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Post by origami on Feb 8, 2024 12:49:18 GMT -6
Part of the housing problem in CA (and I’m sure other places) is that people stay in the same home once they are done raising their family and younger families don’t have places to move into. I get it because selling your home and buying a much smaller home for the same or more (due to inflation) is a bummer. But something has got to give. Looking at the boomers. Same up the west coast. I grew up in larger houses than I have now with parents who had less money than I do now. And yet I can’t get a three bedroom so my kids have their own sleep pods in their one bedroom for some semblance of privacy and we took out a heloc to put in a second bathroom. I will say the second toilet makes this feel totally manageable and we have a great backyard for the seven months a year we can use it daily.
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Post by flojo on Feb 8, 2024 12:57:12 GMT -6
I got it down to a dozen. New year, new me. 💁♀️ Come join me in my workaround. Instead of keeping tabs open, I’ll screenshot the contents and close the tab. So then I have 1695626 random pictures on my phone that I never look at!
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Post by flojo on Feb 8, 2024 13:03:01 GMT -6
Confession on behalf of MH: Last year we went on a trip just the two of us. Normally I do all of the travel planning but MH booked this whole trip. He was very proud of himself.
So we’re in line for security at the airport and I ask him to see the boarding passes for seat numbers. He shows me and I see that he booked my ticket with my maiden name. Which I changed 11 years ago. He looked at me and in all seriousness said “do you think that will be a problem?” Yes, yes it was a problem.
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Post by agm04 on Feb 8, 2024 13:10:41 GMT -6
I think fundraising for the direct benefit of the school and students is fine but I can't stand this nationwide shit of pushing fundraisers for American Heart Association telling students they can "win prizes" for donations. Stop hyping up my kid with the notion of a key chain to get my $10, go knock on Fortune 500's door. YES. also let's quit with all the junk prizes in general, bc i swear that's like half my house. the kids get attached bc they "won that!" and i hate it.
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Post by sweptaway on Feb 8, 2024 13:11:29 GMT -6
Confession on behalf of MH: Last year we went on a trip just the two of us. Normally I do all of the travel planning but MH booked this whole trip. He was very proud of himself. So we’re in line for security at the airport and I ask him to see the boarding passes for seat numbers. He shows me and I see that he booked my ticket with my maiden name. Which I changed 11 years ago. He looked at me and in all seriousness said “do you think that will be a problem?” Yes, yes it was a problem. ..... why did he do that?
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Post by flojo on Feb 8, 2024 13:18:27 GMT -6
Confession on behalf of MH: Last year we went on a trip just the two of us. Normally I do all of the travel planning but MH booked this whole trip. He was very proud of himself. So we’re in line for security at the airport and I ask him to see the boarding passes for seat numbers. He shows me and I see that he booked my ticket with my maiden name. Which I changed 11 years ago. He looked at me and in all seriousness said “do you think that will be a problem?” Yes, yes it was a problem. ..... why did he do that? No idea. He does have ADHD but, yeah. There wasn’t enough time to call United and straighten it out, so we would up buying another ticket with my actual, legal name. It was very confusing when they were paging me under my maiden name to check in for the flight but I was already checked in. Fun (and costly!) times.
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Post by brux on Feb 8, 2024 13:25:44 GMT -6
No idea. He does have ADHD but, yeah. There wasn’t enough time to call United and straighten it out, so we would up buying another ticket with my actual, legal name. It was very confusing when they were paging me under my maiden name to check in for the flight but I was already checked in. Fun (and costly!) times. this solution confounds me even more! Is this what the airline told you to do? I would've assumed you could've worked with someone at the airport to pay the ticket change fee on the spot.
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Post by flojo on Feb 8, 2024 13:28:29 GMT -6
No idea. He does have ADHD but, yeah. There wasn’t enough time to call United and straighten it out, so we would up buying another ticket with my actual, legal name. It was very confusing when they were paging me under my maiden name to check in for the flight but I was already checked in. Fun (and costly!) times. this solution confounds me even more! Is this what the airline told you to do? I would've assumed you could've worked with someone at the airport to pay the ticket change fee on the spot. We were already running late and he was worried that we’d miss the flight if we got out of the security line to figure things out. He tried calling but United asked for a copy of our marriage certificate, which we shockingly didn’t have on us! It was a cluster and I made MH handle it which probably wasn’t the best decision lol.
