Totally a Tuesday

[joelies]

OMG kim22 - 1 already? How is that even possible? So freaking adorable though!! That picture is perfect.

[joelies]

Dec 11, 2018 9:19:35 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Dec 11, 2018 9:00:36 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

Morning.

I woke up around 530 this morning feeling nauseous. I popped a zofran real quick and it went away. Now I’m just waiting to see what I feel like when it wears off. I’m a little queasy after eating a little bit of breakfast. I may be going home later...

You must not have chugged red wine last night.

Clearly not enough, at least. Hope you feel better soon, lahdeedah!!

[lahdeedah]

mamabear I feel you. flamingo is wise. It’s even harder to maintain friendships when you are distanced or always moving.

Happy birthday to C! kim22 Great pic! Can’t believe it’s been a year already.

klong11 I need to do the same with the gifts for M.

[lahdeedah]

Dec 11, 2018 9:40:28 GMT -6 joelies said:

Dec 11, 2018 9:19:35 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

You must not have chugged red wine last night.

Clearly not enough, at least. Hope you feel better soon, lahdeedah!!

Didn’t even open the bottle last night. Fail!

[vino]

Feel better lahdeedah , hopefully it's not to bad.

mamabear friendships are hard for sure. My 2018 new years resolution was to be more social, so i actively made a point to take time to meet new people, put time into my current friendships and try and build a village. I found it really hard to focus on anything but my immediate home for the last 3-4 years with the 2 kids and that's ok because that's where life took me. It is getting easier, BUT I had to put massive effort because the 'norm' had become to just be within my four walls. So i chatted with my neighbours, had a couple BBQ's that was open to who ever was available to come over, kids or not, soccer Moms and Dads during practice, involved a little in school/daycare to meet other parents, reached out to mentorship/coaching programs at work, randomly texted and called my friends.

Building a new group of friends is hard and you're not going to get along or like everyone, but a year in to actual effort I am very happy and feel like I've got an amazing group of people that I can count on. Good luck, it's hard, but totally worth it.

[Sunny41]

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[Sunny41]

kim22 Happy Birthday to your little guy!

[nam2013]

peachsmama I got your card today!!! So fun! Even Dh commented on how sweet your family looked!

[trtlcrzy]

Dec 11, 2018 7:46:43 GMT -6 mamabear said:

Tldr; Question (hopefully not too depressing) of the day. Does anyone else feel like they are the only one putting effort into friendships?



I feel like I'm the only one who ever reaches out to any of my friends to say hey let's grab lunch or dinner, or even just suggest we have a phone date to catch up (for friends that are long distance). MH and I rarely get invited anywhere. I sometimes feel like there must be something wrong with me.
When I do hang out with a friend we have a good time, it just seems like I'm always initiating. Some don't have kids, so maybe that's why? and it seems like most live 30 min away, which brings up another question of why we haven't made any new friends even though we've lived in our house 3.5 years now.

Eta: sorry dont mean to be a DD. Holiday time thoughts I guess

Yes, I feel like I am the one who is always putting in effort. So frustrating.

[trtlcrzy]

Morning! H is at school, s and I ran to target and now are hanging at home until pick up. S still has a low fever but her spirits are up. I have to work this evening.

Happy first birthday to C kim22! I hope his day is wonderful!

[trtlcrzy]

Dec 11, 2018 10:45:22 GMT -6 mamabear said:

Dec 11, 2018 10:35:47 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

Yes, I feel like I am the one who is always putting in effort. So frustrating.

Yep. My SIL has quite the squad and while they are a little over the top sometimes, it would be nice to have friends in the same stage of life

I have days a few times a year where I get super down on myself and feel like I don’t have any friends. I cry and feel bad for myself and the next day it’s usually better. I think it’s part of my anxiety. We have a small group of friends we do stuff with but again, I feel like I’m usually the one to suggest we get together and it gets old. So then we don’t do anything with anyone. Right now, especially this time of year, everyone is so busy that I’m ok with seeing friends less.

[peachsmama]

Dec 11, 2018 10:34:23 GMT -6 nam2013 said:

peachsmama I got your card today!!! So fun! Even Dh commented on how sweet your family looked!

Aw yay!!!

[snoopmommymom]

mamabear We moved 3 years ago and i met some people with kids O’s age through toddler programs at the library and at the playground near my house. I may have also posted on a local mom’s Facebook group saying i was new to town, here’s my kid’s age, does anyone want to do a play date.

Through those avenues i now have a group of friends and O does too. The kids are all in kindergarten now so it’s becoming more fun because they really like getting together on weekends too. We did breakfast with Santa together this weekend and a play date the next day. It has really helped me because when i first moved and then gave birth to Z, i was a sahm and literally knew no one and had no one to talk to. Now, when i take O somewhere, i oftentimes run into someone i know and that feels good.

I hope you will try making a friend group with similar aged kids. I wouldn’t wait until Kindergarten. Start now so L has a built in friend group when he starts kindergarten.

[wineallthetime]

kim22, oh so sweet. Happy bday, C!

[vino]

How was the appointment wineallthetime? Is A allowed off the premie formula?

