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Post by jt2378 on Sept 30, 2017 17:43:48 GMT -6
king26, evenings can just be a fussy time especially at this age. Hang in there, I'm sorry
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Post by cali on Sept 30, 2017 17:49:26 GMT -6
addymac, I'm LoL-ing at you saying you have a big fatty!! M has days where she eats like a hog too. I think it's when they're having growth spurts. The other day she nursed 40 minutes then ate 4oz from a bottle and was still showing hunger cues and screaming until I finally got her to fall asleep. So frustrating and confusing! She also has days where being on the boob is the only thing that calms her, the pacifier only works like half the time with her. Also, I'm right there with you on wishing YH could get a tough day to see what it's like. Whenever MH is with M she sleeps soooo well. I know he thinks I'm exaggerating how bad she is during the week!
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Post by king26 on Sept 30, 2017 18:37:51 GMT -6
Anyone think thier baby has colic? It would be late for J to get it but doctor said possible. He was great all day until 5 then started screaming. I got him in the Moby wrap at 630 and he passed out. Woke up at 730 ate half an ounce and started screaming again. I hate when he won't eat because of screaming. He did get on the boob for 20 minutes then after that ate his bottle and passed out. I just hate the screaming he turns red, screams , pushing down like he has to poop, and has an over all rough time and is hard to sooth. It hurts to watch although doctor says he isn't really hurting if it is colic. Both DH and I have a hard time with it. I hope it isn't colic because I don't know if we will survive weeks or no the if this. If nothing else at least it showed up at 5 weeks and not 3??
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Post by muscari on Sept 30, 2017 22:46:19 GMT -6
OMG D. slept from 10.30 till 6??? She woke briefly at 4 which already was later then I expected but didnt really wake nor gave hunger cues so I let her stir for a cpl minutes and she fell back asleep. Next time I wake is 6am and she is still asleep?? I could hear her breathing or else I prolly would have freaked out heh. checked on her and gave her a kiss and she was a little bit awake. Decided that regardless of obvious hunger cues she was going to eat heh. So i changed her daiper and then she really woke up and made it impossible for me to put on her fresh daiper lol wth girl - and now she is happily sucking away on the boob. I do hope she will sleep a couple more hours but who knows at this point.
So of course now I am really worried something is wrong with her that makes her sleep this long..she even had good naps yesterday afternoon and all so it wasnt like earlier this week where she just wouldnt sleep during the day. While then she didnt sleep this long even!
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Post by muscari on Sept 30, 2017 23:01:35 GMT -6
king26 D. has really bad cramps at times (and has had those for weeks now tho it seems to get a little less often) which makes her cry and scream so bad. Often we can feel and hear her tummy deal with the gas even. It s so sad and often brings tears to my eyes.. the cramps and crying is often followed or preceded by pooping (or both) so it seems related. But she never cries for hours on end (/knocks on wood) so she doesn't qualify as a colicy baby. I am sorry J has been screaming so much - that has really really hard. I hope that he managed to calm down and sleep even and you were able ti get some rest yourself too. So envious of you being able to use the moby wrap succesfully. I really like the ease of the carrier but would just love the cosyness and comfort of wearing D in a wrap.
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Post by muscari on Sept 30, 2017 23:04:10 GMT -6
Maybe 6 week growth spurt too? I forgot about the 6 wk growth spurth. Got that one coming here as well then. She already boobs every 1-1.5 hours it is hard to imagine an increase in frequency still haha. But i know she may. Good thing I dont have to be anywhere anyway 🙃
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Post by muscari on Sept 30, 2017 23:16:46 GMT -6
I'm sorry king26 - at least you were able to find a way to calm him? I'm so annoyed. N has been so sleepy all day and it's DHs day to take care of him and he's been a fucking angel. Jut sleep, eat, stay awake for a little bit, fall asleep, repeat. He's currently been asleep since 230pm- almost four hours and I'm so jealous. 😠Like, I'm glad N is getting good rest but I also wish DH would have to get to do a tough day just so he really knows what it's like. I'm a bitch, I know lol. Yep I am right there with you. It can be so friggin frustrating to see H get all "OMG this is hard and too much I can't take it anymore" after like 5 minutes if fussing and crying while I just spent the day with her like that. On the one hand I really want her to be good when daddy gets home from work so then can spend some qualitytime together as well as I know he misses her a lot. But on the other hand it wouldn't hurt for him to really experience real endless fussyness as well heh. I have let him get uninterupted sleep for weeks while I solo nights. The other day we all slept together 2 nights in a row and esp. the second night D was a beast. MH was like 🤤😲 and worn out by the time morning rolled around and I was like lol this is what I have been dealing with for weeks now hah. And on top of that sleep deprivation we also deal with fussy babies during the day. And do some chores or prep dinner etc. And not loose it. We are supermoms y'all! 😆
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 1, 2017 0:40:08 GMT -6
king26 Mine has been super fussy from about 7:30pm to 10pm recently, but I figured it was just the witching hour and the 6 week growth spurt muscari, I've heard that sleep leads to more sleep, so maybe that's why you had good night sleep despite the good daytime naps. So jealous I was going to go to a baby wearing group yesterday for the first time, but just couldn't get ready in time and still shaking that cold. I've been using the K'tan a lot, but I don't always wrap it right. The other day both straps ended up over one shoulder, lol. In other news, I distracted my toddler for 40 minutes by giving him a sheet of bubble wrap! It's amazing how that works.
