New Week New Randoms 12-17 Sept

[kristyw]

king26 I do try to go out by myself once a week. It's good for H to have the time with the kids by himself and it's good for me/my sanity to get out. I'm breastfeeding too, but pump as well and H has been giving E a bottle once or twice a day. I have to go back to work at 8 weeks, so we're getting/keeping her used to taking a bottle. How long is book club? Maybe start with that and you can always leave if YH can't get the baby settled himself.

[yoshijo]

I've gone to the gym and out foe brunch with friends. H has taken the baby to his parents for the day so I have the house to myself sometimes. I feel totally fine leaving the baby with him. He has her a lot when I nap and overall when he's home. It's good to get out king26!

[yoshijo]

+1 to the firefly! Thanks happyfeet9 A loves it. Also the kick n play piano gym is a hit

[thinkchocolate05]

Sept 17, 2017 7:30:26 GMT -6 happyfeet9 said:

Sept 17, 2017 5:06:30 GMT -6 pennylane said:

My almost 3 year old was up more times overnight than my newborn. Ugh. Definitely going to need to sneak a nap today.

Solidarity. My almost 3 yr old also wakes up in the MOTN consistently.

Mine too! It sucks.

[king26]

H will have J when I go back to work everyday so I guess I feel bad about it now. I have gone out several times to do things and left him with H and it's been fine. I guess it's the going out with my friends that in feeling bad about .

DH and I took J for a drive today. He has currently been sleeping in the carseat for 3.5 hours. This is the longest he has ever slept!!!!

[cali]

I'm sorry if this gets long but I just need to vent. I'm ready to punch mh. So, you all know I'm in my last semester of nursing school and it totally sucks to be doing it with a newborn but I just want to finish. Well I have my first big exam on Tuesday. M has been a terror all week with barely sleeping and wanting to be nursed or held all the time so I got no studying done. MH promised that this weekend he would take her and give me tons of time to study. My mom also offered to help this weekend but mh made a huge deal of wanting to spend time with M so I told her we were ok. Well, yesterday he came home from work in the morning (he works nights) and complained he was exhausted and had to sleep a few hours. Well he ends up sleeping way longer and when I tried to wake him he kept saying he was getting up but didn't. I ended up calling my mom because I was desperate to get some studying in. She came and watched M for a few hours and brought dinner, so she was a lifesaver. MH got up at one point, saw my mom was here and was like oh good, I'm still tired and went back to bed. He finally got up at 8pm. He said he would do all the motn feedings but for the first time ever M slept 5 hours straight, from midnight to 5. When she finally woke up I had to get up anyway to pump, so he didn't have to do any wake ups with her. But he couldn't sleep all night of course because he had slept all damn day.
So today he was supposed to take her and again he's been sleeping all day. I've tried three times to wake him with no luck. I don't know how I'll ever pass this exam at this point. It's a really hard class and I've barely spent 5 hours on it. I just want to cry. I feel bad/embarrassed calling my mom again and honestly it's kind of too late now. Luckily, M has been really good today and sleeping a lot but I still can't focus on studying and take care of her! I'm also having to take care of both our dogs, which basically means every 30 minutes I have to stop studying to do something for the baby or the dogs. I'm feeling so pissed and just want to cry. I don't think I can pass this test now and I have two other assignments due and I don't know how I'll get it done.

[jt2378]

Damn cali, I'm very sorry, I would be really upset and pissed at MH too especially with something as important as this. I would still be trying to wake his ass right now. Big hugs

[king26]

I'm so sorry cali in would be super pissed especially since he said he would help you. I think i would call your mom for tomorrow if you can.

[king26]

J has spit up twice pretty good today and then threw up all over DH after having his bottlentonigjt. I don't know if we are feeding him too much or if he's not feeling well or if the formula is messing with him. Im calling the doctor tomorrow because he is stuffy and mucusy too. I hate not knowing what is going on with him and don't want to be that mom but I'm going to be. H keeps saying i worry too much but after getting puked on suddenly it's ok to call the doctor.

[jexxa]

Oh hellllll no cali. I get that he works nights, but part of having a baby is sacrificing sleep. It sounds like he's not being considerate of your needs. Wait until you're calmed down a bit and then have a come to Jesus talk with him.

[jexxa]

king26 I don't blame you for worrying (and for the record, I don't think you're worrying too much). Let us know what the dr says tomorrow!

