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Post by Rama on Jul 5, 2018 10:10:22 GMT -6
The only thing that I enjoy about being back at work is having a computer to talk to you guys. It's the little things. Haha I feel badly I was pretty much radio silence on here after my birth announcement and now I'm back at my desk clogging up every thread. Tapatalk annoys me too much to use it regularly. Seriously. Both Tapa and mobile are just garbage. Plus having to wrangle a squirmy infant? It's not happening.
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Post by cp3 on Jul 5, 2018 10:11:08 GMT -6
The post partum hair loss is starting for me. I am soooo grossed out by hair. This is seriously one of my least favorite parts of being pregnant. Mine started a few weeks ago and it is the worst. I hate it and there is hair everywhere. The poor baby is constantly covered in hair. I forgot how bad it gets.
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Post by cp3 on Jul 5, 2018 10:15:25 GMT -6
I have thick hair too and don't remember it being this bad with my first. I told Mh I wouldn't notice it since I'm always losing hair but then so much hair is falling out every day. And I get a lot of new hair growth after too only it starts before my current hair line so I have these random hairs growing in on my forehead that look ridiculous. With D1 that didn't stop until she was over 2 and I'm not looking forward to this. I have the opposite of a receding hair line and it is not a good look.
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Post by clementine on Jul 5, 2018 11:27:10 GMT -6
Hope your first day is going well mrsmonogrammed! Yessss to the hair loss. There is hair every.where. around my house. I’m so annoyed with it. Surprisingly I don’t think I notice any patches or areas of serious loss on my actual head so that’s nice at least. This day is dragging. It’s a slow day schedule wise, which is sort of nice, but it’s making the day take so long. MIL is at home with L so I didn’t get to see him and nurse at lunch. This is the longest I’ve gone without seeing him and I’m seriously missing him.
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Post by katietopaz on Jul 5, 2018 12:21:26 GMT -6
Oh my gosh, yes, to the hair loss. When I went for a haircut this past weekend, she was getting soooo much hair. I chopped off a few inches so at least there aren’t these crazy long hairs everywhere.
I’m about to flake out on a play date. It’s with a close friend that I love, but she’s just a higher-maintenance friend that takes a lot more energy to hang out with. She wants us to come to her place between her 1-y/o’s naps, but the boys are just being a huge handful today and the timing isn’t great. I just don’t have the energy for it today, but I feel bad because she’s on summer break and always asking to hang out. Oh well.
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Post by Rama on Jul 5, 2018 13:03:49 GMT -6
Oh my gosh, yes, to the hair loss. When I went for a haircut this past weekend, she was getting soooo much hair. I chopped off a few inches so at least there aren’t these crazy long hairs everywhere. I’m about to flake out on a play date. It’s with a close friend that I love, but she’s just a higher-maintenance friend that takes a lot more energy to hang out with. She wants us to come to her place between her 1-y/o’s naps, but the boys are just being a huge handful today and the timing isn’t great. I just don’t have the energy for it today, but I feel bad because she’s on summer break and always asking to hang out. Oh well. Her convenience doesn't trump yours. Maybe you guys can get out to a park or somewhere the bigs can run around to get their energy out without making one of you guys host?
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Post by katietopaz on Jul 5, 2018 15:16:19 GMT -6
Oh my gosh, yes, to the hair loss. When I went for a haircut this past weekend, she was getting soooo much hair. I chopped off a few inches so at least there aren’t these crazy long hairs everywhere. I’m about to flake out on a play date. It’s with a close friend that I love, but she’s just a higher-maintenance friend that takes a lot more energy to hang out with. She wants us to come to her place between her 1-y/o’s naps, but the boys are just being a huge handful today and the timing isn’t great. I just don’t have the energy for it today, but I feel bad because she’s on summer break and always asking to hang out. Oh well. Her convenience doesn't trump yours. Maybe you guys can get out to a park or somewhere the bigs can run around to get their energy out without making one of you guys host? That was totally on the table, but we're in the middle of a heat wave. Selfishly, I would have been happier for them to come here because I have all the toys and baby gear to keep both my kiddos happy, and to time it between our respective kids' naps, we would actually get to spend more time together if she came here as opposed to us going there. I'm just kind of a spaz about the stage of babyhood that we're entering. They start to be more sensitive about where and when they sleep, but their nap "schedule" isn't very predictable. I'm way more preemptively stressed about it this time since there's a toddler to work around, too.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Jul 5, 2018 22:45:45 GMT -6
I’m struggling with the lack of time for first child guilt today. He’s been a bugger for H in the mornings because he wants me which is frustrating but also makes me feel awful. I’m doing my best but in his eyes it’s apparently not quite enough. I thought having H home for two weeks would make that easier but it seems to be making it harder. I guess DS1 thinks H can take the baby but isn’t (baby is having none of being not on me at the moment). Any chance you can leave baby with H and take DS1 out on a date? This helps so much here. The boys need one on one time with me and we are usually gone for less than an hour. No unfortunately. The baby can sense when I leave the house and just melts down. I’m hoping it’s just a phase 😬
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 6, 2018 3:16:21 GMT -6
Any chance you can leave baby with H and take DS1 out on a date? This helps so much here. The boys need one on one time with me and we are usually gone for less than an hour. No unfortunately. The baby can sense when I leave the house and just melts down. I’m hoping it’s just a phase 😬 My first was like this, I’m so sorry! It totally does get better but it takes a long ass time.
