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Post by goldenbird on Jun 8, 2018 6:48:24 GMT -6
I would absolutely spend money gifted to my baby/child on necessities if I had to. It would be either that or having to ask our parents for money. If the money is there, I'm using it if I need to.
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tinyjoys
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Post by tinyjoys on Jun 8, 2018 6:49:14 GMT -6
I've used money from the big kid's bank as tooth fairy money for him. H & I are both horrible about keeping cash on us and the excuse about him losing it too late to get on the tooth fairy's schedule only works so many times. I always replace & double whatever I borrowed the next time I go grocery shopping and can pull out random dollar amounts at the register.
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piratecat
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Post by piratecat on Jun 8, 2018 6:49:50 GMT -6
notblanche I’m laughing so hard at you assuming she made it work somehow.
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Post by angelashly on Jun 8, 2018 6:51:23 GMT -6
I've used money from the big kid's bank as tooth fairy money for him. H & I are both horrible about keeping cash on us and the excuse about him losing it too late to get on the tooth fairy's schedule only works so many times. I always replace & double whatever I borrowed the next time I go grocery shopping and can pull out random dollar amounts at the register. yes this is me too.
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elodin
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Post by elodin on Jun 8, 2018 6:54:54 GMT -6
I've used money the kids get too. On stuff for them. Why the fuck would anyone judge that? These loin fruits are expensive. And they sure as hell don't need anymore toys. Clothes, diapers etc...yes.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2018 6:55:42 GMT -6
Work guy and I were casually chatting on Monday about my new job, pros and cons, comp packages, weird bonus structures, stock options etc. he gave me some vague variables and the next day I calculated his salary. And he banking or nahhhhh? Yes girl. Yesssss. I was like Damn Daddyyy.
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mb3
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Post by mb3 on Jun 8, 2018 6:56:52 GMT -6
Spending your kids money on necessities is the farthest thing from flameworthy, IMO. I don’t count borrowing/replacing it as spending.
But tell me you spent your kids savings account on a family vacation or your new house, a la my ILs, and I’ll be here to judge.
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normadix
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Post by normadix on Jun 8, 2018 6:57:14 GMT -6
When my kids got money for birthday/Christmas/etc when they were babies, I would use the money for bills if money was tight. What’s a 6 month old going to do with cash? I always felt terrible I never put it into a savings for them but hey, diapers ain’t cheap. DS1 is an early December birthday and DS2 is September so I usually save any gift cards they have for Christmas presents. They don't need more toys after their birthdays. I will prob stop doing this for DS1 for his next bday since he will be 5.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2018 6:57:46 GMT -6
No shits do I give about using a kid’s money for necessities.
No shits do I give if you replace it or not.
I have raided the piggy bank on many occasions and I paid DD back by putting her through college. She and anyone else can kiss my Korean ass if they think she got the short-end of the stick.
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Post by kellykapow on Jun 8, 2018 7:00:03 GMT -6
I’ve used money that was given to my son to buy diapers and such. I dont think it would be wrong to pay bills with it if you are struggling.
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rvasc
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Post by rvasc on Jun 8, 2018 7:00:46 GMT -6
Spending your kids money on necessities is the farthest thing from flameworthy, IMO. I don’t count borrowing/replacing it as spending. But tell me you spent your kids savings account on a family vacation or your new house, a la my ILs, and I’ll be here to judge. Are the kids living in the house? If so, meh. I think it’s only flameworthy if you’re taking little Johnny’s savings account and getting a pedicure.
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Cher
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Post by Cher on Jun 8, 2018 7:06:33 GMT -6
Someone in my universe lives an extremely nice life. On top of that, they have very generous parents. They told me they give them a five figure check per kid at the holidays. They also told me they don’t have savings accounts for the kids. I judge that but I give no fucks about paying bills or diapers or whatever with money for the kids.
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mb3
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Post by mb3 on Jun 8, 2018 7:08:31 GMT -6
Spending your kids money on necessities is the farthest thing from flameworthy, IMO. I don’t count borrowing/replacing it as spending. But tell me you spent your kids savings account on a family vacation or your new house, a la my ILs, and I’ll be here to judge. Are the kids living in the house? If so, meh. I think it’s only flameworthy if you’re taking little Johnny’s savings account and getting a pedicure. Eh, without getting in to too many details I’ll leave it at “it wasn’t necessary”. Which we only know because of how freely they share every detail about their financial state and they are not financially responsible. I see it as a symptom that they’re continuing the same behavior as their parents (which has been damaging to them). My judgement is limited to posting on the internet though and sending our nieces gifts as savings bonds instead of a check for birthdays/Christmas though.
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xtine22
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Post by xtine22 on Jun 8, 2018 7:09:34 GMT -6
I cried, hard, at a scene from Magic Mike XXL....
