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Post by abs on Feb 9, 2024 11:17:48 GMT -6
I’ve heard there’s some science to this and chosen to believe it without even a follow up because I can’t remember shit if I don’t physically write it down. Like wouldn’t remember I put it somewhere digitally and can’t stand the constant notifications I would get. So here I sit doing both. Teachers, especially math, will tell you this. Many kids learn better writing the math problems and working them out. I'm so sick of the chromebooks in school. We are way too dependent on them. I’ve noticed DD’s school is starting to move away from chromebooks. Most tests and papers are still done through Schoology but most day to day assignments are on paper again. I support it. For things like math where you need to show your work it just makes sense.
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Post by jaygee on Feb 9, 2024 11:22:56 GMT -6
I made a physical meal planning binder this year and can only shop with a paper list. I organize it based on the layout of my store and I jam through it so fast. If I had to use my phone, I’d be a hot mess. The risk is if it’s not on the list, I will not get it. There is no remembering add ons. The family has a paper list on the fridge to add anything they want or need and I ask one time while making my list. If they don’t speak up, they wait a week. I run a tight, paper based ship. I just accepted years ago that inevitably when I walked in the door after grocery shopping someone would say did you get x. Every single time. No matter if we are digital or paper. So that 1 thing goes on next grocery list This week I did it to myself. In the car on the way to the store I remembered I needed coffee syrup. Hit the store, followed my list, didn’t get it. So now I’ve had regular coffee all week. Granted I live one minute walking to another store and could easily pick it up. But how I manage the mental load is only thinking about groceries once a week, so here I am.
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Post by jaygee on Feb 9, 2024 11:25:53 GMT -6
I support everyone in finding systems that work for you and your family. There is no one way to do it. But having a system and making things as automatic as possible really helps manage mental fatigue in our busy lives. I’m really leaning into that for DS due to his ADHD but I’m gaining so much in the process. The running to do list is very distracting for our brains and taxing.
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Post by AmyG on Feb 9, 2024 11:34:13 GMT -6
I support everyone in finding systems that work for you and your family. There is no one way to do it. But having a system and making things as automatic as possible really helps manage mental fatigue in our busy lives. I’m really leaning into that for DS due to his ADHD but I’m gaining so much in the process. The running to do list is very distracting for our brains and taxing. Oh I have a huge running to do list that I "shop" from to make the week list of to do. Which I make the daily to do from. It is how I deal with my anxiety is I'd it's on a list of don't have to keep to dos in my brain. In this instance it's how Its about not remembering what I wrote down. Lol.
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Post by sweptaway on Feb 9, 2024 11:39:59 GMT -6
My resolution this year was no more paper planners and lists, so Pinterest, Google Calendar, and One Note are my new best friends. I have tried all digital planners and time and time again I go back to that paper planner. I have accepted that it's what I need. I do use Pinterest and Google Calendar too though. Google is our shared calendar for shit my H needs to also know about. Plus I have a whiteboard calendar hanging in the kitchen.
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Post by CurlieWhirlie on Feb 9, 2024 11:40:38 GMT -6
The physical act of writing, usually in cursive, helps me remember things. IDK years of education before chromebooks. Now my phone has a pen so I can hand write my list and never forget it at home. I’ve heard there’s some science to this I have heard this, too.
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Post by jaygee on Feb 9, 2024 11:43:53 GMT -6
I’ve heard there’s some science to this and chosen to believe it without even a follow up because I can’t remember shit if I don’t physically write it down. Like wouldn’t remember I put it somewhere digitally and can’t stand the constant notifications I would get. So here I sit doing both. Teachers, especially math, will tell you this. Many kids learn better writing the math problems and working them out. I'm so sick of the chromebooks in school. We are way too dependent on them. I read a rant recently from an IT person at a college that chromebooks are creating this group of students that think they know how to use a computer but they only know how to use a glorified browser. I thought that was interesting. I don’t know enough about how things progress in schools these days because my kid is still in elementary but if they need to actually use computer programs at some point (which I have to assume they will) and they are mostly using chromebooks, I can see that being an issue.
