|
Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 17:41:58 GMT -6
So, I just opened up the treasure trove that is my ND page. There is a post with a picture (very clear, easily identifiable) of a man that this woman says sits in a local coffee shop and seems agitated, talking to himself, cursing, and says vile things to women. She is putting it on ND for the following reason: "I guess the point of this is to find out if people recognize him and maybe have some background info on this individual. I just end up moving seats, but again, I’m unnerved by him and it just doesn’t feel right. There’s more to this... has anyone else seen him around? Have you experienced something similar? Doesn’t hurt to be aware of your surroundings and to notice erratic behavior... I hope this is nothing and he is getting the help he obviously needs " What do you think? Is it ok for her to post about this and his picture on ND? Would you say something either way (support for her or against her posting this)? Would you report the post? Just curious if my initial reaction is what most people would think.
|
|
jsgrl
Platinum
Posts: 2,240 Likes: 9,682
|
Post by jsgrl on May 31, 2018 17:44:40 GMT -6
Fucking nextdoor.
I don't like it. The person's post, I mean.
I don't interact on nextdoor so I probably wouldn't engage but not a fan.
I think it just opens up an icky discussion about this guy's possible issues.
|
|
wasabi
Moderator
Posts: 18,832 Likes: 119,763
|
Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 17:46:26 GMT -6
If he’s saying vile things to people, then no I don’t have a problem with it one bit.
I get why you’re hesitant about it, but I’m pretty meh regarding her post.
I definitely wouldn’t report it, but that’s just me.
|
|
ripper
Opal
Posts: 8,601 Likes: 30,205
|
Post by ripper on May 31, 2018 17:47:04 GMT -6
If she is concerned for her safety, she should bring it to the management. It just rings gossipy and not compassionate to post his photo on ND looking for info. If someone did give her info (oh he’s the guy that lives behind me and he has schizophrenia), then what exactly does she do with that info? Basically, what’s her end game with this post?
|
|
ripper
Opal
Posts: 8,601 Likes: 30,205
|
Post by ripper on May 31, 2018 17:47:55 GMT -6
I wouldn’t report it or respond. But I would watch for drama bc well...
|
|
|
Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 17:48:15 GMT -6
If she is concerned for her safety, she should bring it to the management. It just rings gossipy and not compassionate to post his photo on ND looking for info. If someone did give her info (oh he’s the guy that lives behind me and he has schizophrenia), then what exactly does she do with that info? Basically, what’s her end game with this post? She said she reported it to management, but she feels nervous about that too because she feels she is putting the employees at risk if they have to confront him. She keeps repeating that she just wants to make everyone aware.
|
|
|
Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 17:48:17 GMT -6
I would report it. Definitely inappropriate.
|
|
wasabi
Moderator
Posts: 18,832 Likes: 119,763
|
Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 17:48:27 GMT -6
I mean, I guess the only thing is I don’t know what she hopes to accomplish, I am hoping she is searching for something other than to put the guy on blast or shame him.
|
|
|
Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 17:49:10 GMT -6
The title of the post is:
possible safety/mental health issue?
|
|
ripper
Opal
Posts: 8,601 Likes: 30,205
|
Post by ripper on May 31, 2018 17:49:14 GMT -6
If she is concerned for her safety, she should bring it to the management. It just rings gossipy and not compassionate to post his photo on ND looking for info. If someone did give her info (oh he’s the guy that lives behind me and he has schizophrenia), then what exactly does she do with that info? Basically, what’s her end game with this post? She said she reported it to management, but she feels nervous about that too because she feels she is putting the employees at risk if they have to confront him. She keeps repeating that she just wants to make everyone aware. Well, thanks lady for making us aware of all of the persons. Like, I still don’t get her. Whatever insight she might glean from ND isn’t going to do shit.
|
|
|
Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 17:49:48 GMT -6
I mean, I guess the only thing is I don’t know what she hopes to accomplish, I am hoping she is searching for something other than to put the guy on blast or shame him. Her first sentence says "I'm not trying to put this guy on blast"
|
|
wasabi
Moderator
Posts: 18,832 Likes: 119,763
|
Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 17:54:08 GMT -6
I mean, I guess the only thing is I don’t know what she hopes to accomplish, I am hoping she is searching for something other than to put the guy on blast or shame him. Her first sentence says "I'm not trying to put this guy on blast" I have a lot of questions. How old is she? If she’s young it can be a pretty unnerving thing (well, despite age there really), but she also might just really have no ill intentions and not know what to do. Has she brought it up to management before? I don’t know. I know you probably don’t know the answers to this. But at this moment I think she is acting in the way she sees fit and am giving her the benefit of the doubt. In feeling this way I am not saying I think he is deserving of any ill will.
|
|
|
Post by lolacachia on May 31, 2018 17:54:36 GMT -6
Her first sentence says "I'm not trying to put this guy on blast" But she still is anyway. It’s kind of icky. I wouldn’t post someone’s photo on there. This pretty much sums up my feelings. I really don't like she put the guys photo out there.
|
|
piratecat
Diamond
Posts: 36,005 Likes: 143,831
|
Post by piratecat on May 31, 2018 17:55:16 GMT -6
Does she identify the coffee shop? Does she give examples of the vile things he says to women? I just don’t get what she is trying to achieve. What will she do with the information people share about him?
|
|
|
Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 17:55:52 GMT -6
well, I responded because I'm a glutton for punishment in my life.
|
|
|
Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 17:56:52 GMT -6
Does she identify the coffee shop? Does she give examples of the vile things he says to women? I just don’t get what she is trying to achieve. What will she do with the information people share about him? Yes, she identified the coffee shop. She has seen him several times and the behavior is the same. She reported to management (not clear how many times) and when he sits next to her, she gets up and moves.
|
|
clucky
Opal
Posts: 7,826 Likes: 32,854
|
Post by clucky on May 31, 2018 17:57:19 GMT -6
ND is the epitome of people who don’t have SM knowledge.
