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Post by AnnPerkins on May 30, 2017 15:07:11 GMT -6
People that want to live near grandkids- what do you do when your kids move away to different places? I mean, you can't choose one kid over the other right? This is my mom's dilemma right now. Three of us have moved out of state. My sister and I both have kids but we live 12 hours away from each other and my mom feels like she can't move closer to either of us because she'd be choosing one kid over the other. I'm already anxious about this situation with my own kids. DH is one of 4 and they have all moved to essentially opposite corners of the country. His parents just said, "fuck it," and moved to Orlando in the hopes that Disney would be a draw to visit. We are the closest to them at 9.5 hours away (driving) and also the only people with kids. I'm just planning on visiting my kids wherever they are, hopefully having the means to do so. |
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Post by wasabi on May 30, 2017 15:09:26 GMT -6
Yep. Or ever heard of an earth ship? He is all about those. Is that one of those floating cities? MH tried to talk me into it. It sounds like hell. Never being able to get away from your nosy neighbors. no it's like a home made out of earth materials or recycled materials. Something like that |
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Post by emma on May 30, 2017 15:10:26 GMT -6
I'm a cold hearted bitch (according to MH) but I don't like the idea of choosing a location or living your life based on where others are. I hate when parents get angry when their adult kids move away and I can't get behind the idea of trailing my kid all over the country /world. I think live where you want, don't be an ass and kids will enjoy visits with you
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Post by teatime on May 30, 2017 15:11:12 GMT -6
I'd love to downsize to a cottage type house. Ideally there'd be lots of baking, hiking, and exploring new places with H. Sometimes I dream of starting a bakery, but that's a lot of work for retirement  |
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Post by wasabi on May 30, 2017 15:12:01 GMT -6
I'm dating a full on hippy, y'all
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Post by rubysue on May 30, 2017 15:16:09 GMT -6
I'm a cold hearted bitch (according to MH) but I don't like the idea of choosing a location or living your life based on where others are. I hate when parents get angry when their adult kids move away and I can't get behind the idea of trailing my kid all over the country /world. I think live where you want, don't be an ass and kids will enjoy visits with you I agree. I'd love to have property where my kids live so we can visit often, but I won't be choosing my main location based on theirs. I also hope to never make my kids feel bad for moving away from us. |
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Post by shamycooler on May 30, 2017 15:21:10 GMT -6
I'd like to live somewhere where I can bike to my kayak shop, or kayak to my bike shop. But for now I'll hackey sack back to reality.
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Post by PinkFreud on May 30, 2017 15:21:25 GMT -6
I may become a recluse
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 15:25:24 GMT -6
I'd like the have a house here in Michigan for the summer and a house somewhere warm in the winter. Ideally, close to Disney world. We are actually talking about buying the Florida house soonish, so we can enjoy it while the kids are young, but we'll have to see if we can afford it that quickly.
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Post by Bubblegum on May 30, 2017 15:25:45 GMT -6
I'm a cold hearted bitch (according to MH) but I don't like the idea of choosing a location or living your life based on where others are. I hate when parents get angry when their adult kids move away and I can't get behind the idea of trailing my kid all over the country /world. I think live where you want, don't be an ass and kids will enjoy visits with you I agree. I'd love to have property where my kids live so we can visit often, but I won't be choosing my main location based on theirs. I also hope to never make my kids feel bad for moving away from us. I agree with this as well. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Post by sunshine on May 30, 2017 15:26:00 GMT -6
All I know is, hopefully we're not still in California as olds Somewhere more peaceful and lower cost of living In reality, I don't see how we'll ever comfortably retire... feels daunting at this time in our lives... however I'm starting to feel like saving for retirement has become more of a priority than purchasing a house. Gotta get on that. Oh no! Our retirement plan is to move across the country to California. My only requirement is NO snow. Now you have me rethinking our plan. We we also plan to travel, travel, travel. We both have state pensions, but those may be gone by the time we retire. |
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Post by kclause on May 30, 2017 15:29:33 GMT -6
We plan to build out in the country in a few years. Wide open spaces and a wrap around porch. So we'll just spend our days there. Honestly the only thing I really, really want to do is tour Europe. After that probably volunteering when we can.
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Post by kmkd on May 30, 2017 15:30:17 GMT -6
I have a hard time picturing retirement. It just seems so so far away. I'm getting some good ideas here though.
