Thursday thoughts.

[tgrimes]

So my neighbor always says no gifts. This year they requested books to donate for a children's library that got destroyed in the flood. But, he has plenty of toys.

I'd probably still get him a little something.

[tgrimes]

Sept 28, 2017 19:20:50 GMT -6 klong11 said:

Sept 28, 2017 18:39:29 GMT -6 mwhip said:

klong11 your H wipes his butt wrong...standing up, how does he even get it all? I'm confused and can't imagine doing this myself!

Idk, but he tried getting Cadence to do it that way and I was like, uh, no, we're not teaching her the WRONG way!

She still doesn't wipe herself at all, though. Doesn't even attempt to.

M doesn't attempt to wipe her butt at all.

[cagoldi]

Hi mamabear!

[tallb]

Sept 28, 2017 19:41:38 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Sept 28, 2017 19:20:50 GMT -6 klong11 said:

Idk, but he tried getting Cadence to do it that way and I was like, uh, no, we're not teaching her the WRONG way!

She still doesn't wipe herself at all, though. Doesn't even attempt to.

M doesn't attempt to wipe her butt at all.

J just started having to wipe himself in his new class. Apparently he comes out of the bathroom with his pants down and announces he pooped and then asks them to see if he wiped enough 😂. To be a fly on the wall..

[tgrimes]

tallb LOL. So M is supposed to wipe herself, but she doesn't. I started throwing the panties away because it's just not worth it anymore.

[klong11]

Sept 28, 2017 19:47:41 GMT -6 tallb said:

Sept 28, 2017 19:41:38 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

M doesn't attempt to wipe her butt at all.

J just started having to wipe himself in his new class. Apparently he comes out of the bathroom with his pants down and announces he pooped and then asks them to see if he wiped enough 😂. To be a fly on the wall..

I wish Cadence would ask her teacher for help. Instead she just comes home with skid marks. 😷

[chrisy01]

So LO is refusing to go potty at DC. Will go anywhere else for anyone else but her and her daughter. No matter what we or she says. Plus yesterday she told me she was going to be closed this Wednesday. I get she needs to take care of things but more notice would be great. He was a monster last night for me and tonight is not looking so great either. DH is doing a guys night, so I'm all alone again. Please send lots of wine.

[vino]

chrisy01 Ugh...where are we on getting him moved? Like, tomorrow? How did the rest of the night go?

[klong11]

chrisy01 what did she say about the daughter yelling at him? How old is the daughter? I feel like he has legitimate reasons for not going for them.

[chrisy01]

Sept 28, 2017 21:19:24 GMT -6 klong11 said:

chrisy01 what did she say about the daughter yelling at him? How old is the daughter? I feel like he has legitimate reasons for not going for them.

She said that the daughter just talked sternly Her daughter is 21. LO is going to get his physical this Wednesday since I have to stay home with him anyway. Then we submit our applications. I was told by all the options that they would let me know very quickly.

[chrisy01]

Sept 28, 2017 21:00:10 GMT -6 vino said:

chrisy01 Ugh...where are we on getting him moved? Like, tomorrow? How did the reat of the night go?

We are still working on going to bed.

[chrisy01]

All is bedtime toys are gone. Two toys are thrown away and he is still not asleep

[inthekitty]

Dang chrisy01. He's being persistent isn't he? Can you threaten that you'll tell Captain Hook/Scrooge McDuck and pretend to call him? Or maybe ask him what will help him sleep. Perhaps giving him a sense of control over it.

[chrisy01]

Sept 28, 2017 22:44:07 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

Dang chrisy01. He's being persistent isn't he? Can you threaten that you'll tell Captain Hook/Scrooge McDuck and pretend to call him? Or maybe ask him what will help him sleep. Perhaps giving him a sense of control over it.

I've tried everything this week. I'm now throwing away toys. It took quite a few to be thrown in the big trash for him to finally calm down. I'm no longer warning or counting. Based on what's happening right now he's now calming down and will be asleep in 20 minutes.

To be honest they so far have been toys I was planning on throwing away for various reasons so...

Dh so owes me for the past two nights.

[chrisy01]

He is officially asleep. Now it's my turn. Goodnight ladies.

[nam2013]

Sept 28, 2017 19:15:44 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Sept 28, 2017 18:29:15 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

This is me, too. All of it, except I'm hoping for a day away in December once football is over for us.

