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Post by muscari on Oct 29, 2017 5:28:18 GMT -6
My parents just left and I cried. It was so nice seeing them 3 days in a row and having them help with j and watch him last night. They said he screamed for 30 minutes last night. He woke up screaming. He hadn't pooped in 5 days and was constipated. We gave him an ounce of apple juice and he passed one really hard ball of poop and the. Had 3 regular poops after that. Glad he is feeling better. I won't see parents again until thanksgiving which sucks. I'm worried about thanksgiving because we are driving 2.5 hours to get there and it's going to be a lot of people wanting to hold him and I'm not sure he will tolerate it. My mom helped me clean my flower beds today while my dad had j. This has been bugging me for a month so I'm glad it finally is done. As for the questions, J has tight fists when he is awake but they go limo when he sleeos. They also go limo when he eats. He blows bubbles all the time and drools sometimes. Hugs I am sorry it will be a while till you see your parents again but am glad you got to spent time with them and it was good. Yay for datenight and for getting the flowerbeds sorted. Poor j for being so constipated! So happy that the applejuice trick worked for him!
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Post by muscari on Oct 29, 2017 5:30:43 GMT -6
Oh my... the sleep deprivation struggle is real. My DS is waking up more at night than the baby! And of course he only wants me (he just screams and cries at my H, but DH deals with it sometimes if Iβm nursing). I canβt wait for the new sibling adjustment period to be over. Also, some neighborhood kids have stolen all our Halloween pumpkins. Jerks stole DSβ painted pumpkins and smashed them on the sidewalk! Iβm so mad. What? I m so sorry that those punks trashed DSs painted pumpkin. Makes me mad and sad
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 29, 2017 6:29:33 GMT -6
Oh my... the sleep deprivation struggle is real. My DS is waking up more at night than the baby! And of course he only wants me (he just screams and cries at my H, but DH deals with it sometimes if Iβm nursing). I canβt wait for the new sibling adjustment period to be over. Also, some neighborhood kids have stolen all our Halloween pumpkins. Jerks stole DSβ painted pumpkins and smashed them on the sidewalk! Iβm so mad. pennylane I commiserate. I'll be sleeping in the nursery with baby H sound asleep in the crib and DS1 will start screaming that he needs me. And then he screams more if I make him more back down in the bed, so we end up on the couch. Wtf with them taking your pumpkins. Was DS upset?
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 29, 2017 6:32:03 GMT -6
muscari Baby H hadn't pooped for 8 days, and I was worried so I set him down naked on his tummy on the changing pad. It worked!!
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Post by cali on Oct 29, 2017 6:38:57 GMT -6
pennylane, I'm sorry about your pumpkins, stuff like that makes me ragey!
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Post by pennylane on Oct 29, 2017 6:40:05 GMT -6
pennylane I commiserate. I'll be sleeping in the nursery with baby H sound asleep in the crib and DS1 will start screaming that he needs me. And then he screams more if I make him more back down in the bed, so we end up on the couch. Wtf with them taking your pumpkins. Was DS upset? Kids, man! I hope DS decides to STTN before kindergarten, haha. Iβm going to get replacement pumpkins today and just keep them inside until Tuesday. Thereβs a bunch of kids in our neighborhood that just roam around unsupervised doing whatever they want. I told DH it makes me not want to hand out candy and take all the Halloween decor down.
