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Post by soup on May 31, 2018 18:10:55 GMT -6
Go drink your leisurely coffee elsewhere, lady, with your apparent abundant spare time. I’m kind of lol at this tho. Is this a jab at her being able to get coffee at a coffee shop? And because she lives this “leisurely” lifestyle she should just deal with dudes making vile comments at her? It's a jab that she has the time to go sit and have coffee, take a photo, upload it to Nextdoor, and start a discussion about a man who clearly suffers from some kind of illness.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 18:11:08 GMT -6
I really like your response and I'm glad you spoke up. You're good people JG. I'm sure I will regret it by the time I get home. Lol. I'm just sensitive when people talk mental illness like that. He's been arm chair diagnosed by several neighbors. Ugh.
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Post by PandaWatch on May 31, 2018 18:11:38 GMT -6
. Also, we learned how many people in our neighborhood have chickens....who have also gone missing. So many chickens. Well, with a name like clucky, I have to ask: Are they in your backyard??
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Post by PandaWatch on May 31, 2018 18:12:29 GMT -6
ND is the epitome of people who don’t have SM knowledge. I find it completely inappropriate to post a photo of someone else with that commentary. I’m not sure I would say anything, but then again maybe something short and to the point. Occasionally, ours has a missing adult who may need help finding their way home, but those are posted by the seeker. Also, we learned how many people in our neighborhood have chickens....who have also gone missing. So many chickens. Tell us the truth, Clucky. You are collecting the chickens, aren't you? Damn it.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 18:13:04 GMT -6
Ugh. These are the kinds of threads I fucking hate getting into when I am trying to relax at home with a beer. No disrespect to you, JG. Ftr, I think your response was 👌 Sorry. I'm avoiding work and just wanted to check my offended meter. I'm in the middle of my period and not drinking, so I didn't know if I was being a special kind of sensitive today. Forget this story and get your drink on lady.
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Post by PandaWatch on May 31, 2018 18:14:37 GMT -6
I don't think people should go around saying vile things to people. That's a problem. BUT, what can you do at some point? You move seats, you tell management, and... I don't know. That's kind of it. Especially when you live in a city. I mean, people are kind of in all kinds of spots in their lives. Some of it is not great, but it's not criminal either. I feel very icky about his picture. He's probably in his 20s and I just keep thinking - that's someone's family member. He's a person too. This all suns up my thoughts and feelings on it. If it were me, and I had reported it to management and nothing changed, I’d probably stop going there, TBH. I’d just find another coffee shop.
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Post by hufflepug on May 31, 2018 18:15:38 GMT -6
I'm curious to know if anyone else in your neighborhood has encountered this person and had a similar experience with him, and also what her definition of vile is.
I live in a neighborhood that has had some pretty large demographic swings over the last 40 years and we get posts like this a lot and there is usually some kind of racist motivation behind them. One was a woman freaking out because to "suspicious looking African American men" wouldn't give her their IDs when she asked for them. I am always a little suspect of posts like this.
I think your response was great. If it's an issue let the management deal with it. They always have the option of calling the police if it's truly a disturbance.
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Post by klong11 on May 31, 2018 18:17:24 GMT -6
The post is fine, but she shouldn't have posted his picture. She could have asked the same questions without putting his face out there.
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Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 18:19:16 GMT -6
I’m kind of lol at this tho. Is this a jab at her being able to get coffee at a coffee shop? And because she lives this “leisurely” lifestyle she should just deal with dudes making vile comments at her? It's a jab that she has the time to go sit and have coffee, take a photo, upload it to Nextdoor, and start a discussion about a man who clearly suffers from some kind of illness. What does her having the time to sit at a coffee shop have to do with it? Let’s not jump to conclusions with anyone in his scenario. Maybe she just lost her job and has no WiFi and the coffee shop is where she goes to sit and apply for jobs. I don’t know, I’m remembering supervising sbux and having to tell people to leave for similar things. I sympathize heavily with metal issues, but there’s a line that needs to be drawn.
