Week of Oct. 16 randoms

[jexxa]

I have the crib and video monitor all set up and ready to go in P's room to attempt naptime in there. She fell asleep while I was wearing her like I normally do in the morning, and I can't bring myself to take her out and put her in the crib. I know I need to do this, but the snuggles man! I'll try later this afternoon.

[jt2378]

Oct 19, 2017 9:12:21 GMT -6 jexxa said:

I have the crib and video monitor all set up and ready to go in P's room to attempt naptime in there. She fell asleep while I was wearing her like I normally do in the morning, and I can't bring myself to take her out and put her in the crib. I know I need to do this, but the snuggles man! I'll try later this afternoon.

GL! H spent most of her napping in the carrier yesterday and so far the crib has been a no go lol

[jexxa]

She napped 45 minutes in the crib! I’ll call that a win, lol.

[muscari]

It is MHs bday tomorrow and I plan on dressing D in this onesie 😊Got a really cute cardigan and matching pants to go with it. She going to look so smart.. /totally biased mama

[muscari]

Also got this one

[jt2378]

Super cute muscari and happy birthday to YH! 🎂🎉

[muscari]

Even tho today was off to a bit of a rough start with D. waking up twice MOTN and not wanting to go back to sleep, the day actually wasnt too bad. We spent some time with a neighbor friend in the afternoon and D. napped on my friends lap pretty much all along. Back home I found MH down out with a migraine so suddenly I was in charge of grocery order pick up and had to take d with me aaaahhh. This was my first car trip alone - alone with a baby on board even - since I broke my ankle in May. She and I did great and I felt all proud for pulling it off without to much anxiety or panicking heh. This evening we watched a movie while I was cluster feeding andI am now in bed waiting for D. To fall asleep after her last feed. I think she s allllmost there. FX she STTN again for a change 🤞🤞😴

[muscari]

Wonderful to read your update on your girly now that she is on these meds and she seems much happier! @starzia

[jexxa]

@starzia I’m so glad the meds are helping!!

[jt2378]

Woohoo @starzia!! Great update on your little miss 😊

[cwbh928]

Oct 19, 2017 19:56:15 GMT -6 @starzia said:

I wish I had night vision because I can't trust my ears DD is loud when she sleeps. And I don't want to wake her up checking on her. But don't want her to cry and get worked up, since that will make her all woken up. So if I got 3 wishes one of them would be night vision. The end

Oh this would be one of mine too!

[muscari]

Oct 19, 2017 20:22:08 GMT -6 cwbh928 said:

Oct 19, 2017 19:56:15 GMT -6 @starzia said:

I wish I had night vision because I can't trust my ears DD is loud when she sleeps. And I don't want to wake her up checking on her. But don't want her to cry and get worked up, since that will make her all woken up. So if I got 3 wishes one of them would be night vision. The end

Oh this would be one of mine too!

And mine!

[muscari]

Do your Hs go with you to your pedi visits? Or not always possible due to work etc. I am likely soloing D.s 2mo check up and shots appointment and not sure how I feel about that.

Ok I do know.. I hate it. And am upset at MH cause the reason I have to go on my own is because he forgot to in the request for time off when the appointment was made late August, and again when I reminded him last month.. and now it is too late and he can't get time off no more now. I am triple peeved cause we started using a shared google calender and I put in all the appointments and he accepted them but apperently does so without reading what he is accepting nor does he check the schedule occasionally so half the time (or pretty much at all) has no clue what is going on unless I remind him...

[muscari]

I do love MH to bits but he is just so clueless sometimes?

[jt2378]

Oct 20, 2017 8:14:15 GMT -6 muscari said:

Do your Hs go with you to your pedi visits? Or not always possible due to work etc. I am likely soloing D.s 2mo check up and shots appointment and not sure how I feel about that.

Ok I do know.. I hate it. And am upset at MH cause the reason I have to go on my own is because he forgot to in the request for time off when the appointment was made late August, and again when I reminded him last month.. and now it is too late and he can't get time off no more now. I am triple peeved cause we started using a shared google calender and I put in all the appointments and he accepted them but apperently does so without reading what he is accepting nor does he check the schedule occasionally so half the time (or pretty much at all) has no clue what is going on unless I remind him...

MH always did but not the second go around because he stays with DD1.

I’m sorry, that is frustrating he didn’t request the time. Is it tomorrow? GL, hope she does ok

[cali]

muscari, mh goes to pedi appointments if he can but he did not go to the one month appointment because of his work schedule. I don't think he will make it to her two month either but he's going to try to get home early if he can. I'd like him to go if he can but to me personally it's NBD. For us, it's just to difficult to juggle our schedules so that we can both be there all the time. And if mh takes off work he doesn't get paid, so I'd honestly prefer he go to work. I just make the appointment when it works for me and if mh can go, great! That said, if it was super important to me, as it seems to be to you, I'd definitely be upset that mh didn't request the day off when he knew I wanted him there. Does yh know this is something that is important to you?? Maybe he didn't realize how much you wanted him there? I'm sorry he screwed up and you have to go solo. Is D getting shots? I know M gets shots at her next appointment and I'm nervous about it!

[muscari]

cali yeah she s getting her first shots which is making me nervous as well and why I just would have liked him to be there.

jt2378 nah tis not until the 1st. ☺

It isnt the first time he dropped the ball with important-ish hospital appointments and work which is just frustrating me I guess. Come on you aren't 10 yo needing to be reminded of everything LOL.

The appointment is at 2pm so he may be able to get off work early and join us. I hope so. And yeah less pay sucks cali. Luckily MH can use his overtime hours for things like this (of which he has plenty as he pretty much always is the one covering for others .. however when he needs some time off unexpected no one is available? Go figure!)