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Post by cali on Oct 29, 2017 6:43:31 GMT -6
muscari, have you mentioned anything about how you're feeling to your doctor? You are taking on so much and even though I know yh tries it doesn't seem like he helps out with a lot of what you do (similar to mh, he is a great dad but not much help with housework and motn stuff). I think it's common to feel overwhelmed but I also think there is a point where you need to talk to your doctor and be sure it doesn't turn into something more serious. PPD and PPA are so common and there is no need to struggle alone with it. ((Hugs))
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 29, 2017 7:57:12 GMT -6
muscari, big hugs and I agree with cali, itβs worth talking with your doctor about it. Iβm happy YH will be off and you can take some time for yourself. π
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Post by king26 on Oct 29, 2017 8:24:29 GMT -6
pennylane that sucks about the pumpkins what the heck? muscari as someone with ppa is talk to your doctor. I never thought I'd need medication but it has helped my mood, demeanor, and even my interactions with j. I had a hard time leaving for the grocery store this morning but once I left I was fine. Foe those of you who have your H watch lo while you work, were you nervous about it? Did you try to get him to do more before you started back? Do you help him out with a schedule? I'm so nervous about leaving j to go to work even though 4th will ha e him. I don't know what's wrong with me. DH has been doing so much better with j when he cried and entertaining him lately. I still have him 75% of the time but he always asks if he can help.out and takes him sometimes without me asking.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2017 8:35:38 GMT -6
pennylane, how frustrating about the pumpkins. Kids can be so destructive sometimes. muscari, I agree with other pps. I'd talk to a doctor about how you're feeling. I feel like the baby blues should be pretty much over with at almost 3 months, so I'd be concerned about ppd/a. It's better to get it under control as quickly as possible. Hugs!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2017 8:39:24 GMT -6
A's hands are more relaxed now but likes to hold on to my shirt, skin, toys, etc. he even clasps his hands together over his chest while he nurses which is just so adorable to me for some reason.
I read that blowing bubbles is a good sign because they are strengthening their mouth and tongue muscles to eventually make words with. Lots of drool here too, it could mean that they are in the beginning stages of teething. Though we most likely won't see any until 6 months.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2017 8:43:32 GMT -6
pennylane that sucks about the pumpkins what the heck? muscari as someone with ppa is talk to your doctor. I never thought I'd need medication but it has helped my mood, demeanor, and even my interactions with j. I had a hard time leaving for the grocery store this morning but once I left I was fine. Foe those of you who have your H watch lo while you work, were you nervous about it? Did you try to get him to do more before you started back? Do you help him out with a schedule? I'm so nervous about leaving j to go to work even though 4th will ha e him. I don't know what's wrong with me. DH has been doing so much better with j when he cried and entertaining him lately. I still have him 75% of the time but he always asks if he can help.out and takes him sometimes without me asking. I'm not going back to work, but have left the baby with MH twice, 3 hours each time. I didn't experience any anxiety about it and just enjoyed the solidarity time. What exactly are you worrying about? That he'll fuss and YH won't be able to calm him? Sometimes it's helpful to think of the exact scenarios you are most concerned about and walk them through your mind. You'll probably notice that YH will do just fine.
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Post by jexxa on Oct 29, 2017 9:39:45 GMT -6
pennylane that would piss me off so much about the pumpkins. DS just painted his yesterday and I know heβd be devastated if someone smashed it π not to mention the violation of your property. muscari I agree, please talk with your doctor about your feelings β€οΈ
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 29, 2017 9:43:29 GMT -6
A's hands are more relaxed now but likes to hold on to my shirt, skin, toys, etc. he even clasps his hands together over his chest while he nurses which is just so adorable to me for some reason. I read that blowing bubbles is a good sign because they are strengthening their mouth and tongue muscles to eventually make words with. Lots of drool here too, it could mean that they are in the beginning stages of teething. Though we most likely won't see any until 6 months. Thatβs interesting about the blowing bubbles tidbit. So basically all our babies will be talking geniuses π My first didnβt get a tooth till 7 months which Iβm fine with. My twin nieces practically had mouthfuls of teeth by 4 months! π
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Post by jexxa on Oct 29, 2017 9:47:11 GMT -6
DS has been sick with some sort of cold thing the last few days. Yesterday and today he woke up crazy early. Now I feel like Iβm getting it π£
Also, Iβm all up in my feels because P starts daycare tomorrow. Iβm gonna have her do a half day tomorrow, full days on T W T, then iβm keeping her and DS home on Friday because my parents will be in town. I canβt believe itβs my last week of maternity leave already.
