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Post by muscari on Sept 12, 2017 3:15:12 GMT -6
Today is my first full day solo with D. as MH has returned to work again. I hope all will be fine but I think we will be. addymac and @starzia didnt your Ys go back to work this week as well? How did you fare yesterday? ☺
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Post by king26 on Sept 12, 2017 4:13:47 GMT -6
Just sitting here pumpimg. J ate from one side then somehow went back to bed. I'm not sure what that is about since it's been 3 hours since his last feed. He didn't eat much during the nigjt. We did have 2 stretches of 1.5 hours and one of 2.5 hours last night which was good but there was also a 2 hour refusal to sleep.peruod which really sucked and made me really tired. However, if we can keep with the longer sleep stretches I'm in.
The LC said I didn't have to pump after feeds at night but since it's 6am I'm giving it a go.
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Post by yoshijo on Sept 12, 2017 4:18:16 GMT -6
Ok I'm attempting to keep up with this randoms thread for real this time.
Alexa has a little cold. She sounds soo adorable (Obviously I feel bad too ha). She's not bothered by it, just stuffy and she slept alll day yday when she wasn't eating. I took her to the peditrician and the doctor was so sick!! She was coughing and I could barely hear her. She had a mask and gloves when she examined Alexa but took them off right after. I'm soo pissed. I really hope she doesn't get sick. I'm kicking myself for bringing her for just a cold but she's so young and I had to be cautious
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Post by elliecat17 on Sept 12, 2017 7:07:40 GMT -6
My parents are getting in tonight at midnight. My house is a disaster zone. I'm kicking myself for spending all of Sunday relaxing with H but family bonding is important too. Yesterday I got very little done because U needed lots of cuddles. She wouldn't sleep unless she was touching me. So a lot of the day was spent with her sleeping on my legs while I folded laundry, graded, etc.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 12, 2017 7:25:16 GMT -6
yoshijo, that's crazy about the sick doctor. You'd think they could have found someone else in the practice to examine a newborn!!
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 12, 2017 8:07:52 GMT -6
Wtf to a sick doctor examining an infant yoshijo? I'm sorry and hope A doesn't get worse. M has been sniffly for a week now but not all the time, it seems to be early morning. God I hope it's not allergies or something
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Post by addymac on Sept 12, 2017 8:42:51 GMT -6
Today is my first full day solo with D. as MH has returned to work again. I hope all will be fine but I think we will be. addymac and @starzia didnt your Ys go back to work this week as well? How did you fare yesterday? ☺ Actually DH is still here- this is week 2 of his vacation since he had to work the first week after he was born. I start solo next week and am terrified!! Gluck- how has your day been?? I realize your day is probably ending now, yes? Heh I went out alone yesterday for an hour and a half- I got a mani/pedi and it was so refreshing to be out and about and do something normalizing.
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Post by addymac on Sept 12, 2017 8:45:08 GMT -6
My parents are getting in tonight at midnight. My house is a disaster zone. I'm kicking myself for spending all of Sunday relaxing with H but family bonding is important too. Yesterday I got very little done because U needed lots of cuddles. She wouldn't sleep unless she was touching me. So a lot of the day was spent with her sleeping on my legs while I folded laundry, graded, etc. You have a newborn- messy houses are okay! Plus, idk about you but my house will never be clean enough or cleaned correctly enough for my mom, so she will clean it all over again whenever she visits. Not that I'm advising putting mom to work, but that could be a way for them to help, aside from baby snuggles
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Post by kristyw on Sept 12, 2017 8:46:50 GMT -6
I woke up with a headache. I hate that because it usually sticks around all day then.
I need to get DS out of the house to do something today. He's acting up so much lately, I'm sure it's lack of activity/ entertainment. Hoping I can shower quick while E naps and then feed her another time, then go.
