a developmental pediatrician as well? We have an appointment in October for DS1 Edit- correct words are hard We haven't considered a development pedi yet. Probably should now that we have a diagnosis. They’ll probably confirm what the speech therapist said or give a complete different diagnosis. Such is the way of specialists. Our school district suggested that we do an evaluation with the developmental pedi when he first qualified and his therapists both brought it up to me again during their mid-semester status reports so here we are
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Post by moutonrouge on Aug 8, 2018 10:43:22 GMT -6
I'm working the election today. For some reason I thought it would be a good idea not to bring my pump. Good lord, I might die. Bfing after a year is fun (?) Gah. Hope you're better now. DD is 14 months and it seems every time I get brave enough to skip pumping I get awful clots and flirt with/get mastitis. I dropped a pumping session and I thought I was doing it the right way - I moved the session to the middle of the day, right between my two sessions, plus DD is 17 months so I thought I could kind of do what I want. And I ended up with plugged ducts and a milk blister.
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Post by gingy on Aug 8, 2018 11:03:30 GMT -6
Gah. Hope you're better now. DD is 14 months and it seems every time I get brave enough to skip pumping I get awful clots and flirt with/get mastitis. I dropped a pumping session and I thought I was doing it the right way - I moved the session to the middle of the day, right between my two sessions, plus DD is 17 months so I thought I could kind of do what I want. And I ended up with plugged ducts and a milk blister. Ughh this sounds awful. I'm wanting to be 100% done pumping by DS's first birthday (Sept 9), but this is not making me very optimistic.
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Post by moutonrouge on Aug 8, 2018 11:29:09 GMT -6
I dropped a pumping session and I thought I was doing it the right way - I moved the session to the middle of the day, right between my two sessions, plus DD is 17 months so I thought I could kind of do what I want. And I ended up with plugged ducts and a milk blister. Ughh this sounds awful. I'm wanting to be 100% done pumping by DS's first birthday (Sept 9), but this is not making me very optimistic. You can do it! When I wanted to drop from 4 pumping session to 3 (and then pretty quickly to 2) it all went fine. This was the first time I had a problem, and maybe I should've taken a different approach like reducing the second session time in conjunction with moving the timing. Or maybe I was still nursing too much to drop this session, I'm not sure. I think my bigger hurdle has been saying no to DD when she asks to nurse during the day when we're together. She is willing to take no (or "we just did") for an answer now. But I think that's just come in the last month. I think less pumping means my supply is lower so maybe nursing isn't as appealing for her.
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Post by gingy on Aug 8, 2018 11:47:47 GMT -6
Ughh this sounds awful. I'm wanting to be 100% done pumping by DS's first birthday (Sept 9), but this is not making me very optimistic. You can do it! When I wanted to drop from 4 pumping session to 3 (and then pretty quickly to 2) it all went fine. This was the first time I had a problem, and maybe I should've taken a different approach like reducing the second session time in conjunction with moving the timing. Or maybe I was still nursing too much to drop this session, I'm not sure. I think my bigger hurdle has been saying no to DD when she asks to nurse during the day when we're together. She is willing to take no (or "we just did") for an answer now. But I think that's just come in the last month. I think less pumping means my supply is lower so maybe nursing isn't as appealing for her. This is what I’ll be curious about. He doesn’t seem to care much about nursing right now except before bed.
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Aug 8, 2018 12:04:47 GMT -6
Now you guys are scaring me. I'm a little tender so hope it's nothing.
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Post by moutonrouge on Aug 8, 2018 17:47:33 GMT -6
I laughed a little when I realized I had a milk blister because like 2 days earlier I was answering a question on the BF board about recurring milk blisters. So I was like well...at least I had that refresher so I know what to do!
It was also right in the same spot all the previous ones were back when DD was tiny (like 15 months ago). Boobs are evil but also a little weird.
