Soggy Saturday

[chrisy01]

Sept 23, 2018 22:23:56 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Sept 23, 2018 22:13:48 GMT -6 chrisy01 said:

C is on the phone with the nurses line. He’s having an allergic reaction to the medicine they gave him. Fingers cross they get him an appointment tomorrow morning first thing.

Oh crap. What meds did they give him?

Augmentin (sp?). An antibiotic. He’s swelling and is getting rashes.

[chrisy01]

Sept 23, 2018 17:27:58 GMT -6 lfig said:

peachsmama you should do this for the boys new room...

That’s cute.

[chrisy01]

The nurses line told him he could take the children’s Zyrtec since we don’t have Benadryl.

Interesting fact children’s Zyrtec has adult dosages on the package.

[nam2013]

chrisy01 hope C is doing better! And that poor kid, it must be awful to invite your whole class and only have a single persons showing up. Must been heartbreaking for the parents too.

[nam2013]

lfig I loooove that drawer! I made a screenshot to remember .

[vino]

UO maybe. I have zero issue in saying no to a birthday party for a kid that's a jerk. In the toddler/preschool years it's one thing because kids are learning and pushing boundaries that hopefully the parents and teachers set based on the personality of the kid. But at 5 years old, sorry I'm not making my kid to go a party. I teach B to have manners and be kind to everyone but he most certainly does not have to play with everyone.

[vino]

MH took B to the mall while J was napping and I made them stop of Bath and Body works to get me Fall candles, they couldn't decide so they came home with 4 different scents.

Just call me a sheep, BAAAAAAA

[vino]

Sept 23, 2018 7:51:56 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

We stumbled upon a really cute Netflix show called "If I Were An Animal." It's a nature program narrated by kids and doesn't show any gore, animals being eaten or injured, etc. The boys love it.

I looked for this last night but it's not on Netflix Canada yet, so we watched a couple other nature shows and the kids were so interested in all the the African animals in this one show.  We were talking about where they were, why the landscape is different and how there are so many of them that travel together regardless of the animals, cheetah's, elephants, lions etc.  halfway through, B said 'Mom is why we dont go to the zoo, cause it's not their home?'.  Eeeek I'm so proud!

[vino]

Way late trtlcrzy, but I hope yesterday was ok for your family, lots of love.

[chrisy01]

Sept 24, 2018 8:55:36 GMT -6 vino said:

UO maybe. I have zero issue in saying no to a birthday party for a kid that's a jerk. In the toddler/preschool years it's one thing because kids are learning and pushing boundaries that hopefully the parents and teachers set based on the personality of the kid. But at 5 years old, sorry I'm not making my kid to go a party. I teach B to have manners and be kind to everyone but he most certainly does not have to play with everyone.

LO wanted to go, so I let him. He did ask me today if he could not invite this kid to his party now. I’m sort of glad we went so he could realize what a jerk this kid is. But now it’s backfired because I can’t invite the whole class to LO’s party except him. But I don’t think the mom will bring him since she hasn’t responded to my text thanking them for the party.

[jewels]

Sept 24, 2018 8:55:36 GMT -6 vino said:

UO maybe. I have zero issue in saying no to a birthday party for a kid that's a jerk. In the toddler/preschool years it's one thing because kids are learning and pushing boundaries that hopefully the parents and teachers set based on the personality of the kid. But at 5 years old, sorry I'm not making my kid to go a party. I teach B to have manners and be kind to everyone but he most certainly does not have to play with everyone.

I declined a party last year for the little boy who told my kid he didn't belong in the class, and who told my kid's BFF that he lived in a small house and was stupid.

I had no regrets

[jewels]

Sept 24, 2018 9:13:38 GMT -6 chrisy01 said:

Sept 24, 2018 8:55:36 GMT -6 vino said:

UO maybe. I have zero issue in saying no to a birthday party for a kid that's a jerk. In the toddler/preschool years it's one thing because kids are learning and pushing boundaries that hopefully the parents and teachers set based on the personality of the kid. But at 5 years old, sorry I'm not making my kid to go a party. I teach B to have manners and be kind to everyone but he most certainly does not have to play with everyone.

LO wanted to go, so I let him. He did ask me today if he could not invite this kid to his party now. I’m sort of glad we went so he could realize what a jerk this kid is. But now it’s backfired because I can’t invite the whole class to LO’s party except him. But I don’t think the mom will bring him since she hasn’t responded to my text thanking them for the party.

Yes, while I obviously agree with vino about not going if you don't want to, I definitely think you can't not invite this kid to yours, unless you only invite like his 2 or 3 closest friends.  

Fortunately the little jerk in S old class went to K this year so he won't be invited to his party. 

