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Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 18:43:07 GMT -6
Also *newsflash* we can sympathize with people who have mental issues but still not be ok with their actions. The picture may have been much, but I’m not going to be all POOR GUY for some dude who may be saying actual harmful things to people. You are aware of the irony of you posting this given the title of the drinking thread, right? That is vile to some people. I don't think anyone here cares. Or it could be  lol well I was just making that connection a few minutes ago. But it is vastly different to say “hey slut” to a friend (y’all are my friends OK), than it is to say “hey slut” to a complete stranger. But this is like 101 info here, yeah? |
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Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 18:44:19 GMT -6
Eh. I have “actual” things to do and yet here I am on this time suck of a message board. (That I love) Posting on a message board such as this one is vastly different from taking and uploading photos of a stranger and calling for a discussion of said stranger’s fitness to sit at your coffee shop. Tomato tomahto. I still take your comment as seeming a bit “bingo” y’all have no lives kind of thing |
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Post by soup on May 31, 2018 18:46:41 GMT -6
Posting on a message board such as this one is vastly different from taking and uploading photos of a stranger and calling for a discussion of said stranger’s fitness to sit at your coffee shop. Tomato tomahto. I still take your comment as seeming a bit “bingo” y’all have no lives kind of thing LOL. No bingo here. I am also posting right this second. And nice re tomato tomahto! |
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 31, 2018 18:47:41 GMT -6
You are aware of the irony of you posting this given the title of the drinking thread, right? That is vile to some people. I don't think anyone here cares. Or it could be lol well I was just making that connection a few minutes ago. But it is vastly different to say “hey slut” to a friend (y’all are my friends OK), than it is to say “hey slut” to a complete stranger. But this is like 101 info here, yeah? Totally. But seem people have poor social filters. But saying vile things doesn't mean he is threatening anyone. What he's saying matters a bit. |
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Post by pobre on May 31, 2018 18:51:15 GMT -6
What does her having the time to sit at a coffee shop have to do with it? Let’s not jump to conclusions with anyone in his scenario. Maybe she just lost her job and has no WiFi and the coffee shop is where she goes to sit and apply for jobs. I don’t know, I’m remembering supervising sbux and having to tell people to leave for similar things. I sympathize heavily with metal issues, but there’s a line that needs to be drawn. It has everything to do with it. People who have actual things to do don’t spend their time taking photos of “vile” people and posting them on Nextdoor to make others “aware.” Are you high? |
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Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 18:51:47 GMT -6
lol well I was just making that connection a few minutes ago. But it is vastly different to say “hey slut” to a friend (y’all are my friends OK), than it is to say “hey slut” to a complete stranger. But this is like 101 info here, yeah? Totally. But seem people have poor social filters. But saying vile things doesn't mean he is threatening anyone. What he's saying matters a bit. Yeah. I’m not making a judgment call on either person at this point with the information given. Im merely giving a point of view which is not jumping down the girls throat for maybe making an innocent (possibly ignorant, naive?) mistake. Or maybe she is justified? I don’t know yet. |
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Post by pobre on May 31, 2018 18:52:59 GMT -6
I’m somewhere in the middle. Saying quote unquote vile things isn’t enough info for me, so I can’t say it’s the right thing to do.
I personally have encountered shit worse and wouldn’t have thought to put it on nextdoor...but this is nextdoor. Like everyone is #new here or what?
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Post by piratecat on May 31, 2018 19:04:00 GMT -6
That last part is why I’m skeptical about what she considers to be vile, if the coffee shop doesn’t appear to be making him leave. Sometimes people are too nice/scared to bring things like this up to management. They don’t want to be the one to rock the boat. Trust me. I had people apparently being bothersome/hostile in my old store for months and finally one person would say something and we would make them leave and 5 other people would be like “thank god you finally got him to leave he’s been saying ‘blah’ to me for weeks..” etc. I guess I can see that too. Although she said she did tell management so they are aware. It’s one thing if she feels like they are not responding appropriately but her post doesn’t seem to be about that. |
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 19:13:05 GMT -6
I hate this shit.