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Post by elliecat17 on Sept 12, 2017 8:51:58 GMT -6
My parents are getting in tonight at midnight. My house is a disaster zone. I'm kicking myself for spending all of Sunday relaxing with H but family bonding is important too. Yesterday I got very little done because U needed lots of cuddles. She wouldn't sleep unless she was touching me. So a lot of the day was spent with her sleeping on my legs while I folded laundry, graded, etc. You have a newborn- messy houses are okay! Plus, idk about you but my house will never be clean enough or cleaned correctly enough for my mom, so she will clean it all over again whenever she visits. Not that I'm advising putting mom to work, but that could be a way for them to help, aside from baby snuggles Oh I know! They aren't concerned. My mom already plans on cleaning and cooking, it's just a matter of pride. Lol
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Post by cali on Sept 12, 2017 9:01:06 GMT -6
muscari and @starzia, hope your first solo days went well. MH went back to work last night (he works 3rd shift) and it went ok. It sucked have to do all the nighttime feedings myself but she gave me good 2 1/2-3 hour stretches between so it was doable. I have class this afternoon which sucks because I really want to nap, but oh well. Gotta make it till 3! MH went to sleep right when he got home this morning so he could be up with M while I'm at school. I'm about to go wake him up. I hope she's good for him and sleeps!!
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Post by addymac on Sept 12, 2017 9:18:25 GMT -6
You have a newborn- messy houses are okay! Plus, idk about you but my house will never be clean enough or cleaned correctly enough for my mom, so she will clean it all over again whenever she visits. Not that I'm advising putting mom to work, but that could be a way for them to help, aside from baby snuggles Oh I know! They aren't concerned. My mom already plans on cleaning and cooking, it's just a matter of pride. Lol Ahh pride, yes. I have none lol. I was like oh sure wash my windows (idk why my dad is obsessed with cleaning our windows lol), fold my laundry 😂, swifter and vacuum all you want! I don't currrrr. DH was embarrassed at the state of the kitchen but I was like 🤷🏻♀️ Of course I have a friend visiting today and have been cleaning all morning. So I think my pride comes and goes haha
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 12, 2017 10:23:26 GMT -6
Am I the only jackass doing all the feeding and changing MOTN? Suucckks to be me apparently lol
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Post by cali on Sept 12, 2017 10:49:04 GMT -6
Am I the only jackass doing all the feeding and changing MOTN? Suucckks to be me apparently lol When MH was off work he took one of the motn feeding and changes. Now he's back to work so I'm in your club.
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Post by yoshijo on Sept 12, 2017 11:00:40 GMT -6
Am I the only jackass doing all the feeding and changing MOTN? Suucckks to be me apparently lol I was thinking the same. LOL. Have always done it. H stayed home from work for like 2 days plus the weekend when she was born. I get a nap sometimes when he comes home and on the weekends. But I do all MOTN Eta.. it'll be fun for him to start taking a turn when I go back to work
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Post by Deleted on Sept 12, 2017 11:10:00 GMT -6
Am I the only jackass doing all the feeding and changing MOTN? Suucckks to be me apparently lol I do, but I'm breastfeeding mostly and used up all of my milk stash in the road trip. MH also has a job that he has to have a good nights sleep in order to be safe. So I went into this knowing I'd be on my own in the MOTN.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 12, 2017 11:14:41 GMT -6
Thanks ladies, I know I end up doing it mostly cuz BF and not really pumping so it's kind of my own doing.
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Post by elliecat17 on Sept 12, 2017 11:19:03 GMT -6
jt2378 I do them all not just the MOTN. H will change every once in a while, but never poops and never at night.
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Post by king26 on Sept 12, 2017 11:44:49 GMT -6
I feel like I'm the question queen but I have no clue about these things. When your LO is up how long are they up for? Is it mostly just for feeding then they go back to sleep? If not, what do you do with them when they aren't sleeping? J mostly eats, cries, and sleeps but sometimes I just sit him on my chest, pat his back, talk to him, or sing. But that's really it and I feel lame. We do try and take him for a walk everyday. Also, are most LO's in the habit of simply waking up, getting diaper changed, eating, and falling back to sleep? I feel like that's our pattern though sometimes he's up for an hour and other times he is up for an hour and a half. How long are your LO's up for when they are up? J still won't sleep for a stretch longer then 2 1/2 hours. Also, have you been taking your LO out of the house and in public? If not, when will you? My pediatrician said we can but not to take him around large crowds or groups of kids until he has his shots. We've taken him to the doctor and in the car multiple times but not actually into any stores or anything. We've also had some people come over and see him but it's only a few people at a time. My cousin's baby has her first birthday party in 2 weeks. J will be 5 weeks old but won't have shots. It's a 2 1/2 hour drive which is making me crazy anxious plus her husbands family is huge and they have a lot of kids. Driving for 20 minutes without being able to see him makes me anxious so I can't imagine driving 2 1/2 hours. I'll have to at Thanksgiving and Christmas but he'll be a little older then. I'm leaning towards not going....what would you do? DO you have a bedtime routine yet? We don't and I think maybe we need to because bedtime is rough but then I think maybe that's just his witching hour. It's from like 7pm-??? anywhere from 10 to midnight on the other end. If your family doesn't live in town, how often are they coming to visit? My parents want to come once every other week but I feel like that's a lot. How's your day going muscari, I'm already panicking at the thought of going back to work. I thought I'd be good since DH will have J all day but nope, still panicking. I hope A feels better soon yoshijo,
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 12, 2017 11:50:22 GMT -6
My dh has 9 to midnight (approximately), which is when I get a stretch of sleep and then I do midnight to 8am. But I want to breastfeed as much as possible so like others have said, kind of my own doing. It's amazing how much the 3 hr stretch at the beginning of the night helps my sanity!!
