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Post by calendula on Jul 3, 2018 13:58:11 GMT -6
I'm so sorry Rama. Maybe once the dust settles from big transitions its worth keeping an eye on job postings? I remember that trapped feeling when DS was a baby and I was at a job I hated. It was like the skies parted once I found a new job with supportive coworkers, a more reasonable commute and work that was challenging but enjoyable. In the meantime, check in with your doctor. You deserve to feel more comfortable and confident than it sounds like you are. We're all here rooting for you.
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Post by Rama on Jul 3, 2018 14:08:46 GMT -6
I'm so sorry Rama . Maybe once the dust settles from big transitions its worth keeping an eye on job postings? I remember that trapped feeling when DS was a baby and I was at a job I hated. It was like the skies parted once I found a new job with supportive coworkers, a more reasonable commute and work that was challenging but enjoyable. In the meantime, check in with your doctor. You deserve to feel more comfortable and confident than it sounds like you are. We're all here rooting for you. I definitely have a call in for an appointment with my counselor. Hopefully she can squeeze me in shortly after the holiday.
See, I feel like an ass for complaining all the time because it's not like the work is particularly hard or anything. I have supportive coworkers/supervisors/HR/workplace, a great commute (less than 5 miles away from my house), excellent benefits, and for all intents and purposes a pretty chill job. I just hate it. I hate having to be at x place by x time every day for no fulfillment, I literally only work for the dollar bills in my bank account. Staying at home during leave was literally my dream come true, even with all the hard days and being at the end of my rope now and then. I feel like I'm doing something at home. I'm just wasting time until I get off of work at a typical job. I found a job opening at the daycare Lyra is at and that sounds great as a concept because I love working with children, but it has almost all of the same problems I have now -- I'm trapped. I have to stay there and do specific things there every day, over and over, and it just gets to be drudgery when the newness wears off in a handful of months.
We're trying to figure out some kind of alternative solution, MrRama and I. Something where I can work on the side sometimes, but not have to show up for a boss day in and day out. It's a pipe dream, but we're taking a look anyway.
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Post by katietopaz on Jul 3, 2018 14:39:42 GMT -6
No fireworks plans here. We’re pretty stickler about bedtime still, and DS1 would hate how loud the fireworks are. As it is, he notices and comments on them when we hear them from inside the house. I’m so sorry Rama With such a big transition, on top of postpartum hormones, on top of what your heart is tugging you toward, I can imagine there’s tension with you and your H, and at work. Once the dust settles, I hope you have some space to figure out if there’s an alternative plan that would work for your family. I’m sorry friend ❤️
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Post by leatherpants on Jul 3, 2018 16:01:56 GMT -6
Look! I’m here on a Monday! I’m sorry about all the sick little ones. It’s rainy and miserable here and I even turned the furnace on because I was frozen. A decided to boycott the crib last night and screamed until we pulled her into bed with us. I’m hoping she was just over tired from the festivities yesterday. I turned on the heat today too! And SO was like wtf it’s July. Wtf indeed. It’s like 10 degrees.
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Post by leatherpants on Jul 3, 2018 16:05:54 GMT -6
Big hugs Rama. That feeli g of being trapped at work and only working for $$ is tough. Compounded with having to go back to work after mat leave and it’s a tough time. Be kind to yourself.
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Post by leatherpants on Jul 3, 2018 16:10:43 GMT -6
And I hope all these babies are feeling better soon. Sick babies are the worst. B had a cold last week too and it’s just so sad and worriesome. Poor little peanuts.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Jul 3, 2018 16:53:31 GMT -6
nevertoomanyshoes can you sell your stroller? Maybe just get an adapter for the infant seat on something that fits your needs better? I don’t think anyone would buy it haha, it’s been fairly heavily used. It was good for DS1 from age 9m-almost 3y as he was petite and slim. We used a baby jogger city mini at a resort we stayed at and DS1 kept saying it was “so comfy!!!” So maybe not as good as I had thought. Money is a bit on the tight side right now but I’m hoping to get a good deal on a second hand one ASAP. I want the GT as one thing I do like about my stroller is the all terrain tyres.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Jul 3, 2018 16:55:05 GMT -6
We were up most of the night. Transitioning from the swaddle is the worrrrssstttt. Last week my daughter slept from 8 pm - 6:30 am 3 nights! And now, without the swaddle, up all night. So. Merlin sleep suit or ZipadeeZip? Zippadee zip 😁
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Jul 3, 2018 16:58:35 GMT -6
Oh Rama big hugs to you. I’m sorry you’re having a hard time with work. I think talking to your counsellor is a great step though. Is a part time job an option for you at all?
