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Post by muscari on Oct 18, 2017 15:06:13 GMT -6
jt2378 will respond with D s MOTN feed! She just went down for the long haul (hopefully) so I am gonne sleep as well. Ours looks similar to yours!
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 18, 2017 15:33:02 GMT -6
Has he been sleeping any better for you? No. <insert cry face> He has been giving me a 3-4 hour stretch the first part of the night again though, so that's promising. But then it's back to every hour or 2 hour wake ups the rest of the night. I've now tried gas drops, but it hasn't seemed to make a difference. I have thought about putting him down later at night, but he pretty much starts to fall apart right around 5. So I figured if he's tired enough to go to sleep I might as well just put him down for the night. I'm sorry ugh! It's so hard. Yeah M is a disaster all evening mostly but is sleeping that long stretch. I can commiserate because DD1 was exactly like A but no long stretch at first, it's horrible. Yeah I was wondering if maybe if you try putting him down later it might help? At least you could sleep too that first stretch. Gas drops never work for me either
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Post by Deleted on Oct 18, 2017 15:52:51 GMT -6
No. <insert cry face> He has been giving me a 3-4 hour stretch the first part of the night again though, so that's promising. But then it's back to every hour or 2 hour wake ups the rest of the night. I've now tried gas drops, but it hasn't seemed to make a difference. I have thought about putting him down later at night, but he pretty much starts to fall apart right around 5. So I figured if he's tired enough to go to sleep I might as well just put him down for the night. I'm sorry ugh! It's so hard. Yeah M is a disaster all evening mostly but is sleeping that long stretch. I can commiserate because DD1 was exactly like A but no long stretch at first, it's horrible. Yeah I was wondering if maybe if you try putting him down later it might help? At least you could sleep too that first stretch. Gas drops never work for me either Ugh proboards ate my response. Long story short I'm nervous for a later bedtime because he does give me that longest stretch the first time he's put down and I go to sleep then too. Maybe the next time MH is off work I'll try a later bedtime.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 18, 2017 16:08:04 GMT -6
I'm sorry ugh! It's so hard. Yeah M is a disaster all evening mostly but is sleeping that long stretch. I can commiserate because DD1 was exactly like A but no long stretch at first, it's horrible. Yeah I was wondering if maybe if you try putting him down later it might help? At least you could sleep too that first stretch. Gas drops never work for me either Ugh proboards ate my response. Long story short I'm nervous for a later bedtime because he does give me that longest stretch the first time he's put down and I go to sleep then too. Maybe the next time MH is off work I'll try a later bedtime. Well that makes sense then if you are also sleeping that first stretch. GL, I hope it improves soon
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Post by Deleted on Oct 18, 2017 16:22:22 GMT -6
Proboards keeps eating my responses by reloading the pages. Anyone else having this issue?
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Post by cwbh928 on Oct 18, 2017 18:04:51 GMT -6
Proboards keeps eating my responses by reloading the pages. Anyone else having this issue? Yes, all day. I gave up after the 15th time and gave it a break..
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Post by muscari on Oct 18, 2017 20:12:14 GMT -6
addymac you just described my day. It's hard with this clingy-ness. But when our babies with the same bday are doing the same thing I feel better that she's just baby-ing. This. Knowing tis just part of her being a baby and totally appropriate for their age helps me feel better too. Which is one if the reasons I love our little group here.
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Post by addymac on Oct 18, 2017 20:12:17 GMT -6
My nights are not really fun this week. I hope once this leap is over and her new acid reflux medicine stars working I can tell you about some great routine I am doing. I can get her to go to sleep like a pro. I can't make her stay asleep What med is she on? We have N on Zantac but idk how much it’s working
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Post by muscari on Oct 18, 2017 20:15:00 GMT -6
Proboards keeps eating my responses by reloading the pages. Anyone else having this issue? I havent been on much at all and uae tapa most of the time so havent had this issue. I have to say proboards is having a lot of issues lately it seems!? The forum is down a ton or has problem way more often then back when we were on TCF still. Frustrates the heck out of me!
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Post by addymac on Oct 18, 2017 20:25:51 GMT -6
Ugh. We are nanny searching and I’m so frustrated. We found one I love- she’s bilingual so she can help me teach N Spanish, she is flexible with early hours and weekend days since our schedules are ridiculous, and she is really sweet. Except the cost.