Someone on my ND made a post about teenagers being assholes at a nearby Starbucks - and posted their pictures! “In case their parents recognize them, they can discipline them” 🙈
I was the only one to say how inappropriate it was and report the post. So many people were like “I’d be appreciative if these were my kids! I wanna know if they aren’t acting right when I’m around! It takes a village!”
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Post by piratecat on May 31, 2018 19:15:02 GMT -6
I hate this shit. Someone on my ND made a post about teenagers being assholes at a nearby Starbucks - and posted their pictures! “In case their parents recognize them, they can discipline them” 🙈 I was the only one to say how inappropriate it was and report the post. So many people were like “I’d be appreciative if these were my kids! I wanna know if they aren’t acting right when I’m around! It takes a village!” 🙄🙄🙄 |
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Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 19:18:37 GMT -6
I also feel meh about the teenager post. I am a “it takes a village” person though, so. I want to hear when my kid is being an asshole.
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Post by moutonrouge on May 31, 2018 19:19:52 GMT -6
We had this happen on my ND page. Someone posted a photo of a man with a bunch of dogs. The man had threatened her with his dogs and she wanted to report him to the humane society, but needed his name and address. Other neighbors chimed in, some with info about him and some to say this was not okay since he was not on ND to defend himself.
Had the dogs bitten her or anyone, I could understand the post. But short of that it was a bit much. Even though we're in the city it's a small community - ask any neighbor "Hey, do you know the man with 5 dogs who walks along here in the morning?" and they could tell you who he was and where his house is.
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Post by Cher on May 31, 2018 19:23:19 GMT -6
I see both sides. I see how it’s inappropriate buuuut I’m still on NYC Facebook groups. There have been a number of people: a woman that spits on people, a guy that takes pictures of kids, an old man that yells racist shit. People have uploaded pics with a “hey this lady hangs out on the east 80’s, if you see her when you’re out, cross the street because she spits on babies.”
Sometimes, the discussion turned to “hey she has mental issues, have a little respect”, which I totally get but .... I also don’t want to get spit on. So maybe the OP has nothing better to do orrrr good looking out?
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 19:25:01 GMT -6
I also feel meh about the teenager post. I am a “it takes a village” person though, so. I want to hear when my kid is being an asshole. All kids can be assholes. I’m going to assume that my kids are going to be assholes when away from me at some point. I don’t need some holier than thou person posting my minor’s picture to ND to shame them and me for their behavior. |
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 31, 2018 19:29:09 GMT -6
We had this happen on my ND page. Someone posted a photo of a man with a bunch of dogs. The man had threatened her with his dogs and she wanted to report him to the humane society, but needed his name and address. Other neighbors chimed in, some with info about him and some to say this was not okay since he was not on ND to defend himself. Had the dogs bitten her or anyone, I could understand the post. But short of that it was a bit much. Even though we're in the city it's a small community - ask any neighbor "Hey, do you know the man with 5 dogs who walks along here in the morning?" and they could tell you who he was and where his house is. But isn't that exactly what they are doing with NextDoor? |
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 19:29:28 GMT -6
I also feel meh about the teenager post. I am a “it takes a village” person though, so. I want to hear when my kid is being an asshole. All kids can be assholes. I’m going to assume that my kids are going to be assholes when away from me at some point. I don’t need some holier than thou person posting my minor’s picture to ND to shame them and me for their behavior. Yeah, I’m not down with the public shaming of kids/teens on Social media. I’ve spoken out about that before too. It takes a village, but to me that means bringing it up when you see. Like if I see a kid doing something wrong, I’d tell them to their face. ETA: or vent about it to my friends. 🤣 |
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 19:33:53 GMT -6
Update: based on the picture someone thinks he was arrested yesterday for accosting a woman.
