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Post by wildflower on Sept 26, 2018 8:18:09 GMT -6
Didn't read the whole thread... Kids make the news around here for doing things like this. I think it's awesome and I would love to shop for a donation when attending a birthday party instead of something I'm scared will become clutter. Heck, I even considered making my shower for kid #2 a diaper drive/donation thing. I do not want my kid to make the news. Sheesh. That’s a bit ridiculous. It's usually when the donations or whatever explode and the whole thing goes viral. Like a kid donating half a semi truck worth or something like that. I just meant it's looked on very positively. |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 26, 2018 8:18:43 GMT -6
Then why do you wish people would stop having them? Am I taking crazy pills? Like, you just complained about this. Right now. In this exchange. Just because I wish people would stop having big elaborate parties doesn't mean that I am mad they do. I will go if I know you and/or I have the time. It isn't that deep |
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Post by rvasc on Sept 26, 2018 8:23:44 GMT -6
Then why do you wish people would stop having them? Am I taking crazy pills? Like, you just complained about this. Right now. In this exchange. Just because I wish people would stop having big elaborate parties doesn't mean that I am mad they do. I will go if I know you and/or I have the time. It isn't that deep I...  |
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Post by rvasc on Sept 26, 2018 8:24:47 GMT -6
I do not want my kid to make the news. Sheesh. That’s a bit ridiculous. It's usually when the donations or whatever explode and the whole thing goes viral. Like a kid donating half a semi truck worth or something like that. I just meant it's looked on very positively.[/quote Yeah, I get that. I just don’t think it’s newsworthy, unless like you said it’s a truckload or something. |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 26, 2018 8:36:35 GMT -6
Just because I wish people would stop having big elaborate parties doesn't mean that I am mad they do. I will go if I know you and/or I have the time. It isn't that deep I... Wut? It isn't hard to understand. I have said that I don't want to do a big party for dd because they get expensive. It is hard for me to explain to her that we are going to do the experience thing when every other parent is throwing sky zone $500 birthday parties. Do I wish that the trend would let up a little yes, but i understand people want to do them and can. We go because dd loves her friends and want to go. |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 26, 2018 8:36:58 GMT -6
Again NOT THAT DEEP
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Post by Rusty Red on Sept 26, 2018 8:37:57 GMT -6
Well.
Would not be offended by the no gifts request. Would still bring a canned good and a gift, because I am an insane gift buyer, and you will not rob me of my joy. IT'S ALL ABOUT ME.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Sept 26, 2018 8:56:06 GMT -6
Wut? It isn't hard to understand. I have said that I don't want to do a big party for dd because they get expensive. It is hard for me to explain to her that we are going to do the experience thing when every other parent is throwing sky zone $500 birthday parties. Do I wish that the trend would let up a little yes, but i understand people want to do them and can. We go because dd loves her friends and want to go. Oh no that you have to explain that not everything in life is equal/fair. |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 26, 2018 8:57:19 GMT -6
Wut? It isn't hard to understand. I have said that I don't want to do a big party for dd because they get expensive. It is hard for me to explain to her that we are going to do the experience thing when every other parent is throwing sky zone $500 birthday parties. Do I wish that the trend would let up a little yes, but i understand people want to do them and can. We go because dd loves her friends and want to go. Oh no that you have to explain that not everything in life is equal/fair. K |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 26, 2018 8:58:15 GMT -6
My kid is aware that things aren't always fair and trust she has to get lessons that a lot of other kids don't so................
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Post by 5280 on Sept 26, 2018 9:06:43 GMT -6
We’ve done no gifts please on DD’s last two invites and it has been the best thing ever. No worries if we should send thank you notes, no opening presents, no one declining because they didn’t have a birthday present in the budget, and no trying to find space in our house for more junk. I think we got one book at each event, which was fine. And I LOVE going to them. Zero desire to try and find a present for some kid I don’t know.
