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Post by mwhip on Sept 29, 2017 8:06:51 GMT -6
Re: asking for donations. I'm not sure ds would understand receiving and opening presents and then having to give them away. I mean the kid has enough stuff to fill a toy store (and a very nice one at that) but for him and most kids his age I guess, birthdays are about presents. I don't know...I think if you talk about it enough, they would understand. I know they aren't the same, but Evie keeps talking about getting her hair cut off, she knows if we do it, we are donating her hair to people who are sick and can't grow their own hair. She talks about it on her own and understands (at least I think she does) because she tells the grandmas that's what we are doing when she cuts it. So I think if I proposed this to her, she would understand. We don't have big bday parties for her though, it's just immediate family that attends. That said, she won't clean out the toys she has to donate to Big Brother/Big Sisters, so maybe I'm talking out my ass. :-) |
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Post by cagoldi on Sept 29, 2017 8:06:56 GMT -6
0-1 was hard, 1-2 was super difficult for me. Hang in there, it's still super busy but it gets better. Same here. 0-1 was challenging at times, but 1-2 is proving to be so hard! Dd is such a high-needs baby. At 16mo I still haven't been able to put the kids to bed on my own... (if Dh is out I call my mom or dad). I really really really hope that someday in the future 2-3 will be easier. My mom said going from 1-2 is the hardest. Supposedly from here it's all a cakewalk. I have my doubts, but she insists it's true. |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Sept 29, 2017 8:10:31 GMT -6
mamabear I’m sorry you’re struggling. I hope you can get into a groove a work soon.
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Post by peachsmama on Sept 29, 2017 8:19:30 GMT -6
Same here. 0-1 was challenging at times, but 1-2 is proving to be so hard! Dd is such a high-needs baby. At 16mo I still haven't been able to put the kids to bed on my own... (if Dh is out I call my mom or dad). I really really really hope that someday in the future 2-3 will be easier. My mom said going from 1-2 is the hardest. Supposedly from here it's all a cakewalk. I have my doubts, but she insists it's true. Thats what I hear too. And adding a fourth is nothing apparently lol. |
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Post by klong11 on Sept 29, 2017 8:26:02 GMT -6
Re: asking for donations. I'm not sure ds would understand receiving and opening presents and then having to give them away. I mean the kid has enough stuff to fill a toy store (and a very nice one at that) but for him and most kids his age I guess, birthdays are about presents. I don't know...I think if you talk about it enough, they would understand. I know they aren't the same, but Evie keeps talking about getting her hair cut off, she knows if we do it, we are donating her hair to people who are sick and can't grow their own hair. She talks about it on her own and understands (at least I think she does) because she tells the grandmas that's what we are doing when she cuts it. So I think if I proposed this to her, she would understand. We don't have big bday parties for her though, it's just immediate family that attends. That said, she won't clean out the toys she has to donate to Big Brother/Big Sisters, so maybe I'm talking out my ass. :-) Cadence finally let me go through her toys with her to give to kids who didn't have toys. She understood and was ok with it. But, she only wanted to give away her "baby" toys. Not the puzzles though, like hell will she give up the damn puzzles she no longer plays with that are way too freaking easy for her. I just wanted to give them to her dc to put in the younger classrooms. Now she brings out the damn things every night just to spite me. LOL |
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Post by mwhip on Sept 29, 2017 8:30:51 GMT -6
I don't know...I think if you talk about it enough, they would understand. I know they aren't the same, but Evie keeps talking about getting her hair cut off, she knows if we do it, we are donating her hair to people who are sick and can't grow their own hair. She talks about it on her own and understands (at least I think she does) because she tells the grandmas that's what we are doing when she cuts it. So I think if I proposed this to her, she would understand. We don't have big bday parties for her though, it's just immediate family that attends. That said, she won't clean out the toys she has to donate to Big Brother/Big Sisters, so maybe I'm talking out my ass. :-) Cadence finally let me go through her toys with her to give to kids who didn't have toys. She understood and was ok with it. But, she only wanted to give away her "baby" toys. Not the puzzles though, like hell will she give up the damn puzzles she no longer plays with that are way too freaking easy for her. I just wanted to give them to her dc to put in the younger classrooms. Now she brings out the damn things every night just to spite me. LOL Ha, yes, they do understand spite at this age! I have tried to talk to her about donating toys, that some kids don't have as many toys as she does and if she isn't playing with them, another kid would love to have them. Anytime we start going through them, she insists she will play with them regularly. Is it bad to go through their toys when they aren't home and clean them out? Asking for a friend who will not have a kid at home for 2 nights next week... |