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Post by ttcbabyj on Aug 9, 2018 2:27:54 GMT -6
I’m up having my 1am freaking out, I’m ruining my child moment. Ok, so please give it to me straight, are pacifiers a big deal?
DD is almost 15 months. She’s completed weaned from the bottle. I still nursing her twice a day and she drinks from her sippy cups. I’m going to stop nursing and pumping by the end of the month. She’s not really attached to too many things, but she will dive for a pacifier. The pacifier seems to soothe her and it helps when she in one of her high strung kind of whiny moods, usually when she’s tired or the transition from daycare to home. She also MUST have the pacifier to help her fall asleep. We put like 4 glow in the dark ones in her crib at night. She only has two bottom teeth right now. So I’m not too worried about the pacifier impacting her teeth. But I do worry about the long term effects I Googled, ‘pacifier mouth in kids’ and it was all bad. One the bright side we have excellent dental benefits...jk maybe a little.
I just can’t imagine what to do when she gets all fussy and I don’t give her a pacifier. Whenever I drop her off at daycare one of the teachers always makes a comment like “J you’re too big for that binky.”
So realistically, how much time do I have? I’m hoping the better she gets at communicating her fussiness will get better.
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Post by lupincat on Aug 9, 2018 5:13:09 GMT -6
ttcbabyj She's only 15 months, it's all good. Both of my boys LOVE their binky. I try to limit the amount of time DS2 has it during the day but if he's whiny af or getting a tooth, then it soothes him and he isn't making me nuts. It really wasn't a big deal when we took it totally away from DS1, he fussed at night for one day and that was it. He was three months away from turning 3 when we took it. His dentist said his teeth look perfect, she couldn't tell he had a pacifier.
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Post by letthewookieewin on Aug 9, 2018 5:46:56 GMT -6
ttcbabyj I wouldn't worry about it yet, especially since she's so attached to them right now and you're planning on being done with nursing soon (I only liked to do one big change at a time at that stage). One of DS's cousins was super attached to his binky and I think he kept it until almost 3(?) without any issues that I know of. We ended up getting rid of the paci when DS was 16 months, but he was mostly only using it for naps and bedtime by his first birthday anyway. The first couple of days were rough and I'm glad we did it over my work's Christmas break.
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Post by moutonrouge on Aug 9, 2018 7:07:27 GMT -6
ttcbabyj I think you have a little time. Anecdote: I had a pacifier until I was 4 and I did have braces but my teeth weren't horrible. I also see lots of kids between 1 and 2 with pacifiers. Although I know that pacifiers can have an effect on kids pallettes. I would try swapping another soothing method for daytime pacifier use as a first step. I hate to suggest food for calming, but maybe a small snack like applesauce or a Graham cracker. Or a cup of milk. Or a new comfort object/lovey.
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Post by sheilathetank on Aug 9, 2018 7:23:04 GMT -6
I’m up having my 1am freaking out, I’m ruining my child moment. Ok, so please give it to me straight, are pacifiers a big deal? DD is almost 15 months. She’s completed weaned from the bottle. I still nursing her twice a day and she drinks from her sippy cups. I’m going to stop nursing and pumping by the end of the month. She’s not really attached to too many things, but she will dive for a pacifier. The pacifier seems to soothe her and it helps when she in one of her high strung kind of whiny moods, usually when she’s tired or the transition from daycare to home. She also MUST have the pacifier to help her fall asleep. We put like 4 glow in the dark ones in her crib at night. She only has two bottom teeth right now. So I’m not too worried about the pacifier impacting her teeth. But I do worry about the long term effects I Googled, ‘pacifier mouth in kids’ and it was all bad. One the bright side we have excellent dental benefits...jk maybe a little. I just can’t imagine what to do when she gets all fussy and I don’t give her a pacifier. Whenever I drop her off at daycare one of the teachers always makes a comment like “J you’re too big for that binky.” So realistically, how much time do I have? I’m hoping the better she gets at communicating her fussiness will get better. First off you aren't ruining your child. Full fucking stop on that. My kid is 2.5 and her biggest love next to her dad is her binky. We use it for car rides and naps/bed. I followed DCs lead as I do most other things. They cut them out to naps at 1 and then a few weeks before transitioning rooms they cut them all together. Binkies aren't allowed in the toddler room. I have her take it out in the car and put it in the car seat cup holder. I tell her binkies aren't allowed at daycare anymore but it will be there when she gets out. I'm a sucker and it's her only real comfort item so I allow it for the times I mentioned above. At home when it's time to wake up we have a binky basket and she puts it in there. However, I draw the line at talking with a binky in her mouth. I tell her I can't understand her and she needs to take it out. I won't respond to anything she asks or says when she tries to talk around it.
