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Post by icedcoffee on Jan 14, 2021 16:14:28 GMT -6
becausewhy is the couple you see often also the one couple you've done a full swap with?
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 16:17:42 GMT -6
becausewhy is the couple you see often also the one couple you've done a full swap with? They are not. You’d think so since it’s been 3 years and they know we are open to it with them but it has never gone there. Very very very close to the point we had to take a break and discuss it and make sure everyone is OK because we didn’t do that beforehand. The other chick passed out though so it didn’t even get discussed. They have full swapped and I think they were scared to be our first and ruin what we had.
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Post by icedcoffee on Jan 14, 2021 16:38:36 GMT -6
becausewhy is the couple you see often also the one couple you've done a full swap with? They are not. You’d think so since it’s been 3 years and they know we are open to it with them but it has never gone there. Very very very close to the point we had to take a break and discuss it and make sure everyone is OK because we didn’t do that beforehand. The other chick passed out though so it didn’t even get discussed. They have full swapped and I think they were scared to be our first and ruin what we had. Oh wow! Do you plan to go there with them at some point or do you like the situation as it is now that its worked for so long?
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Post by Cher on Jan 14, 2021 16:49:39 GMT -6
the club MH and I went to you had to complete an application for membership which included a photo. I do not believe a background check was completed. It was $50 pp on a weekend night and byob. Men were not allowed to go without a woman, even if they were a member, but women could go by themselves. No one vouched for us originally - we applied online and sent in required info including drivers license and then they called us to ask a few questions prior to approving us Why do you have to include a photo? Never belonged to a sex club but any other private club I know of requires a picture with your application.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 17:00:42 GMT -6
They are not. You’d think so since it’s been 3 years and they know we are open to it with them but it has never gone there. Very very very close to the point we had to take a break and discuss it and make sure everyone is OK because we didn’t do that beforehand. The other chick passed out though so it didn’t even get discussed. They have full swapped and I think they were scared to be our first and ruin what we had. Oh wow! Do you plan to go there with them at some point or do you like the situation as it is now that its worked for so long? I suspect it will go there eventually. When the stars and moon aligns I really do think it will happen especially since we’ve finally experienced the whole hoopla and are fine.
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Post by marsinvestigations on Jan 14, 2021 17:08:10 GMT -6
the club MH and I went to you had to complete an application for membership which included a photo. I do not believe a background check was completed. It was $50 pp on a weekend night and byob. Men were not allowed to go without a woman, even if they were a member, but women could go by themselves. No one vouched for us originally - we applied online and sent in required info including drivers license and then they called us to ask a few questions prior to approving us Why do you have to include a photo? I don’t really have an answer for this. I guess so they know you’re a real person and not someone messing around? I couldn’t tell you if they denied people membership based on the way they look, I obviously wasn’t privy to that info
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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Jan 14, 2021 17:27:10 GMT -6
I asked H if he would ever want to swing last night and he was like "no, hard pass, absolutely not" and then he followed it with... "donna is this like a pregnancy hormone thing or....?" I talked to my H about it and he blushed and giggled uncomfortably. 😂
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 17:43:29 GMT -6
I asked H if he would ever want to swing last night and he was like "no, hard pass, absolutely not" and then he followed it with... "donna is this like a pregnancy hormone thing or....?" I talked to my H about it and he blushed and giggled uncomfortably. 😂 So....yes... He thinks it’s a trap and doesn’t know how to answer. I was the one who brought it up. H didn’t believe me and that I would go through with going to a lifestyle club. Proved him wrong.
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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Jan 14, 2021 17:58:17 GMT -6
I talked to my H about it and he blushed and giggled uncomfortably. 😂 So....yes... He thinks it’s a trap and doesn’t know how to answer. I was the one who brought it up. H didn’t believe me and that I would go through with going to a lifestyle club. Proved him wrong. Oh. I wish this were the case. My H is very very vanilla. I asked him once if he would be interested in a threesome (he knows I’m bi) and he told me the thought of trying to please two women at once was exhausting and he would be too overwhelmed. 😂
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Post by jessijean on Jan 14, 2021 18:13:01 GMT -6
One of my long term online friend (20 years) recently opened up that he and his girlfriend are swingers. He has expressed they would be willing if we ever wanted to try. Although being in the lifestyle intrigues me and if I were in an urban area I might consider it but definitely not with that friend. He's the type of friend that we know each others secrets that would keep us from running from public office. I do not have a sexual attraction to him. But I do enjoy hearing about their experiences though. I'm finding all of this interesting!
