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Post by mrsweasley on Mar 9, 2018 13:16:31 GMT -6
Random. Are you team short hair or long hair for those first few months of newborn life? Mine was at a super awkward length in between last time and I hated it (the same length it's at now -_-). So far I have- short hair- cooler, lighter, cuts off at least 10 min from my wash/dry time, but I have to style it to make it presentable (takes anywhere from 5-20min depending on hair day). long hair- hotter, weighs more, takes 42 years to air dry since it's so thick, but I can just throw it up in a bun and look fairly decent. I had a pixie cut when DS was a baby and it was great, but I don't have the time for upkeep anymore. It's long now and I rarely style it, just throw it in a bun and go about my day. Easier IMO
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Post by pbandjelly on Mar 9, 2018 13:24:33 GMT -6
notmoose Have also cried over food, I can sympathize. I’d be so angry. My inlaws came for dinner on Friday and decided not to leave until Sunday afternoon. Pregnancy is hindering my ability to fake being nice and it was a struggle to get through the weekend. They mentioned coming to stay when the baby is born and I need to ensure that does not happen. My ILs always overstay their welcome. For Xmas we gave them specific dates and that "didn't work" for MIL so she did whatever she wanted. She also gets super rude once I start getting snippy. When we lived in CA it got to the point they had to stay in a hotel, but they didn't visit often because she's terrified of flying and it's "expensive". Now that we're about a 4 hour drive apart (and they're retired) I'm just waiting for them to show up unannounced. MH and I have had some arguments about dealing with them. He feels it's disrespectful to speak up against them, so it's a work in progress. It doesn't help that MIL doesn't engage with the kids, I honestly don't think she even held DD as a baby when we did finally see them. Sorry for the commiseration rant, feel free to bitch anytime. When we went to visit them when DD was 2 months old, I spent a lot of time hiding in the bedroom "nursing", so keep that in mind. I didn't have any issues nursing in front of people, but it was a convenient excuse to hide I would hide in my room to pump when the ILs were over. I mean, obviously I wasn't going to pump on front of them, but I pumped a lot more when they were over. Then MIL decided to just walk into my room without knocking to just go looking through my room for scissors. She left the room immediately and now knocks. And I lock my door, lol.
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Post by mrsweasley on Mar 9, 2018 13:26:02 GMT -6
Well I'm all caught up I passed my glucose test this week, yay! I've also had super weird dreams. Earlier this week I dreamt I had the baby, but it was a baby seal 😂
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Post by mrsweasley on Mar 9, 2018 13:27:27 GMT -6
My ILs always overstay their welcome. For Xmas we gave them specific dates and that "didn't work" for MIL so she did whatever she wanted. She also gets super rude once I start getting snippy. When we lived in CA it got to the point they had to stay in a hotel, but they didn't visit often because she's terrified of flying and it's "expensive". Now that we're about a 4 hour drive apart (and they're retired) I'm just waiting for them to show up unannounced. MH and I have had some arguments about dealing with them. He feels it's disrespectful to speak up against them, so it's a work in progress. It doesn't help that MIL doesn't engage with the kids, I honestly don't think she even held DD as a baby when we did finally see them. Sorry for the commiseration rant, feel free to bitch anytime. When we went to visit them when DD was 2 months old, I spent a lot of time hiding in the bedroom "nursing", so keep that in mind. I didn't have any issues nursing in front of people, but it was a convenient excuse to hide I would hide in my room to pump when the ILs were over. I mean, obviously I wasn't going to pump on front of them, but I pumped a lot more when they were over. Then MIL decided to just walk into my room without knocking to just go looking through my room for scissors. She left the room immediately and now knocks. And I lock my door, lol. The bedroom door in our house was warped a little when we moved in and didn't latch. You can bet we remedied that! My MIL also likes to barge in unannounced and go through all my stuff. She's even used the master bathroom before 😒
