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Post by happyfeet9 on Sept 13, 2017 10:07:08 GMT -6
Am I the only jackass doing all the feeding and changing MOTN? Suucckks to be me apparently lol DH has been working for two weeks straight so I'm on double MOTN feeding and changing duty. What's the opposite of winning the lottery?
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Post by happyfeet9 on Sept 13, 2017 10:14:26 GMT -6
king26 it's fine to have lots of questions! - Depends on time of day and baby. E will usually stay up wanting to be held after feeding during the day, but D will go straight to bed. It's reversed at night. Up for about 45min - 1 hour between sleep stretches. Have not taken them out beyond short walks and doc visits. We live in NYC - too many crowds and germs. Plus double stroller is tough. I wouldn't go. Long drive plus other kids and no shots is not good in my book. No bedtime routine yet. We will prob do bath, books, and last feed. My family lives in town but I agree that's a lot for out of town visitors. Do they stay with you?
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Post by cwbh928 on Sept 13, 2017 10:14:41 GMT -6
Am I the only jackass doing all the feeding and changing MOTN? Suucckks to be me apparently lol I'm in your club too. DH does wake when I feed, asks if I need anything and usually goes back to sleep. I don't really change H in the middle of the night anymore, unless blow out or he seems unsettled.
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Post by cwbh928 on Sept 13, 2017 10:16:39 GMT -6
FTR I am pro pumping so H can do bottles.. he also does diapers when he's home My DH does same, he changes both boys diapers when he is home and does bottle feed when I need a break.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 13, 2017 10:16:55 GMT -6
Am I the only jackass doing all the feeding and changing MOTN? Suucckks to be me apparently lol DH has been working for two weeks straight so I'm on double MOTN feeding and changing duty. What's the opposite of winning the lottery? Omg that is rough. I'm sorry for complaining, that is much harder
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Post by cwbh928 on Sept 13, 2017 10:23:11 GMT -6
Hudson is awake much more, but still sleeps a ton even during the day. He stills eats good, but does fall asleep sometimes.
We don't have a true bedtime routine. My DH starts getting my DS1 ready and I get baby ready for bed. Some nights include bath, but I usually get him dressed in his Jammie's and fed around the same time each night. I don't read to him yet.
We have taken him out only outside not in any stores. We have gone apple picking and to the park. We plan on waiting until his first round of vaccinations before heading to crowded places.
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Post by unicornsparkles on Sept 13, 2017 12:07:55 GMT -6
Am I the only jackass doing all the feeding and changing MOTN? Suucckks to be me apparently lol MH has done 1 MOTN feeding and DD is 4 weeks old. That being said, as a SAHM I assumed all MOTN would be my responsibility 🤷🏼♀️ Most days I'm too tired to care I guess
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Post by happyfeet9 on Sept 13, 2017 12:12:36 GMT -6
DH has been working for two weeks straight so I'm on double MOTN feeding and changing duty. What's the opposite of winning the lottery? Omg that is rough. I'm sorry for complaining, that is much harder You are completely within your right to complain - sucks whether it's one baby or two!
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Post by unicornsparkles on Sept 13, 2017 12:14:33 GMT -6
I've taken the baby to Target, Costco, church (once) and the fair/parade but I was wearing her all of those times except church so I felt okay with it. We have gone to the gym too so the boys can play in childcare and she and I hang out in the cafe. We have gone to the park and on walks a lot to get out of the house which is fun. My toddlers would drive me insane (oh wait.....they do 😜) if we didn't get out and about.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 13, 2017 12:47:41 GMT -6
unicornsparkles, yup so much that with the toddler. We are constantly on the go because she would drive us insane otherwise 😂
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Post by king26 on Sept 13, 2017 15:05:47 GMT -6
addymac, That's frustrating. I feel like the men wait to take cues from us. When J cries at night DH always says do you want me to get him? If i say yes he walks around the bed, sits on my side, and holds him. He will go change diaper or feed him but i have to tell him to do it. happyfeet9 Do you get any sleep??? Thanks for the responses, they help! When my parents come its usually just for the day and while im not working its ok but when i go back to work them being here once every other week would be on a weekend and will take up 1 of my 4 free days every other week. I'm wondering if J isn't feeling good. Hes been grunting a lot, crying until he farts,his stomach is gurgling, hes sniffling, and has a little cough. Should I worry? Should I call doctor? I feel like a nervous nelly. I started taking a supplement to produce more milk but now i wonder if its hurting his belly? Pumping is helping. i pumped a full ounce this morning and another after 3 more pumping sessions so enough for 2 supplement bottles. Its something.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 13, 2017 15:17:27 GMT -6
king26, sorry J isn't feeling good. Does he have a fever? When M first got sniffly they told me they didn't need to see her unless she had a temp above 100.4 taken rectally or if she started coughing or sounded weird breathing. She did cough occasionally but it was from the sniffling going down her throat. She still is super stuffy in the morning but just then which is so weird
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Post by king26 on Sept 13, 2017 22:28:39 GMT -6
No fever though he feels warm. He is just miserable . He finally fell asleep after being up for 3 hours with just a few times falling asleep on me. Poor guy.