[bsouls]

We all go together, but H works at night so he is available. But, I don’t think they’re that important. I make sure I can go, because I’ll like to hear everything first hand. I did send H to T’s PT alone yesterday, but he will be doing them alone when I go back to work because I can’t take time off weekly.

I also didn’t have H go to prenatal visits - he went to ultrasounds, but I always thought it was silly to have a SO at routine prenatal visits.

[kristyw]

My H hasn't been to a pedi appointment since DS's 2 day check up. He doesn't get that much time off, so I go and just tell him if there are any concerns.

I didn't like going alone when DS was little, now it's just the norm. E's 3 day check up is a story that still gives me anxiety. It was such a shit show. But it wasn't the baby that was an issue. 😂

[happyfeet9]

Oct 18, 2017 20:25:51 GMT -6 addymac said:

Ugh. We are nanny searching and I’m so frustrated. We found one I love- she’s bilingual so she can help me teach N Spanish, she is flexible with early hours and weekend days since our schedules are ridiculous, and she is really sweet. Except the cost.

Our schedules differ week to week to the point where one week she’s be working 24h and the next 41h. So we got the idea from an in home daycare to offer a flat weekly rate instead of hourly. Well she countered back with that weekly rate for 25hrs and then the week she works more, at $16/hr - that’s an extra $250+ a week / extra $500/month! We can’t afford that. Ugh. And some weeks we would need less than 20h / week when DH is working 8-5, so we figured a flat rate would be a nice incentive since she’s be working so much less those weeks. Like why is this so hard😩

It took us so long to find a bilingual nanny as well who would be willing to take care of the twins part time. She's costing us more than we like, but it was the best we could do. Maybe a nanny share on the weeks she is working less?

[happyfeet9]

E is also on reflux meds and it seems to be helping her quite a bit. She's eating more and generally seeming less upset in the evening.

Hope all the reflux meds work for everyone!

[muscari]

Oct 20, 2017 9:47:19 GMT -6 bsouls said:

We all go together, but H works at night so he is available. But, I don’t think they’re that important. I make sure I can go, because I’ll like to hear everything first hand. I did send H to T’s PT alone yesterday, but he will be doing them alone when I go back to work because I can’t take time off weekly.

I also didn’t have H go to prenatal visits - he went to ultrasounds, but I always thought it was silly to have a SO at routine prenatal visits.

I was ok going to regular OB/MFM appointments but it feels we have had so many things require extra care or appointments ugh. Unfortunately I have had to do several of those without him due to work as well which has caused me quite a bit of anxiety sadly. Maybe that is why I put more importance to these pedi visits then they should have when it comes to going together. Monday is his fixed day off so I try to schedule things in Mondays but that doesnt always worm.

[jexxa]

H goes with me to all pedi appts. One, he wants to be there, and two, I can’t handle the shots alone 😣 I schedule the appts for as late in the afternoon as possible so H can just leave work a little early.

[addymac]

So far DH has come to all of Ns appointments but for his next one he won’t. It just worked with his schedule that he came to the appts, I didn’t plan it that way. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[jt2378]

jexxa, how’s crib napping going today? I was going to try but I had to just put her in the swing for a couple mins this morning and then she continued sleeping so there went that idea 😂

[addymac]

Sigh. The in home nanny didn’t work. We offered her the topest top of our budget and she wanted more 😒 so ugh. So we went with an in home quasi- daycare who is awesome but she’s not bilingual and we have to take N to her place, which is going to add a whole level of stress for Ben in the morning. But we had to make a decision bc she had other offers for kids (she’s only taking two kids plus her son) and we didn’t want to lose a great person for *possibly* finding someone else to in home- but everyone else we interviewed sucked.

Now I’m panicking because I don’t know how Ben is going to get ready in the morning himself and then get N ready, changed, fed, and out the door, then down the street to her place in the dead of winter and make it to work on time. He’s slow as fuck in the morning and having to get N ready means waking up even earlier - and if N is sleeping as terribly as he is now (which, spoiler alert, is terrible this week) Ben is never going to get any sleep and it’s going to be a disaster.

Also- how do you sleep train a baby? I’m having a mini meltdown

[king26]

Hey ladies,

I'm trying to catch up on posts. Sounds like some troubke.with sleeping. I have no clue how to sleep train a baby but I want j in his crib for naps.soon and I do t know how to transition him.

Had my dr. Appointment yesterday and midwife said I looked and sounded better but not myself so they increased my meds by half.

We haven't wanted to take j out until he gets his shots but everyday this week we've taken him to Starbucks and it's been great. We took him to the mall.yesyetfay too. I put him in a carrier and wore him. It went well.

J has his shots on wednesday and I'm worried about it but my parents will be here next weekend...yay! DH and I are going on a date night. It's our first time out without him and I'm worried but I woul dnt trust anyone else.

I've missed u ladies but being off the board for a few days has heloed.

[jexxa]

Oct 20, 2017 11:44:59 GMT -6 jt2378 said:

jexxa, how’s crib napping going today? I was going to try but I had to just put her in the swing for a couple mins this morning and then she continued sleeping so there went that idea 😂

Today was a fail 😣 I had to go back in there 5 times in 20 minutes so I gave up. She is pretty gassy though and she hasn’t pooped yet today so I wonder if that’s why.

[jexxa]

She’s currently sleeping on my chest. I’m gonna wait a little bit and then put her in the RnP and see if she’ll nap there.

[jexxa]

king26 glad you’re back!