[flamingo]

Damn, I see all the fun I've missed out on by not throwing big parties for B the last few years!

I guess we've also been fortunate that we haven't encountered a classmate yet like some of these children y'all have mentioned. I've heard of some misbehavior, but not really directed at anyone in particular--more willfulness or acting up.

I think this will be the first year we have a big party for B where we invite classmates and not just family/close friends. With the school cut-off here and his early December birthday he's one of the oldest in the class so we may be one of, if not the, earliest parties. Guess we will see how things go...I hope kids will come! 

[vino]

Sept 24, 2018 9:50:52 GMT -6 jewels said:

Sept 24, 2018 9:13:38 GMT -6 chrisy01 said:

LO wanted to go, so I let him. He did ask me today if he could not invite this kid to his party now. I’m sort of glad we went so he could realize what a jerk this kid is. But now it’s backfired because I can’t invite the whole class to LO’s party except him. But I don’t think the mom will bring him since she hasn’t responded to my text thanking them for the party.

Yes, while I obviously agree with vino about not going if you don't want to, I definitely think you can't not invite this kid to yours, unless you only invite like his 2 or 3 closest friends.  

Fortunately the little jerk in S old class went to K this year so he won't be invited to his party. 

Meh, this is how the cycle continues.  I guess it depends where the party is?  Is there a kid limit?  How much it is going to cost you? 
Also it's your party, you as the parent lay the ground rules.  But I realize that this may be regional cause we're doing drop parties.  For B's party in November it's a drop off Sportball party and I'll be laying the ground rules before the kids run amok, and monitoring for shit behaviour.


#kidspartygrinch  

[klong11]

At the birthday party yesterday everyone was talking about the party they ALL went to on Saturday. Cadence didn't get invited to that party. One little boy even asked her why she wasn't there. She took it in stride and said she has gymnastics and swim class on Saturdays. I think I was more disappointed that she wasn't invited then she was. We also didn't get invited last year.

[tgrimes]

Sept 24, 2018 10:52:20 GMT -6 klong11 said:

At the birthday party yesterday everyone was talking about the party they ALL went to on Saturday. Cadence didn't get invited to that party. One little boy even asked her why she wasn't there. She took it in stride and said she has gymnastics and swim class on Saturdays. I think I was more disappointed that she wasn't invited then she was. We also didn't get invited last year.

WTF?  I would also be more disappointed than M would be.

[dapostrophe]

I go to the jerk kid's parties and invite him to ours. I did inwardly breathe a sigh of relief that he was not in my kid's class this year, but I hate the idea of anyone not having people show up to their birthday party or being left out.

[jewels]

Sept 24, 2018 10:51:03 GMT -6 vino said:

Sept 24, 2018 9:50:52 GMT -6 jewels said:

Yes, while I obviously agree with vino about not going if you don't want to, I definitely think you can't not invite this kid to yours, unless you only invite like his 2 or 3 closest friends.  

Fortunately the little jerk in S old class went to K this year so he won't be invited to his party. 

Meh, this is how the cycle continues.  I guess it depends where the party is?  Is there a kid limit?  How much it is going to cost you? 
Also it's your party, you as the parent lay the ground rules.  But I realize that this may be regional cause we're doing drop parties.  For B's party in November it's a drop off Sportball party and I'll be laying the ground rules before the kids run amok, and monitoring for shit behaviour.


#kidspartygrinch  

This makes sense.  Around here there are definitely no drop off parties, and it's pretty much an unspoken rule that it's either all the kids, all of 1 gender, or just a few friends and not handed out at school.  I would not want one kid to be left out - I wouldn't want S or B to be the only kid left out either.  

[jewels]

That stinks klong11.

[chrisy01]

klong11 I’m sorry that’s not right. Do you think her invite got lost? Like fell out of her cubby or the teacher missed it?

[flamingo]

Sept 24, 2018 11:24:38 GMT -6 dapostrophe said:

I go to the jerk kid's parties and invite him to ours. I did inwardly breathe a sigh of relief that he was not in my kid's class this year, but I hate the idea of anyone not having people show up to their birthday party or being left out.

Same. I've read so many of those sad stories on the internet about no one showing up. 

When I was in 2nd grade, a kid invited our whole class to his party. He wasn't terrible, but could be obnoxious (probably was just typical 8 y.o. boy behavior in hindsight, lol). My mom made me go to his party, and while there was a decent turn-out of boys, only a couple other girls came. But I remember feeling glad that I went, b/c his parents seemed so happy to have a nice birthday party for him, and he actually genuinely thanked me for coming. I still remember this 25+ years later so it made an impression. 