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 18:32:27 GMT -6
So....yes... He thinks it’s a trap and doesn’t know how to answer. I was the one who brought it up. H didn’t believe me and that I would go through with going to a lifestyle club. Proved him wrong. Oh. I wish this were the case. My H is very very vanilla. I asked him once if he would be interested in a threesome (he knows I’m bi) and he told me the thought of trying to please two women at once was exhausting and he would be too overwhelmed. 😂 But the women are also pleasing each other so he doesn’t have that much work to do! I’ve been in it and seen it go down (no pun intended) and he’d be fine! The whole thing can be intimidating though.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 18:34:41 GMT -6
One of my long term online friend (20 years) recently opened up that he and his girlfriend are swingers. He has expressed they would be willing if we ever wanted to try. Although being in the lifestyle intrigues me and if I were in an urban area I might consider it but definitely not with that friend. He's the type of friend that we know each others secrets that would keep us from running from public office. I do not have a sexual attraction to him. But I do enjoy hearing about their experiences though. I'm finding all of this interesting! Our BFFs are the ones that introduced us to this and there’s a line we all cannot cross. H has known them in hs and they are more like family so no thanks. They are a hot couple but I can’t see us doing anything sexual with them. We’ve been out to lifestyle events with them but that’s as far as it goes.
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Post by iruntodrink on Jan 14, 2021 20:11:29 GMT -6
Any tips for getting over insecurities (besides booze??) I do kind of like the idea where everyone is gathered in one location for basically the same thing, but open to each couples nuances...
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Post by KMW08 on Jan 14, 2021 20:33:55 GMT -6
iruntodrink out of curiosity, what insecurities do you have? Is it being naked in front of another man, is it too close of a friends-friend contact thing? I’ve not participated in this yet, but discussing with H (thankfully he’s not the jealous type) I told him I think I’d like to explore with the guy on my own the first time - to establish a comfort? level since sex can be awkward. I definitely have body insecurities, but with sex of this type of nature I truly just think of it as P in the V. I’m/we’re not looking for anything other than some change of scenery to spice it up. I’m also very okay with him having sex with another woman, but I’m not interested in watching that, I wouldn’t be jealous, it’s just not my cup of tea to watch him with somebody else.
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Post by iruntodrink on Jan 14, 2021 20:44:05 GMT -6
*poof*
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Post by mirabelle on Jan 14, 2021 20:57:13 GMT -6
This thread had me reading a thread posted as tiresome Thursday as Threesome Thursday. It’s hot in here.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 14, 2021 22:02:13 GMT -6
iruntodrink it is always so awkward for me if it’s a not in the moment thing. The body insecurities are hard to get over. Do you have anything you feel sexy in? Glamming up always changes my mood because a lot of times I am too lazy to even want to go anywhere because I unpretty and gross but once I put full face makeup, fake lashes (my lash extensions weren’t glam enough so I stopped them), and do my hair I feel sexy. I find a dress or an outfit that makes me feel pretty and hides whatever I’m worried about. My issue is that I’m shy with sex. I can’t pinpoint why but I have ideas of where it stems from. I get nervous trying new things and now people and alcohol is the only way I can loosen up since I do not partake in any of the other stuff. I would love not to feel like I need to use alcohol as my crutch.
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Post by KMW08 on Jan 15, 2021 4:19:20 GMT -6
iruntodrink becausewhyI’m not sure I have any tips to get over insecurities and shyness. I think I’ve always had a different mindset about sex than most women I know, esp once I realized the power of the V. It’s kind of like this beast mode power trip mentality that kicks in. I know I’m the DUFF, I’m not the trophy, but I can F anybody I choose. I think men can somehow sense the vibe that I’m just looking for a good time & that’s it. H’s ego fluff doesn’t count for me either 😂 his whole thing about not being a jealous man is also his mindset. I guess we/he had a few friends who were interested in me way back when, and after locking me down he mentally screams I WON MF’ers. I still get a good chuckle out of that.