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Post by peachsmama on Sept 29, 2017 8:33:30 GMT -6
Cadence finally let me go through her toys with her to give to kids who didn't have toys. She understood and was ok with it. But, she only wanted to give away her "baby" toys. Not the puzzles though, like hell will she give up the damn puzzles she no longer plays with that are way too freaking easy for her. I just wanted to give them to her dc to put in the younger classrooms. Now she brings out the damn things every night just to spite me. LOL Ha, yes, they do understand spite at this age! I have tried to talk to her about donating toys, that some kids don't have as many toys as she does and if she isn't playing with them, another kid would love to have them. Anytime we start going through them, she insists she will play with them regularly. Is it bad to go through their toys when they aren't home and clean them out? Asking for a friend who will not have a kid at home for 2 nights next week... I don't think so. I doubt they would even notice. I do this. Hell, half the boys toys have been in storage for a year and they were things they played with regularly and they haven't noticed. |
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klong11
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Post by klong11 on Sept 29, 2017 8:34:51 GMT -6
mwhip, do it! I doubt Cadence would notice if I got rid of half the stuff we kept.
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Post by cagoldi on Sept 29, 2017 8:37:04 GMT -6
My mom said going from 1-2 is the hardest. Supposedly from here it's all a cakewalk. I have my doubts, but she insists it's true. Thats what I hear too. And adding a fourth is nothing apparently lol. I definitely won't be finding out for myself. |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Sept 29, 2017 8:37:45 GMT -6
I got an email from H’s preschool that they don’t do a Halloween party, but instead do a pajama party. Does anyone else’s school do this? My sister said that none of the public schools celebrate Halloween around here.
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Post by cagoldi on Sept 29, 2017 8:39:19 GMT -6
Cadence finally let me go through her toys with her to give to kids who didn't have toys. She understood and was ok with it. But, she only wanted to give away her "baby" toys. Not the puzzles though, like hell will she give up the damn puzzles she no longer plays with that are way too freaking easy for her. I just wanted to give them to her dc to put in the younger classrooms. Now she brings out the damn things every night just to spite me. LOL Ha, yes, they do understand spite at this age! I have tried to talk to her about donating toys, that some kids don't have as many toys as she does and if she isn't playing with them, another kid would love to have them. Anytime we start going through them, she insists she will play with them regularly. Is it bad to go through their toys when they aren't home and clean them out? Asking for a friend who will not have a kid at home for 2 nights next week... Nope. That's the only time I purge toys. Atticus has been super cute and "sharing" lately but then he decides X is done with whatever it is after 30 seconds. He's even been letting him snuggle his Mama Dog lovey. |
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 29, 2017 8:42:14 GMT -6
I got an email from H’s preschool that they don’t do a Halloween party, but instead do a pajama party. Does anyone else’s school do this? My sister said that none of the public schools celebrate Halloween around here. Ours has a huge carnival. lol. |
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Post by nam2013 on Sept 29, 2017 8:42:16 GMT -6
Cadence finally let me go through her toys with her to give to kids who didn't have toys. She understood and was ok with it. But, she only wanted to give away her "baby" toys. Not the puzzles though, like hell will she give up the damn puzzles she no longer plays with that are way too freaking easy for her. I just wanted to give them to her dc to put in the younger classrooms. Now she brings out the damn things every night just to spite me. LOL Ha, yes, they do understand spite at this age! I have tried to talk to her about donating toys, that some kids don't have as many toys as she does and if she isn't playing with them, another kid would love to have them. Anytime we start going through them, she insists she will play with them regularly. Is it bad to go through their toys when they aren't home and clean them out? Asking for a friend who will not have a kid at home for 2 nights next week... I'll sometimes put toys away, if they don't ask about it for a month or two, it's safe to say they've forgotten about it and donate or toss. |