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Post by sweptaway on Feb 9, 2024 11:44:07 GMT -6
i love a paper list. MH mocks my grocery list and paper budget. I made a physical meal planning binder this year and can only shop with a paper list. I organize it based on the layout of my store and I jam through it so fast. If I had to use my phone, I’d be a hot mess. The risk is if it’s not on the list, I will not get it. There is no remembering add ons. The family has a paper list on the fridge to add anything they want or need and I ask one time while making my list. If they don’t speak up, they wait a week. I run a tight, paper based ship. Same girl, same. Except the binder But I do have a note book. H was annoyed we were out of something yesterday and he said it was on the list. I said, no it wasn't. If you put it on the list, I would have bought it. I erase from the list only after I have returned home with the item. It is a foolproof system. It was not on the list.
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Post by piratecat on Feb 9, 2024 11:48:03 GMT -6
I support everyone in finding systems that work for you and your family. There is no one way to do it. But having a system and making things as automatic as possible really helps manage mental fatigue in our busy lives. I’m really leaning into that for DS due to his ADHD but I’m gaining so much in the process. The running to do list is very distracting for our brains and taxing. I really need to do a better job at setting up this system for myself because you're right that the million different things needing to be done floating around my head at all times is exhausting and inefficient.
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Post by AmyG on Feb 9, 2024 11:49:40 GMT -6
Teachers, especially math, will tell you this. Many kids learn better writing the math problems and working them out. I'm so sick of the chromebooks in school. We are way too dependent on them. I read a rant recently from an IT person at a college that chromebooks are creating this group of students that think they know how to use a computer but they only know how to use a glorified browser. I thought that was interesting. I don’t know enough about how things progress in schools these days because my kid is still in elementary but if they need to actually use computer programs at some point (which I have to assume they will) and they are mostly using chromebooks, I can see that being an issue. Hmmm yeah they are using only what's on the cloud online. Google docs for word excel and websites for everything else since chromebooks don't keep programs on them.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Feb 9, 2024 11:55:25 GMT -6
I honestly don't really enjoy buying "stuff" from fundraisers. I dont need 20 pieces of chocolate or 10 random pizza kits. I like the ones that are like pledges to walk a thons and stuff I cant even tell you how often someone in my family has said we can just pick out the food and keep it and they'll send a check and I'm appreciative but also like I don't want this stuff either 🤣 Just have them write it to the PTO/PTA directly. If it's not going through them, as the school admin who people can make out the checks to. Bypassing the crap is how you tell them "we don't want this".
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Post by GhoatMonket on Feb 9, 2024 12:02:14 GMT -6
I support everyone in finding systems that work for you and your family. There is no one way to do it. But having a system and making things as automatic as possible really helps manage mental fatigue in our busy lives. I’m really leaning into that for DS due to his ADHD but I’m gaining so much in the process. The running to do list is very distracting for our brains and taxing. Yes. Writing lists/notes does nothing for me. Type it? Done. Permanent. Etched in brain. Took me some shit grades in a few college classes before I figured that out.
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Post by gingy on Feb 9, 2024 12:04:16 GMT -6
Teachers, especially math, will tell you this. Many kids learn better writing the math problems and working them out. I'm so sick of the chromebooks in school. We are way too dependent on them. I read a rant recently from an IT person at a college that chromebooks are creating this group of students that think they know how to use a computer but they only know how to use a glorified browser. I thought that was interesting. I don’t know enough about how things progress in schools these days because my kid is still in elementary but if they need to actually use computer programs at some point (which I have to assume they will) and they are mostly using chromebooks, I can see that being an issue. I absolutely see this in SD. She has only ever used a chromebook, and for someone who has grown up with technology she is not at all tech savvy. She needs someone to give her explicit instructions because she will not ask good questions. College will be interesting.
