It’s the Weekend

[klong11]

Jun 29, 2020 8:47:18 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Jun 29, 2020 8:42:22 GMT -6 klong11 said:

I think we will be on a 2 day a week schedule. Or at least that was the last they said. They sent out a survey to see how many parents are wanting to send their kids back, or do only distance learning. Once they calculate the results of those I guess they will determine what the schedule will actually look like. It def. won't be an every day a week type of school year. There will be quite a bit of distance learning in there no matter what option we choose.

I just feel like Cadence will not thrive on all distance learning. She needs some form of classroom time. Whatever we can get.

We had a similar survey and our superintendent said they'd be making an announcement July 15.  I'm keeping my fingers crossed for at least 2 days a week, but I'm not going to get my hopes up.  

Yeah, I added to my previous post. It really is all up in the air until the final decision is made.

[jewels]

Yeah I just had this conversation with MH. I feel like every area of the country is different, and every family's needs are different.

B is supposed to start DC on Wednesday. I am thinking of pulling him out. I went for a meet and greet today and the teachers were lovely, the class was clean, etc. They have detailed rules in place. But it is still a class full of messy, wet preschoolers. While I am all for sending kids if that is what is best for each family, I don't know if we should be sending B. I am NOT busy at work at all. but I think he would really benefit from being in an organized, school environment with other kids.

I am stressed

[lahdeedah]

Jun 29, 2020 9:15:56 GMT -6 jewels said:

Yeah I just had this conversation with MH. I feel like every area of the country is different, and every family's needs are different.

B is supposed to start DC on Wednesday. I am thinking of pulling him out. I went for a meet and greet today and the teachers were lovely, the class was clean, etc. They have detailed rules in place. But it is still a class full of messy, wet preschoolers. While I am all for sending kids if that is what is best for each family, I don't know if we should be sending B. I am NOT busy at work at all. but I think he would really benefit from being in an organized, school environment with other kids.

I am stressed

I get this. M2 never stopped daycare, but yet as July gets closer, I’m getting nervous to send M to camp. He’s been home for 4 months and sending him back into the world without us is stressful. It seems as though Mh won’t be starting back work like he thought he was, so we could keep him home, but I also think the socialization and getting back into a routine could be good for him. It may be better to ease him back into it here than when school starts- if school even starts on a regular schedule. We still have no word on what exactly will happen for school yet. First day is supposed to be August 6th.

[klong11]

We clearly need an N13 island!!! Then our kids could have each other to socialize with.

[wedding]

Can you send him part time jewels lahdeedah? That would have been my preference if mine and dh’s jobs weren’t so demanding. It’s a good mix of socialization and safety.

Do they have stable groups the kids are in? C is with essentially the same ten kids every day with a few kids part time that switch out. Each group is in separate spaces inside and out and everything is sanitized between groups, like the playground and cabanas for changing at the pool. Having those stable groups definitely made me feel better since his exposure would be limited to those ten kids and two staff members vs the usual 50+ group he would be in.

[lahdeedah]

flamingo I was also on your thought process earlier this month. Just wanting to find a new normal with being as safe as possible. Going about life a little more like before, just with masks and social distancing. I did so, but still kept the kids mostly at home and just outdoor activities.

I realize that I really don’t need to be in restaurants because takeout will do. I’m okay with being in stores as long as they aren’t packed and I can safely social distance while our numbers are “okay”.

I am not anywhere comfortable with any larger gatherings. Any more than 8-10 people and I am just stressed. Mother’s Day weekend with just my parents and brother’s family had me anxious. It’s hard to remember to social distance when it’s people you are used to being around like family.

[lahdeedah]

Jun 29, 2020 9:51:32 GMT -6 wedding said:

Can you send him part time jewels lahdeedah? That would have been my preference if mine and dh’s jobs weren’t so demanding. It’s a good mix of socialization and safety.

Do they have stable groups the kids are in? C is with essentially the same ten kids every day with a few kids part time that switch out. Each group is in separate spaces inside and out and everything is sanitized between groups, like the playground and cabanas for changing at the pool. Having those stable groups definitely made me feel better since his exposure would be limited to those ten kids and two staff members vs the usual 50+ group he would be in.

