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Post by Sparkly on May 30, 2017 11:38:42 GMT -6
OBVIOUSLY SHAN.
(I did not RTMFT)
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Post by sweptaway on May 30, 2017 11:48:05 GMT -6
This is making me think of the "kinder-moon" they have been pushing on the Disney Channel recently. Like, taking your kids to Disney World before all the pressures and stresses of kindergarten. Oh well I guess I'm a shit mom then. Jesus. |
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Post by Sparkly on May 30, 2017 11:50:54 GMT -6
8th grade graduation is kind of thing here, but I don't remember people having individual parties or getting major gifts (let alone money). Maybe they do now? I don't know.
I don't have much of an issue with BYOB, especially since it's a party for people who are not of drinking age, but BYOB + potluck + expectation of a gift (monetary or otherwise) does seem a bit much.
If they're just asking you to help because you're family, I would feel a slightly different way, but it sounds like this is how the invite went to everyone not just you?
So, in this instance, no you're probably not a bitch.
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Post by Pizzaslut on May 30, 2017 11:51:20 GMT -6
I have no problem with BYOB/potluck parties but those should be in form of group celebrations (i.e., 4th of July cookout, Christmas Eve, Thanksgiving, etc). If they are throwing the party for their children and gifts are expected it is ridiculous to have guests supply the food as well.
I can understand asking a couple people help (maybe a relative or close friend being the waters or the salad or whatever) but not the majority of your guests.
I haven't read so this all may have been stated.
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Post by Pizzaslut on May 30, 2017 11:52:26 GMT -6
I'm also baffled at 8th grade graduation party, but that could be regional.
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Post by Radley on May 30, 2017 12:05:27 GMT -6
Ok I am not "no parties for poor people" I am poor people. I was "growing up hoping there was change in the sofa for milk" poor. But I still side eye the crap out of my SIL every time she expects me to bring food to her son's bday party. I never sign up for anything but a bag of chips because I get pissed that I'm expected to buy the expensive shit she wants her son to have (she makes a group message and sends photos of him posing at the store with all the crap he wants) and expected to bring food. DS1's bday is two days after nephews and I'm not spending our money hosting their party when I have to host my own as well. Sorrynotsorry.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on May 30, 2017 12:14:05 GMT -6
OBVIOUSLY SHAN. (I did not RTMFT) YOU ARE HILARIOUS. |
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Post by Sparkly on May 30, 2017 12:19:36 GMT -6
OBVIOUSLY SHAN. (I did not RTMFT) YOU ARE HILARIOUS.  |
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Post by nenarene on May 30, 2017 12:41:02 GMT -6
Ok I am not "no parties for poor people" I am poor people. I was "growing up hoping there was change in the sofa for milk" poor. But I still side eye the crap out of my SIL every time she expects me to bring food to her son's bday party. I never sign up for anything but a bag of chips because I get pissed that I'm expected to buy the expensive shit she wants her son to have (she makes a group message and sends photos of him posing at the store with all the crap he wants) and expected to bring food. DS1's bday is two days after nephews and I'm not spending our money hosting their party when I have to host my own as well. Sorrynotsorry.  SHE SENDS PHOTOS OF HIM POSING WITH WHAT HE WANTS?? This is next level. |
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Post by thatgolfb on May 30, 2017 12:54:52 GMT -6
Kindermoon?????  Not calling anyone dumb, I just needed to work a Billy Madison gif in here somehow. |
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Post by jbm on May 30, 2017 13:21:00 GMT -6
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Post by Sparkly on May 30, 2017 13:23:55 GMT -6
lolno to kindermoon. The term babymoon is bad enough.
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Post by Radley on May 30, 2017 13:24:50 GMT -6
Ok I am not "no parties for poor people" I am poor people. I was "growing up hoping there was change in the sofa for milk" poor. But I still side eye the crap out of my SIL every time she expects me to bring food to her son's bday party. I never sign up for anything but a bag of chips because I get pissed that I'm expected to buy the expensive shit she wants her son to have (she makes a group message and sends photos of him posing at the store with all the crap he wants) and expected to bring food. DS1's bday is two days after nephews and I'm not spending our money hosting their party when I have to host my own as well. Sorrynotsorry. *snip* SHE SENDS PHOTOS OF HIM POSING WITH WHAT HE WANTS?? This is next level. Yep, once I see the photos are coming I don't even open the group message because it makes me ragey. Especially with everyone responding like they are honored and thrilled to buy whichever present they sign up for. |
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Post by miawallace on May 30, 2017 13:30:01 GMT -6
My parents took me to a Cantonese restaurant when I graduated 8th grade. That was it.