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Post by blurnette989 on Feb 9, 2024 12:09:07 GMT -6
I read a rant recently from an IT person at a college that chromebooks are creating this group of students that think they know how to use a computer but they only know how to use a glorified browser. I thought that was interesting. I don’t know enough about how things progress in schools these days because my kid is still in elementary but if they need to actually use computer programs at some point (which I have to assume they will) and they are mostly using chromebooks, I can see that being an issue. I absolutely see this in SD. She has only ever used a chromebook, and for someone who has grown up with technology she is not at all tech savvy. She needs someone to give her explicit instructions because she will not ask good questions. College will be interesting. I've seen things before that although the youths are growing up surrounded by tech, they don't actually have a good grasp on how it works because they got the near finished product from the start. While we had to learn HTML to customize our MySpace pages. When things didn't work as expected we all were troubleshooting that stuff. Because we grew with it as it grew we understand it better than our kids. It makes a lot of sense.
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Post by gingy on Feb 9, 2024 12:20:16 GMT -6
I absolutely see this in SD. She has only ever used a chromebook, and for someone who has grown up with technology she is not at all tech savvy. She needs someone to give her explicit instructions because she will not ask good questions. College will be interesting. I've seen things before that although the youths are growing up surrounded by tech, they don't actually have a good grasp on how it works because they got the near finished product from the start. While we had to learn HTML to customize our MySpace pages. When things didn't work as expected we all were troubleshooting that stuff. Because we grew with it as it grew we understand it better than our kids. It makes a lot of sense. Absolutely. I see that even in our student workers here when something goes sideways with the building tech. They just flail when something doesn't work exactly like it's "supposed to."
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Post by piratecat on Feb 9, 2024 12:21:37 GMT -6
I've mostly switched over to Bill Pay through my bank so that I don't have to mail checks and use a stamp, which now costs 7,989 cents or something. I bought a roll of stamps in like 2020 something before the price went up. They may last me for the next 5 years Yea, I feel like the Forever stamps are the best investment.
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Post by tater on Feb 9, 2024 12:24:51 GMT -6
I have another confession. I had to pay DS’ re-registration for school next year and they were going to charge me $8.70 “convenience fee.” What? This isn’t Ticketmaster. I called the school and told them i will come down there and write a check if they made me pay the $8.70.
Apparently I can get petty enough to write a check.
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Post by piratecat on Feb 9, 2024 12:25:15 GMT -6
My dad used to sell collectible stamps on the side and left me with a collection of random leftover stamps so when I do need to mail something, I've got the calculator out figuring out a combination of stamp values that add up to 7,394 cents or whatever the going rate is at the time and nearly run out of room on the envelope for my string of stamps. 😅
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Post by tater on Feb 9, 2024 12:25:31 GMT -6
I love buying stamps. Maybe that’s another confession.
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Post by jaygee on Feb 9, 2024 12:37:49 GMT -6
I support everyone in finding systems that work for you and your family. There is no one way to do it. But having a system and making things as automatic as possible really helps manage mental fatigue in our busy lives. I’m really leaning into that for DS due to his ADHD but I’m gaining so much in the process. The running to do list is very distracting for our brains and taxing. I really need to do a better job at setting up this system for myself because you're right that the million different things needing to be done floating around my head at all times is exhausting and inefficient. It’s a journey for me. I used to pride myself on my memory and having it all handled but that ship has sailed as life has just gotten more complex. Some things I try to do now: Write it down (paper or digital) immediately brain dump style If something is going to take less than 2-5 minutes just do it (emails, dishes, etc) Put things away right away instead of setting it down Chain habits together so they just feel automatic (I.e. take my evening pills and then do my skin care routine because it’s all in the bathroom and happens at the same time) Set alarms and calendar reminders for future to dos that are not regular (ie Friday calendar reminder for snacks I signed up for Saturday sport)
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Post by McBenny on Feb 9, 2024 12:38:28 GMT -6
Teachers, especially math, will tell you this. Many kids learn better writing the math problems and working them out. I'm so sick of the chromebooks in school. We are way too dependent on them. I read a rant recently from an IT person at a college that chromebooks are creating this group of students that think they know how to use a computer but they only know how to use a glorified browser. I thought that was interesting. I don’t know enough about how things progress in schools these days because my kid is still in elementary but if they need to actually use computer programs at some point (which I have to assume they will) and they are mostly using chromebooks, I can see that being an issue. This is a weird stance. Chromebooks do not use programs because it's not a Windows Computer. You don't use Microsoft Office or Adobe software because again, it's not Windows. If you are insistent in using Office, you can download the office mobile app through the play store. Chrome OS can be used for way more than just browsing the web. Sorry the user might not know this? You can use google docs, google slides, google sheets. Of course, google would not put out a product that would need Microsoft Windows to work.