The camp M may go to has a max of 20 kids total. We could definitely send him and pick him up early if we need to. I may send him and see how he likes it and if he does, keep him going, if he’s not feeling it, then we may back out the last two weeks. We only signed him up for three weeks, then he has one week off before school begins.

[jewels]

Jun 29, 2020 9:51:32 GMT -6 wedding said:

Can you send him part time jewels lahdeedah ? That would have been my preference if mine and dh’s jobs weren’t so demanding. It’s a good mix of socialization and safety.

Do they have stable groups the kids are in? C is with essentially the same ten kids every day with a few kids part time that switch out. Each group is in separate spaces inside and out and everything is sanitized between groups, like the playground and cabanas for changing at the pool. Having those stable groups definitely made me feel better since his exposure would be limited to those ten kids and two staff members vs the usual 50+ group he would be in.

I can't send him part time officially, however, I can always keep him home certain days.  Bs group will be 10 kids with 2 main teachers and 1 PT teacher.  Honestly, though, I feel like the risk is just in sending him.  If it's 1 day or 5, it's the same exposure in my opinion. 

Also, they are not allowing them to go swimming b/c it's an indoor pool.  Which kinda sucks but oh well.  

Honestly, MH is busy all day every day, but that's just him regardless of what's going on, and I am not busy at all.  But hopefully one day soon I will be. 

[wedding]

Jun 29, 2020 10:21:25 GMT -6 jewels said:

Jun 29, 2020 9:51:32 GMT -6 wedding said:

Can you send him part time jewels lahdeedah ? That would have been my preference if mine and dh’s jobs weren’t so demanding. It’s a good mix of socialization and safety.

Do they have stable groups the kids are in? C is with essentially the same ten kids every day with a few kids part time that switch out. Each group is in separate spaces inside and out and everything is sanitized between groups, like the playground and cabanas for changing at the pool. Having those stable groups definitely made me feel better since his exposure would be limited to those ten kids and two staff members vs the usual 50+ group he would be in.

I can't send him part time officially, however, I can always keep him home certain days.  Bs group will be 10 kids with 2 main teachers and 1 PT teacher.  Honestly, though, I feel like the risk is just in sending him.  If it's 1 day or 5, it's the same exposure in my opinion. 

Also, they are not allowing them to go swimming b/c it's an indoor pool.  Which kinda sucks but oh well.  

Honestly, MH is busy all day every day, but that's just him regardless of what's going on, and I am not busy at all.  But hopefully one day soon I will be. 

If ours didn't have an outdoor pool I would have a harder time sending him because that is a big part of their fun.

[lahdeedah]

Jun 29, 2020 11:08:38 GMT -6 wedding said:

Jun 29, 2020 10:21:25 GMT -6 jewels said:

I can't send him part time officially, however, I can always keep him home certain days.  Bs group will be 10 kids with 2 main teachers and 1 PT teacher.  Honestly, though, I feel like the risk is just in sending him.  If it's 1 day or 5, it's the same exposure in my opinion. 

Also, they are not allowing them to go swimming b/c it's an indoor pool.  Which kinda sucks but oh well.  

Honestly, MH is busy all day every day, but that's just him regardless of what's going on, and I am not busy at all.  But hopefully one day soon I will be. 

If ours didn't have an outdoor pool I would have a harder time sending him because that is a big part of their fun.

Ours have an indoor pool and they still swim I think. They don’t do it until end of the day, so we can always pick him up before they swim. He did do swim lessons this month, but I need to see who all has access to the pool and decide if we want him to do that or not.

[tallb]

I will add that I am open to doing more low risk activities but mh is not, so that is also very frustrating within my own house. Our state is opening up and as long as people are taking precautions, I'm okay with that. I'm mostly jealous and probably need to take some time off social media, since mh has zero risk appetite (I once taught a risk management program a lifetime ago, ha). I do judge people that aren't taking precautions though or blatantly ignoring guidance, which I hope isn't anyone on here🤞

[vino]

jewels I understand the stress and not wanting to send them. To me, the transitions of going and then if they or anyone gets sick then it’s just another transition to being back at home. I *think* I am also a bit skewed because I am doing this solo and literally no one can take over for me, I’m not sure if my feelings will stay the same, be better or worse when MH gets back.

