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Post by bakemyday on Jun 8, 2018 7:44:41 GMT -6
I considered buying a bed like this to solve our space issues: I’ve gone crazy, I am aware. Changing the sheets would be a nightmare. How do you find sheets that big?! Or is this two kings pushed together?
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Post by imapenguin on Jun 8, 2018 7:44:48 GMT -6
My college roommate unburied herself from the debt her mom built up in her name last year at 31. She’s had at least 2 jobs, sometimes 3, for all the time I’ve known her. The year after she found out it was going on she worked/went to school literally around the clock. When my parents found out they started paying her half of the rent so she could sleep.
ETA, the looks my dad was shooting at her mom during graduation were scary. I’ve never seen him that mad about anything before or since.
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Post by McBenny on Jun 8, 2018 7:45:10 GMT -6
Did someone post an argument in support of using your kid's SSN to rack up debt? I didn't see that post. no. Did i tag anyone? It was a broad statement. I was in agreement with GA that it is a malicious thing to do. I did not say you tagged me or anyone else.
I asked a question about your post.
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Post by valiente on Jun 8, 2018 7:46:41 GMT -6
Dear Mom and Dad, Thank you for teaching me about money and not fucking up my credit. xoxo
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Post by ladybrienne on Jun 8, 2018 7:47:04 GMT -6
And he banking or nahhhhh? Yes girl. Yesssss. I was like Damn Daddyyy. Okay well I need you to get the D now.
K thanks.
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Post by justbecause on Jun 8, 2018 7:48:02 GMT -6
Changing the sheets would be a nightmare. How do you find sheets that big?! Or is this two kings pushed together? I assume that it’s two beds. But it’s also a nightmare to bed share with your entire family. My mind was like “think of all the space we will save in the kids’ rooms!”
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Post by McBenny on Jun 8, 2018 7:48:42 GMT -6
I am not paying any debt that was created from identity theft.
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Post by Minerva on Jun 8, 2018 7:48:47 GMT -6
I wore my pants backwards to boot camp today. I realized it once I got there, but it’s outside, so there was no option but to roll with it. DH got DS dressed and ready for preschool graduation last night. Big mistake, even though I told him which clothes to use. He didn’t notice that DS put his pants on backwards. I was getting ready and getting our stuff together for dinner afterward, so I didn’t noticed that DS’s fly was on his butt until he was getting in line to graduate. My kid graduated preschool with his pants on backwards. 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by McBenny on Jun 8, 2018 7:49:33 GMT -6
How do you find sheets that big?! Or is this two kings pushed together? I assume that it’s two beds. But it’s also a nightmare to bed share with your entire family. My mind was like “think of all the space we will save in the kids’ rooms!” Are you seriously thinking about getting one? No judgment. I am in a wow place.
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Post by Rusty Red on Jun 8, 2018 7:49:48 GMT -6
I almost skipped a first date last night to finish my workout. That kind of hit me over the head, and I went on the date.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Jun 8, 2018 7:50:57 GMT -6
I am not paying any debt that was created from identity theft. Pin a God damned rose of your nose. That doesn't mean it doesn't happen to other people. Your experiences in life are not the only ones.
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Post by imapenguin on Jun 8, 2018 7:51:02 GMT -6
I am not paying any debt that was created from identity theft. She wasn’t willing to press charges against her mom so she had to tonprevent her credit from getting worse. I can’t say what I’d do because no one I’ve loved and trusted has ever screwed me like that.
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Post by justbecause on Jun 8, 2018 7:51:25 GMT -6
I assume that it’s two beds. But it’s also a nightmare to bed share with your entire family. My mind was like “think of all the space we will save in the kids’ rooms!” Are you seriously thinking about getting one? No judgment. I am in a wow place. Our space is so tight right now and we unfortunately had some set backs so we can’t move for another year. I considered it for a hot second but DNW my kids in my bed space. There has got to be another way. Maybe I should start a thread.
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Post by Nonniedee on Jun 8, 2018 7:51:38 GMT -6
That bed is the hardest of passes
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Post by McBenny on Jun 8, 2018 7:51:51 GMT -6
It's really not for life tho. For some it has been. Depending what the parent did. I just live in the camp of don’t use your kids social for bills, bail, jail and other non-kids things. I am not saying I am pro use just to be clear.
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Post by puff on Jun 8, 2018 7:52:09 GMT -6
I don't feel it follows you for life.
Even bankruptcies and judgments don't follow you for life. I don't agree with that statement. I did not say this is a thing to do. I made no statement of condoning it. I did not speak to any of that.
For many it will take a lifetime to unfuck what someone else did. Yes, I have a friend who had to put down $500 deposit for utilities because her parents used her name and never paid the bill.
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Post by wesleycrusher on Jun 8, 2018 7:53:24 GMT -6
Also it's a total mindfuck to learn your parents- who are supposed to protect you as children- put you at a serious disadvantage and tanked your credit.
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Post by Nonniedee on Jun 8, 2018 7:53:52 GMT -6
You know what's a pain? Being a namesake and getting bills that aren't yours.
Also, the AARP has been sending me membership cards since I was in high school.