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Post by rvasc on Sept 26, 2018 10:20:56 GMT -6
I... Wut? It isn't hard to understand. I have said that I don't want to do a big party for dd because they get expensive. It is hard for me to explain to her that we are going to do the experience thing when every other parent is throwing sky zone $500 birthday parties. Do I wish that the trend would let up a little yes, but i understand people want to do them and can. We go because dd loves her friends and want to go. Well this I get. We do them infrequently for the same reason. But also big doesn’t always equal elaborate in my world. Her last big one was at a park. Sorry for not connecting the dots sooner. |
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Post by rvasc on Sept 26, 2018 10:51:02 GMT -6
I really do apologize angelashly. I went back and reread, and I acted really shitty. I’m sorry. |
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Post by porkchop on Sept 26, 2018 11:05:37 GMT -6
just so I'm clear, I'm not at all talking about family events. I'm talking about parties where my kid invites a bunch of his friends and I'm not super close with parents/don't even know them/barely know them. When we do family parties, like with my actual family members, they can bring whatever they want. I wouldn't tell them what to do. When we have a birthday party and there are 30 kids coming... I'm requesting no presents. See I don’t know if we are from another planet, but my family and extended family made birthday parties a family thing. Yes they’d invite some kids from their class, but mostly it’s all us locos. So maybe this is why I’m having a hard time visualizing all this. School kids are not really invited to kid birthday parties with my people. Even growing up My bday parties never really had school friends. I grew up the same. Birthday parties are mainly family because are families are so large. We just celebrated DD's 3rd birthday and had 65 people show up. That was immediate family/aunts/uncles and first cousins. Being mexican-american, our cousins are our friends. lol. |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 26, 2018 11:09:47 GMT -6
I really do apologize angelashly . I went back and reread, and I acted really shitty. I’m sorry. No biggie |
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Post by McBenny on Sept 26, 2018 11:12:22 GMT -6
At the end people will bring or not being what they want you know what I mean? It’s unavoidable with any gift giving type party. I’d be that person who brings a gift. I just have to bring something. Anything. I didn’t do registry or bridal shower and the day I got married, there were loads of boxed gifts to take home. that is not the same as saying "no need to bring a gift please."  |
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Post by McBenny on Sept 26, 2018 11:15:54 GMT -6
I would have no problem with it. But it is not a thing here. The nice thing is most class parties stop around 1st grade. After that it is one or two friends invited for a special day. (The boardwalk, etc). DD had 5 kids at a restaurant to make your own pizza. So because the parties are reduced in size there is less gifts/stuff anyway. I wish people would stop with the parties here, but we keep getting invitations. |
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Post by McBenny on Sept 26, 2018 11:16:29 GMT -6
I would have no problem with it. But it is not a thing here. The nice thing is most class parties stop around 1st grade. After that it is one or two friends invited for a special day. (The boardwalk, etc). DD had 5 kids at a restaurant to make your own pizza. So because the parties are reduced in size there is less gifts/stuff anyway. I wish people would stop with the parties here, but we keep getting invitations. So you don't want your kid invited?
Just don't go?
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Post by GhoatMonket on Sept 26, 2018 11:16:37 GMT -6
See I don’t know if we are from another planet, but my family and extended family made birthday parties a family thing. Yes they’d invite some kids from their class, but mostly it’s all us locos. So maybe this is why I’m having a hard time visualizing all this. School kids are not really invited to kid birthday parties with my people. Even growing up My bday parties never really had school friends. I grew up the same. Birthday parties are mainly family because are families are so large. We just celebrated DD's 3rd birthday and had 65 people show up. That was immediate family/aunts/uncles and first cousins. Being mexican-american, our cousins are our friends. lol. You understand we are talking about grade school kids and inviting classmates, not toddlers and immediate family, right? |
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Post by McBenny on Sept 26, 2018 11:17:50 GMT -6
Didn't read the whole thread... Kids make the news around here for doing things like this. I think it's awesome and I would love to shop for a donation when attending a birthday party instead of something I'm scared will become clutter. Heck, I even considered making my shower for kid #2 a diaper drive/donation thing. I do not want my kid to make the news. Sheesh. That’s a bit ridiculous. Well usually their parent contacts the news or SM so there's that. |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 26, 2018 11:21:41 GMT -6
I wish people would stop with the parties here, but we keep getting invitations. So you don't want your kid invited?
Just don't go?
That is not what I said, but I don't have it in me to have this argument again |
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Post by McBenny on Sept 26, 2018 11:23:02 GMT -6
I enjoy the big parties. My child gets to experience something they probably would not otherwise and usually I don't have to pay for my kid to get in cause they are a party guest.