Dh thinks he's the diaper master with much better diaper technique than me, lol. And it's true, I'm too slow and baby goes everywhere before I can get the new diaper on.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 12, 2017 12:11:44 GMT -6
king26 I think your activities with your little one sound great. It's hard to do much with them when they're that little. Mine is usually up for about 30 to 45 minutes, 2 to 3 times in the day and again in the night. I hold him, sing, and walk. I also have a playmat with hanging toys and a plain playmat for him, so I'll lay him down and then get close to his face so he can see me. He has a mirror, and I got some of those cards with black and white images they are supposed to be able to see. I read to him sometimes too, and we do tummy time, but that's all. He only has a bedtime routine bc DS2 does. I nurse him on the boppy while reading and singing to DS2 with the lights off and then he usually needs to be supplemented since I'm not making enough milk. Then I hand him off to dh who puts him in the basinet. I have a similar situation. My SIL has a baby shower in two weeks. I am leaning towards not going. DS2 will be 6 weeks but it's a 4.5 hr drive and there will be a ton of kids there. I've taken him out for walks and twice to a restaurant where he stayed in his carrier with a blanket over it. All the germs at a family gathering make me nervous though.
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Post by jexxa on Sept 12, 2017 12:55:48 GMT -6
Hey ladies! DD is one month old today (whaaaat?!). Her 1 month well check is in about an hour, I'm looking forward to seeing how much weight she's gained but NOT looking forward to the shots.
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Post by jexxa on Sept 12, 2017 13:01:03 GMT -6
jt2378 for MOTN wakeups, H changes the diaper and then gives me DD to feed. I do feel somewhat bad since H has to get up pretty early for work (and get DS ready for daycare), but he's only complained once or twice. I would do it all since I'm out on mat leave right now, but once I went back to work I would expect H to help at least a little.
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Post by nutmeg on Sept 12, 2017 13:06:39 GMT -6
I still suck at keeping up. I'm back to work next Monday though so I'll have time to check in. I'm kinda looking forward to going back and having some time to myself without having to respond to every demand from a two year old dictator. That being said, the only reason I'm doing okay with going back is because I know it's only for 4 weeks, then I get to be home with my babies. Looking forward to October 20th. I'm going to meet with a daycare lady tomorrow for Molly 1 day a week, we both need it. She needs the social interaction and I need to accomplish something sometimes. jexxa, We don't start shots until 2 months. Are you sure she is getting them?
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Post by jexxa on Sept 12, 2017 13:13:08 GMT -6
king26 DD is starting to stay awake for longer stretches, but mostly it's eat, sleep, poop, repeat. When she's awake now I'll lay her on her playmat, do some tummy time, sit her on my lap and talk to her. There's not a whole lot you CAN do at this point so don't worry. We also are going for daily walks but she sleeps during them. When DD was 2 weeks old she spent 6 hours at a car dealership (ugh). Just this past weekend we went to a birthday party that had 7 other kids, but DD slept nearly the whole time in her car seat so I didn't have to worry about anyone touching her. I've been purposely waiting until her first round of shots (which are today) before I start taking her out to other places. For the car - we bought a mirror that attaches to the seat rest so we can see her when we look in the rear view mirror. We made a 3 hour drive to see family when DS was 6 weeks and he slept the entire time. No solid bedtime routine here. What we've been doing is since H likes to go to bed around 10:30, we'll wait for DD to wake up around that time (so sometimes + or - like 15ish minutes just depending) and then we'll go upstairs, change her, swaddle her, feed her, and then we all go to bed. My parents live 3 hours away but they're both retired so they're able to come pretty much whenever. They usually visit once a month.
