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Post by fancynewbeesly on Apr 12, 2018 6:57:36 GMT -6
I agree with CherWe belong to a lot of local childhood cancer organizations. They are amazing. Some are established. Some are in the grassroots stage. However if you live in our area you MAY have heard of them, but probably not. Those Facebook birthday charities are helping them grow. Not only in donations but also in name recognition. All of them do amazing work.
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Post by angelashly on Apr 12, 2018 6:58:11 GMT -6
I honestly hate these kinds of posts. It's been years and years of many of us posting together. We've managed to survive and continue to chat. And it was brought up in the fucking OP and is obviously topical. You could just not participate instead of doing this meta-sociological retrospective on the state of the board. Plenty of people are friends (or... you know... even married) for years and years and become extremely familiar without running out of topics. I kind of love that we are in this phase of evolution of our forum, actually. I feel like we are at our second home here and I can kick off my shoes put my feet on the couch and drink wine while talking
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Post by unheardof on Apr 12, 2018 6:58:19 GMT -6
I'm looking around at new vehicles and am 98% positive I am buying a minivan. Preferably a Honda Odyssey.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2018 6:58:22 GMT -6
Before anyone says something, yes, I can be the change. But, I think our group of posters has become so familiar with each other, that we’re running out of topics. I honestly hate these kinds of posts. It's been years and years of many of us posting together. We've managed to survive and continue to chat. And it was brought up in the fucking OP and is obviously topical. You could just not participate instead of doing this meta-sociological retrospective on the state of the board. Plenty of people are friends (or... you know... even married) for years and years and become extremely familiar without running out of topics. I also actually think it’s kind of important to talk about stuff we’ve already talked about sometimes because, like in the real world, opinions and perspectives can change and you never know which conversation might provide someone with like a personal epiphany (I can give my specific example lol).
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Post by unheardof on Apr 12, 2018 6:58:43 GMT -6
And I'm sorry, I know we have the minivan battle often but that's all I got.
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Post by mack on Apr 12, 2018 6:59:15 GMT -6
I also enjoy the seasonal arguments that we have every year.
Dressing vs stuffing. What is appropriate Thanksgiving food. Are cadbury eggs delicious or abominations filled with sugar jizz. Jean shorts on boys. Etc. etc.
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Post by unheardof on Apr 12, 2018 6:59:23 GMT -6
And now I'm amused by the timing of my posts.
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Post by mack on Apr 12, 2018 7:00:17 GMT -6
My birthday is next month and I am probably going to do a fundraiser on FB for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. Haters to the left.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2018 7:00:30 GMT -6
Well thanks to this thread I will not be taking a lunch break later. I am now taking a breakfast break, driving to Mickey D's and getting myself some god damn hot cakes and sausage. YASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSs omg there are so many better McD's options. Can’t control my pregnancy cravings Hillary!!
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Post by chickenonsunday on Apr 12, 2018 7:01:00 GMT -6
Do you really hate the charity fundraisers or feel the person posting the request on FB is being disingenuous?
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Post by rvasc on Apr 12, 2018 7:01:25 GMT -6
I feel like we are at our second home here and I can kick off my shoes put my feet on the couch and drink wine while talking or leave our shoes on, as one does. McBenny. Or no feet on the couch. Whatever floats your boat. thisbitch
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Post by chickenonsunday on Apr 12, 2018 7:01:49 GMT -6
I also enjoy the seasonal arguments that we have every year. Dressing vs stuffing. What is appropriate Thanksgiving food. Are cadbury eggs delicious or abominations filled with sugar jizz. Jean shorts on boys. Etc. etc. White lights v colored lights
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Post by rvasc on Apr 12, 2018 7:02:34 GMT -6
I have changed my opinion of Facebook fundraisers right here in this thread today.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2018 7:02:56 GMT -6
I also enjoy the seasonal arguments that we have every year. Dressing vs stuffing. What is appropriate Thanksgiving food. Are cadbury eggs delicious or abominations filled with sugar jizz. Jean shorts on boys. Etc. etc. Wait, what’s wrong with Jean shorts on boys? It’s 70 degrees here and I pulled out an adorable pair of Jean shorts for my infant boy. Am I breaking some taboo? you’ll never know because it’s been discussed before, so we shan’t discuss it again.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Apr 12, 2018 7:02:58 GMT -6
Basically, FB allows users to create a fundraiser in honor of their birthday. The user picks the charity it will go to, the deadline, and the end goal. FB then promotes the fundraiser on your friends' feeds. It's fucking shitty. I hate it. why is it fucking shitty? I think it’s a good use of a birthday to fundraise for others. You don’t have to give. It’s a good reminder for me. I tend to live in my own world and only donate to the more “known” charities so when it’s in my face I’m more likely to donate. Does that make sense?