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Post by cara on Mar 9, 2018 13:49:51 GMT -6
I would hide in my room to pump when the ILs were over. I mean, obviously I wasn't going to pump on front of them, but I pumped a lot more when they were over. Then MIL decided to just walk into my room without knocking to just go looking through my room for scissors. She left the room immediately and now knocks. And I lock my door, lol. The bedroom door in our house was warped a little when we moved in and didn't latch. You can bet we remedied that! My MIL also likes to barge in announced and go through all my stuff. She's even used the master bathroom before 😒OMG mrsweasley
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Post by ohreally on Mar 9, 2018 14:16:18 GMT -6
DD's eczema is getting worse. I have a feeling it's related to dairy, maybe gluten. But cutting out either is going to be a nightmare, since that is all the child eats. She doesn't eat meat, seafood, veggies, smoothies (except for the Naked Green Machine), baked goods, waffles/pancakes, beans, nut butters, etc. Every meal is a freaking battle already just to get her to try things, but most of the time, she won't even touch it. She'll sit in her high chair for 2 hours and refuse to try anything. I'm so tired of it. Have you considered allergy testing? My daughter's eczema was caused by food allergies (mostly legumes, some nuts too). We had a good starting point for testing because we were able to narrow down trigger foods. It might be worth considering if you don't want to deal with the hassle of trial and error, especially with her limited palate.
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Post by notmoose on Mar 9, 2018 15:22:10 GMT -6
I want to do an elective 3d ultrasound but I'm afraid they'll slip and tell me the sex. I just want to see better pics of the baby. I only got 1 and it isn't a great one.
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Post by kaeguri on Mar 9, 2018 15:31:20 GMT -6
DD's eczema is getting worse. I have a feeling it's related to dairy, maybe gluten. But cutting out either is going to be a nightmare, since that is all the child eats. She doesn't eat meat, seafood, veggies, smoothies (except for the Naked Green Machine), baked goods, waffles/pancakes, beans, nut butters, etc. Every meal is a freaking battle already just to get her to try things, but most of the time, she won't even touch it. She'll sit in her high chair for 2 hours and refuse to try anything. I'm so tired of it. Have you considered allergy testing? My daughter's eczema was caused by food allergies (mostly legumes, some nuts too). We had a good starting point for testing because we were able to narrow down trigger foods. It might be worth considering if you don't want to deal with the hassle of trial and error, especially with her limited palate. I have, but I thought it might be expensive. We have an HSA plan right now, so paying pretty much out of pocket til we hit our deductible.
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Post by kaeguri on Mar 9, 2018 15:31:56 GMT -6
The bedroom door in our house was warped a little when we moved in and didn't latch. You can bet we remedied that! My MIL also likes to barge in announced and go through all my stuff. She's even used the master bathroom before 😒OMG mrsweasley mrsweasley wat. no.
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Post by kaeguri on Mar 9, 2018 15:33:00 GMT -6
I finally pulled out my snoogle last night and omg, best sleep ever. Until DD came into the bed at the crack of dawn, and discovered that burrowing between the snoogle and my belly is super comfy.
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Post by ohreally on Mar 9, 2018 15:50:45 GMT -6
Have you considered allergy testing? My daughter's eczema was caused by food allergies (mostly legumes, some nuts too). We had a good starting point for testing because we were able to narrow down trigger foods. It might be worth considering if you don't want to deal with the hassle of trial and error, especially with her limited palate. I have, but I thought it might be expensive. We have an HSA plan right now, so paying pretty much out of pocket til we hit our deductible. Having a baby will help take care of that deductible in a hurry!
I just had allergy testing done for my daughter last month and it was $500 before insurance. Insurance only knocked $40 bucks off. So, yes, it is pricey. And that was just the lab fee. The doctor visit was another $170 after insurance.