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Post by addymac on Sept 13, 2017 23:42:35 GMT -6
king26 ugh I'm so sorry your LO is sicky
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Post by muscari on Sept 14, 2017 2:42:52 GMT -6
Sorry for not answering some of your tags and your posts y'all. I think 3 weeks of sleep deprivation is starting to take is a toll. I just dont manage to get on for long enough to read and answer for some reason.
Those of you who BF and whose H does a MOTN change&feed: do you sleep through those and get a longer stretch of sleep or do you get up to pump instead of BF to nooit confuse your boobs into thinking they don't need to make as much milk? I am desperate for some more preferably uninterrupted sleep but not sure how to accomplish this.
I do know tho I have to do something.. I do not manage to nap any during the day asD usually sleeps to short for me to get back in bed myself. So I have just the 2-3h twice in between night feedings and the morning to sleep myself and my body is starting to complain to where my ticker acts up. And well i find it more difficult every time she wakes in the morning to get up myself butI dont want to accidentally doze back of and sleep through cries (I am that tired ny now).
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Post by yoshijo on Sept 14, 2017 4:02:16 GMT -6
So A slept 9-4 which is great. I got up 330 to pump but couldn't fall back to sleep bc I was anticipating her waking up. She started stirring at 4, I got her at 430. So now we're up for the day. I didn't realize I'd need to pump motn but it is what it is. I just can't fall back to sleep after so even if she STTN I won't. I also woke up at 12 and 1 debating pumping and waiting for her to wakeup. Ughh I'm so unsettled MOTN
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Post by yoshijo on Sept 14, 2017 4:56:36 GMT -6
I had to do something so I put A in her rnp. She started crying but I couldn't get to her for a few minutes. Omg she self soothed herself and fell asleep. This is the 1st time I didn't pick her up right away. I was scared she stopped crying because I thought something was wrong like she choked or had to spit up. But she fell asleep
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Post by muscari on Sept 14, 2017 5:29:14 GMT -6
Gah I wrote a response but forgot to hit sent and it poofed.. yoshijo sucks that even when A sleeps thru the night you still can't relax yourself. Did you at least get some nice sleep before you got up to pump? I think that if D was to sleep 9-4 i would pump around 11 or midnight. I always worry that if I pump to close to her waking up and a BF session there won't be much for her to drink. Tho the whole pumping thing puzzles me still. These past couple days I been pumping 2oz after her early morning feeding and she does drink well beforehand.. so where does all that milk suddenly come from? During the day there are less hours in between feedings and I do pump after some of them but don't get as much then.