I take full advantage and go to everything we are invited to unless we have something else to do.
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Post by rvasc on Sept 26, 2018 13:33:19 GMT -6
I enjoy the big parties. My child gets to experience something they probably would not otherwise and usually I don't have to pay for my kid to get in cause they are a party guest. I take full advantage and go to everything we are invited to unless we have something else to do. This is where I was. I like to invite all the people and feed all the people. It’s fun. DD has a fall birthday, and parents get to meet and chit chat. The location of this particular party means that most wont drop off, and we rented an entire bounce place with a toddler area, so I put siblings welcome. I think it will be great fun. I had honestly not considered that it would make anyone feel less than, but now I will. |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 26, 2018 13:35:23 GMT -6
I enjoy the big parties. My child gets to experience something they probably would not otherwise and usually I don't have to pay for my kid to get in cause they are a party guest. I take full advantage and go to everything we are invited to unless we have something else to do. This is where I was. I like to invite all the people and feed all the people. It’s fun. DD has a fall birthday, and parents get to meet and chit chat. The location of this particular party means that most wont drop off, and we rented an entire bounce place with a toddler area, so I put siblings welcome. I think it will be great fun. I had honestly not considered that it would make anyone feel less than, but now I will.But I don't want that either because that wasn't my whole point. It was a portion of it and I don't want people to feel bad about the parties at all. I just remember as a child not having huge birthday parties, but no one really did. I feel the trend is in line with Pinterest and the doing the most. |
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Post by helenahhandbasket on Sept 26, 2018 13:40:41 GMT -6
I don't think it's tacky, but I am not sure I would personally do it.
I think your DD sounds like such a lovely thoughtful girl. If I got this request I would participate as a guest of your DD.
I just think there are so many ways to donate, get involved, do charity work etc that don't have to do with her birthday or asking others to donate for her birthday.
I think if your DD has a passion for charity work I would absolutely nurture that to the fullest!
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Post by helenahhandbasket on Sept 26, 2018 13:43:53 GMT -6
And the "tacky" thing that I think some get bent on is that technically speaking, it's "rude" to tell people what to bring you or what not to bring you. As a guest, what you bring should be at your discretion.
Just technically speaking. I am not saying I agree 100%.
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Post by kmkd on Sept 26, 2018 13:49:22 GMT -6
I enjoy the big parties. My child gets to experience something they probably would not otherwise and usually I don't have to pay for my kid to get in cause they are a party guest. I take full advantage and go to everything we are invited to unless we have something else to do. This is where I was. I like to invite all the people and feed all the people. It’s fun. DD has a fall birthday, and parents get to meet and chit chat. The location of this particular party means that most wont drop off, and we rented an entire bounce place with a toddler area, so I put siblings welcome. I think it will be great fun. I had honestly not considered that it would make anyone feel less than, but now I will. You should not feel bad about hosting a party for your daughter and inviting all the people. Enjoy it! |
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Post by helenahhandbasket on Sept 26, 2018 14:06:32 GMT -6
I enjoy the big parties. My child gets to experience something they probably would not otherwise and usually I don't have to pay for my kid to get in cause they are a party guest. I take full advantage and go to everything we are invited to unless we have something else to do. We do this to. We RSVP yes to everything unless we have set plans. |
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Post by porkchop on Sept 26, 2018 14:14:28 GMT -6
I grew up the same. Birthday parties are mainly family because are families are so large. We just celebrated DD's 3rd birthday and had 65 people show up. That was immediate family/aunts/uncles and first cousins. Being mexican-american, our cousins are our friends. lol. You understand we are talking about grade school kids and inviting classmates, not toddlers and immediate family, right? Yes, I can read. I was responding to miawallace 's anecdote which is why I quoted her. |
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Post by emma on Sept 26, 2018 14:26:49 GMT -6
I enjoy the big parties. My child gets to experience something they probably would not otherwise and usually I don't have to pay for my kid to get in cause they are a party guest. I take full advantage and go to everything we are invited to unless we have something else to do. We do this to. We RSVP yes to everything unless we have set plans. same. But also because the thought of a kid throwing a birthday party and no one showing up breaks my heart. So if we are free, we go |
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