[muscari]

Oh dang cali I would be so pissed too! And totally unable to study even if he did get up now cause I'd just be too upset and worked up. Major hugs sweetie. It sucks loosing sleep, and it is hard getting up when still ohso tired and be in a comfi bed - we all get that! But for one he should keep his promise made and second like jexxa said having a baby equals sacrificing sleep. I am glad your mum was able to help out yesterday and I would just call her for today/tomorrow as well. You clearly can't count on YH right now - something to discuss and right for sure but right now I d try to focus on the studying and calming down then tackle this when you are less upset and can have a talk without wanting to smash his face . And no doubt your mum doesnt mind at all, she offered it herself even, remember?

You worked hard to get this far with your degree and I am sure you will do better then you expect on your exam if you manage to get some more proper studying in. 💛

I wish I had some advice on how to deal with the issue with YH. He needs a wake up call (no pun intended!) And get his shit together and take his responsibility. Just cause you are at home and don't have to go out to work doesnt mean all responsibilities for M should fall on you solely. Besides, you need time to study as well and he should be considerate of that as well.

[muscari]

king26 ahh you aren't one of those moms! I would be worried as well! I hope the dr will be able to give some insight and advice tomorrow and relieve your worries. And fx J will feel better again soon!

[muscari]

Ugh so I forgot to set the alarm and totally overslept and now D didnt wake up till 6h after her last feed! I know they say tis feeding on demand and okay to let them sleep but at under 4wks I also shouldn't let her go this long in between feedings!? She seems fine and wasnt fussy at all, the latter of course making me worry whether she really is okay?? Ahh everything makes me worried at times. My boobs were pretty painful at this point so at least I know she had plenty to eat.. I hope next time they will be so painful they will wake me and sooner!?

On top of this when I got her from her bassinet she somehow had slid sideways and had her face covered by her blanket which totally freaked me out good. That was scary! Luckily she woke me cause she was making small sounds, or I would have freaked out even worse had shed been all quiet. I just honestly dont know why this happened cause she was positioned right and the bed is made according to what we were taught at the hospital and by our PP nurse. Now I am scared this will happen again.

[thinkchocolate05]

cali That is so frustrating. It sounds like your dh isn't appreciating the amount of work it will take for you to do well in class. That would enrage me. I wonder if your mom can come tomorrow and let you study all day.

king26 I hope baby feels better soon. Throwing up would freak me out too, but I don't think you should worry about being "that Mom".

muscari What do they teach about the blanket at your hospital? The standard here is no lose blankets in the crib or bassinet, which is partly why people use the sleep sacks. Even if I don't swaddle his arms, the sleep sack or swaddle helps keeps him warm, but he's inside the sack or velcroed into the swaddle so I don't have to worry about it slipping over his face. That would have freaked me out too. I used a loose blanket with DS2 during the daytime when I could observe him, but maybe you could use a sleep sack at night.

I am bummed bc I started using a breastfeeding supplement by PureMom and it actually seemed like it worked, but DS2 has been so gassy since I started it, and I think it may be the fenugreek in the supplement. He was inconsolable last night from 7pm to 10 pm, and we were at our wits end. He would act very hungry, but then take one sip of his bottle supplement and start screaming. We even ordered mam anti colic bottles from Amazon, but then around 10:15, he fell asleep at the boob, took a bottle, and then slept for three hours. I'm still thinking it must be the supplement. He has his 1 month appt tomorrow, so I guess I'll ask the Dr and hold off in taking it until then. Tomorrow is dh's first day back at work so I'm nervous about that too.

[king26]

I'm sorry you had a little scare muscari that would have freaked me out too. I say as lonv and as she seems healthy and well fed then she is ok. And wow for sleeping that long. I'm excited J just slept 2.5 hours .

Also, I swear he know when I'm ready to give up on the boob. Both timed he has woken up tonight he has fed from both breasts beautifilly.

[king26]

thinkchocolate05 I tried a supplement too but I felt like it gave J horrible and painful gas so I stopped taking it. Hope the doctor can give you some answers.

[thinkchocolate05]

Sept 18, 2017 0:23:38 GMT -6 king26 said:

thinkchocolate05 I tried a supplement too but I felt like it gave J horrible and painful gas so I stopped taking it. Hope the doctor can give you some answers.

king26 This is really good to know. Thanks!! I kept telling myself I was being paranoid, but he was passing gas way more than usual and then the screaming while eating. Bummer!!!

[bsouls]

muscari I was told last time by a LC when T was a month old that as long as she was gaining weight I didn't have to wake her to feed. She also told me that babies make noise when they sleep and to wait until she was crying. I never purposely waited that long, but it definitely changed my life.

Also, R moves a lot and moves like a foot in her crib the one day when nap because she had gas. We don't leave her with a blanket or anything, so if you have a mover then you might need to try something else to keep her warm.