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Post by piratecat on Feb 8, 2024 13:34:56 GMT -6
Confession on behalf of MH: Last year we went on a trip just the two of us. Normally I do all of the travel planning but MH booked this whole trip. He was very proud of himself. So we’re in line for security at the airport and I ask him to see the boarding passes for seat numbers. He shows me and I see that he booked my ticket with my maiden name. Which I changed 11 years ago. He looked at me and in all seriousness said “do you think that will be a problem?” Yes, yes it was a problem.
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Post by piratecat on Feb 8, 2024 13:38:03 GMT -6
this solution confounds me even more! Is this what the airline told you to do? I would've assumed you could've worked with someone at the airport to pay the ticket change fee on the spot. We were already running late and he was worried that we’d miss the flight if we got out of the security line to figure things out. He tried calling but United asked for a copy of our marriage certificate, which we shockingly didn’t have on us! It was a cluster and I made MH handle it which probably wasn’t the best decision lol. He could have just said "I don't ever want to plan a trip ever again."
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Post by sterling on Feb 8, 2024 13:41:13 GMT -6
Wait, so did you purchase the second ticket in line while you were waiting to go through security? flojo
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Post by willow on Feb 8, 2024 13:42:05 GMT -6
Between the ungodly amount of open tabs and the Foo Fighters hate, I am about to have a aneurysm. But, both fulfilled the assignment, at least.
I am the person that gets itchy if I have more than 3-4 tabs open so, there's that.
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Post by sterling on Feb 8, 2024 13:43:22 GMT -6
Between the ungodly amount of open tabs and the Foo Fighters hate, I am about to have a aneurysm. But, both fulfilled the assignment, at least. I am the person that gets itchy if I have more than 3-4 tabs open so, there's that. At least we haven’t talked about {Spoiler}Taylor Swift yet 😈
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Post by miawallace on Feb 8, 2024 13:44:20 GMT -6
Part of the housing problem in CA (and I’m sure other places) is that people stay in the same home once they are done raising their family and younger families don’t have places to move into. I get it because selling your home and buying a much smaller home for the same or more (due to inflation) is a bummer. But something has got to give. Looking at the boomers. It’s interesting bc a lot of Hispanic families I know have a multi family/generation situation going. I rarely know people where it’s just the boomers still in their house. Maybe more in white neighborhoods. it’s cheaper that way. My sister and her family live with my parents. I think people overlook that cultural part when it comes to greater LA and So Cal.
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Post by flojo on Feb 8, 2024 13:46:35 GMT -6
Wait, so did you purchase the second ticket in line while you were waiting to go through security? flojoYup. And the final kicker, which I didn’t realize at the time, was that he bought a one-way ticket thinking he could get it straightened out for the flight home. Spoiler alert: he wound up buying another one-way ticket home. I really don’t know how he’s made it this far in life.
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Post by STP on Feb 8, 2024 13:48:54 GMT -6
Part of the housing problem in CA (and I’m sure other places) is that people stay in the same home once they are done raising their family and younger families don’t have places to move into. I get it because selling your home and buying a much smaller home for the same or more (due to inflation) is a bummer. But something has got to give. Looking at the boomers. It’s interesting bc a lot of Hispanic families I know have a multi family/generation situation going. I rarely know people where it’s just the boomers still in their house. Maybe more in white neighborhoods. it’s cheaper that way. My sister and her family live with my parents. I think people overlook that cultural part when it comes to greater LA and So Cal. I also think we white people need to rethink it and adapt the concept. Multigenerational living offers A LOT of benefits (I refuse to asterisk this for all the toxic scenarios you all want to throw in the ring, obviously if your family sucks don't live with them). And I love you jaygee, but I disagree that boomers need to sell their homes. To put forth a rather unlike me opinion - it's their house. If they want to keep it, they're perfectly with in their rights to do so. Frankly, I'd keep a bigger home than I need if at all possible bc I want a place for my kids to come to if they lose a job, go through a divorce, etc. A family home has a lot of value, as a landing pad and refuge. And I'd love someone to come tell me it's a civic duty to leave MY home.
