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Post by DGM on Apr 25, 2020 18:21:58 GMT -6
Thanks guys. My dad is staying overnight again so they can monitor his new blood thinner.
MH has gallstones and will have surgery tonight or tomorrow. I rationally know he'll be fine and didn't have problems with general anesthesia when he had an appendectomy. However, my mind is spiraling after a convo at my last MOPS meeting about living life after a spouse dies. Ugh. Ugh. Ugh.
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Post by tj on Apr 26, 2020 9:28:14 GMT -6
Good was gracious DGM. What a rough time. Sending t&p to you and your family. Hang in there.
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Post by grumpycakes on Apr 26, 2020 10:01:50 GMT -6
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Post by milano on Apr 26, 2020 10:29:13 GMT -6
DGM that's a lot all at once, I'm sorry. You'll be in my thoughts.
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Post by stringy on Apr 26, 2020 10:34:12 GMT -6
Hugs DGM, totally stressful - hope he's in and out quick
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Post by mapleme on Apr 26, 2020 11:22:07 GMT -6
Oh damn DGM. How is everyone doing now?
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Post by DGM on Apr 26, 2020 12:36:15 GMT -6
Thanks everyone. MH is just waiting on a MRI reading to see if he can skip surgery! The flareup definitely happened bc I made greasy Mexican food on Friday, and the diet changes Dr. Google recommends to avoid gallstones are pretty easy to do thankfully.
My dad is still a grumpy old man in the hospital but no issues overnight that we were made aware of so that's a good sign.
ETA the kids and I just got back from a 2 hour walk (with lots of stops to look at bugs LOL) so I'm mentally feeling refreshed.
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Post by mapleme on Apr 26, 2020 12:44:25 GMT -6
That is great to hear DGM!
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Post by DGM on Apr 26, 2020 13:43:37 GMT -6
MH is having the surgery. Womp womp.
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Post by charlotte on Apr 26, 2020 13:48:41 GMT -6
MH is having the surgery. Womp womp. Ill keep him in my thoughts!
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Post by ovenrack on Apr 26, 2020 14:44:07 GMT -6
Thinking of you, DGM!
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Post by tj on Apr 26, 2020 14:58:54 GMT -6
I’m son sorry to hear that DGM. I know this is terrible timing. However. Everyone I know who has had gallbladder surgery has felt a million times better after and only regret not doing it sooner. So I hope that is how it works out for yh and that you manage to keep sane while he is gone. Hugs!
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Post by nikkipal on Apr 26, 2020 16:37:56 GMT -6
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Post by DGM on Apr 26, 2020 19:28:40 GMT -6
I’m son sorry to hear that DGM. I know this is terrible timing. However. Everyone I know who has had gallbladder surgery has felt a million times better after and only regret not doing it sooner. So I hope that is how it works out for yh and that you manage to keep sane while he is gone. Hugs! Thanks sweet tj! His surgery went textbook well! My dad's home now too so hopefully any other posts in here will be my own personal issues LOL.
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Post by charlotte on Apr 26, 2020 19:52:37 GMT -6
Yay DGM ! Glad it went well and I hope YH is home soon.
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Post by rugger on Apr 27, 2020 19:59:34 GMT -6
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Post by tj on Apr 27, 2020 20:06:55 GMT -6
I am feeling better. Not good. But finally starting to feel better. My throat is still really raw. Which is insane. And I still can’t work out or anything bc I can’t breathe if I try to. But I am able to function like a human. A very lazy human. But a human. Inhaler usage down to every 6 hours instead of 4. Thank you for thinking of me. So sweet!
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Post by Dramaphile on Apr 28, 2020 7:06:42 GMT -6
DGM glad to hear YH's surgery went well and your dad is home!
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Post by mc13 on Apr 29, 2020 8:19:45 GMT -6
They let go 2 people on T’s team at work. I can feel my anxiety bubbling up in my chest. He’s pretty confident he’s safe for a while longer but ugh, not a good feeling.
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Post by nikkipal on Apr 29, 2020 8:25:18 GMT -6
Work has been really hard lately. I’m currently WFH, but I work at a hospital. I’ve been talking with family members of patients, and they are so stressed and worried, and the fact that they can’t be there with their family member is so hard. People frequently break down in tears while we’re on the phone. I’m trying to do what I can to protect my own mental health, but it’s hard.
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Post by milano on Apr 30, 2020 9:52:37 GMT -6
I have been home with my children for just under 8 weeks now. We are all losing it and I cannot handle this for much longer. The kids haven't left the house or car in that entire time and I've only been doing curbside pickups less than once a week. This isn't sustainable. I've been following all the rules but I'm almost at my breaking point. J is becoming an emotional trainwreck. M is crazy and into everything. I want to go scream into a pillow in a closet somewhere.
ETA and the week before the 8 weeks started were on vacation. Which was fun of course but the kids were there so it was exhausting. So it's been 9 weeks "together".
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Post by stringy on Apr 30, 2020 11:45:31 GMT -6
I totally hear you milano,. We went to drop off a bday present to Ms friend yesterday and somehow ended up with the kids running around their yard for 20 mins, not at distance. They were so happy and we had an actual conversation (at distance) w/her parents without being interrupted. It felt so safe and easy (despite the fact that it may or may not have been) and how do we not at least have driveway gatherings this summer? I spiraled into a dark place last night after we had to drag the kids away (even M, who was skeptical on the way over).
