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Post by kittyriot on Feb 8, 2024 11:41:14 GMT -6
The Foo Fighters are highly overrated. Their songs all sound the same and I was very underwhelmed when I saw them live. ILY.
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Post by bobyn on Feb 8, 2024 11:41:32 GMT -6
Do you people not shut your computers off at any point? I don't get the tab thing. Chrome offers to reopen tabs if it closes unexpectedly. I love that feature sfm.
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Post by CurlieWhirlie on Feb 8, 2024 11:42:51 GMT -6
I have some friends who didn't want to hyphenate for their children and so, in order to make it fair and not give the kids either only the husband's or only the wife's last name, gave their children a completely different last name. No relation to either of their names.
But it's such a unique situation that I always remember it when it comes time to send them holiday cards.
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Post by Cher on Feb 8, 2024 11:43:50 GMT -6
We lived in many teeny NY apartments. Then we moved to the burbs into a 1500 sq ft house and it was more space than I could ever imagine. Then we had two kids and we promptly moved into a house that was much, much larger. And that was just mind blowing to me. Now we’ve been here for six years and added another kid, and we’re adding another 1000+ sq feet to the house. It’s nothing ridiculous, we’re adding storage and making the rooms bigger where we spend most of our time.
If we still lived in NYC with our kids, we would live differently but we could make it work. But once you’re in a house, it’s easy to use the space. I can see why someone living in an apartment might see it as excessive, but we don’t have a gift-wrapping room or meditation room. We use every inch of our home intentionally.
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Post by bobyn on Feb 8, 2024 11:44:03 GMT -6
And once the couple has kids, how do I know the last name of the kids? It's not usually a press release to the world, so I'm certain my holiday cards are a mixture of inaccuracies and half-truths. I do "The Smith and Jones Family" That's probably wrong too "All Y'all"
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Post by sterling on Feb 8, 2024 11:44:27 GMT -6
The Foo Fighters are highly overrated. Their songs all sound the same and I was very underwhelmed when I saw them live. ILY. You fuckers.
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Post by Cher on Feb 8, 2024 11:45:16 GMT -6
My household will soon have three working last names. It’s chaos. People will get it wrong. Meh. This is what it's like in my house, with me having my maiden name, DS1 having his father's (my ex's) last name, and H and his three boys (stepsons and DS2) having his last name. It has been this way for 10 years and I thought it would confuse people but it really doesn't, and no one from like the school district or friends' parents have ever gotten it wrong. We have created our own last name mashup, like ScarJo etc. and use it when we send out holiday cards and have it monogrammed on our beach totes etc. Coming up with that name mashup was a fun exercise for the kids and helped solidify our blended family status. Did you legally change it to the mashup? Because our Brooklyn hipster friends did this and when we sent them a check, they were like “oh that’s not actually our name, can you write it again?”
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Post by CurlieWhirlie on Feb 8, 2024 11:45:36 GMT -6
This is what it's like in my house, with me having my maiden name, DS1 having his father's (my ex's) last name, and H and his three boys (stepsons and DS2) having his last name. It has been this way for 10 years and I thought it would confuse people but it really doesn't, and no one from like the school district or friends' parents have ever gotten it wrong. We have created our own last name mashup, like ScarJo etc. and use it when we send out holiday cards and have it monogrammed on our beach totes etc. Coming up with that name mashup was a fun exercise for the kids and helped solidify our blended family status. Did you legally change it to the mashup? Because our Brooklyn hipster friends did this and when we sent them a check, they were like “oh that’s not actually our name, can you write it again?” Absolutely not.
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Post by sterling on Feb 8, 2024 11:45:43 GMT -6
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Post by Cher on Feb 8, 2024 11:46:19 GMT -6
My household will soon have three working last names. It’s chaos. People will get it wrong. Meh. This was my family growing up. I have a lot of baggage. But none from that. If that’s reassuring for you.
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Post by sterling on Feb 8, 2024 11:46:29 GMT -6
We are house hunting now for our Brady bunch of 4 kids. So many square feet needed. All of them, preferably.
