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Post by microworm on Jan 14, 2021 10:09:33 GMT -6
Some of us don't need lube. NHIE.
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Post by bobyn on Jan 14, 2021 10:09:55 GMT -6
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Post by sweetp on Jan 14, 2021 10:10:48 GMT -6
Donna, I need you to tell me if swingers rent out a hotel, they will give a heads up to the 25% vanilla people. Not trying to watch stranger sex with my kids (or without) at hotels. Nope. We may let families checking in know that the hotel is full. Avert your eyes on your own!
That said, most contracts do have stipulations. So if nudity isn't allowed, it's not like a group renting the place would be allowed to break the rules. Unless it's specified as a family resort, you can always see ass in thongs! I'm assuming maybe some of the total rent outs allow private spaces in ballrooms etc. Especially in the Vegas hotels? I have not personally booked that however. So most of the action likely took place in the hotel rooms with mine.
That said, in hotels you should always be aware that someone may be banging on a balcony. You have no idea how often that happens. lol. Also stairwells. Drunk couples just can't make it back to their rooms. Or people cheating on business trips. The amount of stairway sex I have seen in the past decade on security cameras! This has nothing to do with swingers tho.
I have some funny hotel stories.
My first thought for banging on balconies was that there are sleeping kids in the room. We've never done it, but I can't say that it hasn't been discussed when traveling with kids...
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Post by icedcoffee on Jan 14, 2021 10:16:58 GMT -6
I guess I'm just picturing a situation like one guy is more of a minute man but the other lasts awhile This is a good question actually! I would think they would join in with the other couple?
Or maybe a switch in some situations? Like wife knows what gets husband off if its taking too long?
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Post by donnameagle on Jan 14, 2021 10:17:21 GMT -6
Nope. We may let families checking in know that the hotel is full. Avert your eyes on your own!
That said, most contracts do have stipulations. So if nudity isn't allowed, it's not like a group renting the place would be allowed to break the rules. Unless it's specified as a family resort, you can always see ass in thongs! I'm assuming maybe some of the total rent outs allow private spaces in ballrooms etc. Especially in the Vegas hotels? I have not personally booked that however. So most of the action likely took place in the hotel rooms with mine.
That said, in hotels you should always be aware that someone may be banging on a balcony. You have no idea how often that happens. lol. Also stairwells. Drunk couples just can't make it back to their rooms. Or people cheating on business trips. The amount of stairway sex I have seen in the past decade on security cameras! This has nothing to do with swingers tho.
I have some funny hotel stories.
My first thought for banging on balconies was that there are sleeping kids in the room. We've never done it, but I can't say that it hasn't been discussed when traveling with kids... Sure. Or it is fun to almost get caught lol. My H always wants to do it up against a large window when we stay in hotels, but we can't because my name is always attached to either the rate or we have the room comp'd so that's a no go!
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Post by donnameagle on Jan 14, 2021 10:17:45 GMT -6
This is a good question actually! I would think they would join in with the other couple?
Or maybe a switch in some situations? Like wife knows what gets husband off if its taking too long? This seems like a huge blow to the ego! hahahahaha.
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Post by donnameagle on Jan 14, 2021 10:20:56 GMT -6
I asked H if he would ever want to swing last night and he was like "no, hard pass, absolutely not" and then he followed it with... "donna is this like a pregnancy hormone thing or....?"
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Post by rosalind on Jan 14, 2021 10:30:56 GMT -6
I asked H if he would ever want to swing last night and he was like "no, hard pass, absolutely not" and then he followed it with... "donna is this like a pregnancy hormone thing or....?" "Well, my internet friends..."
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Post by willow on Jan 14, 2021 10:41:02 GMT -6
I asked H if he would ever want to swing last night and he was like "no, hard pass, absolutely not" and then he followed it with... "donna is this like a pregnancy hormone thing or....?" I was telling my H about this thread last night and how I don't think I would want to see him with another person and he raised an eyebrow and was like "Well I respect that you are being inclusive by saying "person" but let's be clear, it would only be women." lol. Apparently he has no interest in dipping the pen in company ink.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 10:48:11 GMT -6
I asked H if he would ever want to swing last night and he was like "no, hard pass, absolutely not" and then he followed it with... "donna is this like a pregnancy hormone thing or....?" I was telling my H about this thread last night and how I don't think I would want to see him with another person and he raised an eyebrow and was like "Well I respect that you are being inclusive by saying "person" but let's be clear, it would only be women." lol. Apparently he has no interest in dipping the pen in company ink. That is hilarious!!!