Because I need to explain. I am rewatching Parenthood and was watching it on my Tablet. Magic Mike was on the tv. It was the beginning when they were showing sights from Clearwater, Florida. I was a little ready eyed from Parenthood. We just moved from Tampa in September, I guess I was feeling a little emotional/missing the area.
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Post by lucilleaustero on Jun 8, 2018 7:12:17 GMT -6
notblanche, that is hilarious. I mean, Fergie did have an album called The Dutchess.
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mack
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Post by mack on Jun 8, 2018 7:12:28 GMT -6
Work guy and I were casually chatting on Monday about my new job, pros and cons, comp packages, weird bonus structures, stock options etc. he gave me some vague variables and the next day I calculated his salary. Duh. Solving for x at its finest. And people say learning algebra is a waste of time...
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2018 7:14:17 GMT -6
I'm hungover and it took me to long to figure out a 5 figure check was more than $1,000. Why would you write that much? Shouldn't the grandparents be putting it in a trust fund? SMH
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Post by veganontuesdays on Jun 8, 2018 7:17:43 GMT -6
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mack
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Post by mack on Jun 8, 2018 7:17:49 GMT -6
Why is it so quiet in here?
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Post by sheilathetank on Jun 8, 2018 7:18:27 GMT -6
The only thing I judge, and judge hard, is when people use their kid's social security number and rack up debt under their name, fucking them for life.
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Cher
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Post by Cher on Jun 8, 2018 7:18:48 GMT -6
I'm hungover and it took me to long to figure out a 5 figure check was more than $1,000. Why would you write that much? Shouldn't the grandparents be putting it in a trust fund? SMH Taxes.
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Post by angelashly on Jun 8, 2018 7:19:24 GMT -6
Why is it so quiet in here?
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mack
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Post by mack on Jun 8, 2018 7:20:14 GMT -6
Why is it so quiet in here? Oh, I forgot people have real lives and do fun things in the Summer.
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Post by angelashly on Jun 8, 2018 7:21:09 GMT -6
Oh, I forgot people have real lives and do fun things in the Summer. And yet it is my slow time at work
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Jun 8, 2018 7:21:37 GMT -6
I generally live in the camp of basically everything of my kids is mine until they are way older. So meh aboht the savings account. This is where I am basically.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Jun 8, 2018 7:22:45 GMT -6
The only thing I judge, and judge hard, is when people use their kid's social security number and rack up debt under their name, fucking them for life. It's really not for life tho.
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Post by sheilathetank on Jun 8, 2018 7:22:54 GMT -6
The only thing I judge, and judge hard, is when people use their kid's social security number and rack up debt under their name, fucking them for life. I mean... This is not the ONLY thing I judge by far but I'd tell an idiot to their face that they are a shit parent if they did this. This isn't even poor judgment it's illegal essentially. Even though it's illegal it happens a lot more than most people think.
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Post by veganontuesdays on Jun 8, 2018 7:23:46 GMT -6
I had to take a drug test for the County job I just got and I found a clinic that opened at 730am so that I could run right to my current job after. Well I chugged a bunch of coffee so I could pee right when I got in there and leave. As I am sitting in my car waiting for the doors to open I realize that I made a tiny huge mistake. Coffee poops were comin in hot. I thought I could just hold it, pee in a fucking cup, and do my business somewhere else. She hands me the cup, sends me into the bathroom and tells me I have 4 minutes and can't flush. Once I get in there I realize it's all or nothing and I'd like to give this poor lady an option since it was 730am after all.
I come out with my head hanging low and an empty cup and have to fucking tell her that I have the coffee poops and didn't want to subject her to what was about to happen I then made some awkward joke about pushing 2 9lb babies out of this body and it seems to do whatever it wants now (WHY WOULD I SAY THAT). Her face. Guys. HER FACE. She told me it was VERY much against protocol but then looked at how pitiful I was and let me do it.
Once all was said and done I told her that in all my years of giving people drug tests at my job I have heard the poop excuse 809832019283 times and NEVER once believed them. She looks and me and says "well looks like you can head in today and let them know that it's true hey?"
Jesus take the wheel.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2018 7:24:08 GMT -6
How do you use your kids SS number for debt? Are they opening credit cards? I'm kinda scandalized by that idea
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Post by Dramaphile on Jun 8, 2018 7:24:14 GMT -6
The only thing I judge, and judge hard, is when people use their kid's social security number and rack up debt under their name, fucking them for life. I mean... This is not the ONLY thing I judge by far but I'd tell an idiot to their face that they are a shit parent if they did this. This isn't even poor judgment it's illegal essentially. It is 100% identity theft and fraud and absolutely criminal- it can and should be prosecuted.
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