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Post by jaygee on Feb 8, 2024 11:46:53 GMT -6
My household will soon have three working last names. It’s chaos. People will get it wrong. Meh. This is what it's like in my house, with me having my maiden name, DS1 having his father's (my ex's) last name, and H and his three boys (stepsons and DS2) having his last name. It has been this way for 10 years and I thought it would confuse people but it really doesn't, and no one from like the school district or friends' parents have ever gotten it wrong. We have created our own last name mashup, like ScarJo etc. and use it when we send out holiday cards and have it monogrammed on our beach totes etc. Coming up with that name mashup was a fun exercise for the kids and helped solidify our blended family status. Most of the people I know that have multiple last names does something like this. Like I know one family that took the Mc from one last name and added the other last name. I always do a double take because I forget it’s a mash up. I just try to follow what people send as their return address when they send me something. Beyond that, I’m just doing the best with the information I have.
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Post by sterling on Feb 8, 2024 11:47:16 GMT -6
My household will soon have three working last names. It’s chaos. People will get it wrong. Meh. This was my family growing up. I have a lot of baggage. But none from that. If that’s reassuring for you. Yes, but also if you could give me the quick rundown of where the baggage came from so I can determine how fucked these kids are gonna be that would be helpful. 😉
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Post by Cher on Feb 8, 2024 11:48:12 GMT -6
I ask for addresses during Christmas card season. Never do I ask for last names. Maybe somebody is bitching about me on the internet right now. They should get over it. I spent a stamp on them.
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Post by Cher on Feb 8, 2024 11:48:34 GMT -6
This was my family growing up. I have a lot of baggage. But none from that. If that’s reassuring for you. Yes, but also if you could give me the quick rundown of where the baggage came from so I can determine how fucked these kids are gonna be that would be helpful. 😉 Well. You know me. Fucked for sure! 😉
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Post by Cher on Feb 8, 2024 11:49:54 GMT -6
Our house is 2700 sq feet over three floors and I do like being able to sit upstairs in the living room while the kids are two floors down yelling and carrying on and I can't hear them. It costs a lot to heat, though. We have friends with very big house (almost twice yours) and they close off a portion of it during the winter so they don't have to heat it. Their pipes don’t burst?
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Post by sterling on Feb 8, 2024 11:50:00 GMT -6
Yes, but also if you could give me the quick rundown of where the baggage came from so I can determine how fucked these kids are gonna be that would be helpful. 😉 Well. You know me. Fucked for sure! 😉 Guess I’ll start setting aside additional therapy funds now since lord knows we are already spending on therapy for 5/6 household members 😂
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Post by Cher on Feb 8, 2024 11:51:10 GMT -6
Well. You know me. Fucked for sure! 😉 Guess I’ll start setting aside additional therapy funds now since lord knows we are already spending on therapy for 5/6 household members 😂 We did 6/6 and an additional family session!
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Post by newspapers on Feb 8, 2024 11:51:10 GMT -6
We lived in many teeny NY apartments. Then we moved to the burbs into a 1500 sq ft house and it was more space than I could ever imagine. Then we had two kids and we promptly moved into a house that was much, much larger. And that was just mind blowing to me. Now we’ve been here for six years and added another kid, and we’re adding another 1000+ sq feet to the house. It’s nothing ridiculous, we’re adding storage and making the rooms bigger where we spend most of our time. If we still lived in NYC with our kids, we would live differently but we could make it work. But once you’re in a house, it’s easy to use the space. I can see why someone living in an apartment might see it as excessive, but we don’t have a gift-wrapping room or meditation room. We use every inch of our home intentionally. I mean...NGL, those sound kind of great.
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Post by sterling on Feb 8, 2024 11:51:59 GMT -6
Guess I’ll start setting aside additional therapy funds now since lord knows we are already spending on therapy for 5/6 household members 😂 We did 6/6 and an additional family session! Maybe a good Christmas gift for us all.