I also feel like a crappy friend here because I can usually keep up, but never have a chance to post until late. By that time, I forget the conversations and what I wanted to say.

The going back to work with 2 struggle is real. I never imagined going from 1 to 2 kids would be this difficult for me. Going from 0-1 was a breeze.

0-1 was hard, 1-2 was super difficult for me. Hang in there, it's still super busy but it gets better.

Same here. 0-1 was challenging at times, but 1-2 is proving to be so hard! Dd is such a high-needs baby. At 16mo I still haven't been able to put the kids to bed on my own... (if Dh is out I call my mom or dad). I really really really hope that someday in the future 2-3 will be easier.

[peachsmama]

Sept 28, 2017 19:41:02 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

So my neighbor always says no gifts. This year they requested books to donate for a children's library that got destroyed in the flood. But, he has plenty of toys.

I'd probably still get him a little something.

I think thats really sweet though. Especially something that hits so close to home for people coming. 

I would still bring a little something though. 

[mwhip]

Sept 29, 2017 6:27:38 GMT -6 peachsmama said:

Sept 28, 2017 19:41:02 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

So my neighbor always says no gifts. This year they requested books to donate for a children's library that got destroyed in the flood. But, he has plenty of toys.

I'd probably still get him a little something.

I think thats really sweet though. Especially something that hits so close to home for people coming. 

I would still bring a little something though. 

I get what you guys are saying.  I have a friend who, for her daughters 2nd bday party, they request only books be brought, to donate to a local children's hospital.  I asked my friend, and she insisted, since her daughter had everything that she could ever want.  Books were still wrapped, so the bday girl got to open them, but I don't recall that anyone brought her a gift.  I thought it was very sweet and thoughtful on the kid and parents part.

I know if I requested no gifts, I probably really wouldn't want them because Evie's room, closet, our 3rd bedroom and the living room, most of the time look like Toys R Us threw up in.  

[tgrimes]

Sept 29, 2017 6:47:07 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Sept 29, 2017 6:27:38 GMT -6 peachsmama said:

I think thats really sweet though. Especially something that hits so close to home for people coming. 

I would still bring a little something though. 

I get what you guys are saying.  I have a friend who, for her daughters 2nd bday party, they request only books be brought, to donate to a local children's hospital.  I asked my friend, and she insisted, since her daughter had everything that she could ever want.  Books were still wrapped, so the bday girl got to open them, but I don't recall that anyone brought her a gift.  I thought it was very sweet and thoughtful on the kid and parents part.

I know if I requested no gifts, I probably really wouldn't want them because Evie's room, closet, our 3rd bedroom and the living room, most of the time look like Toys R Us threw up in.  

I should have been more clear.  My bad. 

I did not buy my next door neighbor's child a gift because I know he has everything he could want.  In klong11's situation, i think the little boy lives with his grandma and may not be very well off...unless I'm confusing him with someone else. (which could totally be the case.)

[mwhip]

Sept 29, 2017 7:02:47 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Sept 29, 2017 6:47:07 GMT -6 mwhip said:

I get what you guys are saying.  I have a friend who, for her daughters 2nd bday party, they request only books be brought, to donate to a local children's hospital.  I asked my friend, and she insisted, since her daughter had everything that she could ever want.  Books were still wrapped, so the bday girl got to open them, but I don't recall that anyone brought her a gift.  I thought it was very sweet and thoughtful on the kid and parents part.

I know if I requested no gifts, I probably really wouldn't want them because Evie's room, closet, our 3rd bedroom and the living room, most of the time look like Toys R Us threw up in.  

I should have been more clear.  My bad. 

I did not buy my next door neighbor's child a gift because I know he has everything he could want.  In klong11 's situation, i think the little boy lives with his grandma and may not be very well off...unless I'm confusing him with someone else. (which could totally be the case.)

That situation would make sense, I should have read more from previous posts!  In that circumstance, I would buy stuff to donate as well as something for the birthday boy!

I'm not completely heartless.  :-)

[peachsmama]

Sept 29, 2017 7:02:47 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Sept 29, 2017 6:47:07 GMT -6 mwhip said:

I get what you guys are saying.  I have a friend who, for her daughters 2nd bday party, they request only books be brought, to donate to a local children's hospital.  I asked my friend, and she insisted, since her daughter had everything that she could ever want.  Books were still wrapped, so the bday girl got to open them, but I don't recall that anyone brought her a gift.  I thought it was very sweet and thoughtful on the kid and parents part.

