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Post by milliegrace on May 30, 2017 6:07:02 GMT -6
8th grade graduations are very much a thing around here.
Parties that are pot luck/byob should not be instances in which gifts are expected. Like my cousins 2 pot luck baby showers. The horror.
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Post by allisong on May 30, 2017 6:15:38 GMT -6
No you're not being a birch at all.
I can't get over an 8th grade graduation party. I mean is graduating 8th grade really that big of a deal? You still have 4 more years of schooling left...I don't get it.
ETA - I'm leaving the birch.
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Post by misspeansmama on May 30, 2017 7:57:02 GMT -6
I think having an 8th grade graduation party is tacky in general. It's over the top ridiculous to ask people to bring food, drinks and still expect gifts.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on May 30, 2017 7:58:23 GMT -6
The gift giving makes this seem tacky, especially because it is an 8th grade graduation. I would think it odd having any gift giving party for finishing middle school. Just a BYOB cook out with family and friends seems fun, but expecting gifts makes it side eye-worthy to me. Are they actually expecting gifts though? Or OP are you just assuming that they are? Could be it's really just supposed to be a get together/celebration. It's a thing here. This past Saturday we had our other nephew's 8th grade graduation and every single person brought a card with money in it. And I say generous gift because we give no less than $50-100. We gave a $100 because said nephew is H's god son. |
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Post by PinkFreud on May 30, 2017 8:00:01 GMT -6
I'm just here for the yacht party. Vineyard Vines and boat shoes love! |
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Post by shan-ah-doo on May 30, 2017 8:00:08 GMT -6
I would be ok with this setup coming out of high school when kids need money to pay for college or move out, but why do kids need money to go to high school? Yes. I didn't get any money for graduating 8th grade. This better not be a thing now. But it depends on where you're from tho because it's not a new trend here. It's just normal. I had an 8th grade graduation party, my DS had an 8th grade party. |
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Post by shan-ah-doo on May 30, 2017 8:02:46 GMT -6
I want to live where 8th grade graduation parties are not a thing.
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Post by PinkFreud on May 30, 2017 8:03:18 GMT -6
I want to live where 8th grade graduation parties are not a thing. They aren't here because high school is grades 10-12 |
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Post by jojo on May 30, 2017 8:04:04 GMT -6
8th grade graduation parties are pretty common in my area, we just went to one this weekend. I had one for 8th grade, high school and college. People bring gifts, some money, some other presents. My family also loves any excuse for a party.
But we also are in an area that not everyone in the same middle school goes to the same high school. I think my middle school split into 3 different high schools.
I don't bat an eye at the byob thing since my family does that anyway (but usually the host supplies something). The food thing is for sure tacky for a party where gifts are generally given. So you're not a bitch.
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Post by amylou on May 30, 2017 8:08:53 GMT -6
Are they actually expecting gifts though? Or OP are you just assuming that they are? Could be it's really just supposed to be a get together/celebration. It's a thing here. This past Saturday we had our other nephew's 8th grade graduation and every single person brought a card with money in it. And I say generous gift because we give no less than $50-100. We gave a $100 because said nephew is H's god son. So they are expecting you to shell out $200 (b/c twins) plus bring a dish and your own booze? No, thanks. You are not a bitch. That's tacky. |
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Post by shan-ah-doo on May 30, 2017 8:10:43 GMT -6
It's a thing here. This past Saturday we had our other nephew's 8th grade graduation and every single person brought a card with money in it. And I say generous gift because we give no less than $50-100. We gave a $100 because said nephew is H's god son. So they are expecting you to shell out $200 (b/c twins) plus bring a dish and your own booze? No, thanks. You are not a bitch. That's tacky. Well in their defense they obviously didn't put an amount on the invite lol |
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 30, 2017 8:11:53 GMT -6
Are they actually expecting gifts though? Or OP are you just assuming that they are? Could be it's really just supposed to be a get together/celebration. It's a thing here. This past Saturday we had our other nephew's 8th grade graduation and every single person brought a card with money in it. And I say generous gift because we give no less than $50-100. We gave a $100 because said nephew is H's god son. Jebus. I only give that much to college grads that are close family. |
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Post by shan-ah-doo on May 30, 2017 8:13:29 GMT -6
It's a thing here. This past Saturday we had our other nephew's 8th grade graduation and every single person brought a card with money in it. And I say generous gift because we give no less than $50-100. We gave a $100 because said nephew is H's god son. Jebus. I only give that much to college grads that are close family. My H is a very generous gift giver. I'm not as generous lol |
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Post by bearfootz on May 30, 2017 8:42:07 GMT -6
I guess it all depends on what the norm for the family is. In my family we tend to offer to bring a dish to pass and our beverage of choice. I don't think that I've ever requested that anyone do that though - it's just common practice that every asks what they can bring. They should have just sent the invite and left it up to you to volunteer.
Your gift amount seems a bit generous but maybe I'm cheap. And yes, you'll end up paying double because damn those twins. Unless you're my SIL who admitted that she might give less for first communion because we have twins. She has three kids so I figured that meant I should only give her son 1/3 of what I had originally planned, right?