[wineallthetime]

I'm guilty of not putting in enough effort with friends. We used to have a huge friend group and then we had kids and moved a bit further away. Now we have 3 other families in our neighborhood who we are close with and it's just easier. We go for a walk and end up hanging out with the adults while the kids play. MH goes out with one of the dads a lot because it's easy to say, "hey kids just went to bed, want to meet at the bar that's right outside our subdivision?" I have another friend who lives 5 minutes away and stays home, so it's easy to maintain the friendship because we meet at the park or something during the day on my days off.

Basically, mamabear, I LOVE and charish all my friendships but tend to go for those of convenience more just because there isn't as much planning needed! So, I really don't think it's you. I think it's just life.

[wineallthetime]

Dec 11, 2018 11:14:12 GMT -6 vino said:

How was the appointment wineallthetime? Is A allowed off the premie formula?

It was good! He's finally on the growth curve for height (3rd %)! He's always been super short, even for a preemie. And no more preemie formula!!!! Yessssss, hello money!

[flamingo]

Dec 11, 2018 11:17:42 GMT -6 wineallthetime said:

Dec 11, 2018 11:14:12 GMT -6 vino said:

How was the appointment wineallthetime ? Is A allowed off the premie formula?

It was good! He's finally on the growth curve for height (3rd %)! He's always been super short, even for a preemie. And no more preemie formula!!!! Yessssss, hello money!

Woohoo! Congrats on the "raise"  

[inthekitty]

Hi ladies.

klong11 I was where you were a couple days ago regarding presents and I just went through everything and wrapped a ton. I'm almost done. Just a few small things left. It felt good to get my bearings.

kim22 aw! I can't believe he's 1 already! Congrats on surviving the first year.

[klong11]

inthekitty, yeah, I'm like "holy crap, Christmas is in less than 2 weeks, am I almost done?" I have no idea!!

Luckily, I have tomorrow off AND Friday night all to myself, so I'll be able to get quite a bit done. Assuming my alter ego Lazy Katie doesn't show up and make me lay on the couch eating ice cream and random hulu shows.

[inthekitty]

mamabear, what friends? Kind of serious. I don't socialize with people much. I don't mean to be a downer for those looking forward to this, but it's not much easier as a parent meeting people through kids in K. Maddie rides the bus then goes to aftercare. I never see the other parents. Last year her bus stop was really active and I enjoyed talking to some of the moms there but I didn't push harder for relationships. Work people are spread out (and most at my main job are not people I'd want to socialize with). Plus I live in a military neighborhood and people move all the time. Some past closer relationships I was also the one putting in the most effort and they ended up being a phases and stages thing. I have one good friend, you guys, and acquaintances through TKD. I would love more friends but don't really have the time to put into it so *shrugs*.

[inthekitty]

klong11, lol. I hear you. I was afraid I'd fall into the couch spell and not get things done which would make the panicking worse. This weekend I actually don't have anything planned except for breakfast with Santa SAT morning with the kids. I'm not working. We're not going out of town. So I should be able to finish up what's left. I hope you get a good grasp on things on your days off!

[guster]

I think I’m finished Christmas shopping, but I get wrapped up in the “hustle and bustle” of the season in the last two weeks and want to keep shopping. I really appreciate being organized and having gifts bought and wrapped, but it feels kind of like a letdown now.

[guster]

I don’t have friends here. I met different families on the beach this summer and a bunch of families through soccer and school, but nothing is long-lasting.
That’s part of the reason I want to try toddler time and the library class for Charlie. I’m hoping it’s someway to find a group in this town.
I also just signed up for orange theory in the hopes that that becomes a different outlet to meet others.
I’m not lonely, and I do have girlfriends that I speak to (through texts or calls or each day, but don’t see often bc distance), But I think that would be good for my kids (and for me)to see me engaged in face to face friendships.

[wedding]

I am done shopping and need to wrap. I hate wrapping and it makes it harder to hide things once they are wrapped. I also need to build his hot wheels track and store it somewhere. I have the day before Christmas weekend off so I may do that then.

[wedding]

Happy Birthday C! kim22

[Sunny41]

I got the call from daycare to pick up kid and wine. Not sure if the is an ei on top ofv the pukes or just sinus pressure.

[Sunny41]

I barely have any presents! I'm starting to panic because we leave town next friday so this is the last week I can do things. And I really don't have ideas.

Re friends, I have a small set of mom friends that I go out with every few weeks and we use fb messenger to group chat. Having moved a lot and changed jobs I meet a lot of people that are friends because we're in the same stages and that works.

[mwhip]

Dec 11, 2018 13:59:02 GMT -6 Sunny41 said:

I got the call from daycare to pick up kid and wine. Not sure if the is an ei on top ofv the pukes or just sinus pressure.

Daycare told you to pick up wine?  This is my kind of daycare!

[mwhip]

I have barely started Christmas shopping. It's hard to believe Christmas is 2 weeks from today. Guess I should get on the ball. I told H we need to sit down and list out everything we need to buy. I told him that last weekend. We did not list anything out.