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 6, 2018 6:52:29 GMT -6
I’m a real great mom to the baby and a piece of shit mom to the toddler. I am aware but I just can’t seem to get it together. I have all the guilt. But damn she is making it hard AF.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Jul 6, 2018 7:10:27 GMT -6
I’m a real great mom to the baby and a piece of shit mom to the toddler. I am aware but I just can’t seem to get it together. I have all the guilt. But damn she is making it hard AF. Ive felt this way a bit as well. I’m working so so hard to praise *anything* good DD1 does bc I feel like only negativity is coming out of my mouth right now.
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 6, 2018 7:12:49 GMT -6
I’m a real great mom to the baby and a piece of shit mom to the toddler. I am aware but I just can’t seem to get it together. I have all the guilt. But damn she is making it hard AF. Ive felt this way a bit as well. I’m working so so hard to praise *anything* good DD1 does bc I feel like only negativity is coming out of my mouth right now. Yes! So much this. I know that this is a phase and she’s reveling because of the new baby. And I’m still greatful it’s being directed at me and not the baby but AHHHHHHH. Yesterday she told me she is so happy that the baby lives with us. She’s so very sweet. She’s just defiant as fuck right now and it’s making my head explode. See also, we are still trying to potty train.
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Post by calendula on Jul 6, 2018 7:15:25 GMT -6
I’m a real great mom to the baby and a piece of shit mom to the toddler. I am aware but I just can’t seem to get it together. I have all the guilt. But damn she is making it hard AF. Ive felt this way a bit as well. I’m working so so hard to praise *anything* good DD1 does bc I feel like only negativity is coming out of my mouth right now. x3. Only in the last couple of weeks have I felt like DS is starting to shine again. It has been a very difficult 3 months. I think summer vacation for him was a nice "reset" button of sorts. Different scenery. I mentioned to H yesterday that I finally felt like I was falling in love with DS again. Such a horrible admission for a mother to make! He legit lost his sweetness for awhile there and everything about him was foul. Now I'm starting to see glimpses again of his usual shiny, cheerful, lovely self.
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Post by sunshinedaisies on Jul 6, 2018 7:30:20 GMT -6
The next few days are going to be so hot by us. Its a nice change since it was basically stuck in the 60s through last week. But ugh my house is like a sauna in heat. I guess we will finally get to test our new air conditioner. We dragged out the water table and kiddie pool for DS1 and he is having so much fun.
No big plans today. DH is meeting with a friend who is visiting so I’ll probably just chill at home with the kids for a few hours. I think we are going to try a beach day this weekend. It’s been too cold so I’m excited to go.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Jul 6, 2018 8:08:10 GMT -6
ArielMermaid yes I’m so so glad DD1ckearly loves and is so careful with DD2. Do you *have to* potty train? It might be worthwhile to take a break?
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 6, 2018 9:56:34 GMT -6
ArielMermaid yes I’m so so glad DD1ckearly loves and is so careful with DD2. Do you *have to* potty train? It might be worthwhile to take a break? She’s three, I’ve tried everything and now she’s suddenly asking to go. I can’t turn her down after all this time. But damn.
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Post by whatsit on Jul 6, 2018 10:21:46 GMT -6
4 month sleep regression can kiss my ass.
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Post by katietopaz on Jul 6, 2018 17:13:07 GMT -6
It's currently 114F outside. sunshinedaisies Is this bananas or what?! I'm relieved (and sorry) to hear I'm not the only one struggling with enjoying a toddler right now. I'm seeing glimpses of my sweet little guy, but he's pushing every boundary and button. The baby is so sweet and easy by comparison, it's hard not to be enjoying him a whole lot more than his big brother.