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 10:54:15 GMT -6
I don't feel like I would need lube in this situation personally. I'd like to check out one of these clubs but my H goes to bed at 9:30 most nights. It would have to be a hotel thing. Plus I doubt there's one close to us. Or maybe I just want to go to a city where I think there's hotter people. I'm an IE 9 but an LA 6. So you’re around me. I can point the way.
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Post by Bookshelves on Jan 14, 2021 10:57:57 GMT -6
[/div] I have some funny hotel stories.
[/quote] This better be the next thread! “Shit Donna has seen” ETA. LOL I see this has been covered.
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Post by KMW08 on Jan 14, 2021 11:07:02 GMT -6
I asked H if he would ever want to swing last night and he was like "no, hard pass, absolutely not" and then he followed it with... "donna is this like a pregnancy hormone thing or....?" Being pregnant this time around my sex drive is through the roof (3rd tri has killed the drive now though), so H & I have discussed a lot of things to heighten the mood or get him in the mood. Anyways, it turns out at this point he really has no desire to have sex/relations with anybody else, but he would let me & would like to watch. It hasn’t happened yet, but I think it will someday.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 11:16:39 GMT -6
How many people have you had sex with since starting the lifestyle? Full swap: 1 Soft swap which for us is anything goes except intercourse: I have no idea. We’re slowly dipping our toes into full swap. People have told us it’s taken them years to get there and others say they started off right away. I’d say most people we know test the waters and work their way up to it but some people don’t ever want to go there.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 11:24:09 GMT -6
If one couple finishes before the other, what do you usually do? Like do you just lay there and wait? That may be too personal so if you dont want to answer thats okay That’s happened and we’re just like well, guess we’re done too until we go to our room or are alone or the other couple will assist.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 11:25:10 GMT -6
I asked H if he would ever want to swing last night and he was like "no, hard pass, absolutely not" and then he followed it with... "donna is this like a pregnancy hormone thing or....?" Being pregnant this time around my sex drive is through the roof (3rd tri has killed the drive now though), so H & I have discussed a lot of things to heighten the mood or get him in the mood. Anyways, it turns out at this point he really has no desire to have sex/relations with anybody else, but he would let me & would like to watch. It hasn’t happened yet, but I think it will someday. That’s exciting!!! I’m waiting for my H to get there. He really wants to be at that point and fantasizes about it but he’s not ready.
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Post by icedcoffee on Jan 14, 2021 11:29:11 GMT -6
Being pregnant this time around my sex drive is through the roof (3rd tri has killed the drive now though), so H & I have discussed a lot of things to heighten the mood or get him in the mood. Anyways, it turns out at this point he really has no desire to have sex/relations with anybody else, but he would let me & would like to watch. It hasn’t happened yet, but I think it will someday. That’s exciting!!! I’m waiting for my H to get there. He really wants to be at that point and fantasizes about it but he’s not ready. Does it seem to be that this is the case more often and not the other way around? Like the man watching the woman vs the woman watching her man and not participate
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Post by microworm on Jan 14, 2021 11:47:57 GMT -6
How many people have you had sex with since starting the lifestyle? Full swap: 1 Soft swap which for us is anything goes except intercourse: I have no idea. We’re slowly dipping our toes into full swap. People have told us it’s taken them years to get there and others say they started off right away. I’d say most people we know test the waters and work their way up to it but some people don’t ever want to go there. Gotta say I was expecting more penetration.
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Post by readyornot on Jan 14, 2021 11:49:53 GMT -6
I feel like I could totally get into this lifestyle with the right amount of alcohol. I would need my kids to be older though where I didn't have to parent immediately after I definitely require some alcohol to really enjoy otherwise my reserved self gets in the way of the fun. You’d for sure need older kids. Sometimes we’d be out until 4 or 5am so there’d be no way we could function with a baby or toddler. We were working on trying to reign it in and leave by 2 in order to have a life the next day and function for our kid. Thankfully that kid can sleep late. My kids are not babies, & they do sleep in, I just feel like I'd need the next day to process what went down (plusalso hangover). I guess as I got more comfortable with the lifestyle I might not feel that way.