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Post by jrun2013 on May 30, 2017 15:31:01 GMT -6
I just want to join rubysue in her retirement. That sounds delightful. I will retire somewhere between 55 and 62. Whenever I decide to be done. I'll hopefully have my pension, and MH has a solid retirement plan. He also plans on working forever. I would like to travel a lot and maybe have a beach house. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Post by jrun2013 on May 30, 2017 15:32:02 GMT -6
Also, add me to the list of people surprised Tlex is 29. I'm 35 so I just assume (incorrectly obviously) that most people here are in their 30s. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Post by pianolove on May 30, 2017 15:33:13 GMT -6
H has dreams of a cabin on a lake when he retires. I have dreams of a smallish homestead farm. I could be swayed to the cabin, though. Since we're considering building in the next 10 or so years, my farm could happen sooner and then we could retire to his cabin later. Or a homestead farm with a cabin house on a lake  This sounds just lovely. |
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 15:34:29 GMT -6
sunshine, I mean, I guess it depends on where in CA ... there are areas that are more barren or developing that are probably more reasonable. Just depends on how close you want to be to the major metro areas I just figure, if we're going to live outside of where all the action is in order for it to be affordable, might as well be in a different state away from earthquakes. Also, we'll have to see where our kids end up... I don't want to be too far from them if I can help it
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Post by pianolove on May 30, 2017 15:38:13 GMT -6
People that want to live near grandkids- what do you do when your kids move away to different places? I mean, you can't choose one kid over the other right? This is my mom's dilemma right now. Three of us have moved out of state. My sister and I both have kids but we live 12 hours away from each other and my mom feels like she can't move closer to either of us because she'd be choosing one kid over the other. I'm already anxious about this situation with my own kids. For me I think it would depend on the inlaw situation as welll. Like if they live near and have a decent relationship with their in laws I would not feel *so* terrible about moving to the other one |
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Post by pesto on May 30, 2017 15:41:35 GMT -6
I guess I don't really want to follow my kids around, but I know it's hard on my mom not being able to be as involved or help out as much as she'd like to. I wonder if I'll feel the same. It's just a very different grandparent relationship when you're not living in the same place.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 15:42:04 GMT -6
As far as picking which kid to live near
Guess they'll have to rock-paper-scissors for us
... Or against us, depending on how they feel about the idea.
In actuality, it'll be a "lets cross that bridge when we come to it" situation... see where each of them ends up on the stability scale and cross reference with in-law situations, etc. Maybe they'll be close enough to eachother where we can do an inbetween thing. Who knows! So many variables.
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Post by sunshine on May 30, 2017 15:44:44 GMT -6
@spiff, DH is thinking somewhere near San Fran since he lived in that area for a short time growing up. That area is probably too expensive for retirement. I would like to be further south. Not sure exactly where.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 15:48:23 GMT -6
San Fran/Bay Area is definitely very expensive ... I'm not as familiar with the particulars of that area, since I'm in Southern CA, but I've heard it is
Central CA may have more affordable areas, but again... not much in the way of...things
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Post by bellatrix on May 30, 2017 15:49:20 GMT -6
I should be 48 when I sign my papers. 🍹🎉 Tell me your secrets... |
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Post by kittyforman on May 30, 2017 15:51:38 GMT -6
We want to buy a small house near the kid(s) and a camper. My goal is to be "work campers" part time somewhere in the south, where I can greet/register campers and MH would help maintain the park for a few months each winter. Then spend the rest of the year travelling.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 15:51:39 GMT -6
Guise, I'm going to be a shaky old little accountant at like 90 years old, just watch
I'll be on staff somewhere that I've worked for decades out of pity and they'll just give me simple/meaningless things to do and be like "aw how cute she still thinks she can count"
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 15:52:18 GMT -6
MH always says he wants to retire by 45 (he's 37). I always lol at him, but I guess I should be more supportive, since that would be amazing. He needs to start playing the lottery, though.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 15:54:24 GMT -6
Honestly I have no idea. H refuses to ever leave our house/property so I'll be stuck here most likely. Not to mention I most likely won't have the money to retire until at least 72 which is my social security draw age and I highly doubt that will be around.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 15:58:02 GMT -6
And this thread has made me realize that I'm apparently in the wrong field/area. There are very few people I know who can retire before 62 here that didn't work for the state.
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Post by wayfarerson on May 30, 2017 15:59:06 GMT -6
Our retirement home will be under 1000 sq ft, modern, solar powered, in the mountains, with huge picture windows overlooking a lake. In town there will be an adorable bakery and a farmers market, and of course good take out. I will spend my days hiking, taking pictures, and maybe writing. DH will probably continue playing Bejeweled on his phone.
When the temperature drops below 45, we will drive less than an hour to a major airport, and travel for several weeks at a time.
To finance this, I will probably continue to work part time until I am physically incapable.
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Post by pesto on May 30, 2017 16:00:50 GMT -6
I would like to take up sailing in retirement. I took a sailing class in college and I really felt like it was meant to be.
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