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Post by PandaWatch on May 31, 2018 18:20:58 GMT -6
I’m kind of lol at this tho. Is this a jab at her being able to get coffee at a coffee shop? And because she lives this “leisurely” lifestyle she should just deal with dudes making vile comments at her? It's a jab that she has the time to go sit and have coffee, take a photo, upload it to Nextdoor, and start a discussion about a man who clearly suffers from some kind of illness. Wait, what’s wrong with having free time? You seem offended by this.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 18:22:36 GMT -6
I'm curious to know if anyone else in your neighborhood has encountered this person and had a similar experience with him, and also what her definition of vile is. I live in a neighborhood that has had some pretty large demographic swings over the last 40 years and we get posts like this a lot and there is usually some kind of racist motivation behind them. One was a woman freaking out because to "suspicious looking African American men" wouldn't give her their IDs when she asked for them. I am always a little suspect of posts like this. I think your response was great. If it's an issue let the management deal with it. They always have the option of calling the police if it's truly a disturbance. No one else has piped up about knowing him. One lady before me said she didn’t like the post, but she kind of went over the top with her point. So now a bunch of people are thanking the OP for bringing this up. Some people said report to management. One guy brought up a case where a guy was muttering on the subway and then stabbed people. One guy mentioned a murder from 30 years ago. A couple diagnosis posts based on the behavior. ETA: and the olds are remembering the good old days when we didn’t have to worry. Also, I sometimes see what you’re talking about with race issues. This is a white poster talking about a white guy.
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Post by Jesslfar on May 31, 2018 18:23:53 GMT -6
That post is every day on my ND. Earlier in the week a woman posted about a man she felt was following her. Days later she posted an apology saying she was contacted by the family of the person she posted the photo of and she feels badly for posting it because it turns out he has a mental illness. I am not in favor of posting pics unless the person is breaking the law myself and would not dream of it. A physical description of the person would have been enough.
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Post by soup on May 31, 2018 18:25:25 GMT -6
It's a jab that she has the time to go sit and have coffee, take a photo, upload it to Nextdoor, and start a discussion about a man who clearly suffers from some kind of illness. What does her having the time to sit at a coffee shop have to do with it? Let’s not jump to conclusions with anyone in his scenario. Maybe she just lost her job and has no WiFi and the coffee shop is where she goes to sit and apply for jobs. I don’t know, I’m remembering supervising sbux and having to tell people to leave for similar things. I sympathize heavily with metal issues, but there’s a line that needs to be drawn. It has everything to do with it. People who have actual things to do don’t spend their time taking photos of “vile” people and posting them on Nextdoor to make others “aware.”
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Post by piratecat on May 31, 2018 18:26:27 GMT -6
I'm curious to know if anyone else in your neighborhood has encountered this person and had a similar experience with him, and also what her definition of vile is. I live in a neighborhood that has had some pretty large demographic swings over the last 40 years and we get posts like this a lot and there is usually some kind of racist motivation behind them. One was a woman freaking out because to "suspicious looking African American men" wouldn't give her their IDs when she asked for them. I am always a little suspect of posts like this. I think your response was great. If it's an issue let the management deal with it. They always have the option of calling the police if it's truly a disturbance. She asked strangers for their IDs? What in the fuck?
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Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 18:27:03 GMT -6
What does her having the time to sit at a coffee shop have to do with it? Let’s not jump to conclusions with anyone in his scenario. Maybe she just lost her job and has no WiFi and the coffee shop is where she goes to sit and apply for jobs. I don’t know, I’m remembering supervising sbux and having to tell people to leave for similar things. I sympathize heavily with metal issues, but there’s a line that needs to be drawn. It has everything to do with it. People who have actual things to do don’t spend their time taking photos of “vile” people and posting them on Nextdoor to make others “aware.” Eh. I have “actual” things to do and yet here I am on this time suck of a message board. (That I love)
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Post by hufflepug on May 31, 2018 18:28:14 GMT -6
I'm curious to know if anyone else in your neighborhood has encountered this person and had a similar experience with him, and also what her definition of vile is. I live in a neighborhood that has had some pretty large demographic swings over the last 40 years and we get posts like this a lot and there is usually some kind of racist motivation behind them. One was a woman freaking out because to "suspicious looking African American men" wouldn't give her their IDs when she asked for them. I am always a little suspect of posts like this. I think your response was great. If it's an issue let the management deal with it. They always have the option of calling the police if it's truly a disturbance. No one else has piped up about knowing him. One lady before me said she didn’t like the post, but she kind of went over the top with her point. So now a bunch of people are thanking the OP for bringing this up. Some people said report to management. One guy brought up a case where a guy was muttering on the subway and then stabbed people. One guy mentioned a murder from 30 years ago. A couple diagnosis posts based on the behavior. ETA: and the olds are remembering the good old days when we didn’t have to worry. Also, I sometimes see what you’re talking about with race issues. This is a white poster talking about a white guy. Oh good, JG's Next Door. Let's bring up shit that's completely unrelated and really ruffle some feathers. My goodness.