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Post by sunshinedaisies on Jul 3, 2018 17:30:43 GMT -6
We were up most of the night. Transitioning from the swaddle is the worrrrssstttt. Last week my daughter slept from 8 pm - 6:30 am 3 nights! And now, without the swaddle, up all night. So. Merlin sleep suit or ZipadeeZip? Oh hi me. L just started rolling a few days ago so we immediately ditched the swaddle. And he stopped sleeping because he flails around like a maniac. I’m so tired. I’m going to look into these if tonight is just as bad.
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Post by sunshinedaisies on Jul 3, 2018 17:32:01 GMT -6
I think we have to move DD1 out of the crib finally. Ugh. 3 years of being contained at night was nice. I’m not ready for the big girl bed life. I was so not willing to rock the boat bc DS1 did so great in a crib. But it was NBD. I am actually terrified to admit this out loud but he still doesn’t get out of bed until we come get him. For naps or in the morning. So he is still “contained” until we tell him he can get up. So there’s hope!
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Post by sunshinedaisies on Jul 3, 2018 17:40:06 GMT -6
Hugs Rama. I’m sorry the transition is not going well. I hope it gets easier with time. Sorry for all the sick kids. Hope everyone starts feeling better. katietopaz I just read your posts from last week about DS1’s diagnosis and did not want to not respond. Huge hugs. I’m relieved you have a diagnosis. Like others said, putting an official name on it doesn’t change a thing about him. He’s still your sweet little boy and an awesome big brother to M!
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Post by sunshinedaisies on Jul 3, 2018 17:48:56 GMT -6
I’ve been terrible about keeping up here. This is my last month home before I go back to work and I’m already stressing about it bc I already know what’s waiting for me - back to 80 hour work weeks and insane expectations. They have no boundaries and I am terrified of never seeing the kids. So I’ve just been sitting here overwhelmed and trying to ignore reality.
Other than that, we are trying to make the most of my time off and plan some small trips at the end of the month. My dad comes to visit later this week so we will have to wait until he leaves. That’s going to be a difficult visit...
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 3, 2018 18:09:52 GMT -6
I think we have to move DD1 out of the crib finally. Ugh. 3 years of being contained at night was nice. I’m not ready for the big girl bed life. I was so not willing to rock the boat bc DS1 did so great in a crib. But it was NBD. I am actually terrified to admit this out loud but he still doesn’t get out of bed until we come get him. For naps or in the morning. So he is still “contained” until we tell him he can get up. So there’s hope! I swore up and down she would be in it until she’s twenty five but it’s almost time for us to need it for DD2, and she’s been not sleeping anyway so I guess we are bed hunting.
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Post by yianna on Jul 3, 2018 20:40:11 GMT -6
Rama - after I had my first (long battle with IF, miscarriages, Ivf etc) I felt the same way as you. I was fixated on what A1 was doing, was he crying, was he sleeping, did he miss me... I couldn’t even concentrate on work, and most days I barely remember how I got to work or home. The first day of daycare, I SOBBED when I picked him up. I didn’t know it then but I had severe PPD. And I think part of it was PTSD from the losses and the IVF etc. I’m glad you are seeing someone. This is the 4th time I have to leave my baby. And let me tell you all, it’s been harder for me each time. I have to work though - I still bring home money even after daycare is paid. I do like my job though so that’s makes it easier. On a happier note: A4 belly laughed tonight as I was getting her ready for bed. I’m so glad she did that with me because I miss so many firsts. She also squeeled. Babies are amazing.
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Post by auri on Jul 3, 2018 21:14:04 GMT -6
Rama I just wanted to give you hugs. I wish I had something more I could say. ArielMermaid I’m jealous you were able to get DD1 to stay in the crib so long. Mine climbed out at 11 months. 😕
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Post by calendula on Jul 4, 2018 5:05:06 GMT -6
So I ran that 10k last night, it was awesome. Real feel temp at 100 when we started! It started to pour halfway through which felt nice. My friend and I finished strong on the field! I think I lost 5 pounds in water weight.
I didn't get to bed until midnight though due to traffic getting out of the stadium after fireworks. L was up at 3 and 4:30 so basically I didn't sleep. DS up bright and early at 6:15. I'm soooooo tired.
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Post by clementine on Jul 4, 2018 5:35:23 GMT -6
I’m so sorry Rama. I know it can be so hard to work when it’s so unfulfilling. And then on top of that to have a baby you’d so much rather be with. I hope you and your H can come up with some alternative solution. Hugs to all those with sick babes. L seems to be finally kicking this cold, but it seemed to last forever. Hope all your littles feel better soon. calendula sunshinedaisies we did the Merlin. It was... not great for like 2-3 nights and I had the zipadeezip in my amazon cart ready to buy if it didn’t get better, but it did! We tried to switch to a sleep sack last weekend and on the same night we hit what I’m pretty sure was the 4 month regression so back into the Merlin he went! I hope your transitions go smoothly!