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Post by klong11 on Sept 29, 2017 8:46:46 GMT -6
I got an email from H’s preschool that they don’t do a Halloween party, but instead do a pajama party. Does anyone else’s school do this? My sister said that none of the public schools celebrate Halloween around here. Ours has a huge carnival. lol. We have a fall festival where they can wear a costume the Friday before Halloween. Then on Halloween they will have their costume parade in the morning and classroom parties during snack time. It really isn't a Halloween party, though, just a time for extra snacks they wouldn't normally get that parents bring in. |
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Post by vino on Sept 29, 2017 9:49:42 GMT -6
Re: asking for donations. I'm not sure ds would understand receiving and opening presents and then having to give them away. I mean the kid has enough stuff to fill a toy store (and a very nice one at that) but for him and most kids his age I guess, birthdays are about presents. I don't know...I think if you talk about it enough, they would understand. I know they aren't the same, but Evie keeps talking about getting her hair cut off, she knows if we do it, we are donating her hair to people who are sick and can't grow their own hair. She talks about it on her own and understands (at least I think she does) because she tells the grandmas that's what we are doing when she cuts it. So I think if I proposed this to her, she would understand. We don't have big bday parties for her though, it's just immediate family that attends. That said, she won't clean out the toys she has to donate to Big Brother/Big Sisters, so maybe I'm talking out my ass. :-) I agree. I talk about donating with B and he understands. Even though it easier for me to drop off donations during the day without him I make a point of taking him with me when we go. |
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Post by chrisy01 on Sept 29, 2017 12:09:23 GMT -6
I don't know...I think if you talk about it enough, they would understand. I know they aren't the same, but Evie keeps talking about getting her hair cut off, she knows if we do it, we are donating her hair to people who are sick and can't grow their own hair. She talks about it on her own and understands (at least I think she does) because she tells the grandmas that's what we are doing when she cuts it. So I think if I proposed this to her, she would understand. We don't have big bday parties for her though, it's just immediate family that attends. That said, she won't clean out the toys she has to donate to Big Brother/Big Sisters, so maybe I'm talking out my ass. :-) I agree. I talk about donating with B and he understands. Even though it easier for me to drop off donations during the day without him I make a point of taking him with me when we go. Lo last year went to target with me to pick out a toy for toys for tots. It took some conversations but he got it and enjoyed it. He asks every now and then if he can pick out a toy for a kid |
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Post by nam2013 on Sept 29, 2017 12:27:51 GMT -6
Just to clarify, I didn't mean ds doesn't get the concept of donating. I just meant that I wasn't sure if he could understand receiving 'presents' on his birthday, unwrapping them, and then having to donate them. We have donated toys before.
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Post by klong11 on Sept 29, 2017 13:00:34 GMT -6
I think maybe I"ll get him a birthday card with a giftcard to like Gattiland or Main Event. That way it will be something fun they can do and it won't clutter up the house.  |
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Post by guster on Sept 29, 2017 14:16:34 GMT -6
I got an email from H’s preschool that they don’t do a Halloween party, but instead do a pajama party. Does anyone else’s school do this? My sister said that none of the public schools celebrate Halloween around here. Our preschool does a Halloween party, but no costumes are allowed because the director is nervous that some kids won't feel comfortable (i'm not sure if she means wearing a costume for three hours or comfortable with other people in costume, either way, it's the rule). They ask kids to wear orange and black that day. |
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Post by kim22 on Sept 29, 2017 15:07:10 GMT -6
Same here. 0-1 was challenging at times, but 1-2 is proving to be so hard! Dd is such a high-needs baby. At 16mo I still haven't been able to put the kids to bed on my own... (if Dh is out I call my mom or dad). I really really really hope that someday in the future 2-3 will be easier. My mom said going from 1-2 is the hardest. Supposedly from here it's all a cakewalk. I have my doubts, but she insists it's true. 0-1 was by far the hardest for me. I'm letting my 7 year old raise number 4. |
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