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Post by muscari on Sept 14, 2017 5:30:01 GMT -6
I had to do something so I put A in her rnp. She started crying but I couldn't get to her for a few minutes. Omg she self soothed herself and fell asleep. This is the 1st time I didn't pick her up right away. I was scared she stopped crying because I thought something was wrong like she choked or had to spit up. But she fell asleep That is awesome she soothed herself and fell asleep! 😍
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Post by yoshijo on Sept 14, 2017 6:48:44 GMT -6
muscari for whatever reason the body produces the most milk overnight or early morning. Weird but I'll get almost double. I use what I pump motn for her wake up feeding in a bottle so I don't need to time it. To your question- my lactation specialist in the hospital said it was fine to go 5 hrs overnight between pumping... I don't know if that includes BFing but I'll go 9pm-3am (last night was 830pm-330am whoops) without pumping or Bfing because I want to sleep. A doesnt nap well enough during the day for me to nap either. So I need to make up for it to get sleep at night. I'll also say that I pump 16-20oz a day (sometimes only 14) so I do need to supplement with formula since she eats 4oz at a time. I BF in between feedings if she seems hungry or fussy and occasionally will BF instead of bottle for a feeding king26 sorry he's sick. I took A to the ped with sniffles but it wasn't necessary. But do whatever will make you comfortable
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Post by muscari on Sept 14, 2017 14:37:50 GMT -6
yoshijo do you mostly pump then bottle feed A pumped milk (and the occasional formula)? I have been wondering whether I should try that for a while as then you at least know how much she gets a feeding. And out would be nice for MH to be able to do more feedings and it is less time consuming which would be nice on occasion (though i do very much enjoy nursing her😊). But wasn't sure whether a) that would/ could hurt supply amd b) woild make it to where she wouldn't want to nurse or latch properly no more. I feel so insecure about so much.. I was surprised by the amount of milk a feeding but then remembered A is 2mo and D is just 3wks so 😊 Today I only managed to pump 3 times as D wanted to be on the boob a lot (I will pump once more around midnight) but did get 7oz which for me is awesome and is making me feel a little less bad (the past days were hard and i doubted BFing so much).
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Post by bsouls on Sept 14, 2017 15:28:35 GMT -6
I just wanted to say I read. I just feel overwhelmed and stressed. I'm not sure I'm dealing well with having a newborn and a 3.5 year old.
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Post by muscari on Sept 14, 2017 15:43:45 GMT -6
I just wanted to say I read. I just feel overwhelmed and stressed. I'm not sure I'm dealing well with having a newborn and a 3.5 year old. HUGS! 💛💛 I am sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed and stressed. This newborn thing is hard! And to juggle a toddler at the same time.. oof. You do the best you can! Dont worry about posting or participating, we will be here still when things feel less overwhelming! And please know: Feel free to vent or reach out to us whenever you need to! Hang in there!
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 14, 2017 15:53:31 GMT -6
Hugs bsouls. I forgot how hard the newborn stage can be with the sleep deprivation, and now the guilt of spending less time with the older one. I hope things get easier soon for you.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 14, 2017 15:55:13 GMT -6
muscari 7oz is great esp with breastfeeding at the same time!! Good job.
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Post by muscari on Sept 14, 2017 16:17:01 GMT -6
muscari 7oz is great esp with breastfeeding at the same time!! Good job. 😀😁🤗
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Post by yoshijo on Sept 14, 2017 16:29:02 GMT -6
muscari yes I mostly bottle feed her pumped milk. H can help and I know when she needs to eat or is done for the night bc I can count the oz. Like you said you can see how much she eats. I like the bonding of nursing so I do that after bottles if she wants more or randomly throughout the day. My supply was lower until recently. I think the occasional BFing helped. I didn't BF at all for the 1st 3 or 4 weeks except for once in the hospital and she didn't have any issues latching after being bottle fed. So you can pump, BF, and do formula. You don't have to choose
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Post by cwbh928 on Sept 14, 2017 16:51:20 GMT -6
I just wanted to say I read. I just feel overwhelmed and stressed. I'm not sure I'm dealing well with having a newborn and a 3.5 year old. Sending hugs. I completely understand where you are coming from. There at some days I feel like I have control and other days I just want to hide. I just keep telling myself thing will get easier each week, each month.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 14, 2017 17:12:01 GMT -6
bsouls, like others said, you are not alone. I'm also struggling trying to juggle this and some days just feel like crying especially since M is starting to seem like a fussy baby. Hugs to you
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Post by king26 on Sept 14, 2017 17:12:17 GMT -6
I just wanted to say I read. I just feel overwhelmed and stressed. I'm not sure I'm dealing well with having a newborn and a 3.5 year old. Hugs. I can't even imagine having a newborn and another child.
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