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Post by thatgolfb on May 31, 2018 18:28:45 GMT -6
If he’s saying vile things to people, then no I don’t have a problem with it one bit. I get why you’re hesitant about it, but I’m pretty meh regarding her post. I definitely wouldn’t report it, but that’s just me. All of this. I was meh until the saying vile things to women part. I'm kind of surprised the coffee shop allows him to be in there if he does that all the time. Did the woman try to say anything to the shop before posting this? Probably not because Nextdoor is mainly for bitching.
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Post by thatgolfb on May 31, 2018 18:29:06 GMT -6
I should have just +1 this. If she is concerned for her safety, she should bring it to the management. It just rings gossipy and not compassionate to post his photo on ND looking for info. If someone did give her info (oh he’s the guy that lives behind me and he has schizophrenia), then what exactly does she do with that info? Basically, what’s her end game with this post?
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 18:29:11 GMT -6
No one else had piped up about knowing him. One lady before me said she didn’t like the post, but she kind of went over the top with her point. So now a bunch of people are thanking the OP for bringing this up. Some people said report to management. One guy brought up a case where a guy was muttering on the subway and then stabbed people. One guy mentioned a murder from 30 years ago. A couple diagnosis posts based on the behavior. Oh Jesus. Next door doing its thang
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Post by PandaWatch on May 31, 2018 18:30:13 GMT -6
What does her having the time to sit at a coffee shop have to do with it? Let’s not jump to conclusions with anyone in his scenario. Maybe she just lost her job and has no WiFi and the coffee shop is where she goes to sit and apply for jobs. I don’t know, I’m remembering supervising sbux and having to tell people to leave for similar things. I sympathize heavily with metal issues, but there’s a line that needs to be drawn. It has everything to do with it. People who have actual things to do don’t spend their time taking photos of “vile” people and posting them on Nextdoor to make others “aware.” But plenty of people who have free time don’t do these things. Correlation does not imply causation, and all that.
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Post by thatgolfb on May 31, 2018 18:30:19 GMT -6
If she is concerned for her safety, she should bring it to the management. It just rings gossipy and not compassionate to post his photo on ND looking for info. If someone did give her info (oh he’s the guy that lives behind me and he has schizophrenia), then what exactly does she do with that info? Basically, what’s her end game with this post? She said she reported it to management, but she feels nervous about that too because she feels she is putting the employees at risk if they have to confront him. She keeps repeating that she just wants to make everyone aware. But like... It is their job to deal with customers and if this person is acting like this to other customers and running them off, they need to address it. They could have an officer present if they need to confront him.
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Post by piratecat on May 31, 2018 18:30:43 GMT -6
It's a jab that she has the time to go sit and have coffee, take a photo, upload it to Nextdoor, and start a discussion about a man who clearly suffers from some kind of illness. What does her having the time to sit at a coffee shop have to do with it? Let’s not jump to conclusions with anyone in his scenario. Maybe she just lost her job and has no WiFi and the coffee shop is where she goes to sit and apply for jobs. I don’t know, I’m remembering supervising sbux and having to tell people to leave for similar things. I sympathize heavily with metal issues, but there’s a line that needs to be drawn. That last part is why I’m skeptical about what she considers to be vile, if the coffee shop doesn’t appear to be making him leave.