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Post by McBenny on Jun 8, 2018 7:54:31 GMT -6
I am not paying any debt that was created from identity theft. Pin a God damned rose of your nose. That doesn't mean it doesn't happen to other people. Your experiences in life are not the only ones. I did not say it does not happen to other people. As a matter of fact, I did not speak to what happens to other people.
If you are going to do this thing where you follow me around and comment on what I post and quote, let me know now. That way I can order in for lunch and be petty and ready.
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Post by kmkd on Jun 8, 2018 7:55:06 GMT -6
I had to take a drug test for the County job I just got and I found a clinic that opened at 730am so that I could run right to my current job after. Well I chugged a bunch of coffee so I could pee right when I got in there and leave. As I am sitting in my car waiting for the doors to open I realize that I made a tiny huge mistake. Coffee poops were comin in hot. I thought I could just hold it, pee in a fucking cup, and do my business somewhere else. She hands me the cup, sends me into the bathroom and tells me I have 4 minutes and can't flush. Once I get in there I realize it's all or nothing and I'd like to give this poor lady an option since it was 730am after all. I come out with my head hanging low and an empty cup and have to fucking tell her that I have the coffee poops and didn't want to subject her to what was about to happen I then made some awkward joke about pushing 2 9lb babies out of this body and it seems to do whatever it wants now (WHY WOULD I SAY THAT). Her face. Guys. HER FACE. She told me it was VERY much against protocol but then looked at how pitiful I was and let me do it. Once all was said and done I told her that in all my years of giving people drug tests at my job I have heard the poop excuse 809832019283 times and NEVER once believed them. She looks and me and says "well looks like you can head in today and let them know that it's true hey?" Jesus take the wheel. I love you so very much.
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Post by rachydc on Jun 8, 2018 7:58:14 GMT -6
justbecause ,all I keep thinking of is the grandparent's bed from Willy Wonka Hard pass!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2018 7:58:24 GMT -6
38 yo me would be filing charges against my mother. 20 year old me who had no other support aside from my parents? Probably not
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Post by McBenny on Jun 8, 2018 7:59:47 GMT -6
I am not paying any debt that was created from identity theft. I don’t know. Some states make it really hard to get out of debt in your name. File all the police reports you want , dispute with the agencies you want. It doesn’t alhave aye work for everyone. And sometimes they just want it over and done. This is true.
There are also statute of limitations on debt as well which is where I was coming from in regards to the follow you for life comment.
Also there are times where making payments on old accounts keeps them alive and active and current and that gives them a longer life on your credit report when they would have fallen off. I know the statute vary per state but most are much less than a life time.
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Post by heybulldog on Jun 8, 2018 8:01:28 GMT -6
I’m not leaving my kids with shitty debt tied to their SS but I did leave my house a mess for my ILs. They’d re staying with the kids while H and I got to a wedding in NYC. So that’s my confession: We are leaving town today and I did not tidy up my house or leave food for my ILs or my children.
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Post by piratecat on Jun 8, 2018 8:01:54 GMT -6
You know what's a pain? Being a namesake and getting bills that aren't yours. Also, the AARP has been sending me membership cards since I was in high school. I get invitations to all kinds of Medicare/retirement info sessions and I’m like hm, free lunch eh? 😏
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Post by mb3 on Jun 8, 2018 8:01:56 GMT -6
We run credit checks annually and that’s how we found the last credit card. Putting a credit freeze is also an option for a minor I believe but I’m not certain and I don’t know the ins and outs and any cons to that. Credit monitoring should also be an option for anyone I think, regardless of age. What does he do when he finds this? Press charges? File a complaint? If I am being too nosy let me know. H called his dad. Who was stunned that we knew and kept trying to bluff until H told him the amount of the balance on said card (which showed up on the credit report). FIL tried to claim it was an accident and H called that out as a lie. It didn’t go further than that but seems to have scared FIL into behaving because we told him it could have interfered with our home buying and we keep close tabs now. In our case, we were lucky I guess that he doesn’t actually open cards in just someone else’s name but makes them a joint card owner so removing H was easy. The other times we know they have done this has been with my BIL who just goes along with it. If he or MIL ask for info H always asks why they need it. There have been many occasions where they claim they need the kids’ SSN or to be added on to some account with H when it’s not actually true and he just tells them that and provides alternate instructions. They argue a lot but since they don’t have their SSNs they can’t do more than yell at us.
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Post by Minerva on Jun 8, 2018 8:02:34 GMT -6
I almost skipped a first date last night to finish my workout. That kind of hit me over the head, and I went on the date. I’m glad to hear you went on the date. I hope it was a fun one!
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Post by piratecat on Jun 8, 2018 8:03:19 GMT -6
Meanwhile.. I have a 3481.27 gas bill in my name that I’m about to sue for. So there’s that. Fuck family. 😮😰😤
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Post by justbecause on Jun 8, 2018 8:03:40 GMT -6
Sometimes I think I’m not the best parent but then I think I’m not running up debt in their names, leaving them outside all day with no sunscreen, or putting koolaid in their bottles. All of which I’ve seen.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2018 8:06:02 GMT -6
I’m not leaving my kids with shitty debt tied to their SS but I did leave my house a mess for my ILs. They’d re staying with the kids while H and I got to a wedding in NYC. So that’s my confession: We are leaving town today and I did not tidy up my house or leave food for my ILs or my children. That would be the last time I babysat for you.
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