I find it completely inappropriate to post a photo of someone else with that commentary. I’m not sure I would say anything, but then again maybe something short and to the point.
Occasionally, ours has a missing adult who may need help finding their way home, but those are posted by the seeker.
Also, we learned how many people in our neighborhood have chickens....who have also gone missing. So many chickens.
|
|
|
Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 18:00:09 GMT -6
Her first sentence says "I'm not trying to put this guy on blast" I have a lot of questions. How old is she? If she’s young it can be a pretty unnerving thing (well, despite age there really), but she also might just really have no ill intentions and not know what to do. Has she brought it up to management before? I don’t know. I know you probably don’t know the answers to this. But at this moment I think she is acting in the way she sees fit and am giving her the benefit of the doubt. In feeling this way I am not saying I think he is deserving of any ill will. Hard to tell her age based on her picture, but I would say under 40. Maybe late 20s or 30s?
|
|
clucky
Opal
Posts: 7,826 Likes: 32,854
|
Post by clucky on May 31, 2018 18:00:39 GMT -6
Does she identify the coffee shop? Does she give examples of the vile things he says to women? I just don’t get what she is trying to achieve. What will she do with the information people share about him? Yes, she identified the coffee shop. She has seen him several times and the behavior is the same. She reported to management (not clear how many times) and when he sits next to her, she gets up and moves. So he goes to a coffee shop as part of his routine. They probably know him well there. I’m in the “don’t understand her end game” camp.
|
|
|
Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 18:03:31 GMT -6
I don't think people should go around saying vile things to people. That's a problem. BUT, what can you do at some point? You move seats, you tell management, and... I don't know. That's kind of it. Especially when you live in a city. I mean, people are kind of in all kinds of spots in their lives. Some of it is not great, but it's not criminal either.
I feel very icky about his picture. He's probably in his 20s and I just keep thinking - that's someone's family member. He's a person too.
|
|
|
Post by lolacachia on May 31, 2018 18:03:32 GMT -6
So what is your stance on the issue? I'm assuming you also have a problem with her post?
Nvm posted at same time lol
|
|
soup
Platinum
Posts: 2,145 Likes: 19,661
|
Post by soup on May 31, 2018 18:03:50 GMT -6
What the fuck is posting this on Nextdoor going to do?
Not a damn thing.
Go drink your leisurely coffee elsewhere, lady, with your apparent abundant spare time.
|
|
|
Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 18:04:25 GMT -6
So what is your stance on the issue? I'm assuming you also have a problem with her post? I don't like it. It seems gossipy and the picture is in really poor taste to me. Here was my response: I don't feel adding a picture of this person to your post is necessary. You reported it to management. I think that's the end of the story unless you see something else and then you can decide how to proceed. I don't think it is productive or appropriate for people to speculate on his health issues or discuss any information they may have on him, as you suggest you are looking for.
|
|
|
Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 18:04:55 GMT -6
So we had a similar post except no picture and importantly it was mainly focused on need/how to help the person.
To me yours crossed the line because there’s a photo. I don’t understand the end game in either scenario but the photo is what takes it to an ick level
|
|
|
Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 18:05:57 GMT -6
ND is the epitome of people who don’t have SM knowledge. I find it completely inappropriate to post a photo of someone else with that commentary. I’m not sure I would say anything, but then again maybe something short and to the point. Occasionally, ours has a missing adult who may need help finding their way home, but those are posted by the seeker. Also, we learned how many people in our neighborhood have chickens....who have also gone missing. So many chickens. Tell us the truth, Clucky. You are collecting the chickens, aren't you?
|
|
wasabi
Moderator
Posts: 18,832 Likes: 119,763
|
Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 18:07:37 GMT -6
Go drink your leisurely coffee elsewhere, lady, with your apparent abundant spare time. I’m kind of lol at this tho. Is this a jab at her being able to get coffee at a coffee shop? And because she lives this “leisurely” lifestyle she should just deal with dudes making vile comments at her?
|
|
|
Post by lolacachia on May 31, 2018 18:08:12 GMT -6
I really like your response and I'm glad you spoke up. You're good people JG.
|
|
|
Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 18:09:52 GMT -6
Your response was much better than just reporting it. Hopefully she takes it down.
|
|
wasabi
Moderator
Posts: 18,832 Likes: 119,763
|
Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 18:10:08 GMT -6
Ugh. These are the kinds of threads I fucking hate getting into when I am trying to relax at home with a beer.
No disrespect to you, JG. Ftr, I think your response was 👌
|
|
piratecat
Diamond
Posts: 36,005 Likes: 143,831
|
Post by piratecat on May 31, 2018 18:10:18 GMT -6
Yes, she identified the coffee shop. She has seen him several times and the behavior is the same. She reported to management (not clear how many times) and when he sits next to her, she gets up and moves. So he goes to a coffee shop as part of his routine. They probably know him well there. I’m in the “don’t understand her end game” camp. If he is being that offensive/threatening as she makes it seem, I can’t imagine the coffee shop not doing anything about it. If he is just talking to himself, etc., I can understand feeling uncomfortable but I can’t imagine being so affected by it to feel compelled to post about it with a picture and all. My imagination is having a hard time today.
|
|