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Post by bunnyfungo on May 29, 2017 20:18:12 GMT -6
I'm going to throw my kids a graduation party for every single grade. That's what we're doing now, right?
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Post by Jesslfar on May 29, 2017 20:18:48 GMT -6
No, the food and drink are generous enough. Asking for a gift on top is excessive.
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Post by justhorsinaround on May 29, 2017 20:18:58 GMT -6
I'm going to throw my kids a graduation party for every single grade. That's what we're doing now, right? Sounds about right |
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Post by enchanted on May 29, 2017 20:20:14 GMT -6
::whispers::
I had a party for eighth grade graduation. Just family though. It was also from the Catholic school I had attended K-8 so the school made it into a big deal.
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Post by AnnPerkins on May 29, 2017 20:20:25 GMT -6
I am confused about why there is a family-hosted gathering for a grade 8 graduation at all. Is this a thing people do? I have never heard of a family party for graduating anything - elementary, high school, university. Pretty much no one but my parents cared that I graduated from whatever level of schooling. I've only ever been to high school grad parties. In my experience, junior high and college graduations are celebrated by going out to lunch with your grandparents or just immediate family. I don't side eye a junior high grad party, any reason to celebrate, amirite? But, feed your guests. Actually host the party. Potlucks are for holiday get-togethers or block parties. |
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Post by PandaWatch on May 29, 2017 20:21:39 GMT -6
I had no idea this was a regional thing. TIL. I've been to a hundred 8th grade graduations. I grew up in MA, and I've been to many an 8th grade graduation party. I do think it's a bit tacky to do BYOB/potluck for it though. Any potluck I've been to is a casual, just for fun gathering, not a gift giving occasion. |
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Post by punkypower on May 29, 2017 20:21:46 GMT -6
Are these public school graduations or private? I know here public do not have 5th/8th grade graduations. In fact the word graduation isn't used until high school. Private on the other hand, is different.
Regardless, a graduation party shouldn't be a bring your own anything.
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Post by enchanted on May 29, 2017 20:21:53 GMT -6
All that said, though, it was not BYOB, my parents provided all the food and booze, and if I'm remembering correctly, my grandparents, godparents, and parents were the only ones who gave me gifts.
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Post by PandaWatch on May 29, 2017 20:22:11 GMT -6
::whispers:: I had a party for eighth grade graduation. Just family though. It was also from the Catholic school I had attended K-8 so the school made it into a big deal. +1 |
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Post by klw on May 29, 2017 20:22:18 GMT -6
Don't think you're a bitch. I'd be questioning it too. I know 8th grade grads can be a done, but I don't know if I've ever heard of a party for it. And why have the party if you can't afford to do it. I mean, I don't have an issue with BYOB, but I can't stand it when people expect you to bring food. (Hope a member of DHs family is stalking this post! )
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Post by marsinvestigations on May 29, 2017 20:23:58 GMT -6
Yeah, you can't ask for gifts and for people to bring their own party. That is tacky, you are not a bitch. My SIL asks everyone to bring something to every single one of my niece's birthday parties. Like not just side dishes but everything - soda, paper products, one year she asked my mom to bring the cake. I was late one year when my job was the paper products. SIL's family bitched me out cause they couldn't eat since my paper plates and plastic utensils were late. Lol. |
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Post by tattooedtragedy on May 29, 2017 20:24:04 GMT -6
Not a bitch. 8th grade graduations are stupid
//bookmark this for 4 years from now when my oldest graduates from middle school
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Post by Cupcakemama on May 29, 2017 20:24:49 GMT -6
When SD graduated from grade 8 we all went back to her grandparents house to take pictures. Anyone wanting to do gifts did so at that time. We took pictures then off she went to the party the grade 8 parents put on for them. It was definitely not a party. I would side eye the potluck but not the byob for this type of thing.
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Post by ironegg on May 29, 2017 20:28:23 GMT -6
Yeah, you can't ask for gifts and for people to bring their own party. That is tacky, you are not a bitch. My SIL asks everyone to bring something to every single one of my niece's birthday parties. Like not just side dishes but everything - soda, paper products, one year she asked my mom to bring the cake. I was late one year when my job was the paper products. SIL's family bitched me out cause they couldn't eat since my paper plates and plastic utensils were late. Lol. This is bizarre to me. |
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Post by shan-ah-doo on May 29, 2017 20:29:10 GMT -6
Yeah, you can't ask for gifts and for people to bring their own party. That is tacky, you are not a bitch. My SIL asks everyone to bring something to every single one of my niece's birthday parties. Like not just side dishes but everything - soda, paper products, one year she asked my mom to bring the cake. I was late one year when my job was the paper products. SIL's family bitched me out cause they couldn't eat since my paper plates and plastic utensils were late. Lol. Big NOPE from me. That's greedy af. |
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Post by heybulldog on May 29, 2017 20:29:34 GMT -6
All that said, though, it was not BYOB, my parents provided all the food and booze, and if I'm remembering correctly, my grandparents, godparents, and parents were the only ones who gave me gifts. I also had an 8th grade graduation party and it was exactly like this. Oh, and back then we called it "graduation" but I currently teach 8th grade and we call it "promotion". |
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Post by Lord Disick on May 29, 2017 20:30:04 GMT -6
I think it's tacky for people to expect gifts in addition to BYO anything but I would probably just give meager gifts and not put any really money or effort into what you bring.
Maybe just give the kids certificates saying you'll buy them alcohol when they're 16. Not serious, obviously, I hope.