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Post by sweptaway on Feb 8, 2024 13:50:38 GMT -6
Wait, so did you purchase the second ticket in line while you were waiting to go through security? flojo Yup. And the final kicker, which I didn’t realize at the time, was that he bought a one-way ticket thinking he could get it straightened out for the flight home. Spoiler alert: he wound up buying another one-way ticket home. I really don’t know how he’s made it this far in life. But like... do you ever use your maiden name? Like.. colloquially? Why would he default to that?
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Post by sweptaway on Feb 8, 2024 13:50:50 GMT -6
I literally cannot understand.
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Post by STP on Feb 8, 2024 13:52:12 GMT -6
I literally cannot understand. Because it doesn't make any sense.
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Post by flojo on Feb 8, 2024 13:52:54 GMT -6
I literally cannot understand. Because it doesn't make any sense. This. I’ve had to release it.
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Post by sweptaway on Feb 8, 2024 13:53:58 GMT -6
If my H booked a ticket in my maiden name I would assume he was having a stroke.
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Post by flojo on Feb 8, 2024 13:55:31 GMT -6
Yup. And the final kicker, which I didn’t realize at the time, was that he bought a one-way ticket thinking he could get it straightened out for the flight home. Spoiler alert: he wound up buying another one-way ticket home. I really don’t know how he’s made it this far in life. But like... do you ever use your maiden name? Like.. colloquially? Why would he default to that? No, I don’t use my maiden name. It will forever be one of life’s mysteries.
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Post by flojo on Feb 8, 2024 13:56:45 GMT -6
If my H booked a ticket in my maiden name I would assume he was having a stroke. Honestly the best part was him thinking it wouldn’t be a big deal that the ticket name didn’t match my license. TSA is usually so breezy at Newark Airport!
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Post by sweptaway on Feb 8, 2024 13:57:15 GMT -6
It’s interesting bc a lot of Hispanic families I know have a multi family/generation situation going. I rarely know people where it’s just the boomers still in their house. Maybe more in white neighborhoods. it’s cheaper that way. My sister and her family live with my parents. I think people overlook that cultural part when it comes to greater LA and So Cal. I also think we white people need to rethink it and adapt the concept. Multigenerational living offers A LOT of benefits (I refuse to asterisk this for all the toxic scenarios you all want to throw in the ring, obviously if your family sucks don't live with them). And I love you jaygee , but I disagree that boomers need to sell their homes. To put forth a rather unlike me opinion - it's their house. If they want to keep it, they're perfectly with in their rights to do so. Frankly, I'd keep a bigger home than I need if at all possible bc I want a place for my kids to come to if they lose a job, go through a divorce, etc. A family home has a lot of value, as a landing pad and refuge. And I'd love someone to come tell me it's a civic duty to leave MY home. Sometimes I get a little sad thinking about our house (which is a quirky little house we probably will never sell because a) quirky b) hellooo 2011 interest rates) being THE FAMILY HOME because it doesn't really have the space for an adult child to come home to. But I'm sure as we all get older and rearrange our lives the house will grow and change with us. IDK Plus also we have the dumbest steep, narrow stairs and sometimes I cannot imagine going up and down these ridiculous stairs 25 years from now because sometimes I hate them now, but then it makes me sad to think about moving when DS is an adult and I am old because THE FAMILY HOME. I am PMSing, why do you ask?