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Post by shitsngiggles on Jan 15, 2021 7:34:53 GMT -6
Well,now I'm pretty sure DH's aunt and uncle are swingers. They would go out dancing nearly every weekend and now they live in the Villages. Huh.
Thanks for doing this AMA.
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Post by blurnette989 on Jan 15, 2021 8:36:55 GMT -6
Fascinating. Very intriguing.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 15, 2021 8:39:38 GMT -6
Well,now I'm pretty sure DH's aunt and uncle are swingers. They would go out dancing nearly every weekend and now they live in the Villages. Huh. Thanks for doing this AMA. Ahaaha. Oops, outed.
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Post by shitsngiggles on Jan 15, 2021 9:17:39 GMT -6
Well,now I'm pretty sure DH's aunt and uncle are swingers. They would go out dancing nearly every weekend and now they live in the Villages. Huh. Thanks for doing this AMA. Ahaaha. Oops, outed. I so want to text his cousin's wife but don't think I will. I don't even know how I would bring it up. Will make next Christmas more interesting though.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 15, 2021 10:33:08 GMT -6
I’m sure there are a lot but it’s not widely accepted. I do know of a a few but again, it’s not seen in the places we frequent or have been to at least not out in the open. There’s one place in San Diego we’ve been that I get the vibe that it’s accepted there. What does accepted mean in this context? It’s frowned upon so you don’t see it out in the open. I had questions about this when I first started. We have come across a few couples where the man is bi. No big deal to us but I have yet to see two men together at a lifestyle event or venue.
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 15, 2021 10:40:22 GMT -6
It’s frowned upon so you don’t see it out in the open. I had questions about this when I first started. We have come across a few couples where the man is bi. No big deal to us but I have yet to see two men together at a lifestyle event or venue. So, the spaces are often homophobic? That's disappointing. Sadly, yes although they are hypocritical because bi or lesbian women are completely OK.
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Post by August Blooms on Jan 15, 2021 14:44:55 GMT -6
I didn’t want to read and not comment but thank you for sharing and being so open about your experience.
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Post by motherofdachshunds on Jan 15, 2021 15:33:35 GMT -6
There’s a club in Georgia I want to check out called Trapeze. I’ve heard good things about it. My goal is to hit a spot in every state we visit. Unfortunately, Hawaii disappointed me. I couldn’t find anything and I’m not interested in meeting couples out for drinks or dinner. Ha, my friend was at Trapeze a couple weekends ago! She mentioned it in a group chat and the rest of us all had to google what it was 😂 She’s single and has mentioned that swinging had something to do with her divorce but doesn’t talk about it much.
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Post by MichaelScott on Jan 15, 2021 15:56:53 GMT -6
Donna, I need you to tell me if swingers rent out a hotel, they will give a heads up to the 25% vanilla people. Not trying to watch stranger sex with my kids (or without) at hotels. Nope. We may let families checking in know that the hotel is full. Avert your eyes on your own!
That said, most contracts do have stipulations. So if nudity isn't allowed, it's not like a group renting the place would be allowed to break the rules. Unless it's specified as a family resort, you can always see ass in thongs! I'm assuming maybe some of the total rent outs allow private spaces in ballrooms etc. Especially in the Vegas hotels? I have not personally booked that however. So most of the action likely took place in the hotel rooms with mine.
That said, in hotels you should always be aware that someone may be banging on a balcony. You have no idea how often that happens. lol. Also stairwells. Drunk couples just can't make it back to their rooms. Or people cheating on business trips. The amount of stairway sex I have seen in the past decade on security cameras! This has nothing to do with swingers tho.
I have some funny hotel stories.
Wait, are you Laz from GBCN?
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 15, 2021 18:08:31 GMT -6
There’s a club in Georgia I want to check out called Trapeze. I’ve heard good things about it. My goal is to hit a spot in every state we visit. Unfortunately, Hawaii disappointed me. I couldn’t find anything and I’m not interested in meeting couples out for drinks or dinner. Ha, my friend was at Trapeze a couple weekends ago! She mentioned it in a group chat and the rest of us all had to google what it was 😂 She’s single and has mentioned that swinging had something to do with her divorce but doesn’t talk about it much. I hear it’s a good spot.
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Post by iruntodrink on Jan 17, 2021 12:39:46 GMT -6
DD
Sorry 😉
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Post by becausewhy on Jan 17, 2021 13:56:54 GMT -6
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