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Post by imapenguin on Mar 9, 2018 16:16:57 GMT -6
My ILs always overstay their welcome. For Xmas we gave them specific dates and that "didn't work" for MIL so she did whatever she wanted. She also gets super rude once I start getting snippy. When we lived in CA it got to the point they had to stay in a hotel, but they didn't visit often because she's terrified of flying and it's "expensive". Now that we're about a 4 hour drive apart (and they're retired) I'm just waiting for them to show up unannounced. MH and I have had some arguments about dealing with them. He feels it's disrespectful to speak up against them, so it's a work in progress. It doesn't help that MIL doesn't engage with the kids, I honestly don't think she even held DD as a baby when we did finally see them. Sorry for the commiseration rant, feel free to bitch anytime. When we went to visit them when DD was 2 months old, I spent a lot of time hiding in the bedroom "nursing", so keep that in mind. I didn't have any issues nursing in front of people, but it was a convenient excuse to hide I would hide in my room to pump when the ILs were over. I mean, obviously I wasn't going to pump on front of them, but I pumped a lot more when they were over. Then MIL decided to just walk into my room without knocking to just go looking through my room for scissors. She left the room immediately and now knocks. And I lock my door, lol. I always went to my room to nurse when the ILs visited too. One time, MIL was spending time with DD while I napped and she needed to eat, so MIL brought me the baby, and I was like, ok thanks, just close the door for me. So she did...except she was still in the room. And I was like, oh, no, I’m going to nurse her, and she said, I don’t mind. And I was like, well I do, so I need you to leave.
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 9, 2018 16:18:01 GMT -6
People going through my stuff is my worst nightmare. I would be so pissed.
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Post by imapenguin on Mar 9, 2018 16:18:39 GMT -6
I would hide in my room to pump when the ILs were over. I mean, obviously I wasn't going to pump on front of them, but I pumped a lot more when they were over. Then MIL decided to just walk into my room without knocking to just go looking through my room for scissors. She left the room immediately and now knocks. And I lock my door, lol. The bedroom door in our house was warped a little when we moved in and didn't latch. You can bet we remedied that! My MIL also likes to barge in unannounced and go through all my stuff. She's even used the master bathroom before 😒 Omg, my MIL showers in my bathroom everytime she visits! We have 2 other bathrooms, including the one attached to the room she sleeps in that I make sure is well stocked before she arrives.
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 9, 2018 16:18:48 GMT -6
I would hide in my room to pump when the ILs were over. I mean, obviously I wasn't going to pump on front of them, but I pumped a lot more when they were over. Then MIL decided to just walk into my room without knocking to just go looking through my room for scissors. She left the room immediately and now knocks. And I lock my door, lol. I always went to my room to nurse when the ILs visited too. One time, MIL was spending time with DD while I napped and she needed to eat, so MIL brought me the baby, and I was like, ok thanks, just close the door for me. So she did...except she was still in the room. And I was like, oh, no, I’m going to nurse her, and she said, I don’t mind. And I was like, well I do, so I need you to leave. Hawkward!!
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 9, 2018 16:19:41 GMT -6
The bedroom door in our house was warped a little when we moved in and didn't latch. You can bet we remedied that! My MIL also likes to barge in unannounced and go through all my stuff. She's even used the master bathroom before 😒 Omg, my MIL showers in my bathroom everytime she visits! We have 2 other bathrooms, including the one attached to the room she sleeps in that I make sure is well stocked before she arrives. Wtf. Your MIL is not my favorite person lol.
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 9, 2018 16:20:19 GMT -6
Well I'm all caught up I passed my glucose test this week, yay! I've also had super weird dreams. Earlier this week I dreamt I had the baby, but it was a baby seal 😂 Oh my gosh lol 🤣
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Post by mrsweasley on Mar 9, 2018 16:25:17 GMT -6
The bedroom door in our house was warped a little when we moved in and didn't latch. You can bet we remedied that! My MIL also likes to barge in unannounced and go through all my stuff. She's even used the master bathroom before 😒 Omg, my MIL showers in my bathroom everytime she visits! We have 2 other bathrooms, including the one attached to the room she sleeps in that I make sure is well stocked before she arrives. I would put my foot down on that. I have showered in my parent's master bathroom, but that's what we used growing up. Now I clean their 2nd shower myself because MH doesn't need to use it We also have 4 bathrooms, 2 full and 2 half. One day I'd love to explore putting a shower in the basement bathroom because we have a futon down there for company. I know it will probably be $$$ though and we're not in a position to do it now.