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Post by heybulldog on May 29, 2017 20:30:58 GMT -6
Yeah, you can't ask for gifts and for people to bring their own party. That is tacky, you are not a bitch. My SIL asks everyone to bring something to every single one of my niece's birthday parties. Like not just side dishes but everything - soda, paper products, one year she asked my mom to bring the cake. I was late one year when my job was the paper products. SIL's family bitched me out cause they couldn't eat since my paper plates and plastic utensils were late. Lol. Every single party? Every single time? That's weird. |
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Post by hotcuppa on May 29, 2017 20:33:33 GMT -6
I would happily go to the party, bring a dish, and bring booze, but bringing a gift for 8th grade grad would never cross my mind. I'll remember this thread though when it inevitably comes up in the future!
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Post by willow on May 29, 2017 20:34:43 GMT -6
8th grade graduation is one of the stupidest ideas I've heard of I a while. We went to an amusement park on the last day of 8th grade. Woo.
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Post by marsinvestigations on May 29, 2017 20:35:33 GMT -6
My SIL asks everyone to bring something to every single one of my niece's birthday parties. Like not just side dishes but everything - soda, paper products, one year she asked my mom to bring the cake. I was late one year when my job was the paper products. SIL's family bitched me out cause they couldn't eat since my paper plates and plastic utensils were late. Lol. Every single party? Every single time? That's weird. She is super weird, she has absolutely no boundaries. but her family doesn't seem to think it is odd, so idk if that's just how they roll? If it wasn't for my niece it would be a big hell no from me, but I just go along with it. My brother seems super embarrassed by the whole thing, but never says anything to her about it. |
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Post by justhorsinaround on May 29, 2017 20:35:56 GMT -6
I would happily go to the party, bring a dish, and bring booze, but bringing a gift for 8th grade grad would never cross my mind. I'll remember this thread though when it inevitably comes up in the future! This is where I'm at. Side dish, booze, and a card. Done. |
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Post by imapenguin on May 29, 2017 20:36:30 GMT -6
I would probably go and take a small gift for the "grad" so they have a good time, plenty of booze for me so I have a good time, and not worry about a side dish.
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 29, 2017 20:45:07 GMT -6
I'm going to throw my kids a graduation party for every single grade. That's what we're doing now, right? Worked for Billy Madison. |
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 29, 2017 20:48:22 GMT -6
Every single party? Every single time? That's weird. She is super weird, she has absolutely no boundaries. but her family doesn't seem to think it is odd, so idk if that's just how they roll? If it wasn't for my niece it would be a big hell no from me, but I just go along with it. My brother seems super embarrassed by the whole thing, but never says anything to her about it. That is totally common for any gathering in my or DH's families, other than formal events like weddings or high school/college graduations. I don't expect people to bring things, but they always ask and bring something. And vice versa. A simple holiday is like 30-40 people for either of our families. We don't expect one person to foot the bill for that. |
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Post by pobre on May 29, 2017 20:49:48 GMT -6
It's tacky but I would never say anything. So in that sense, it's a little wrong imo.
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Post by marsinvestigations on May 29, 2017 20:58:59 GMT -6
She is super weird, she has absolutely no boundaries. but her family doesn't seem to think it is odd, so idk if that's just how they roll? If it wasn't for my niece it would be a big hell no from me, but I just go along with it. My brother seems super embarrassed by the whole thing, but never says anything to her about it. That is totally common for any gathering in my or DH's families, other than formal events like weddings or high school/college graduations. I don't expect people to bring things, but they always ask and bring something. And vice versa. A simple holiday is like 30-40 people for either of our families. We don't expect one person to foot the bill for that. I guess my thought process is that it is completely understandable to have people bring foods and stuff for holiday get togethers or picnics, but for things like birthday parties it is odd. Especially for younger children. If they can't afford to, or even just don't want to, feed everyone them just invite people for cake and don't make it a big meal thing. |
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Post by ironegg on May 29, 2017 21:03:51 GMT -6
She is super weird, she has absolutely no boundaries. but her family doesn't seem to think it is odd, so idk if that's just how they roll? If it wasn't for my niece it would be a big hell no from me, but I just go along with it. My brother seems super embarrassed by the whole thing, but never says anything to her about it. That is totally common for any gathering in my or DH's families, other than formal events like weddings or high school/college graduations. I don't expect people to bring things, but they always ask and bring something. And vice versa. A simple holiday is like 30-40 people for either of our families. We don't expect one person to foot the bill for that. I think this is fine for holidays or reunions, get together, etc. But if you are THROWING a party to celebrate, I think it's strange. I would never offer to host a party for a celebration if I couldn't afford it. We just wouldn't have one. |
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 29, 2017 21:04:08 GMT -6
That is totally common for any gathering in my or DH's families, other than formal events like weddings or high school/college graduations. I don't expect people to bring things, but they always ask and bring something. And vice versa. A simple holiday is like 30-40 people for either of our families. We don't expect one person to foot the bill for that. I guess my thought process is that it is completely understandable to have people bring foods and stuff for holiday get togethers or picnics, but for things like birthday parties it is odd. Especially for younger children. If they can't afford to, or even just don't want to, feed everyone them just invite people for cake and don't make it a big meal thing. I'm not butthurt about making a pasta salad for a party or grabbing a bag of chips. I'm bowing out because this shit is obnoxious and borders on no parties for poor people. |
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Post by Cher on May 29, 2017 21:04:41 GMT -6
Interesting. 8th grade graduations are very much a thing where I grew up. I had one, most people I knew had one. I gave and received money. Where I grew up, graduation parties are done for 8th grade, high school and college.
I have never been to or invited to a potluck. I have brought things to a party to help my mom or a good friend, but never a party where everyone is asked to bring something.
I'm guessing this is one of those regional things.
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