Our schedules differ week to week to the point where one week she’s be working 24h and the next 41h. So we got the idea from an in home daycare to offer a flat weekly rate instead of hourly. Well she countered back with that weekly rate for 25hrs and then the week she works more, at $16/hr - that’s an extra $250+ a week / extra $500/month! We can’t afford that. Ugh. And some weeks we would need less than 20h / week when DH is working 8-5, so we figured a flat rate would be a nice incentive since she’s be working so much less those weeks. Like why is this so hard😩
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Post by muscari on Oct 18, 2017 20:46:42 GMT -6
Would you ladies share with me what your evenings look like? And does baby nap/sleep in the livingroom with you before settling for the night? Do you keep light and tv/noise down or ? Cluster feeding every damn night! Pretty much from 7-10 or 11 she lives on the boob, takes catnaps, and then usually finally seems pretty well asleep so I transfer to my room. I know I shouldn't bitch because she mainly STTN but it sucks to have no downtime every night. We do keep a light and tv on when she is in the living room with us. She did a longer stretch last night like 10-6:45 so if I can keep trying to get it earlier that would help. I do think maybe it's overstimulating in the living room but I can't really be putting her to bed super early because then she will clearly be waking more MOTN. I have no idea how I will transition her to her crib in her room. So far she is not a fan going in for a nap! What's D's routine? I could copy paste your description of the night really. Lots and lots of boobtime for D as well in between dinnertime and midnight. She will take catnaps on or near the boob and usually only comes off for a daiper change or when I got to pee lol. Around 8 or 9 we put her in her sleepsack and I go brush my teeth and put on my PJs myself. I will usually give the last feeding in bed then pop her into her bassinet anywhere between 10 and midnight (lately tis been closer to 10 then 12) and she will sleep for 5-7 hours. We do the MOTN stuff and she sleeps another 2-3h. Except for yesterday where she decided that she was gonne fuss and cry all day without extra sleep after her initial stretch. It was such a long day! D&I still have our beds in the livingroom and MH and I usually watch tv in the evening. I do dim the lights at some point and try to keep the tv volume down as well but still worry about overstimilation. Tho sometimes MH plays a game on his oc instead of tv and I read or mess with my phone and I wouldn't know whether she does any different tbh. We will be switching to all co sleeping in the master bedroom soon and I wonder how to do things then. I like giving her her last feeding in bed but i worry I will be bored upstairs without a tv or MH for company lol. And i will miss the comfort of the electric adjustable mattress of the temporary bed downstairs! But I really would like for D to sleep in the same bed and room everynight instead of most nights here some nights upstairs (when mh is off work we all sleep together) as I think the changes mess up her sleep. So from then on MH will be the one sleeping elsewhere during the week if the MOTN feed wake him or keep him up. We need to get a babyphone so we can put her to bed upstairs for naps during the day guess and maybe also for the last bit of the evening while we finish getting ready for the night?
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Post by jexxa on Oct 18, 2017 20:47:17 GMT -6
muscari after we put DS to bed at 8 we take P into the living room with us. We have a light on but it’s not overly bright, and H will have the tv on while I usually just play on my phone. P is fussy in the evenings so we take turns with her doing whatever we can to entertain her. Sometimes she cat naps. Then we go up to bed between 10-10:30. I used to be able to nurse her to sleep but lately that’s not working, so i’ll walk around the bedroom with her or rock her until she falls asleep.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 18, 2017 20:51:20 GMT -6
What med is she on? We have N on Zantac but idk how much it’s working The baby Zantac. Rantadine? Today's the first day. I just watched her wake up on the monitor. Not scream and go back to bed. This is a gigantic first. I hope that means I have figured it out and this medicines already helping. One big thing that makes me think it might be reflux is her hatred of being horizontal. And the crying allllllllll day edit to say also did you know coughing is a sign of reflux ? That's a weird one. And screaming at your boobs. When you know they are hungry abs arching back. And did I mention crying non stop Hugs, I hope the meds help and it’s not colic. The nonstop crying is sooooo damn hard.
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Post by muscari on Oct 18, 2017 20:51:31 GMT -6
jexxa i too miss the time where i could simply nurse her to sleep. Especially for MOTN feeds!