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Post by icedcoffee on Apr 12, 2018 7:03:13 GMT -6
I don’t have a problem with people asking me to donate to a charity. I’m also not a person who feels any guilt for saying no. Like when they ask me at petco if I want to donate a dollar to homeless pets—press the x and keep it moving. Same except I can never turn down St. Jude’s. It’s the one charity I always donate to if asked. Me too
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2018 7:03:14 GMT -6
I have changed my opinion of Facebook fundraisers right here in this thread today. Same, TBH.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Apr 12, 2018 7:03:49 GMT -6
You guys can really hate on everything. I have seen a lot of bday fundraisers that have gotten huge amounts. If it’s a charity against guns, I’m guaranteed to donate. I have also donated to charities I’ve never heard of because I like the person and/or the charity. These are all donations these charities would never get, but are because of FB. Who cares how it appears or how you feel, it’s not about that. It’s about charities getting money. You’re really saying that’s a bad thing? My *only* qualm with the fb ones is the presumption I’ve seen with the posts as it’s usually a canned thing like “For my birthday instead of gifts I’m asking for donations to X charity.” Like wait I wasn’t getting you a gift, so....? It kind of seems book instead of card to me? I’d rather it be a more personal post like “hey I know you might not have planned to get me anything, but I’d love if you’d consider donating to this cause that’s really important to me.” Just like an acknowledgement that this is an above and beyond thing. I don’t know, it’s my own hang up. I’m not anti. I know this is a radical thought- but maybe it isn't always about you (general you)? I also have zero issues with the book instead of a card thing. God forbid they give suggestions for what people actually want. And again- it's a suggestion.
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Post by angelashly on Apr 12, 2018 7:03:52 GMT -6
I honestly hate these kinds of posts. It's been years and years of many of us posting together. We've managed to survive and continue to chat. And it was brought up in the fucking OP and is obviously topical. You could just not participate instead of doing this meta-sociological retrospective on the state of the board. Plenty of people are friends (or... you know... even married) for years and years and become extremely familiar without running out of topics. I also actually think it’s kind of important to talk about stuff we’ve already talked about sometimes because, like in the real world, opinions and perspectives can change and you never know which conversation might provide someone with like a personal epiphany (I can give my specific example lol). Or people weren't present that day and are now so they are hearing it for the first time
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Apr 12, 2018 7:04:34 GMT -6
I don't get the hate over fundraisers. Don't like it? Don't donate. Unfollow them or unfriend them. You are in control of your life there. I’d much rather fundraisers than Tupperware pitches.
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Post by hawkward on Apr 12, 2018 7:04:40 GMT -6
You guys can really hate on everything. I have seen a lot of bday fundraisers that have gotten huge amounts. If it’s a charity against guns, I’m guaranteed to donate. I have also donated to charities I’ve never heard of because I like the person and/or the charity. These are all donations these charities would never get, but are because of FB. Who cares how it appears or how you feel, it’s not about that. It’s about charities getting money. You’re really saying that’s a bad thing? My *only* qualm with the fb ones is the presumption I’ve seen with the posts as it’s usually a canned thing like “For my birthday instead of gifts I’m asking for donations to X charity.” Like wait I wasn’t getting you a gift, so....? It kind of seems book instead of card to me? I’d rather it be a more personal post like “hey I know you might not have planned to get me anything, but I’d love if you’d consider donating to this cause that’s really important to me.” Just like an acknowledgement that this is an above and beyond thing. I don’t know, it’s my own hang up. I’m not anti. This is like last year when DS1 was really sick and MIL posted something along the lines of "this year I'm spending my birthday in X town because my grandson is sick, so I don't want any presents, all I want are your prayers for him." Yeah, your 856 FB friends weren't buying you presents and driving them to your house so they don't need to know where you are, plus we asked you specifically to not share things about our kids on social media and way to make your grandson's hospitalization about you.