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Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 19:34:45 GMT -6
I also feel meh about the teenager post. I am a “it takes a village” person though, so. I want to hear when my kid is being an asshole. All kids can be assholes. I’m going to assume that my kids are going to be assholes when away from me at some point. I don’t need some holier than thou person posting my minor’s picture to ND to shame them and me for their behavior. Nextdoor is a bit far. But honestly I feel like if my kid is being an asshole (obviously with this being a hypothetical situation that we haven’t even defined maybe it would depend on the particular situation). Buuuut, I would rather know about this asshole (maybe) situation than someone being too scared to speak up because we’re too quick to go after the messenger. I feel like we are making too many excuses for too many people and it’s creating a not so great environment (oh hey flame suit) |
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Post by wasabi on May 31, 2018 19:37:28 GMT -6
Re: the village. Our village has expanded SO MUCH since that term started. Sure, the village used to be something you could show up to someone’s home and talk directly to them but now there are so many people in someone’s village, so maybe we should not necessarily write off someone on something like next door speaking up about our children. Just a thought.
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Post by moutonrouge on May 31, 2018 19:37:28 GMT -6
We had this happen on my ND page. Someone posted a photo of a man with a bunch of dogs. The man had threatened her with his dogs and she wanted to report him to the humane society, but needed his name and address. Other neighbors chimed in, some with info about him and some to say this was not okay since he was not on ND to defend himself. Had the dogs bitten her or anyone, I could understand the post. But short of that it was a bit much. Even though we're in the city it's a small community - ask any neighbor "Hey, do you know the man with 5 dogs who walks along here in the morning?" and they could tell you who he was and where his house is. But isn't that exactly what they are doing with NextDoor? To me, it seemed like this was a person who would rather ask the internet than speak to an actual neighbor. The man in the photo was black, the poster was white, and most of the neighborhood is black. People commented that it was like she put up his picture as a Wanted poster for the whole zip code to see because she had a disagreement with him one time. |
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Post by Lord Disick on May 31, 2018 19:43:16 GMT -6
Update: based on the picture someone thinks he was arrested yesterday for accosting a woman. Plot twist! |
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 19:46:16 GMT -6
Update: based on the picture someone thinks he was arrested yesterday for accosting a woman. Plot twist! Hold the phone. Someone’s asking for proof. |
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Post by Lord Disick on May 31, 2018 19:49:10 GMT -6
Hold the phone. Someone’s asking for proof. Your ND is much more interesting than mine. About once a week someone post something about a missing persons or needing a recommendation for someone to tile their shower. I'm not exaggerating. |
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 31, 2018 19:53:47 GMT -6
This better not be a let down like the blue barrels.
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Post by joy on May 31, 2018 19:56:30 GMT -6
I was going to bed but now I’m all “okay, let’s see what’s going on with proof...”
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 19:56:40 GMT -6
The picture has been removed. I feel good about that.
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Post by clucky on May 31, 2018 19:58:06 GMT -6
ND is the epitome of people who don’t have SM knowledge. I find it completely inappropriate to post a photo of someone else with that commentary. I’m not sure I would say anything, but then again maybe something short and to the point. Occasionally, ours has a missing adult who may need help finding their way home, but those are posted by the seeker. Also, we learned how many people in our neighborhood have chickens....who have also gone missing. So many chickens. Tell us the truth, Clucky. You are collecting the chickens, aren't you? Though my name would suggest otherwise, no, we have too many kids to add livestock. We have a decent sized yard, but no space for chickens. |
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Post by thechickencoop on May 31, 2018 19:58:07 GMT -6
The post is weird but, no, I wouldn't report it.
If he's cursing and saying vile things to women, then why not say something to the manager or owner of the establishment? I would think they would like to avoid unruly customers....
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 19:58:24 GMT -6
This better not be a let down like the blue barrels. I passed by a house with a ton of those barrels outside when I was visiting my aunt this weekend. I thought of y’all. It was definitely something shady. 🤣 |
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 19:59:55 GMT -6
I was going to bed but now I’m all “okay, let’s see what’s going on with proof...” You’re safe to go to bed. This post will probably carry on for the next 72 hours. Or until someone else wants to post about high rents or traffic or dog poop. |
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