I got a bible as a present. Lol
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Post by Radley on May 30, 2017 13:47:50 GMT -6
I didn't get a party for graduating High School or College... so yeah I'm bitter and would probably not even attend an 8th grade graduation.
Where is the shruggie guy?!
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Post by milliegrace on May 30, 2017 13:47:55 GMT -6
*snip* SHE SENDS PHOTOS OF HIM POSING WITH WHAT HE WANTS?? This is next level. Yep, once I see the photos are coming I don't even open the group message because it makes me ragey. Especially with everyone responding like they are honored and thrilled to buy whichever present they sign up for.  |
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Post by Pizzaslut on May 30, 2017 13:56:57 GMT -6
::Record scratch::
People "sign up" for gifts to give?
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Post by brassyclarinet on May 30, 2017 14:14:56 GMT -6
Ew, 8th grade graduation.
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Post by hotcuppa on May 30, 2017 14:20:11 GMT -6
Oh are we on to other tacky gift grabby stories? Because I have a friend who sent a group email birthday wish list into her 30s...
"Here are some CDs I would like: blah blah blah band (but not xyz CD because I already have it)"
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Post by peachsmama on May 30, 2017 14:24:17 GMT -6
Ok I am not "no parties for poor people" I am poor people. I was "growing up hoping there was change in the sofa for milk" poor. But I still side eye the crap out of my SIL every time she expects me to bring food to her son's bday party. I never sign up for anything but a bag of chips because I get pissed that I'm expected to buy the expensive shit she wants her son to have (she makes a group message and sends photos of him posing at the store with all the crap he wants) and expected to bring food. DS1's bday is two days after nephews and I'm not spending our money hosting their party when I have to host my own as well. Sorrynotsorry. SHE SENDS PHOTOS OF HIM POSING WITH WHAT HE WANTS?? This is next level. I would be putting a $10 bill in a card and calling it done. |
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Post by Jesslfar on May 30, 2017 14:24:37 GMT -6
My parents took me to a Cantonese restaurant when I graduated 8th grade. That was it. I got a bible as a present. Lol Someone gave me The Book for HS graduation. |
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Post by CurlieWhirlie on May 30, 2017 14:29:01 GMT -6
I'm way behind and did not RTMFT past page 1, but IMO the whole situation could be remedied by the hosts explicitly calling it a pot-luck party to celebrate the grads, and no gifts please.Like, I am 100% behind the idea of having a casual family and friends pot-luck to celebrate the kids. I am *not* ok with the expectation of gifts.
I do not think you are a bitch for pointing out how this might look to others. You are family, that's your job! Tell them when they have things stuck in their teeth, and when they are being tacky. But I understand being left wondering what you did wrong, I have a sibling who goes to an eleven anytime I say anything that could be perceived as criticism. It's exhausting.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 14:39:54 GMT -6
Instant german embarrassment for anyone sending a birthday wish list out on an email blast as an adult. Yeesh
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Post by bobyn on May 30, 2017 14:50:50 GMT -6
Well lookie there, I think we're taking our very own kindermoon to Destin. Fuck you, Disney.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 14:52:43 GMT -6
Instant german embarrassment for anyone sending a birthday wish list out on an email blast as an adult. Yeesh A friend of mine shared hers on Facebook.  |
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 14:54:04 GMT -6
I live 10 minutes away from Disney, and it would still cost me like $500+ dollars for a single day of probably being able to go on 2 rides max because lines.
So fuck you Disney
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 14:55:12 GMT -6
Not to mention the exhaustion and anger that comes with dealing with two crazy children in all that chaos
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Post by boots on May 30, 2017 14:58:35 GMT -6
How much do you guys think a pre-k graduation would cash out?
asking for a friend.
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Post by Radley on May 30, 2017 17:49:22 GMT -6
::Record scratch:: People "sign up" for gifts to give? Well it's not like a sign up sheet or anything but everyone kinda chats and picks what they are getting. I may suggest a sign up sheet, it would be more streamlined and I wouldn't get a billion messages. |
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Post by PinkFreud on May 30, 2017 18:12:42 GMT -6
Addie graduates Preschool on Monday. I Will be throwing a party and letting everyone know, she will be accepting cash and also paw patrol toys in celebration of her achievement. I will be waiting for my invitation |
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