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Post by nutmeg on Oct 29, 2017 9:50:17 GMT -6
@king YH needs this time to be able to bond with the baby. If you are around and constantly taking over, which is what I tend to do, YH will never have to learn how to soothe and care for him.
Going back to work, where H is forced to do the baby care has been the best thing for MH both times. Plus, we are coming up on a time where the baby won't need you quite as much. Take time for yourself, YH is a grown up and a father. I'm confident that he can handle the baby for a little while when you are gone.
Maybe if you think of all the good things that will come out of YH being with the baby it will lessen the anxiety you are feeling? I know I just have to rip off the band-aid or I'll never leave and H will continue to let me do all the baby care.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 29, 2017 9:58:20 GMT -6
@king YH needs this time to be able to bond with the baby. If you are around and constantly taking over, which is what I tend to do, YH will never have to learn how to soothe and care for him. Going back to work, where H is forced to do the baby care has been the best thing for MH both times. Plus, we are coming up on a time where the baby won't need you quite as much. Take time for yourself, YH is a grown up and a father. I'm confident that he can handle the baby for a little while when you are gone. Maybe if you think of all the good things that will come out of YH being with the baby it will lessen the anxiety you are feeling? I know I just have to rip off the band-aid or I'll never leave and H will continue to let me do all the baby care. This really is such good points
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Post by addymac on Oct 29, 2017 11:22:49 GMT -6
muscari do not give her any water! Youβre right - it will just make her full and then she wonβt be hungry. Water has no calories so itβs just going to fill her up and also it can mess with her electrolytes. Iβm sorry youβre feeling stressed / anxious / detached at times. I second talking to your dr. Here every time I go to the dr (mine and Noahβs) They have me fill out a questionnaire for ppd/a and it helps me to even just fill it out and see if I feel like I need to bring anything up to the dr. It also helped bc I noticed my answers improved from appt to appt so I felt relieved I wasnβt ignoring real symptoms.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 29, 2017 11:24:55 GMT -6
muscari, no to water like addymac said, they are too young at this age but around 6 months I introduced to DD1 and she still is a good water drinker at 3 years old. Water is important for them but just not yet
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Post by king26 on Oct 29, 2017 14:37:05 GMT -6
J has basically been sleeping all day which is not the norm. I'm very worried for tinight. Not sure if he's not feeling well or growth spurt or just tired. He did hang out with my parents for the last 3 days, had the 4 poop day, and his shots on wednesdat. It was a busy week. Anyone's little one randomly sleep like crazy ever once in a while?
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Post by addymac on Oct 29, 2017 17:44:28 GMT -6
J has basically been sleeping all day which is not the norm. I'm very worried for tinight. Not sure if he's not feeling well or growth spurt or just tired. He did hang out with my parents for the last 3 days, had the 4 poop day, and his shots on wednesdat. It was a busy week. Anyone's little one randomly sleep like crazy ever once in a while? Omg. I literally am having the same day. N has barely been awake for longer than an hour and a half ata time today and slept from 7-10:30, then from 11:30-2:30, then 3:45-6:30. And Iβve been feeding Thulfiqar the last 20min and he just fell asleep on my boob. I am worried about tonight, too. Idk what heβs doing!!
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Post by muscari on Oct 30, 2017 1:23:38 GMT -6
king26 addymac fx that even tho they slept a lot during the day your babies will still have a good sleepy night as well! D. has had some of her best nights after a long long daytime nap but also one of her worst so who knows what s up with that!
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Post by muscari on Oct 30, 2017 1:25:18 GMT -6
And thanks ladies .. you all gave me some food for thought re ppd/ppa. Are there any goos resources online I could read up on? I looked for Dutch sites but oddly enough there arent any that give more then basic info.
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Post by cali on Oct 30, 2017 3:02:42 GMT -6
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Post by muscari on Oct 30, 2017 4:57:21 GMT -6
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