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Post by muscari on Oct 18, 2017 21:04:36 GMT -6
This is the second night in a row where she wont go back to sleep after her MOTN feed. While she slept so beautifully for the past weeks.. at least at night if not during the day. She still wont sleep well during daytime.. i cant loose my nights on top of that... just thinking of it makes me feel desperate - i barely function as it is
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 18, 2017 21:04:53 GMT -6
Hugs, I hope the meds help and it’s not colic. The nonstop crying is sooooo damn hard. Thank you. I really hope this helps and in not trying a med unnecessarily. Because she's so sad all day. The last 3 days my mood is getting low because of it I know, you feel so hopeless when they seem so unhappy. Your doing a great job, hang in there. It will pass. It feels like forever when your in the thick of it but if it ends up being colic it does get better I swear. You should know pretty quickly if the Zantac helps so don’t feel bad about trying it
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 18, 2017 21:07:36 GMT -6
This is the second night in a row where she wont go back to sleep after her MOTN feed. While she slept so beautifully for the past weeks.. at least at night if not during the day. She still wont sleep well during daytime.. i cant loose my nights on top of that... just thinking of it makes me feel desperate - i barely function as it is Ugh I’m sorry. These babies love to change it up on us. M has been really shitty in the nap department the last few days
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Post by muscari on Oct 18, 2017 23:50:22 GMT -6
addymac i am sorry finding a nanny -or rather the financial aspect of it cause it sounds like the one you found would be a great fit - is proving so difficult. I hope you can come to a solution with this particular lady!
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Post by muscari on Oct 18, 2017 23:52:10 GMT -6
@starzia hugs! Poor babies with reflux!. I hope th3nbaby zantac will do wonders and both of you will get some better sleep again. I am right there with you looking forward for the end of this leap btw!
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Post by muscari on Oct 18, 2017 23:58:46 GMT -6
The baby Zantac. Rantadine? Today's the first day. I just watched her wake up on the monitor. Not scream and go back to bed. This is a gigantic first. I hope that means I have figured it out and this medicines already helping. One big thing that makes me think it might be reflux is her hatred of being horizontal. And the crying allllllllll day edit to say also did you know coughing is a sign of reflux ? That's a weird one. And screaming at your boobs. When you know they are hungry abs arching back. And did I mention crying non stop D. started screaming at my right boob out of the blue and almost refusing to drink from it. Like, youknow she is hungry but she will just arch back and cry and fight latching on. So frustrating and I just honestly dont get it. Now my righty has a lower supply then my leftie or so it seems (at least when I pump I get like half or sometimes even 1/4th of what i get from the left) so i wondered whether that was of influence. Either way it really confuses me and uhm sorry to say it but it is also really annoying and upsetting. Luckily the past cple days it was easier again to get her to drink thatside. Was the coughing one a question or a fact?
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Post by muscari on Oct 19, 2017 0:13:19 GMT -6
This is the second night in a row where she wont go back to sleep after her MOTN feed. While she slept so beautifully for the past weeks.. at least at night if not during the day. She still wont sleep well during daytime.. i cant loose my nights on top of that... just thinking of it makes me feel desperate - i barely function as it is Ugh I’m sorry. These babies love to change it up on us. M has been really shitty in the nap department the last few days I wish I could take powernaps like the pro D seems to be in them. If i could at least get a cple of those moments during the day maybe I would function better? MH will be off friday thru thursday and I really hope he will step up so I can get some extra rest. I so need it.. He seems to keep forgetting that I could use an extra hand when he comes home from work. Instead I often get to get dinner ready and clean up afterwards etc meanwhile juggling D. and nursing her. Followed by clusterfeeding. It is too much on top of a full baby day. I get he worked the day but at least he gets to do so on a full night of sleep. Plus we just have to share these things.. i cant do it alone and the rest and stay sane. I tried for the past 8 weeks and am failing. Oh and maybe being home for several days in a row makes MH understand her needs and wishes better as well. Not that he doesn't know how to take care of her- he does great when he does. Just sometimes wishes he knew her better so this extra time together should help with that?!