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Post by cornflakegirl on Mar 9, 2018 16:28:46 GMT -6
My ILs always overstay their welcome. For Xmas we gave them specific dates and that "didn't work" for MIL so she did whatever she wanted. She also gets super rude once I start getting snippy. When we lived in CA it got to the point they had to stay in a hotel, but they didn't visit often because she's terrified of flying and it's "expensive". Now that we're about a 4 hour drive apart (and they're retired) I'm just waiting for them to show up unannounced. MH and I have had some arguments about dealing with them. He feels it's disrespectful to speak up against them, so it's a work in progress. It doesn't help that MIL doesn't engage with the kids, I honestly don't think she even held DD as a baby when we did finally see them. Sorry for the commiseration rant, feel free to bitch anytime. When we went to visit them when DD was 2 months old, I spent a lot of time hiding in the bedroom "nursing", so keep that in mind. I didn't have any issues nursing in front of people, but it was a convenient excuse to hide I would hide in my room to pump when the ILs were over. I mean, obviously I wasn't going to pump on front of them, but I pumped a lot more when they were over. Then MIL decided to just walk into my room without knocking to just go looking through my room for scissors. She left the room immediately and now knocks. And I lock my door, lol. Omg no!
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Post by cornflakegirl on Mar 9, 2018 16:33:36 GMT -6
I would hide in my room to pump when the ILs were over. I mean, obviously I wasn't going to pump on front of them, but I pumped a lot more when they were over. Then MIL decided to just walk into my room without knocking to just go looking through my room for scissors. She left the room immediately and now knocks. And I lock my door, lol. I always went to my room to nurse when the ILs visited too. One time, MIL was spending time with DD while I napped and she needed to eat, so MIL brought me the baby, and I was like, ok thanks, just close the door for me. So she did...except she was still in the room. And I was like, oh, no, I’m going to nurse her, and she said, I don’t mind. And I was like, well I do, so I need you to leave. This sounds like my MIL after I had DS. I was very self conscious to nurse in front of anyone besides DH and MIL would always somehow drop by when it was time for DS to eat. I finally had to tell her one day that I rather be alone when it was time to nurse. After that I would simply tell her it's time for DS to eat and she would leave us.
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Post by cornflakegirl on Mar 9, 2018 16:36:45 GMT -6
I am not looking forward to visiting the I need privacy thing again 😬
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Post by imapenguin on Mar 9, 2018 16:48:57 GMT -6
I always went to my room to nurse when the ILs visited too. One time, MIL was spending time with DD while I napped and she needed to eat, so MIL brought me the baby, and I was like, ok thanks, just close the door for me. So she did...except she was still in the room. And I was like, oh, no, I’m going to nurse her, and she said, I don’t mind. And I was like, well I do, so I need you to leave. This sounds like my MIL after I had DS. I was very self conscious to nurse in front of anyone besides DH and MIL would always somehow drop by when it was time for DS to eat. I finally had to tell her one day that I rather be alone when it was time to nurse. After that I would simply tell her it's time for DS to eat and she would leave us. In general she has no sense of appropriate boundaries. I tore horribly when DD was born (thanks 99th percentile head), so there was a lot of gauze and packing up there for several days that had to be changed. MIL was here once when the doctor came to check it and when the doctor cleared the room, MIL again said, oh I don’t mind. Then the doctor earned herself a place in my favorite people list and said, your comfort is not my priority, everyone needs to leave. She keeps telling MH she wants to be in the delivery room this time, and he knows enough to not lead her on, but she keeps bringing it up anyway. I told him to tell her if she keeps that up she won’t even get a call until we are in the recovery room, but he doesn’t want to be rude.
