March randoms!

[moonandback141]

My last two have been anterior placentas and I haven’t felt anything until about 19 weeks. Curious to see what this one will be.

[moonandback141]

So I still occasionally have some brown/orange spotting! It happened once last Thursday after a decent hiatus and then again yesterday and a slight bit today. I called the office and they just attributed it to the SCH and said we can check at my appt on Tuesday. I seriously want this thing to resolve bc seeing spotting is no fun.

[marshian]

Last night as I was trying to fall asleep my mind went into thinking about bringing J (#1, will be 27mo when #2 is born) into the hospital to meet Frisco (#2's nickname). And all I could keep thinking is how she's just going to want to see H and me (since we'll both be away from her for likely the first time) and how she's just going to want her Mama and then we're to rock her world with a sibling. And I'm not going to be able to give her 100% because hello, newborn to feed. 😭💔 Moms with multiple kids, tell me how awesome it was when they met. And if you also felt/feel torn up about your only becoming the oldest. I'm having all the feels.

[cmb]

marshian DS1 met DS2 at home. He was the same age, and there’s no way a hospital visit, where he’d have to leave without us, would work.

He didn’t really get it, but he adapted. Things got easier at the 6m mark when DS2 was more able to interact with DS1. Before that, well, rough is a good word

[aeroplaneoverthesea]

DS did come to the hospital when DD was born. He was 3 at the time, and NOT into it. Not going to lie, 1 to 2 kids was a rough transition for us. I’d say 75% of that was DS’ sensory stuff, a crying baby was really difficult for him at that age. Definitely kid specific. Actually settling in and having two kids was great though. You’ll love it, and now DS and DD are (mostly) great friends. I find time for each of them.

I think this go round will be smoother, DD is a nurturing soul and DS is a big kid now. I don’t think we’ll do hospital intros, It’s a little chaotic, and also I think we might have flu season visitor restrictions for kids.

[randomosity]

marshian I think most moms feel that way and it's so, so normal! I know I did. It was tough at first because I had so much guilt but looking back, it was a great thing to have a sibling for my oldest. She and her sister are best friends and I love seeing the relationship that they have developed (although, they do fight plenty, of course 😉). It's SO worth it but I totally understand the guilt. My oldest was 21 months when her sister was born so she showed interest but it was also mixed with a feeling of indifference. When I had my son, my younger daughter dealt with jealousy (she was 2.5) and my oldest was ecstatic. They adjusted fairly quickly, thankfully!

[moonandback141]

marshian my DD1 was never particularly in love with DD2 but the jealousy has gotten better and I’m sure one day when they are each other’s maid of honor, they are both going to be glad it turned out this way

[doodlemommy]

Mar 29, 2019 22:42:18 GMT -6 marshian said:

Last night as I was trying to fall asleep my mind went into thinking about bringing J (#1, will be 27mo when #2 is born) into the hospital to meet Frisco (#2's nickname). And all I could keep thinking is how she's just going to want to see H and me (since we'll both be away from her for likely the first time) and how she's just going to want her Mama and then we're to rock her world with a sibling. And I'm not going to be able to give her 100% because hello, newborn to feed. 😭💔 Moms with multiple kids, tell me how awesome it was when they met. And if you also felt/feel torn up about your only becoming the oldest. I'm having all the feels.

I will tell you how it went and my plan for this time:
My DD was newly 3 when DS was born. He was born at 3 am at a birth center. We left home at like 1 am (obviously she was asleep) and were home again just after 6am before she woke up (my mom came and stayed with her). We had DH go upstairs and get her and had my mom not me holding the baby when she came down. She was super unbelievably excited to get a sibling and the intro went really well. She immediately wanted to go put her big sister shirt on and danced around singing a little song she made up with his name (we were team green and never talked names in front of her so she came up with it right then). It melted my heart. I definitely had some moments in the weeks and months leading up where I panicked wondering what we had done/were doing. She was the easiest little kid and we loved life as a family of 3. But they are the best of friends and it is the sweetest. They were walking the mall today holding hands and he loves giving her hugs and kisses when he gets up or before bed.

To prepare we had started sending her for sleepovers in the 6ish months before every once in a while since we had no idea obviously when baby would come and if she would end up at my parents house (if I went into labour during the day) or if my mom would come stay with her (if I went into labour when she was already asleep). DD had a gift for DS and we had one for her “from DS”. She was so excited to give it to him.

DS will be 2 Oct 12 which is about 2 weeks before my best guess for a due date with this one. He is going for his first sleep over at my parents house in June and will go a couple times after to prepare. My kids are super comfortable with my parents and at their house which helps (they babysit when I work a couple days a week and we stay there with the kids for games nights/Christmas etc). #3 will hopefully be a birth centre birth again where we will leave shortly after birth so the intro will happen at home again. Once again my plan is to have someone else hold the baby so I can greet my kids and then we will bring baby over for an intro. Same plan for childcare again this time and we will do the little gift again so they feel special too.

[doodlemommy]

Sorry for the essay lol

[roseinbloom]

moonandback141, I hope that you’re feeling a little better, bleeding can cause such a scare. Hope everything looks great at your appt on Tues. ❤️

[roseinbloom]

I am so excited for my kid to have a sibling. I know it’s going to be so good for him, and he already is a little nurturer when he’s not being a threenager. 💕

My sis and I are 2 years and 5 days apart. My parents introduced us at the hospital and apparently I was cute at the time and then totally distraught when Dad and I “abandoned” them to go home, but as many times as I’ve heard the stories, I only remember the day she came home. They propped her up in a crook of our “reading chair” and let me see her at my own height and just have a little moment between the two of us (not in anyone’s arms). That’s the only thing I remember about her introduction to our family, and it’s a nice memory for me.

All that to say, I guess you never know what specific moment your kid will remember, but there are lots of nice ways to help them feel involved (as evidenced by PPs above!). And IMO, I think creating a positive narrative for them over the years (even if there was a rough start) is a more important thing than getting it all perfect.

[marshian]

Thanks, everyone. I just was deep in my feelings. It comes and goes!