I’ve made a point to really been taking time to explore and do things that we’ve never done before; biking and hiking trails around the city, I put their name on a ziploc bag and they pick up neat nature things, I find a bridge/path we’ve never done before, find a pond and take a surprise picnic, have a couple lego sets as surprise gifts, they both will continue to do school work through the summer, I’ve been baking a ton with them, finding new recipes to cook etc, take out their forts and tents(normally inside toys) to the yard to play with and build. I’ve been reading that although they may miss the social interaction they wont remember it as the time frame, if at all, that we do. Don’t get me wrong there are days that I want to run away and times I’m frustrated with doing all that I’m doing but those days are getting fewer and far between.

It’s definitely hard and I‘m here to chat if you want.

[tallb]

Jun 29, 2020 14:35:47 GMT -6 vino said:

jewels I understand the stress and not wanting to send them. To me, the transitions of going and then if they or anyone gets sick then it’s just another transition to being back at home. I *think* I am also a bit skewed because I am doing this solo and literally no one can take over for me, I’m not sure if my feelings will stay the same, be better or worse when MH gets back.

I’ve made a point to really been taking time to explore and do things that we’ve never done before; biking and hiking trails around the city, I put their name on a ziploc bag and they pick up neat nature things, I find a bridge/path we’ve never done before, find a pond and take a surprise picnic, have a couple lego sets as surprise gifts, they both will continue to do school work through the summer, I’ve been baking a ton with them, finding new recipes to cook etc, take out their forts and tents(normally inside toys) to the yard to play with and build. I’ve been reading that although they may miss the social interaction they wont remember it as the time frame, if at all, that we do. Don’t get me wrong there are days that I want to run away and times I’m frustrated with doing all that I’m doing but those days are getting fewer and far between.

It’s definitely hard and I‘m here to chat if you want.

I'm so impressed by you handling this so well, total rockstar 👏 💪

[nam2013]

vino that all sounds amazing!!! Can I come and join in?

[jewels]

Jun 29, 2020 14:35:47 GMT -6 vino said:

jewels I understand the stress and not wanting to send them. To me, the transitions of going and then if they or anyone gets sick then it’s just another transition to being back at home. I *think* I am also a bit skewed because I am doing this solo and literally no one can take over for me, I’m not sure if my feelings will stay the same, be better or worse when MH gets back.

I’ve made a point to really been taking time to explore and do things that we’ve never done before; biking and hiking trails around the city, I put their name on a ziploc bag and they pick up neat nature things, I find a bridge/path we’ve never done before, find a pond and take a surprise picnic, have a couple lego sets as surprise gifts, they both will continue to do school work through the summer, I’ve been baking a ton with them, finding new recipes to cook etc, take out their forts and tents(normally inside toys) to the yard to play with and build. I’ve been reading that although they may miss the social interaction they wont remember it as the time frame, if at all, that we do. Don’t get me wrong there are days that I want to run away and times I’m frustrated with doing all that I’m doing but those days are getting fewer and far between.

It’s definitely hard and I‘m here to chat if you want.

You are definitely my idol.  Your kids are so lucky to have you.  I feel like I play or do something fun for like 20 minutes and then I'm like "hey, what's on the tv?"  I just don't have the energy/desire to be "engaged" all day.  

Anyway, I decided to send him.  He came home from the meet and greet and went and grabbed his old lunch box and said he was going to school.  I figured that was my sign.  Plus, I have a feeling things are going to get really bad in the fall.  I am on the other side of your opinion, where I'd rather him be able to get some socialization/organization if he is going to be pulled and home again.  I don't know.  There is no right answer.

[vino]

Thanks for all the praise but I promise you that it’s not all fun and games, the kids have done more chores than they ever have and we’ve had a lot of discussions about having boundaries and communicating when someone needs alone time. Also, I have driveway drinks with a few different sets of neighbours 3-4 times a week after the kids go to bed which is not good for my waistline but so healthy for me to have adult conversations.