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Post by king26 on Oct 1, 2017 0:54:47 GMT -6
Bad night. I don't know if we can do this if it's colic.dh basically had a meltdownsaying he needs a break and can't do months of this. I'm not Sure I can either. We all got back to bed and I wake u patter an hour and have to hold j's bink in his mouth and DH wakes up screaming from a nightmare so I sooth him too. I'm exhaysted I feel like crap and I'm worried if this is colic it's going to ruin mine and DH relationship getting through it.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 1, 2017 1:11:56 GMT -6
king26 Hugs. Hopefully, it's just a very short phase. My pediatrician said 5-6 weeks was the peak of fussiness. I hope it gets better soon and you guys can get some rest and take it one day at a time.
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Post by king26 on Oct 1, 2017 2:53:37 GMT -6
When your child whimpers and makes noises while they sleep what do you Do. Do you get them up? Give them a paci? Rock them? I usually give j a paci and hit vibrate on his bassinet but that really only works for another 30 minutes or so.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2017 6:17:27 GMT -6
When your child whimpers and makes noises while they sleep what do you Do. Do you get them up? Give them a paci? Rock them? I usually give j a paci and hit vibrate on his bassinet but that really only works for another 30 minutes or so. Like whimpers but not really crying? I just let him go until it seems like he's actually distressed. Because A is jist noisy in his sleep, so I'm sort of finding out which noises I can ignore and which ones are when I need to pick him up. Sorry J seems super fussy. Have you tried gas drops or gripe water? Idk if gripe water really works, I've only tried it a couple times. But it's worth seeing. You can do this though. Just take it one day at a time. I know it's overwhelming, and if your H is freaking out maybe he can take a night or two in another room? I know that I feel better taking care of A by myself if MH is stressed. He stresses me out more than the baby when it gets to that point.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 1, 2017 6:52:18 GMT -6
Like others have said king26, your in the peak stage of fussiness, it won't last forever but YH needs to be supportive and as exhausting and frustrating as it is, you need his help to get through this hard time. It's just a stage and part of having a baby. I encourage you to talk to your OB for some help, is your 6 week PP appt coming up? Big hugs, you will get through it, it's only temporary. Colic sucks believe me I know
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Post by king26 on Oct 1, 2017 7:51:57 GMT -6
Like others have said king26, your in the peak stage of fussiness, it won't last forever but YH needs to be supportive and as exhausting and frustrating as it is, you need his help to get through this hard time. It's just a stage and part of having a baby. I encourage you to talk to your OB for some help, is your 6 week PP appt coming up? Big hugs, you will get through it, it's only temporary. Colic sucks believe me I know My appointment is on Thursday. I'm hoping they can give me some pointers as I'm just frustrated. I feel bad being frustrated though . I've heard 6 weeks is when fussiness and colic peak so hopefully that is true and things will start getting bettet..i know they won't go away. It's just hard because we have no family here to help us.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 1, 2017 8:18:29 GMT -6
Like others have said king26, your in the peak stage of fussiness, it won't last forever but YH needs to be supportive and as exhausting and frustrating as it is, you need his help to get through this hard time. It's just a stage and part of having a baby. I encourage you to talk to your OB for some help, is your 6 week PP appt coming up? