inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on Jan 4, 2019 18:24:30 GMT -6
Madison's second word was "boo" (as in "boob"). She was an obsessed nurser back in the day.
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Post by peachsmama on Jan 4, 2019 18:43:45 GMT -6
kim22 I love breastfeeding, but holy shit if C isn’t pushing my limits. Anytime she is on me/near me she is trying to pull down my shirt for a snack. Like, as I type this she’s doing it. All day and all night. She is 11 months and I wish everyday she would decide she wants a pacifier. Thankfully I have a pretty big pumped supply so dh can give her bottles and I can have a break. This was Jackson. M took a paci so it wasnt as bad. Jack didnt take one after the 2nd week or so. I'm hoping since it's been so long between j and the new one I'll be able to without issue. But i just hate the constant touching.
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kim22
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Post by kim22 on Jan 4, 2019 19:20:11 GMT -6
C has no desire to nurse during the day at all. He takes sips from cups of milk but mostly tries to make them spill. Then comes night where he wants to nurse all the time. I cut out nursing before nap about 2 weeks ago. He goes to bed between 7-8 and sleeps about 3 hours but then is up every 20-30 minutes the rest of the night. He will nurse back to sleep within a few minutes and I’m not even sure he gets any milk anymore so it’s just a habit that needs to be broken. I have 0 oz pumped, I pumped as needed and I was rarely away from him so it wasn’t needed often. While I could give bottles of milk at night, I’d rather not trade one bad habit for another. I’m choosing to try while DH is away because I have a better tolerance for screaming than he does. I did the same with T and it went well.
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Sunny41
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Post by Sunny41 on Jan 4, 2019 20:08:17 GMT -6
There were a lot of regs who I started off liking and was NOT sad to see disappear. There are a few I was genuinely sad to see go. Wasn't kfran being doxxed or something weird like that? She was one I was so sad to see go, but I understood. That was a crazy moment. I remember a single post then poof. She was so active that I thought she might find her way back but I didn't know all the details.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jan 4, 2019 21:16:49 GMT -6
This is definitely more UO but it is baffling to me when people are like, “I struggle with infertility and I would do anything for a baby” in response to people considering termination. I’ve not had a loss so I can’t imagine how painful it is to experience that and see others who don’t want a baby, but to project that onto someone else’s situation is bizarre. Also, if anyone needs an abortion and has only judgmental jerks in their life LMK and I will spend all my money to get on a plane and come hold your hand. I think we’re mostly past that at this point in our lives, but JIC. I think it’s more that people who are going through infertility (as someone who went through it for a time I feel I can say this) project on to other people. They get so upset and angry with their own situation that they can be irrational sometimes.
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chrisy01
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Post by chrisy01 on Jan 4, 2019 22:06:34 GMT -6
kim22 E is like that too. It takes a couple hours to get her to sleep because she wants the boob to go with her to bed.
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Post by kim22 on Jan 4, 2019 22:12:48 GMT -6
kim22 E is like that too. It takes a couple hours to get her to sleep because she wants the boob to go with her to bed. I don’t get it because from birth to 6 months he got up twice a night and that was it. Maybe there is a company out there that can make an impression of my boobs and turn them into pacifiers for him.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Jan 4, 2019 22:27:51 GMT -6
kim22 E is like that too. It takes a couple hours to get her to sleep because she wants the boob to go with her to bed. I don’t get it because from birth to 6 months he got up twice a night and that was it. Maybe there is a company out there that can make an impression of my boobs and turn them into pacifiers for him. Have literally thought about this....
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Post by wineallthetime on Jan 5, 2019 6:52:35 GMT -6
I know I'll likely be able to breast feed since it was easy the last 2 times but secretly hoping I cant.. because $$ I would if I can but I really really dont want to. Formula is worth the money for me for sure. ETA: even though I complained about the cost of preemie formula lol
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Post by nam2013 on Jan 5, 2019 8:04:40 GMT -6
Bf came easy for me. I loved it with ds, such a quiet moment. With dd it took time, her reflux caused her to scream her little head off during and after each feed. After we started medication it took time to enjoy it again. I’m hoping if we ever get a third, it’ll be more like ds.
FYI Dd has been weaned since May. Her hand in my bra is still something she does 10.000 per day... Ds will still do it if he’s really tired or sick, I guess it’s a comfort thing.
ETA and I realise this is not what this thread entails... sorry!
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Post by nam2013 on Jan 5, 2019 8:06:46 GMT -6
@xolastunicorn that must be annoying for sure, but it does look adorable!
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Post by dapostrophe on Jan 5, 2019 10:40:32 GMT -6
My memory of the bump just jumbles together, but I do remember the super cool mean girl crowd and eye-rolling a lot. I also remember making those badges for what gender we we're having and that was kind of fun. I do remember lots of people having a good sense of humor and that's what I enjoyed. The siggy challenges were kind of funny and all the GTKYs were great.
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cagoldi
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Post by cagoldi on Jan 5, 2019 15:09:58 GMT -6
I know I'll likely be able to breast feed since it was easy the last 2 times but secretly hoping I cant.. because $$ I would if I can but I really really dont want to. Formula is worth the money for me for sure. ETA: even though I complained about the cost of preemie formula lol Totally agree with this. The formula P uses now costs me $80/month. So $960 for the year. $1,000 over the course of twelve months for my time and sanity? Yes.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jan 5, 2019 20:08:57 GMT -6
Formula is worth the money for me for sure. ETA: even though I complained about the cost of preemie formula lol Totally agree with this. The formula P uses now costs me $80/month. So $960 for the year. $1,000 over the course of twelve months for my time and sanity? Yes. Yes! Exactly! We are about $60-80/mo now on our non preemie formula and it's worth every penny to me. All the power to those who breastfeed and it works for you, but formula is totally worth it for those who don't want to for whatever reason.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Jan 5, 2019 20:34:44 GMT -6
Totally agree with this. The formula P uses now costs me $80/month. So $960 for the year. $1,000 over the course of twelve months for my time and sanity? Yes. Yes! Exactly! We are about $60-80/mo now on our non preemie formula and it's worth every penny to me. All the power to those who breastfeed and it works for you, but formula is totally worth it for those who don't want to for whatever reason. 100%. I’m so over the mommy shaming on all levels. I’ve had “friends” side eye me for letting Shaun give C a bottle. Of pumped milk. Because god forbid I need a break. And don’t even get me started about the fact that I don’t use a cover when I nurse in public. I had a guy tell me he would never “let” his gf nurse without a cover because with all the shot rings lately he wouldn’t want her to draw unnecessary attention to herself. Because obviously mass shootings are the fault of people who are drawing attention to themselves and not... the mass shooters. Or guns. Or gun laws. Or mental heath care. Sorry. Rant over. That was a tangent.
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Jan 5, 2019 20:52:24 GMT -6
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Post by klong11 on Jan 5, 2019 20:52:24 GMT -6
xolastunicornxo he thinks she should cover up so she doesn't get randomly shot? That is a really REALLY odd way of thinking.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Jan 5, 2019 20:53:52 GMT -6
xolastunicornxo he thinks she should cover up so she doesn't get randomly shot? That is a really REALLY odd way of thinking. Yep. Don’t worry, I ripped him a new one and showed him asinine he sounded.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jan 6, 2019 4:42:24 GMT -6
xolastunicornxo he thinks she should cover up so she doesn't get randomly shot? That is a really REALLY odd way of thinking. Yep. Don’t worry, I ripped him a new one and showed him asinine he sounded. Yeah, I always thought mass shootings were probably at the fault of women breastfeeding without a cover. Makes total sense.
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Post by dapostrophe on Jan 6, 2019 9:45:20 GMT -6
Yep. Don’t worry, I ripped him a new one and showed him asinine he sounded. Yeah, I always thought mass shootings were probably at the fault of women breastfeeding without a cover. Makes total sense. Or if you breastfeed in public you are likely to get shot. Makes sense.
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Post by chrisy01 on Jan 6, 2019 17:14:53 GMT -6
I’m sometimes wish we would use formula but I also love the extra baby snuggles I get from bf.
FFSuC: I might have considered switching to formula this time but my mom was pressuring me again to go to formula because it’s easier and I had to supplement with LO. So I’m kind of sticking with bf just to prove it to her I could.
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Post by peachsmama on Jan 6, 2019 17:38:20 GMT -6
I’m sometimes wish we would use formula but I also love the extra baby snuggles I get from bf. FFSuC: I might have considered switching to formula this time but my mom was pressuring me again to go to formula because it’s easier and I had to supplement with LO. So I’m kind of sticking with bf just to prove it to her I could. Totally get that lol.
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Post by tallb on Jan 6, 2019 19:41:53 GMT -6
I’m sometimes wish we would use formula but I also love the extra baby snuggles I get from bf. FFSuC: I might have considered switching to formula this time but my mom was pressuring me again to go to formula because it’s easier and I had to supplement with LO. So I’m kind of sticking with bf just to prove it to her I could. Ha, I get that. My mom is one to subtly shame for formula use...the only reason we did was bc of her fall and my supply subsequently dropping and N needing it. I can't remember if she ever made a comment, but I feel like I may have had to mention once or twice that it wasn't exactly my choice since she's the one that caused all the drama. Also - supplementing with formula was a godsend, I loved pumping at work and not worrying if I had enough for daycare, because they could always switch to formula.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jan 6, 2019 19:43:42 GMT -6
I’m sometimes wish we would use formula but I also love the extra baby snuggles I get from bf. FFSuC: I might have considered switching to formula this time but my mom was pressuring me again to go to formula because it’s easier and I had to supplement with LO. So I’m kind of sticking with bf just to prove it to her I could. Babies do still snuggle when they're formula fed.
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Post by chrisy01 on Jan 6, 2019 19:44:51 GMT -6
I’m sometimes wish we would use formula but I also love the extra baby snuggles I get from bf. FFSuC: I might have considered switching to formula this time but my mom was pressuring me again to go to formula because it’s easier and I had to supplement with LO. So I’m kind of sticking with bf just to prove it to her I could. Babies do still snuggle when they're formula fed. I know. LO loves to snuggle after a bottle. But when E takes a bottle she wants no one to hold her. She wants to sit and do it herself.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jan 6, 2019 19:51:01 GMT -6
Babies do still snuggle when they're formula fed. I know. LO loves to snuggle after a bottle. But when E takes a bottle she wants no one to hold her. She wants to sit and do it herself. A isn't into holding it by himself and also doesn't sit by himself, so all the snuggles lol!
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Post by chrisy01 on Jan 6, 2019 20:03:47 GMT -6
I know. LO loves to snuggle after a bottle. But when E takes a bottle she wants no one to hold her. She wants to sit and do it herself. A isn't into holding it by himself and also doesn't sit by himself, so all the snuggles lol! E tries to be very independent. It makes me sad sometimes.
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Post by dapostrophe on Jan 7, 2019 9:03:37 GMT -6
I’m sometimes wish we would use formula but I also love the extra baby snuggles I get from bf. FFSuC: I might have considered switching to formula this time but my mom was pressuring me again to go to formula because it’s easier and I had to supplement with LO. So I’m kind of sticking with bf just to prove it to her I could. Ha, I get that. My mom is one to subtly shame for formula use...the only reason we did was bc of her fall and my supply subsequently dropping and N needing it. I can't remember if she ever made a comment, but I feel like I may have had to mention once or twice that it wasn't exactly my choice since she's the one that caused all the drama. Also - supplementing with formula was a godsend, I loved pumping at work and not worrying if I had enough for daycare, because they could always switch to formula. Related, but unrelated: My MIL used to strongly suggest I pump milk so my H could do overnights and give me a break. I lol'd that adding pumping into the mix somehow made my life easier, and what is this dream world we live in where H wakes up for all night feedings and never needs my help? I can see it now "Hey are you awake? Where do we keep the bottles?" "Are you asleep? Can you hold the baby for a sec while I go to the bathroom?" "Hey, I turned the light on and now the baby won't go back to sleep, what do I do?" I don't know that our marriage would have survived the "help".
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Post by cagoldi on Jan 7, 2019 9:24:00 GMT -6
I don’t think anyone here would side eye this, but I’m sure some would: Pete has done 90% of all nighttime feedings. We realized early on that sleep deprivation was really bad for my mental health. Nobody here anymore does this, but I think there is a sick divinity of suffering cult surrounding everything birth and parenting related (see xolastunicornxo’s comments about people giving her a hard time for letting S do bottles) when it comes to mothering and I refuse to be a martyr. It’s like they think only measure of a good mom is how much they sacrifice.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Jan 7, 2019 9:27:16 GMT -6
I don’t think anyone here would side eye this, but I’m sure some would: Pete has done 90% of all nighttime feedings. We realized early on that sleep deprivation was really bad for my mental health. Nobody here anymore does this, but I think there is a sick divinity of suffering cult surrounding everything birth and parenting related (see xolastunicornxo’s comments about people giving her a hard time for letting S do bottles) when it comes to mothering and I refuse to be a martyr. It’s like they think only measure of a good mom is how much they sacrifice. All of this. It’s not a competition who is the most worn out. I’d much rather divide and conquer so both dh and I can be feeling well, both mentally and physically. Like, I do all the night stuff, because I’m nursing and the bottom line is she wants me at night and it’s going to be a million times quicker to go back to sleep then trying to hand her off to Shaun. But he also handles all morning stuff when he’s here in the morning, and he always gets up with the kids and takes C on the weekends so I can catch an extra hour of sleep, because he knows by the weekend I need to catch up.
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Post by dapostrophe on Jan 7, 2019 9:44:57 GMT -6
cagoldi I 100% agree with you. I know your comment was not directed at me, and if Bea were a poor sleeper or we formula fed, H would def figure it out. I think there is also an assumption that the nighttime thing is SO HORRIBLE that it has to be a sacrifice that I needed relief from. For me, it was NBD to to feed baby back to sleep for a few mins, so the assumption that pumping and having H do it was obviously easier had me scratching my head. Personally, I get tired of the "you must be SO overwhelmed, you poor thing" narrative, when really I think we are doing just fine. It's almost like people need us to be overwhelmed and frazzled because it fits their idea of what it's like to have five kids. But when I talk to other people with large families, they often agree that it almost gets "easier" with each subsequent kid. Your threshold is higher is something. Also, I think it's great that Pete did nighttime feedings and that he prioritized what was best for you. I'm like that with needing breaks throughout the day, and if I did not have H's support in that, I would be singing a totally different tune.
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