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Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 18:31:19 GMT -6
Also *newsflash* we can sympathize with people who have mental issues but still not be ok with their actions. The picture may have been much, but I’m not going to be all POOR GUY for some dude who may be saying actual harmful things to people.
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Post by hufflepug on May 31, 2018 18:32:35 GMT -6
I'm curious to know if anyone else in your neighborhood has encountered this person and had a similar experience with him, and also what her definition of vile is. I live in a neighborhood that has had some pretty large demographic swings over the last 40 years and we get posts like this a lot and there is usually some kind of racist motivation behind them. One was a woman freaking out because to "suspicious looking African American men" wouldn't give her their IDs when she asked for them. I am always a little suspect of posts like this. I think your response was great. If it's an issue let the management deal with it. They always have the option of calling the police if it's truly a disturbance. She asked strangers for their IDs? What in the fuck? Yes. She noticed them standing near her house through her Ring or NestCam and asked them through the device to show IDs and then called the cops on them when they didn't. She described them as being young/late teens-early 20s. It was a day off in our district so I'm guessing it was just kids hanging around. She was appropriately taken to task by most and the olds swooped in and applauded her for being aware of her surroundings. K.
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Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 18:33:53 GMT -6
What does her having the time to sit at a coffee shop have to do with it? Let’s not jump to conclusions with anyone in his scenario. Maybe she just lost her job and has no WiFi and the coffee shop is where she goes to sit and apply for jobs. I don’t know, I’m remembering supervising sbux and having to tell people to leave for similar things. I sympathize heavily with metal issues, but there’s a line that needs to be drawn. That last part is why I’m skeptical about what she considers to be vile, if the coffee shop doesn’t appear to be making him leave. Sometimes people are too nice/scared to bring things like this up to management. They don’t want to be the one to rock the boat. Trust me. I had people apparently being bothersome/hostile in my old store for months and finally one person would say something and we would make them leave and 5 other people would be like “thank god you finally got him to leave he’s been saying ‘blah’ to me for weeks..” etc.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 18:37:05 GMT -6
Also *newsflash* we can sympathize with people who have mental issues but still not be ok with their actions. The picture may have been much, but I’m not going to be all POOR GUY for some dude who may be saying actual harmful things to people. I’ll be so mad if I WK’d this dude and he calls me the C word next time I get some coffee.
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Post by piratecat on May 31, 2018 18:37:30 GMT -6
She asked strangers for their IDs? What in the fuck? Yes. She noticed them standing near her house through her Ring or NestCam and asked them through the device to show IDs and then called the cops on them when they didn't. She described them as being young/late teens-early 20s. It was a day off in our district so I'm guessing it was just kids hanging around. She was appropriately taken to task by most and the olds swooped in and applauded her for being aware of her surroundings. K. I just... What would she even have done with their IDs anyway? Aware of her surroundings while inside her house?? What.
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Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 18:38:52 GMT -6
Also *newsflash* we can sympathize with people who have mental issues but still not be ok with their actions. The picture may have been much, but I’m not going to be all POOR GUY for some dude who may be saying actual harmful things to people. I’ll be so mad if I WK’d this dude and he calls me the C word next time I get some coffee. Lolol well then I hope you have your camera ready!
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Post by soup on May 31, 2018 18:40:45 GMT -6
It has everything to do with it. People who have actual things to do don’t spend their time taking photos of “vile” people and posting them on Nextdoor to make others “aware.” Eh. I have “actual” things to do and yet here I am on this time suck of a message board. (That I love) Posting on a message board such as this one is vastly different from taking and uploading photos of a stranger and calling for a discussion of said stranger’s fitness to sit at your coffee shop.
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 31, 2018 18:40:54 GMT -6
Also *newsflash* we can sympathize with people who have mental issues but still not be ok with their actions. The picture may have been much, but I’m not going to be all POOR GUY for some dude who may be saying actual harmful things to people. You are aware of the irony of you posting this given the title of the drinking thread, right? That is vile to some people. I don't think anyone here cares. Or it could be
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