[flamingo]

klong11 That's crappy. I can't believe a mom would do that, talk about 'mean girls'! Good for C for handling it like NBD.

[trtlcrzy]

You guys are making me so glad that class parties aren’t super common at H’s school. She had one class party last year and they invited the whole class. Her school has a rule that you can’t pass out invites at school, you have to mail them.

[klong11]

Sept 24, 2018 12:37:43 GMT -6 chrisy01 said:

klong11 I’m sorry that’s not right. Do you think her invite got lost? Like fell out of her cubby or the teacher missed it?

Not 2 years in a row, probably not.

[chrisy01]

Sept 24, 2018 13:22:07 GMT -6 klong11 said:

Sept 24, 2018 12:37:43 GMT -6 chrisy01 said:

klong11 I’m sorry that’s not right. Do you think her invite got lost? Like fell out of her cubby or the teacher missed it?

Not 2 years in a row, probably not.

Those bastards!

[cagoldi]

Sept 24, 2018 10:51:03 GMT -6 vino said:

Sept 24, 2018 9:50:52 GMT -6 jewels said:

Yes, while I obviously agree with vino about not going if you don't want to, I definitely think you can't not invite this kid to yours, unless you only invite like his 2 or 3 closest friends.  

Fortunately the little jerk in S old class went to K this year so he won't be invited to his party. 

Meh, this is how the cycle continues.  I guess it depends where the party is?  Is there a kid limit?  How much it is going to cost you? 
Also it's your party, you as the parent lay the ground rules.  But I realize that this may be regional cause we're doing drop parties.  For B's party in November it's a drop off Sportball party and I'll be laying the ground rules before the kids run amok, and monitoring for shit behaviour.


#kidspartygrinch  

Me and chrisy01 are having a joint party for the kids at your favorite place - the park!

BUT, it's right by the restrooms, there is no guest limit, we're sharing expenses, and with outdoor parties i'm inclined to extend more invites (unless of course the kids say they specifically don't want someone in particular).

Last year, we went to a party a week or so before invites went out for Dide's birthday and one kid was heinous. Harassing the birthday boy, made Atticus cry, over the top rough housing, etc. Dude wanted to invite him but I just didn't give the kid an invite.

Not sorry. He made everyone miserable and I knew we'd regret it. When you invite so many people, some can't come so Dude just assumed he couldn't make it.

At this age, I'm okay with making some executive decisions because I can better predict the outcome than he can.

[Sunny41]

I Agree that annoying kids can ruin parties but I wonder why the kids are that way. Are they in foster care? Single parent that is so tired at the end of the day they can barely discipline? On the spectrum? It's a struggle for me to teach our kids to be inclusive of those that are different and be protective. I have the same issue with those who have endured head trauma and say inappropriate things or act creepy. I don't know. I'm rambling

[wineallthetime]

Sept 24, 2018 19:18:49 GMT -6 Sunny41 said:

I Agree that annoying kids can ruin parties but I wonder why the kids are that way. Are they in foster care? Single parent that is so tired at the end of the day they can barely discipline? On the spectrum? It's a struggle for me to teach our kids to be inclusive of those that are different and be protective. I have the same issue with those who have endured head trauma and say inappropriate things or act creepy. I don't know. I'm rambling

I think this is...a huge stretch. To have the first things that pop in your mind be foster care or a single parent when you meet an annoying kid? That's also kind of offensive. I know plenty of single parent families that have amazing, polite and well behaved kids. Some kids are just annoying. Or come from a home with married parents.

[klong11]

Sept 25, 2018 4:24:23 GMT -6 wineallthetime said:

Sept 24, 2018 19:18:49 GMT -6 Sunny41 said:

I Agree that annoying kids can ruin parties but I wonder why the kids are that way. Are they in foster care? Single parent that is so tired at the end of the day they can barely discipline? On the spectrum? It's a struggle for me to teach our kids to be inclusive of those that are different and be protective. I have the same issue with those who have endured head trauma and say inappropriate things or act creepy. I don't know. I'm rambling

I think this is...a huge stretch. To have the first things that pop in your mind be foster care or a single parent when you meet an annoying kid? That's also kind of offensive. I know plenty of single parent families that have amazing, polite and well behaved kids. Some kids are just annoying. Or come from a home with married parents.

+1

[chrisy01]

Based on what I have seen and what the mom has said to me, we just have different ideas on parenting. She thought it was worse that her son was telling me LO hit him versus the actual fighting. I rather LO tell me someone that another kid hit him to fight back. They allow him to watch movies and play video games that are violent. I don’t let LO for the most part watch violent anything. The mom has at least told me she doesn’t see anything wrong with his fascination with guns and violence. She said it’s what normal boys do.

Both parents and their extended family is in his life.