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Post by kristyw on Oct 19, 2017 1:57:34 GMT -6
muscari H would love to be able to chill when he gets home from work, but that's not an option much anymore. You worked all day too. He needs to step up. If D is cluster feeding, tell him to do the dishes. Or hand him the baby to make/clean up dinner. I know with our first H just didn't get it, but making him step up then has helped immensely. He wasn't trying to be unhelpful, he just didn't even realize xyz needed to happen.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 19, 2017 5:05:33 GMT -6
muscari, I have the same issue with righty, it’s always never produced as much. That could also explain her acting weird on that side. I’m sorry YH is not being very helpful, you are working all day too and deserve a break or a helping hand. They honestly just don’t get it sometimes. MH is much better this go around because he has no choice but to deal with the toddler lol. I hope you get some much deserved rest soon
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 19, 2017 5:08:47 GMT -6
Speaking of toddler. Omg she lost her damn mind last night. Her butt is all red and sore because she refuses to PT and so still shiitting in a diaper or pull-up and then refusing to be wiped properly. I had to hose her off in the tub and she went nuts ugggh. She ended up in bed an hour early but god damn was it stressful. She gives zero fucks about PT.
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Post by muscari on Oct 19, 2017 5:42:50 GMT -6
Speaking of toddler. Omg she lost her damn mind last night. Her butt is all red and sore because she refuses to PT and so still shiitting in a diaper or pull-up and then refusing to be wiped properly. I had to hose her off in the tub and she went nuts ugggh. She ended up in bed an hour early but god damn was it stressful. She gives zero fucks about PT. Ugh that sounds awfully rough - so sorry! Poor toddler bum also. Doesnt the soreness prompt her to PT? Fx she sleeps well!
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Post by muscari on Oct 19, 2017 5:54:18 GMT -6
kristyw jt2378 I know he doesnt mean to be unhelpful i just think he doesnt realize really how much work babies are and that soloing baby & household is more then a FT job as well. He does need to step up .. he is awesome in taking over like once a week lol, even on his days off I do the majority of evrything. He has next week off and another 2 weeks mid november and I am going to push for more me-time. I also hope that being around 24/7 for a while will make him realize himself without me having to spell things out. That is one if my current peeves.. he will be all like "you could have asked me" or "just let me know what you want me to do" and I am like uhm I don't want to have to do that, just use your own brains cause tis not that hard! Like said they just dont get it. But i just dont want to keep giving "orders" as it makes me feel bad for some reason.. i hate asking for help. Which obv is something I* have to work on as well. Plus sharing baby duties isnt like asking for help help it s just parenting for both if us. Right?
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Post by kristyw on Oct 19, 2017 6:35:21 GMT -6
muscari You shouldn't have to ask, but if your H is anything like mine, he doesn't even see xyz needing to be done. I could have 3 baskets of laundry sitting next to the machine and a sink full of dishes and a full dishwasher. Those aren't things he typically had to take care of before kids so he didn't even see them. It's some crazy skill. But since our first, I've asked him to help more and say what needs to get done and he's much more independent in starting things now. I hope your H sees how hard you work and starts making things easier on you.
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Post by addymac on Oct 19, 2017 8:12:36 GMT -6
Having to ask DH for help is my pet peeve. I kept snapping at him and being a bitch and he was getting all upset Bc of the way I spoke to him (which isn’t right, I’m working on it), but finally I was like I CANT BE TELLING YOU WHAT TO DO EVERY DAMN TIME. I don’t know if it got across / through to him completely, but he’s trying. I just can’t be his mother and order him around and I told him he needs to open his eyes and take initiative, otherwise.... fuck man. . I know he tries sometimes but about half of the time I’m like REALLY DUDE??? 😒
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Post by cwbh928 on Oct 19, 2017 8:14:33 GMT -6
So sorry to hear about all the sleeping problems!
H is on reflux meds and I feel like it's helping, but then I feel like maybe he doesn't need it. I don't know. His reflux is not as pronounced as DSd1 was. Our biggest problem is gas at the moment. Imhe does great all night, but come 5am he struggles with gas. It's frustrating because nothing helps! Of course by the time he gets over it and falls asleep, DS1 is up.
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Post by jexxa on Oct 19, 2017 9:09:39 GMT -6
jt2378 the wooooooorst. We got all excited because DS pooped on the potty last night, then this morning as H was trying to get him ready for daycare he pooped in his underwear not once, but twice. Sigh.
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