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Post by Cher on Apr 12, 2018 7:05:08 GMT -6
I’m going to invite all of you to my birthday fundraiser in 3 months. Now to pick a worthy charity! Will donate.
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Post by rvasc on Apr 12, 2018 7:06:04 GMT -6
Wait, what’s wrong with Jean shorts on boys? It’s 70 degrees here and I pulled out an adorable pair of Jean shorts for my infant boy. Am I breaking some taboo? My personal opinion on this is that they are a no go on grown men. Cute on kids. +1
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Post by shitsngiggles on Apr 12, 2018 7:06:58 GMT -6
I'm looking around at new vehicles and am 98% positive I am buying a minivan. Preferably a Honda Odyssey. I bought a minivan last month (Chrysler Pacifica) and looooove it. This morning on the way to daycare, ds2 told me he loved our van too. I held out as long as I could, but now I wish I would have bought one earlier.
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Post by valiente on Apr 12, 2018 7:07:01 GMT -6
I think if the post was "For my birthday, I want to bring attention to the work of this charity. What they're doing is really important to me and I'd love for them to be supported. Here's the link to find out more and make a donation." it would sit better.
Donating your birthday to a cause or whatever the wording is fb uses makes me cringe.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Apr 12, 2018 7:07:21 GMT -6
I'm going to do a birthday fundraiser just for you @frank. It's already been bugging me to start one.
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Post by AnnPerkins on Apr 12, 2018 7:07:47 GMT -6
Oatmeal is gross.
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Post by lizblue on Apr 12, 2018 7:08:07 GMT -6
Before anyone says something, yes, I can be the change. But, I think our group of posters has become so familiar with each other, that we’re running out of topics. I honestly hate these kinds of posts. It's been years and years of many of us posting together. We've managed to survive and continue to chat. And it was brought up in the fucking OP and is obviously topical. You could just not participate instead of doing this meta-sociological retrospective on the state of the board. Plenty of people are friends (or... you know... even married) for years and years and become extremely familiar without running out of topics. Also - it's kind of a weird point of view. I mean, I've known my sister for all of her 37 years of life and we have plenty of things to talk about. I've known my other sister for 36 years and we find new things to fight about every single time we get drunk together. Life is happening, how does one run out of topics?
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Post by mack on Apr 12, 2018 7:08:49 GMT -6
We have had the discussion countless times about whether or not you tell Grandma or other olds not to use pejorative terms that were acceptable a million years ago. I used to think, you aren't going to change them at 90 years old so what's the point and it's not their fault they were raised in less PC times.
Over the course of iterations of this discussion that we have had, I changed my opinion about this, and a few weeks ago actually spoke up to my 82 year old uncle. He was talking about two black security guards and he referred to them as colored. Instead of letting it go, I told him that was not an acceptable term. He said "well what are you supposed to call them?" I told him Black, African American, or you could just call them security guards.
It may or may not change his language, but because of perspectives that have been shared on this board, I felt like it was important to speak up.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Apr 12, 2018 7:09:39 GMT -6
I think if the post was "For my birthday, I want to bring attention to the work of this charity. What they're doing is really important to me and I'd love for them to be supported. Here's the link to find out more and make a donation." it would sit better. Donating your birthday to a cause or whatever the wording is fb uses makes me cringe. So your issue is because some people are lazy or don't know they can change it, or that they aren't awesome with words? That says nothing about them and everything about you.
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