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Post by fb on Jan 14, 2021 11:49:55 GMT -6
How many people have you had sex with since starting the lifestyle? Full swap: 1 Soft swap which for us is anything goes except intercourse: I have no idea. We’re slowly dipping our toes into full swap. People have told us it’s taken them years to get there and others say they started off right away. I’d say most people we know test the waters and work their way up to it but some people don’t ever want to go there. So....with basically everything else....lots of oral and making out? Is it usual the girls giving BJs?
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 11:58:33 GMT -6
Full swap: 1 Soft swap which for us is anything goes except intercourse: I have no idea. We’re slowly dipping our toes into full swap. People have told us it’s taken them years to get there and others say they started off right away. I’d say most people we know test the waters and work their way up to it but some people don’t ever want to go there. Gotta say I was expecting more penetration. Working on it and there’s not many guys I’m interested in. I am so picky.
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Post by Pizzaslut on Jan 14, 2021 11:58:41 GMT -6
Is it always another couple? Like you take the guy and YH takes the girl and you go to a private area and get down to business?
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 12:02:09 GMT -6
Full swap: 1 Soft swap which for us is anything goes except intercourse: I have no idea. We’re slowly dipping our toes into full swap. People have told us it’s taken them years to get there and others say they started off right away. I’d say most people we know test the waters and work their way up to it but some people don’t ever want to go there. So....with basically everything else....lots of oral and making out? Is it usual the girls giving BJs? Lots of oral and it gets to the point where it can get there but if the rules are set by either side that it’s not going to go there then it doesn’t. It’s girl/girl action as well. More than BJs. Everything imaginable but the penetration and we’re not separated so it’s a group effort (no guy/guy action). One couple might focus on the other woman and the husband watch. It’s never the same.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 12:03:41 GMT -6
Is it always another couple? Like you take the guy and YH takes the girl and you go to a private area and get down to business? No it’s more like a foursome but the guys don’t do guy/guy. Girls hook up if we’re feeling it which usually happens in our situation.
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Post by icedcoffee on Jan 14, 2021 12:07:03 GMT -6
Is it always another couple? Like you take the guy and YH takes the girl and you go to a private area and get down to business? No it’s more like a foursome but the guys don’t do guy/guy. Girls hook up if we’re feeling it which usually happens in our situation. Will you guys do penetration with your own spouses if the mood strikes or is that off the table too if you say no penetration from the get go
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 12:08:19 GMT -6
That’s exciting!!! I’m waiting for my H to get there. He really wants to be at that point and fantasizes about it but he’s not ready. Does it seem to be that this is the case more often and not the other way around? Like the man watching the woman vs the woman watching her man and not participate I know a few women who won’t hook up with a guy and only hooks up with women but likes to watch her man with another woman. Everyone’s preference is different. Ya know, I really have no idea what’s more prevalent. I see a lot of girl/girl and the guys watching or joining in.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 12:09:35 GMT -6
No it’s more like a foursome but the guys don’t do guy/guy. Girls hook up if we’re feeling it which usually happens in our situation. Will you guys do penetration with your own spouses if the mood strikes or is that off the table too if you say no penetration from the get go Penetration with own spouse is always. Then there’s all the rest going on while that’s happening. It’s like what you see on porn with a foursome. ETA: to clarify I meant no penetration with the other couple.
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Post by icedcoffee on Jan 14, 2021 12:10:01 GMT -6
Will you guys do penetration with your own spouses if the mood strikes or is that off the table too if you say no penetration from the get go Penetration with own spouse is always. Then there’s all the rest going on while that’s happening. It’s like what you see on porn with a foursome. Ohhh okay gotcha
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Post by icedcoffee on Jan 14, 2021 12:17:34 GMT -6
That makes a lot of sense becausewhy. I was just thinking I dont like oral that much to do it for that long lol but I totally get what you mean now
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Post by willow on Jan 14, 2021 12:47:18 GMT -6
Ok no one else has asked so I will...do the guys ever get like, weird about other dicks? I feel like guys have a lot of pride but also built in insecurity about their own penis (even if it is fine). So like if the other guy in the foursome was more well endowed or whatever, do they care? I suppose it's individual dependent...or if you're in that lifestyle are men just usually not like that?
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