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Post by jexxa on Sept 12, 2017 13:16:37 GMT -6
jexxa, We don't start shots until 2 months. Are you sure she is getting them? 99% sure. She had her first dose of the Hep B shot in the hospital, then the second round I though was today and the final round at 2 months.
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Post by nutmeg on Sept 12, 2017 13:18:07 GMT -6
jt2378, H is in charge of output and I'm in charge of input. We are bed sharing out of necessity since Oliver wont sleep without touching one of us, so its pretty easy to manage that way. He gets up, changed, fed and falls asleep nursing usually. Side lying nursing is a game changer and you all should give it a shot. king26, Newborns are boring and don't require much actual interaction. I think you are doing great. Way more than I am. I rely on my 2 year old to entertain the baby most of the time. He just likes to swat at the monkey rattle on his activity mat. We don't have a bedtime routine, and didn't with Molly until she was probably closer to 6 months. I take him out wherever we go, but I usually keep him in the ring sling. He's been to 2 children's museums, the zoo, and two amusement parks since breaking out of the hospital. I can't worry too much about exposing him to germs because he has a sister who gets into everything and loves to share.
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Post by nutmeg on Sept 12, 2017 13:28:27 GMT -6
jexxa, We don't start shots until 2 months. Are you sure she is getting them? 99% sure. She had her first dose of the Hep B shot in the hospital, then the second round I though was today and the final round at 2 months. I guess my office just does hep b round 2 with the first round of the rest of them. Then the final one is done at 4 months.
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Post by muscari on Sept 12, 2017 13:46:17 GMT -6
Am I the only jackass doing all the feeding and changing MOTN? Suucckks to be me apparently lol I am sorry, I shouldn't but this made me laugh out loud for real.. And no you aren't the only jackass😂 soloing everything MOTN.. I too do all MOTN stuff and have been doing the nights solo for the past 1.5 weeks and ongoing as well. MH was starting to get too sleep deprived and his back was starting to act up so I sent him to sleep upstairs one night we were both still sleeping downstairs at the time, me in the extra bed we still have set up in the livingroom from when I broke my ankle and him on the notsocomfi couch) and we kinda stuck to that. Since I BF he can't really help with feedings MOTN and it felt crazy to wake him up just for a diaper change since I would be up to BF already anyway! Tbh I had sort of expected him to step up more during the day but that doesnt always happen. Then again, it is not like he suddenly grew a pair of boobs so feedings are still up to me except unless we supplement (which we hadnt for almost a week - and only just started doing once a day again this weekend). He has gotten into the habit of tidying up and do some chores without me prompting him so there is that. Tho he now is back at work so we have to get a new routine again. I guess maybe I am just a smidge envious of the time he gets to do other stuff, for himself, while I some days hardly find the time to brush my hair or shower. And I wish he d take care of cooking dinner more often. Late afternoon is one of her longer stretches in between feedings and I wouldn't mind being able to spent some time relaxing or doing something for just myself rather then having to cook, eat, clean up and by then tis time to nurse again usually. I guess I should talk about this with MH rather then complain on here tho!
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Post by muscari on Sept 12, 2017 13:53:49 GMT -6
addymac my day is indeed coming to an end, almost 10pm now. Am feeding D and once she s back asleep I am gonne get ready for bed myself in hopes she will give me a couple of hours before her fussy hour (s) start.. tho these past nights she has fussed from 10 till 1 or 2am before settling down for the night ugh. But today has been pretty good actually..but I actually had a friend come by to help out if needed. We bathed D together which was nice - I don't dare bathing her on my own! - and spent the time in between feedings etc chatting. I ended up asking her to stay for dinner and she cuddled with D for loooong time and didnt go home till almost 9😊 Tomorrow afternoon my mum is coming over and she will bring a casserole for dinner nom. Thursday will be my first real solo day but i think I will be okay?
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