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Post by McBenny on Feb 9, 2024 12:40:15 GMT -6
I haven't bought a stamp in like 15 years.
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Post by STP on Feb 9, 2024 14:17:17 GMT -6
I have another confession. I had to pay DS’ re-registration for school next year and they were going to charge me $8.70 “convenience fee.” What? This isn’t Ticketmaster. I called the school and told them i will come down there and write a check if they made me pay the $8.70. Apparently I can get petty enough to write a check. That's outrageous and I would be that petty as well.
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Post by Pistol on Feb 9, 2024 14:23:13 GMT -6
I have another confession. I had to pay DS’ re-registration for school next year and they were going to charge me $8.70 “convenience fee.” What? This isn’t Ticketmaster. I called the school and told them i will come down there and write a check if they made me pay the $8.70. Apparently I can get petty enough to write a check. I "pay" a service fee when I pre-register for R's national races and buy our gate passes but the gate passes are discounted if you buy ahead online and we get a rebate of sorts for the pre-registering so I still save money. I'm fine with that but otherwise, nah I'll be writing a check or paying cash or whatever to avoid a fee. I've noticed places around here the "cash" vs "card" prices again so when it saves me money I'll pay cash.
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Post by ponyhairs on Feb 9, 2024 15:12:25 GMT -6
I have a maybe controversial confession. I am going to spend some of the GFM money we received on something a little frivolous and I am feeling a ton of guilt about it. I am going to get a ring made with some of Chris' ashes and is it $1000 I need to spend right now, no, but also it's not a million dollars and it's something that will bring me some comfort. Look how gorgeous it is. I worry that people who donated will be offended that they gave me money to live on and I'm buying jewelry instead.
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Post by fb on Feb 9, 2024 15:12:46 GMT -6
I have another confession. I had to pay DS’ re-registration for school next year and they were going to charge me $8.70 “convenience fee.” What? This isn’t Ticketmaster. I called the school and told them i will come down there and write a check if they made me pay the $8.70. Apparently I can get petty enough to write a check. I "pay" a service fee when I pre-register for R's national races and buy our gate passes but the gate passes are discounted if you buy ahead online and we get a rebate of sorts for the pre-registering so I still save money. I'm fine with that but otherwise, nah I'll be writing a check or paying cash or whatever to avoid a fee. I've noticed places around here the "cash" vs "card" prices again so when it saves me money I'll pay cash. We had to pay a “convenience fee” to buy tickets online for a cheer comp for my daughter last year and then when we arrived had to wait in an hour long line for a wrist band. Pls advise where and when the convenience kicked in.
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Post by angelashly on Feb 9, 2024 15:13:22 GMT -6
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Post by fb on Feb 9, 2024 15:14:18 GMT -6
I have a maybe controversial confession. I am going to spend some of the GFM money we received on something a little frivolous and I am feeling a ton of guilt about it. I am going to get a ring made with some of Chris' ashes and is it $1000 I need to spend right now, no, but also it's not a million dollars and it's something that will bring me some comfort. Look how gorgeous it is. I worry that people who donated will be offended that they gave me money to live on and I'm buying jewelry instead. The ring is beautiful. When I donate to a GFM or the like, I do so with the knowledge that the recipient can do what they please with the money. FWIW, your mental health is part of you living and this ring bringing you comfort is part of that.
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Post by Rusty Red on Feb 9, 2024 15:23:45 GMT -6
ponyhairs, I don't think anyone would begrudge you that. This is important for your mental health and part of the healing process for you.
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Post by STP on Feb 9, 2024 15:33:11 GMT -6
ponyhairs I’d be honored to know my donation went to such a lovely thing.
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