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Post by imapenguin on Mar 9, 2018 16:50:13 GMT -6
I’m getting riled up. I need to stop thinking back to that summer.
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 9, 2018 16:53:18 GMT -6
It's so bizarre when people say "I don't mind" in situations like that. Like...well great, but no one asked if you minded? Get out!
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 9, 2018 16:54:30 GMT -6
imapenguin MH has a HUGE head. He can't even wear off the rack sunglasses. I'm scared.
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Post by imapenguin on Mar 9, 2018 16:56:03 GMT -6
imapenguin MH has a HUGE head. He can't even wear off the rack sunglasses. I'm scared. MH’s head is tall, but his hat size is small. I blame my MIL for that one. Because why not?!!
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 9, 2018 16:57:52 GMT -6
imapenguin MH has a HUGE head. He can't even wear off the rack sunglasses. I'm scared. MH’s head is tall, but his hat size is small. I blame my MIL for that one. Because why not?!! Lol! His baby pictures are something else. He was bald as all get out and super pale, with this huge head. His parents' heads seem normal size so I don't know what happened. And he is very short. So unfair.
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Post by kaeguri on Mar 9, 2018 17:09:12 GMT -6
imapenguin, H also has a huge head. DD had a 99th percentile head too. I also tore. And she was crooked, so her giant head got stuck on my pelvic bone and I ended up pushing for almost 5 hours. The entire pregnancy, MIL would keep reminding me how big H was (he was 10 lbs something). Like, thanks lady. I was already terrified of labor. That didn't help.
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Post by cornflakegirl on Mar 9, 2018 17:50:00 GMT -6
This sounds like my MIL after I had DS. I was very self conscious to nurse in front of anyone besides DH and MIL would always somehow drop by when it was time for DS to eat. I finally had to tell her one day that I rather be alone when it was time to nurse. After that I would simply tell her it's time for DS to eat and she would leave us. In general she has no sense of appropriate boundaries. I tore horribly when DD was born (thanks 99th percentile head), so there was a lot of gauze and packing up there for several days that had to be changed. MIL was here once when the doctor came to check it and when the doctor cleared the room, MIL again said, oh I don’t mind. Then the doctor earned herself a place in my favorite people list and said, your comfort is not my priority, everyone needs to leave. She keeps telling MH she wants to be in the delivery room this time, and he knows enough to not lead her on, but she keeps bringing it up anyway. I told him to tell her if she keeps that up she won’t even get a call until we are in the recovery room, but he doesn’t want to be rude. I have a hard time understanding how anyone thinks it's ok to invade someone's privacy like that. Like I wouldn't let my mom in the delivery room but I am also a very private person. It seems like your MIL does not take a hint at all. If I was in your situation I would have H take care of that asap and not have you worry about it.
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Post by imapenguin on Mar 9, 2018 18:20:15 GMT -6
In general she has no sense of appropriate boundaries. I tore horribly when DD was born (thanks 99th percentile head), so there was a lot of gauze and packing up there for several days that had to be changed. MIL was here once when the doctor came to check it and when the doctor cleared the room, MIL again said, oh I don’t mind. Then the doctor earned herself a place in my favorite people list and said, your comfort is not my priority, everyone needs to leave. She keeps telling MH she wants to be in the delivery room this time, and he knows enough to not lead her on, but she keeps bringing it up anyway. I told him to tell her if she keeps that up she won’t even get a call until we are in the recovery room, but he doesn’t want to be rude. I have a hard time understanding how anyone thinks it's ok to invade someone's privacy like that. Like I wouldn't let my mom in the delivery room but I am also a very private person. It seems like your MIL does not take a hint at all. If I was in your situation I would have H take care of that asap and not have you worry about it. I’m not worried about it. I know the nurses won’t let her in if I tell them not to. Part of the problem is that I like to have my mom there, so she’s concerned with fairness, but you know, I will be mostly naked and life’s not fair 🤷♀️
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