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Aug 9, 2018 8:34:34 GMT -6
ttcbabyj Kid1 had a pacifier until 2.5, just for naps. She went cold turkey no problem once they all 'broke'.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 9, 2018 8:51:48 GMT -6
ttcbabyj, the official recommendation by pediatric dentists is to stop using pacifiers by age 2, so you still have a lot of time even by that standard. I'm sure it feels like she'll never ever give it up right now but she is still very young and I think it'll be easier to wean her off of it as she gets older. You actually seem like a really good mom to me, so try and sleep instead of freaking out at 1AM!
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Post by ttcbabyj on Aug 9, 2018 13:37:43 GMT -6
piratecat lupincat letthewookieewin moutonrouge sheilathetank @ lildiamoneyes @icedtea Thank you so much for the comments. Growing up everybody kind of scares you about how expensive kids are...and don’t get me wrong we spent a lot on DD, but to me that’s the easy part. It’s these long term decisions. I feel like I’m being a “lazy parent” by just giving her a pacifier, but it works. It also didn’t help that I was reviewing a chapter on “If Freud was a psychologist today” last night. And this author was talking about oral fixation. I told DH, DD is going to smoke, or overeat or be super sarcastic if we don’t take the pacifier away. DH was like she’s going to be sacracstic because of her parents, not because of a pacifier...😂😂
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Post by piratecat on Aug 9, 2018 14:19:46 GMT -6
ttcbabyj, hm, my H was a long-time thumb sucker and he doesn't smoke or overeat but I guess he is pretty sarcastic... is sarcasm really a type of oral fixation??
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Post by lupincat on Aug 9, 2018 16:07:47 GMT -6
ttcbabyj, yessss on the long term decisions. We are pretty breezy about screen-time and I almost never think about it. But every so often I'm like what if [friend's daughter] is a genius and DD isn't all because we let her watch TV and [friend] doesn't? AM I HOLDING MY DAUGHTER BACK?! And then H tells me to go have a glass of wine, and it passes. I'm super breezy about screen time, my theory is the more you withhold and make it a "bad thing" the more they'll want it and lose their shit when you take it away. I usually do periods of no TV but even when it's on they don't pay much attention, it's just background sound.
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Post by letthewookieewin on Aug 9, 2018 17:27:10 GMT -6
ttcbabyj I feel you on the long term stuff. In my experience, everything we do as parents will be wrong according to someone. When DS was a baby, FIL kept telling us we held him too much and one of my cousins posted on Facebook strongly implying that we didn't hold him enough and that's why he ended up needing a helmet. Something a family friend told me back then really stuck out and guides a lot of what I do: basically that MH and I are the experts on DS and to do what we know is right for him.
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Post by moutonrouge on Aug 9, 2018 17:51:44 GMT -6
I'm laughing at the Freud thing. I do bite my nails. And I used to eat ice. I am not an expert on his theories (I have a master's in psych but not that area) but I think it's more likely I wanted my pacifier for so long because I have an oral fixation. I don't think my parents made me this way.
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Post by piratecat on Aug 9, 2018 18:16:38 GMT -6
And FWIW I stopped pumping cold turkey - I was ready to pump to wean but I didn’t feel the need to, like at all. Low supply is good for something I guess.
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