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Jul 4, 2018 5:37:35 GMT -6
IS there a growth spurt at 12 weeks? DD2 has been fussier, hungrier, and sleepier than usual. I wish this kid would GET OFF MY BOOB.
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Post by clementine on Jul 4, 2018 5:41:06 GMT -6
calendula that’s awesome! I can’t believe you ran in that heat. My H is super jealous you got to go to Gillette Stadium. He is a huuuuge Patriots fan.
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Post by calendula on Jul 4, 2018 6:42:24 GMT -6
calendula that’s awesome! I can’t believe you ran in that heat. My H is super jealous you got to go to Gillette Stadium. He is a huuuuge Patriots fan. It was awesome!!
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Post by mrsmonogrammed on Jul 4, 2018 7:11:32 GMT -6
IS there a growth spurt at 12 weeks? DD2 has been fussier, hungrier, and sleepier than usual. I wish this kid would GET OFF MY BOOB. I’m pretty sure there is. Mine has been sleeping a lot which usually means a growth spurt on the horizon. He’s 12w today!
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 4, 2018 8:04:32 GMT -6
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Post by yianna on Jul 4, 2018 8:13:47 GMT -6
IS there a growth spurt at 12 weeks? DD2 has been fussier, hungrier, and sleepier than usual. I wish this kid would GET OFF MY BOOB. I’m pretty sure there is. Mine has been sleeping a lot which usually means a growth spurt on the horizon. He’s 12w today! Plus a Leep. 😭
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Post by clementine on Jul 4, 2018 9:39:52 GMT -6
I’m finally trying to let L sleep through the night instead of waking him at 3 to nurse. But I have to get up and pump anyway because I can’t make it all the way until 6 when I have to wake him before we leave for daycare/work. And I don’t think he can make it all the way until 6 either because he’s been waking up around 4:30 or 5.
So either I wake him at 3 to nurse or I wake up sometime to pump, then get up with him when he wakes around 4:30 or 5. Then take the time to get him back to sleep. And by that time it’s pointless for me to go back to bed.
I think I’d definitely get more sleep if I continue waking him to nurse. But I don’t want to create a habit where he always wakes at the same time even if he isn’t hungry. I can’t decide what to do.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Jul 4, 2018 10:25:11 GMT -6
clementine can you do a little dream feed or use a haaka or hand pump to relieve some pressure? Your boob will adjust if you let them. I’m team “uninterrupted sleep” all the way.
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Post by alwayscheese on Jul 4, 2018 10:41:02 GMT -6
Hugs Rama. I'm sorry the current situation isn't working. I hope things improve. clementine what time is he gong to bed? Or last feeding? For quite a while and sometimes still I dream feed DS right before I go to bed, then we can both wait till 6:30. Tomorrow night we are leaving for an OOS trip to go to a wedding and visit family and friends. So today I'm trying to get packed because I have to work tomorrow afternoon and then I want to go get a pedicure. I'm feeling very good about being ready ahead of time. We'll see how long that lasts lol.
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Post by snowmoon on Jul 4, 2018 11:03:23 GMT -6
Hugs Rama! I hope you can come up with an alternate option. I'm glad you're going to talk to someone.
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Post by clementine on Jul 4, 2018 11:40:22 GMT -6
Leaf 🌱 alwayscheeseHis last feed is around 8, he goes down by 8:30, and then I go to bed by 9 or 9:30. I suppose I could try staying up a little later and doing a dream feed. I’m just sooo ready for bed by then that I never want to stay up any later. So if I don’t dream feed or pump MOTN my supply will adjust? I’m just so worried about reducing my supply and having to wean this soon.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Jul 4, 2018 11:44:01 GMT -6
Leaf 🌱 alwayscheeseHis last feed is around 8, he goes down by 8:30, and then I go to bed by 9 or 9:30. I suppose I could try staying up a little later and doing a dream feed. I’m just sooo ready for bed by then that I never want to stay up any later. So if I don’t dream feed or pump MOTN my supply will adjust? I’m just so worried about reducing my supply and having to wean this soon. NO ONE HATE ME OK DD2 sleeps from 10pm-6/7am regularly, has been doing this for several weeks, and my supply is fine. It dropped a little when we both had a cold but the honest post-natal/lactation supplements worked wonders. During her first feed I usually pump the other side for comfort, to help build a stash, and to help keep my supply up.
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