I know if I requested no gifts, I probably really wouldn't want them because Evie's room, closet, our 3rd bedroom and the living room, most of the time look like Toys R Us threw up in.  

I should have been more clear.  My bad. 

I did not buy my next door neighbor's child a gift because I know he has everything he could want.  In klong11 's situation, i think the little boy lives with his grandma and may not be very well off...unless I'm confusing him with someone else. (which could totally be the case.)

I think we're thinking of the same child she's mentioned previously and thats why I answered that way too for her situation. But in general, it's hard for me to not get a gift. I'm basing this on my boys and thats not right for all children, but they just wouldn't understand so I feel the need to get them a little something. My friend did this for her daughters 1st, asked that people donate to a CHD charity because of her situation. I bought her a cute sweater for winter and donated as well. I just donated what I would normally spend on her and got the sweater as extra. But gifts are my love language. I love buying for people. I have to set a hard budget or I'll buy all the things for everyone lol. 

[chrisy01]

I've been thinking about the gift situation. I think I would do the donation for the pet thing like they asked but then do an experience thing. Like offer to take the boy and my kid to a children's museum or a movie or a special place to eat. That way it's not another thing but you can dress it up with like faux movie tickets explaining what's going on with a bag of popcorn or something.

[tgrimes]

Sept 29, 2017 7:18:01 GMT -6 chrisy01 said:

I've been thinking about the gift situation. I think I would do the donation for the pet thing like they asked but then do an experience thing. Like offer to take the boy and my kid to a children's museum or a movie or a special place to eat. That way it's not another thing but you can dress it up with like faux movie tickets explaining what's going on with a bag of popcorn or something.

That's a good idea.

[klong11]

Yes, that is the same little boy. I understand people not wanting more toys, trust me, I get it, we are overflowing, but I would just get him a book or something as well as toys for the donation.

peachsmama yes! I love buying for people as well. I hate receiving, but damn, do I love to give.

[peachsmama]

Sept 29, 2017 7:21:01 GMT -6 klong11 said:

Yes, that is the same little boy. I understand people not wanting more toys, trust me, I get it, we are overflowing, but I would just get him a book or something as well as toys for the donation.

peachsmama yes! I love buying for people as well. I hate receiving, but damn, do I love to give.

Yes. I hate when people are watching me open gifts.. Thats why I like gifts from my mom best lol. She always orders late, never wraps and forgets to give it. So it's never a big production. We'll be half way through christmas and she's like "Oh shit, Abby your gift is under my bed. Grab it when you leave" Thanks mom. Lol. 

[wineallthetime]

lahdeedah, I totally get what you're saying. 0-1 was fine for me and 1-2 was HARD. Really really hard. It's gotten so much easier though and will for you as well! I've heard 1-2 is way harder than going from 2-3 and I pray daily that is correct haha!

[cagoldi]

Sept 28, 2017 19:50:39 GMT -6 klong11 said:

Sept 28, 2017 19:47:41 GMT -6 tallb said:

J just started having to wipe himself in his new class. Apparently he comes out of the bathroom with his pants down and announces he pooped and then asks them to see if he wiped enough 😂. To be a fly on the wall..

I wish Cadence would ask her teacher for help. Instead she just comes home with skid marks. 😷

Identical same.

[nam2013]

Sept 29, 2017 7:21:01 GMT -6 klong11 said:

Yes, that is the same little boy. I understand people not wanting more toys, trust me, I get it, we are overflowing, but I would just get him a book or something as well as toys for the donation.

peachsmama yes! I love buying for people as well. I hate receiving, but damn, do I love to give.

I loooooooove buying people presents!!!

[nam2013]

Re: asking for donations. I'm not sure ds would understand receiving and opening presents and then having to give them away. I mean the kid has enough stuff to fill a toy store (and a very nice one at that) but for him and most kids his age I guess, birthdays are about presents.

[tgrimes]

Sept 29, 2017 8:03:36 GMT -6 nam2013 said:

Re: asking for donations. I'm not sure ds would understand receiving and opening presents and then having to give them away. I mean the kid has enough stuff to fill a toy store (and a very nice one at that) but for him and most kids his age I guess, birthdays are about presents.

None of the donations have been wrapped at the parties I've been to.