[addymac]

Sept 18, 2017 2:25:10 GMT -6 bsouls said:

muscari I was told last time by a LC when T was a month old that as long as she was gaining weight I didn't have to wake her to feed. She also told me that babies make noise when they sleep and to wait until she was crying. I never purposely waited that long, but it definitely changed my life.

Also, R moves a lot and moves like a foot in her crib the one day when nap because she had gas. We don't leave her with a blanket or anything, so if you have a mover then you might need to try something else to keep her warm.

+1 to this. I was told the same by my Dr and LC- as long as weight isn't a concern, they can sleep as long as they want between feeds.

[jt2378]

Yes what others said muscari, I know you have been concerned about her sleeping that long but it is not a concern if there are no weight gaining issues. Enjoy it!

Also like thinkchocolate05 said, I'm curious what your hospital recommends. Here they say no blanket in sleeping areas until baby is at least a year old so that's why sleep sacks are so popular here

[yoshijo]

cali I'm so sorry. 1000% you have a right to be pissed. Please talk to him that was so not ok!

[king26]

How long do your babies sleep for at night? I feel like a little you have babies that sleep a long time.

J will.sometimes sleep 2.5 or 3 hours one time bit then the rest Of his sleep is 1.5 hours or less during the night . Then it's a minimum of 1 hour to get him back him sleep buy normally 1.5 hours. We've been swaddling him arms in which he hates but he will sleep longer that way. I know he is young and everyone says sleep gets better by 6 weeks so I'm hoping.

Also, when do they lose the startle reflex? I think that is half his problem

[thinkchocolate05]

Sept 18, 2017 5:56:01 GMT -6 king26 said:

How long do your babies sleep for at night? I feel like a little you have babies that sleep a long time.

J will.sometimes sleep 2.5 or 3 hours one time bit then the rest Of his sleep is 1.5 hours or less during the night . Then it's a minimum of 1 hour to get him back him sleep buy normally 1.5 hours. We've been swaddling him arms in which he hates but he will sleep longer that way. I know he is young and everyone says sleep gets better by 6 weeks so I'm hoping.

Also, when do they lose the startle reflex? I think that is half his problem

I could have written this king26 except H has grown to hate the swaddle and likes to sleep with his arms and legs spread out. We get a 3 hr stretch at the beginning of the night and then about 1.5 hr stretches after, except he's super restless/awake between 3-6am and it's hard to get him back down. I tend to fall asleep with him in the rocker at that point, which isn't good. I really hope we start getting some of these 5 hr stretches people have mentioned!!

[unicornsparkles]

king26 re-going out. I went to a paint class yesterday afternoon which I was originally going to take baby to but they called and said they won't allow babies so DH kept all 3 kids for the first time. We did go on a date a couple of weeks ago but it was dinner at a restaurant 5mins from our house and we were back in an hour. I am going out with a girlfriend this Thursday night for dinner but we aren't going until after bedtime so I don't feel as bad about that. It's different for everyone. I do highly suggest getting some alone time for sanity purposes 🙂

[jt2378]

king26, we have had a few 5-6 hour stretches but it is few and far between. For the last few nights it's maybe 3 hours at the most and then shorter and restless the later parts of the early morning. Sleep is so inconsistent at this age and that is why I say to anyone enjoy it while it lasts!

[cali]

Thanks everyone. I did talk to him last night and he feels really bad. Today he is trying to make up for it. He got up early and has had the baby all morning except for when I've fed her. He also cleaned the kitchen and is about to go to the grocery store (and he's taking M). I'm still pissed because my whole weekend was wasted and today he will have to go to sleep at some point because he works tonight but I do think he realizes he was an absolute ass and he is trying to do better. I just hope I pass this test tomorrow!

[cali]

thinkchocolate05, I take a supplement with fenugreek too! I wonder if that could be causing her fussiness and constant crying?? Thinking back it seems to have started shortly after I started taking it. I never thought about it. Maybe I'll try stopping for a couple days and see if she does better. It does seem to work for increasing my supply though, but totally not worth it if it's causing her to have cramps/gas.

[thinkchocolate05]

Sept 18, 2017 11:00:31 GMT -6 cali said:

thinkchocolate05, I take a supplement with fenugreek too! I wonder if that could be causing her fussiness and constant crying?? Thinking back it seems to have started shortly after I started taking it. I never thought about it. Maybe I'll try stopping for a couple days and see if she does better. It does seem to work for increasing my supply though, but totally not worth it if it's causing her to have cramps/gas.

I wasn't going to take my supplement this morning, but I went ahead and took it. I'll update if his fussiness continues. I don't know if it's something where his tummy can adjust and be okay or if taking it means persistent happiness.

[muscari]

Just realized i have only read but not yet responded to your replies on my post this morning. Sorry! Sleep now but will answer later.