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Post by Cher on Feb 8, 2024 11:52:17 GMT -6
We lived in many teeny NY apartments. Then we moved to the burbs into a 1500 sq ft house and it was more space than I could ever imagine. Then we had two kids and we promptly moved into a house that was much, much larger. And that was just mind blowing to me. Now we’ve been here for six years and added another kid, and we’re adding another 1000+ sq feet to the house. It’s nothing ridiculous, we’re adding storage and making the rooms bigger where we spend most of our time. If we still lived in NYC with our kids, we would live differently but we could make it work. But once you’re in a house, it’s easy to use the space. I can see why someone living in an apartment might see it as excessive, but we don’t have a gift-wrapping room or meditation room. We use every inch of our home intentionally. I mean...NGL, those sound kind of great. I don’t have the space for those! ::: troll :::
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Post by sterling on Feb 8, 2024 11:53:46 GMT -6
I mean...NGL, those sound kind of great. I don’t have the space for those! ::: troll ::: Guess you should be adding 1800 square feet, slacker.
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Post by Bookshelves on Feb 8, 2024 11:54:23 GMT -6
My tab situation got much better for a while after some chastisement here last year, but somehow it has spiraled again. I just noticed this morning that I have 384 open tabs. 🙃 I will address it today! What’s the most embarrassing one? I’m not particularly embarrassed by anything, but they included Google searches on the Baha’i religion, Mexican buñuelos, the proper hyphenation and punctuation of “jack-o’-lantern,” the dolphin boat trip we took in October, and Bea Arthur’s Wikipedia page. So basically the I nside my brain on any given day. Wheee Oh, and at least half a dozen on “decluttering,” a concept that concerns me in my physical life but not digital, lol.
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Post by piratecat on Feb 8, 2024 11:54:49 GMT -6
People have fucked up my name for three decades so it's certainly not new to me either.
I don't feel particularly upset about it but I do consider my name to be an important part of my cultural identity so I do care in that sense.
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Post by Bookshelves on Feb 8, 2024 11:54:52 GMT -6
Do you people not shut your computers off at any point? I don't get the tab thing. It’s on my phone. No tabs left open on my laptop.
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Post by newspapers on Feb 8, 2024 11:56:30 GMT -6
What I would absolutely love if we had the space (and if my H wouldn't throw a fit about it) is my own bedroom.
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Post by Cher on Feb 8, 2024 11:57:41 GMT -6
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Post by roselab on Feb 8, 2024 11:59:27 GMT -6
I try my best to know people's last names post-marriage, but I don't always know that someone didn't change it. Especially in this world of social media and emails and all the places where you do and don't change your name and it may not match what you've done legally. Yeah, my dd danced with a girl who lived in a different town than us. The moms hung out during dance class (she started when she was 3 and class was only 30 min) and became friends. I was fb friends with her mom. I think it was the next year that I sent a Christmas card to 'moms last name on fb family,' and then I got a card back from the 'y' family, and I had never heard that last name and wouldn't have known who the card was from if it wasn't a photo card. I still have no idea if her mom uses her maiden name on fb or just has a different last name than her husband (I do know she's married). I also have no idea what last name the dancer uses (although I could figure that out by looking at a program from one of the recitals I suppose). There was also a couple dh and I knew from college who got married the year we graduated. I remember them talking about how they were going to be progressive and have the husband take the wife's last name, or come up with a new last name for them both to use, or something. But I KNOW the wife wasn't taking the husband's last name. I've had to mail them stuff a few times over the years, but we don't usually see them because they live on the other side of the country from us, and I never know how to address it. I think I usually end up addressing to 'woman first and maiden, husband first and last, and family,' but I always feel like I'm wrong. And finally, we moved from a 2,000 square ft house to a 3,000+ (doesn't include the basement, which is finished and large) house during Covid, and my general contentedness with life has increased drastically since then. Dh works from home and had really specific needs for his work from home area, which this house meets, and our layout is SO much better, plus having all the storage space we need is amazing (we had moved from a bigger house into the 2,000 sf house previously and just never fit in there). I have 2 kids and 2 large dogs. We use every room in our house, and I'm the one who cleans it, and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
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Post by piratecat on Feb 8, 2024 12:00:36 GMT -6
I'm not confident that my own parents know whether my sister or I changed our names but I'll save that one for therapy.
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Post by bobyn on Feb 8, 2024 12:01:04 GMT -6
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