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Post by Peekaru on May 30, 2017 8:44:23 GMT -6
Are they actually expecting gifts though? Or OP are you just assuming that they are? Could be it's really just supposed to be a get together/celebration. It's a thing here. This past Saturday we had our other nephew's 8th grade graduation and every single person brought a card with money in it. And I say generous gift because we give no less than $50-100. We gave a $100 because said nephew is H's god son.  I can't even imagine being 8th grade graduation rich. |
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Post by McBenny on May 30, 2017 8:51:53 GMT -6
I mean we don't know anyone that does money envelopes as a standard. That being said if I am brining stuff then I would adjust any monetary gift accordingly.
I wouldn't bother telling them how tacky it is.
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Post by lucilleaustero on May 30, 2017 9:03:11 GMT -6
8th grade parties are not a thing where I live. You get a graduation party when you actually graduate, which only happens in 12th grade.
As for the potluck party, I have mixed feelings. Around here, potlucks are not for personal occasion parties. Potlucks are bbqs, get togethers, 4th of July, etc. when it is not for someone. Parties for someone are not potluck.
I love threads like this because it shows how different the various regions in our country are.
I mean, we only give money for wedding gifts in very substantial amounts. It was not until I started posting on TD that I learned that many parts of the country give actual gifts and some that are not expensive. Blew my mind.
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Post by angelashly on May 30, 2017 9:12:18 GMT -6
I guess it all depends on what the norm for the family is. In my family we tend to offer to bring a dish to pass and our beverage of choice. I don't think that I've ever requested that anyone do that though - it's just common practice that every asks what they can bring. They should have just sent the invite and left it up to you to volunteer. Your gift amount seems a bit generous but maybe I'm cheap. And yes, you'll end up paying double because damn those twins. Unless you're my SIL who admitted that she might give less for first communion because we have twins. She has three kids so I figured that meant I should only give her son 1/3 of what I had originally planned, right? This is how we are in my family. My sister hosted a cookout for my mom and I Birthday and I still brought food. Now when I host I'm more than likely set and won't have people bring stuff, but it's more a control thing than a we got this thing and I'm aware of it Now I probably would adjust my gift giving but maybe not even that since I find it normal |
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Post by jbm on May 30, 2017 9:16:15 GMT -6
Are they actually expecting gifts though? Or OP are you just assuming that they are? Could be it's really just supposed to be a get together/celebration. It's a thing here. This past Saturday we had our other nephew's 8th grade graduation and every single person brought a card with money in it. And I say generous gift because we give no less than $50-100. We gave a $100 because said nephew is H's god son. Well, in this case, I would like to announce my 8th grade graduation party will be held next weekend. |
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Post by mack on May 30, 2017 9:19:20 GMT -6
I guess I am just aghast at this 8th grade graduation party concept. Like.... what?
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Post by mack on May 30, 2017 9:22:07 GMT -6
Addie graduates Preschool on Monday. I Will be throwing a party and letting everyone know, she will be accepting cash and also paw patrol toys in celebration of her achievement.
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Post by jbm on May 30, 2017 9:25:06 GMT -6
This is making me think of the "kinder-moon" they have been pushing on the Disney Channel recently. Like, taking your kids to Disney World before all the pressures and stresses of kindergarten.
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Post by Notarobot on May 30, 2017 9:31:49 GMT -6
This is making me think of the "kinder-moon" they have been pushing on the Disney Channel recently. Like, taking your kids to Disney World before all the pressures and stresses of kindergarten.  Testing out my first gif, apologies in advance |
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Post by Pistol on May 30, 2017 9:32:19 GMT -6
This is making me think of the "kinder-moon" they have been pushing on the Disney Channel recently. Like, taking your kids to Disney World before all the pressures and stresses of kindergarten. wut |
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Post by lupineaura on May 30, 2017 9:36:48 GMT -6
I guess it all depends on what the norm for the family is. In my family we tend to offer to bring a dish to pass and our beverage of choice. I don't think that I've ever requested that anyone do that though - it's just common practice that every asks what they can bring. They should have just sent the invite and left it up to you to volunteer. Your gift amount seems a bit generous but maybe I'm cheap. And yes, you'll end up paying double because damn those twins. Unless you're my SIL who admitted that she might give less for first communion because we have twins. She has three kids so I figured that meant I should only give her son 1/3 of what I had originally planned, right? That's shitty. |
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Post by lupineaura on May 30, 2017 9:39:01 GMT -6
No to a "kindermoon." But that is some brilliant marketing.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 9:48:12 GMT -6
No @ stupid "kindermoon"
JTTW
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Post by kmkd on May 30, 2017 11:03:15 GMT -6
Addie graduates Preschool on Monday. I Will be throwing a party and letting everyone know, she will be accepting cash and also paw patrol toys in celebration of her achievement. I'll attend if I can bring my own booze. No sharing though. |
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 30, 2017 11:11:27 GMT -6
This is making me think of the "kinder-moon" they have been pushing on the Disney Channel recently. Like, taking your kids to Disney World before all the pressures and stresses of kindergarten. I want to have so few actual problems that this would rank as a serious issue. |
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Post by lameduse on May 30, 2017 11:20:45 GMT -6
My high school was 8-12, so no 8th grade graduation. I think we had a 7th grade party at school with a dance or something to celebrate. No party at home that I can remember. I think it is weird to ask for food, booze and a gift, but if it is the norm then...? I would grab a bag of chips, a six pack of something I like to drink and a card with a modest amount of cash or a gift card and call it done.
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