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Post by Speedy on Apr 30, 2020 11:48:39 GMT -6
Poor F. It's a beautiful day out so we went for a little walk, just around the complex. There was kids out playing and he so badly wanted to go and greet them and I had to pull him away. He's such a social little guy.
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Post by milano on Apr 30, 2020 12:01:00 GMT -6
I totally hear you milano,. We went to drop off a bday present to Ms friend yesterday and somehow ended up with the kids running around their yard for 20 mins, not at distance. They were so happy and we had an actual conversation (at distance) w/her parents without being interrupted. It felt so safe and easy (despite the fact that it may or may not have been) and how do we not at least have driveway gatherings this summer? I spiraled into a dark place last night after we had to drag the kids away (even M, who was skeptical on the way over). I think we can have very small group gatherings this summer. Like a couple families at a time. Social distancing doesn't mean stay at home/see no one. I think social distancing is going to be necessary for quite awhile but we cant keep up with the zero socialization that long. We just can't. At the end of the day I think we all have to follow our state's recommended guidelines and the next several months people are going go have to make decisions as to what they are and arent comfortable with. Our stay at home order is set to lift sometime early to mid-May and I have every intention of heading to my parents house as soon as we are allowed.
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Post by milano on Apr 30, 2020 12:04:52 GMT -6
Also I'm meeting 3 girlfriends to drive to a cabin on a lake at the end of May. I'm sure some people will think it's irresponsible but we have put a lot of thought into it and feel comfortable proceeding. And we will literally stay at the cabin the whole time.
There is going to be judgement for months and months on who is not following the rules/being too strict/not strict enough/etc. But everyone's situation is different and they know the risks so I'm going to try not to judge as best I can. Unless you're an asshole refusing to wear a mask because "my body my choice". Then I'll judge the shit out of you.
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Post by charlotte on Apr 30, 2020 12:11:36 GMT -6
I, too, am losing my sanity.
I’ve got a lot of commitments for the summer & I’m trying to figure out how to best handle everything. I’m not going to be able to work if we don’t have childcare, and I need to work. But a childcare center (which is what we would usually use) seems like too much exposure*. I’m thinking of getting a nanny/sitter to come to the house June-Aug and then re-evaluate.
* not judging anyone who still needs/chooses to use a childcare center during this time. I’m trying to be extra-cautious because of my own risk-factors.
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Post by stringy on Apr 30, 2020 13:16:33 GMT -6
I, too, am losing my sanity. I’ve got a lot of commitments for the summer & I’m trying to figure out how to best handle everything. I’m not going to be able to work if we don’t have childcare, and I need to work. But a childcare center (which is what we would usually use) seems like too much exposure*. I’m thinking of getting a nanny/sitter to come to the house June-Aug and then re-evaluate. * not judging anyone who still needs/chooses to use a childcare center during this time. I’m trying to be extra-cautious because of my own risk-factors. Do you even have a child care center as an option? They are all closed here unless you are medical staff, I think
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Post by charlotte on Apr 30, 2020 13:30:15 GMT -6
I, too, am losing my sanity. I’ve got a lot of commitments for the summer & I’m trying to figure out how to best handle everything. I’m not going to be able to work if we don’t have childcare, and I need to work. But a childcare center (which is what we would usually use) seems like too much exposure*. I’m thinking of getting a nanny/sitter to come to the house June-Aug and then re-evaluate. * not judging anyone who still needs/chooses to use a childcare center during this time. I’m trying to be extra-cautious because of my own risk-factors. Do you even have a child care center as an option? They are all closed here unless you are medical staff, I think We pulled the kids out back in March when this all ramped up, but our old facility is open still. Not sure what the situation will be in June.
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Post by ovenrack on Apr 30, 2020 14:17:57 GMT -6
I totally hear you milano ,. We went to drop off a bday present to Ms friend yesterday and somehow ended up with the kids running around their yard for 20 mins, not at distance. They were so happy and we had an actual conversation (at distance) w/her parents without being interrupted. It felt so safe and easy (despite the fact that it may or may not have been) and how do we not at least have driveway gatherings this summer? I spiraled into a dark place last night after we had to drag the kids away (even M, who was skeptical on the way over). I think we can have very small group gatherings this summer. Like a couple families at a time. Social distancing doesn't mean stay at home/see no one. I think social distancing is going to be necessary for quite awhile but we cant keep up with the zero socialization that long. We just can't. At the end of the day I think we all have to follow our state's recommended guidelines and the next several months people are going go have to make decisions as to what they are and arent comfortable with. Our stay at home order is set to lift sometime early to mid-May and I have every intention of heading to my parents house as soon as we are allowed. I'm all for following guidelines as long as they're reasonable. I don't know. I don't think families should be meeting up until someone with public health expertise says it's a good idea. I listened to a podcast where the hosts said, "social distance yourself! I mean, our families have formed 'social pods' with others... we hang out but are exclusive with those families! So, you know, we're not doing it... but... you should!" It was very disheartening. Social pods for essential workers or custody agreements or extreme mental health situations or other specific cases are important. They're the ones who should be doing that. The rest of us, the ones who are getting super tired of our families and miss people very much? No. Not yet.
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Post by charlotte on Apr 30, 2020 14:25:12 GMT -6
mc13 I meant to respond earlier... I’m sorry for that stress. I hope his job will remain safe.
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