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Post by flojo on Feb 8, 2024 13:57:53 GMT -6
Sometimes I just repeat over and over “for better or for worse, for better or for worse…”
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Post by STP on Feb 8, 2024 13:59:38 GMT -6
I also think we white people need to rethink it and adapt the concept. Multigenerational living offers A LOT of benefits (I refuse to asterisk this for all the toxic scenarios you all want to throw in the ring, obviously if your family sucks don't live with them). And I love you jaygee , but I disagree that boomers need to sell their homes. To put forth a rather unlike me opinion - it's their house. If they want to keep it, they're perfectly with in their rights to do so. Frankly, I'd keep a bigger home than I need if at all possible bc I want a place for my kids to come to if they lose a job, go through a divorce, etc. A family home has a lot of value, as a landing pad and refuge. And I'd love someone to come tell me it's a civic duty to leave MY home. Sometimes I get a little sad thinking about our house (which is a quirky little house we probably will never sell because a) quirky b) hellooo 2011 interest rates) being THE FAMILY HOME because it doesn't really have the space for an adult child to come home to. But I'm sure as we all get older and rearrange our lives the house will grow and change with us. IDK Plus also we have the dumbest steep, narrow stairs and sometimes I cannot imagine going up and down these ridiculous stairs 25 years from now because sometimes I hate them now, but then it makes me sad to think about moving when DS is an adult and I am old because THE FAMILY HOME. I am PMSing, why do you ask? I still get weepy over my parents' house, which they sold like 5 years ago. It was my safe space. My dad has been expressing regret over doing it too, so we all need to just suck it up and move on. And I love renting, I really do. It provides a lot of freedoms we need right now. But I am up at night worrying about this idea a lot, and hoping mistakes weren't made in our choices to not just buy something rather than rent so we could afford this school district. Parenting is a mindfuck.
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Post by miawallace on Feb 8, 2024 14:00:58 GMT -6
If you ever buy a house in La and find all these extra add on rooms and back houses know it was a Hispanic family living there lol
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Post by sweptaway on Feb 8, 2024 14:02:17 GMT -6
Sometimes I get a little sad thinking about our house (which is a quirky little house we probably will never sell because a) quirky b) hellooo 2011 interest rates) being THE FAMILY HOME because it doesn't really have the space for an adult child to come home to. But I'm sure as we all get older and rearrange our lives the house will grow and change with us. IDK Plus also we have the dumbest steep, narrow stairs and sometimes I cannot imagine going up and down these ridiculous stairs 25 years from now because sometimes I hate them now, but then it makes me sad to think about moving when DS is an adult and I am old because THE FAMILY HOME. I am PMSing, why do you ask? I still get weepy over my parents' house, which they sold like 5 years ago. It was my safe space. My dad has been expressing regret over doing it too, so we all need to just suck it up and move on. And I love renting, I really do. It provides a lot of freedoms we need right now. But I am up at night worrying about this idea a lot, and hoping mistakes weren't made in our choices to not just buy something rather than rent so we could afford this school district. Parenting is a mindfuck. And here I am wishing we were renting (yes while simultaneously wishing I had an estate level family home for generations to come) because who the fuck needs another repair bill right now? I suppose the grass is always greener. And I'm sure all of our children will turn out ok. My family home was sold when I was in high school and... home is where the heart is etc etc
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Post by piratecat on Feb 8, 2024 14:03:07 GMT -6
Wait, so did you purchase the second ticket in line while you were waiting to go through security? flojo Yup. And the final kicker, which I didn’t realize at the time, was that he bought a one-way ticket thinking he could get it straightened out for the flight home. Spoiler alert: he wound up buying another one-way ticket home. I really don’t know how he’s made it this far in life.
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Post by STP on Feb 8, 2024 14:04:14 GMT -6
I still get weepy over my parents' house, which they sold like 5 years ago. It was my safe space. My dad has been expressing regret over doing it too, so we all need to just suck it up and move on. And I love renting, I really do. It provides a lot of freedoms we need right now. But I am up at night worrying about this idea a lot, and hoping mistakes weren't made in our choices to not just buy something rather than rent so we could afford this school district. Parenting is a mindfuck. And here I am wishing we were renting (yes while simultaneously wishing I had an estate level family home for generations to come) because who the fuck needs another repair bill right now? I suppose the grass is always greener. And I'm sure all of our children will turn out ok. My family home was sold when I was in high school and... home is where the heart is etc etc Our primary bath flooded on Tuesday, it will be the third repair to that floor (probably a replacement). So I will say at this EXACT moment I am glad I don't own this beloved money pit, lol.
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