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Post by stardust84 on Jul 6, 2018 20:16:07 GMT -6
It's currently 114F outside. sunshinedaisies Is this bananas or what?! I'm relieved (and sorry) to hear I'm not the only one struggling with enjoying a toddler right now. I'm seeing glimpses of my sweet little guy, but he's pushing every boundary and button. The baby is so sweet and easy by comparison, it's hard not to be enjoying him a whole lot more than his big brother. I feel the same right now. I am trying to be more patient with DS1 bit it is hard.
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Post by whatsit on Jul 6, 2018 21:50:48 GMT -6
I’m here with everyone on the trying toddlers. Everyone asks how things are going and I usually answer that the infant is the easy one. Yes I’m awake multiple times at night but she does not talk back or tantrum. And she mostly stays in one place.
Toddlers suck and are trying to steal happiness from the world one tantrum at a time.
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Post by calendula on Jul 7, 2018 5:23:21 GMT -6
Also ftr my son turns 6 next week so it may not be just a toddler thing. I think the adjustment to a new sibling may just be more appreciable than I had thought going in.
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Post by woodenshoes on Jul 7, 2018 5:43:11 GMT -6
I am struggling keeping DS1 entertained and the baby happy. DS1 is 4.5 and wants people to do stuff with him constantly. That is why I keep him in daycare for two days during my summer break. My husband just bought a four wheeler so he has been taking DS1 out on that in the evenings, but I really want to go. DS1 has almost daily meltdowns/tears and this is really frustrating me and is making parenting difficult.
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Post by snowmoon on Jul 7, 2018 9:24:34 GMT -6
Weekends are the worst. Our routine is thrown off so much and my parents keep offering to help but never follow through. So ds is extra annoying because grandma and grandpa told him they would hang out or take him somewhere but taake their time getting ready, need to run errands first, have to make a phone call. It makes me ragey.
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Post by cp3 on Jul 7, 2018 11:10:35 GMT -6
D1 hasn't been too bad but she still definitely has her bad moments. Which she takes out on MH and I instead of the baby. She's obsessed with the baby and loves her so much which I'm very happy about.
I think it helps a lot that she goes to school 3 days a week so I don't have to worry about keeping her busy or trying to care for her and the baby. I know we are very lucky that we can afford to send her with me SAH now. Keeping that routine the same has helped a lot.
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Post by cp3 on Jul 7, 2018 11:13:54 GMT -6
The baby is still sick and has been sleeping horribly. We were supposed to go to the lake with some friends today but I sent Mh solo and kept the girls home. I didn't want the baby outside all day and I'm letting him have some solo fun time before his last month of school intensifies.
But I'm tired and part of me wish I wasn't so nice lol.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Jul 7, 2018 15:04:23 GMT -6
ArielMermaid yes I’m so so glad DD1ckearly loves and is so careful with DD2. Do you *have to* potty train? It might be worthwhile to take a break? She’s three, I’ve tried everything and now she’s suddenly asking to go. I can’t turn her down after all this time. But damn. I see you are living my life. DS1 has been refusing to try potty for ages and now is all about it. Always asks right as I’m nursing the baby ugh.
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Post by cornpop on Jul 7, 2018 15:10:03 GMT -6
Em just pulled Elle off the couch. 🤪I feel so anxious that something's wrong. We called the ped and they said to just watch her for two hours but ugh.
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 7, 2018 16:09:56 GMT -6
She’s three, I’ve tried everything and now she’s suddenly asking to go. I can’t turn her down after all this time. But damn. I see you are living my life. DS1 has been refusing to try potty for ages and now is all about it. Always asks right as I’m nursing the baby ugh. YES exactly what’s happening here.
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Post by sunshinedaisies on Jul 7, 2018 17:36:58 GMT -6
Omfg I’m miserable. I’m closer to the ocean than you I think so it’s a bit cooler here but there is NO BREEZE and terrible. I’m currently hugging an ice pack 😂😂😂 Hope you guys are staying cool!
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Post by snowmoon on Jul 7, 2018 17:53:49 GMT -6
Em just pulled Elle off the couch. 🤪I feel so anxious that something's wrong. We called the ped and they said to just watch her for two hours but ugh. Oh gosh. I'm sure she's fine, but how scary!
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