[tallb]

Jun 29, 2020 15:19:40 GMT -6 vino said:

Thanks for all the praise but I promise you that it’s not all fun and games, the kids have done more chores than they ever have and we’ve had a lot of discussions about having boundaries and communicating when someone needs alone time. Also, I have driveway drinks with a few different sets of neighbours 3-4 times a week after the kids go to bed which is not good for my waistline but so healthy for me to have adult conversations.

I'm glad you have some neighbor friends! We have a few we see on walks and it definitely helps to chit chat with real live people. One night we literally saw every family we knew out and we were exhausted from all the socializing by the time we got home, definitely out of practice making small talk.

[peachsmama]

Jun 29, 2020 16:44:28 GMT -6 tallb said:

Jun 29, 2020 15:19:40 GMT -6 vino said:

Thanks for all the praise but I promise you that it’s not all fun and games, the kids have done more chores than they ever have and we’ve had a lot of discussions about having boundaries and communicating when someone needs alone time. Also, I have driveway drinks with a few different sets of neighbours 3-4 times a week after the kids go to bed which is not good for my waistline but so healthy for me to have adult conversations.

I'm glad you have some neighbor friends! We have a few we see on walks and it definitely helps to chit chat with real live people. One night we literally saw every family we knew out and we were exhausted from all the socializing by the time we got home, definitely out of practice making small talk.

When my friends came over last week I was mentally exhausted by the time they left. Hard to jump back in after so long.

[jewels]

Jun 29, 2020 15:19:40 GMT -6 vino said:

Thanks for all the praise but I promise you that it’s not all fun and games, the kids have done more chores than they ever have and we’ve had a lot of discussions about having boundaries and communicating when someone needs alone time. Also, I have driveway drinks with a few different sets of neighbours 3-4 times a week after the kids go to bed which is not good for my waistline but so healthy for me to have adult conversations.

Adult time is so necessary. Waistline be dammed (at least that’s what I keep telling myself!)

[guster]

Yay for great neighbors, vino!

[vino]

Jun 29, 2020 16:44:28 GMT -6 tallb said:

Jun 29, 2020 15:19:40 GMT -6 vino said:

Thanks for all the praise but I promise you that it’s not all fun and games, the kids have done more chores than they ever have and we’ve had a lot of discussions about having boundaries and communicating when someone needs alone time. Also, I have driveway drinks with a few different sets of neighbours 3-4 times a week after the kids go to bed which is not good for my waistline but so healthy for me to have adult conversations.

I'm glad you have some neighbor friends! We have a few we see on walks and it definitely helps to chit chat with real live people. One night we literally saw every family we knew out and we were exhausted from all the socializing by the time we got home, definitely out of practice making small talk.

My neighbours have been incredible. I am wracking my brain to ensure that each of them get something from me to know how much of a difference they’ve made.

From randomly helping me shovel and mow, checking in whenever they’re at a store, dropping off groceries accompanied with gorgeous flowers, a random six pack of my favourite beer, offering to take a kid when they walk their dogs, I could go on and on

[lahdeedah]

Glad you are finding little things to do with the kids vino. I’m sure it’s made an impression on them. Like jewels, I find it hard to be engaged for longer periods of time. I do dislike that about myself in regards to the kids. I need to make more of an effort.

Glad you have a great group of neighbors that have rallied and helped out.

[jewels]

Jun 29, 2020 17:54:08 GMT -6 vino said:

Jun 29, 2020 16:44:28 GMT -6 tallb said:

I'm glad you have some neighbor friends! We have a few we see on walks and it definitely helps to chit chat with real live people. One night we literally saw every family we knew out and we were exhausted from all the socializing by the time we got home, definitely out of practice making small talk.

My neighbours have been incredible. I am wracking my brain to ensure that each of them get something from me to know how much of a difference they’ve made.

From randomly helping me shovel and mow, checking in whenever they’re at a store, dropping off groceries accompanied with gorgeous flowers, a random six pack of my favourite beer, offering to take a kid when they walk their dogs, I could go on and on

After MH was gone an extended period of time last year and Ben was sick so much, I really wanted to thank 2 families that helped me out a ton. Once he got home we picked a date and took everyone out for a big night out - got car services, dinner, drinks, Hatcher throwing etc. i know a big night out isn’t possible now but maybe something similar!?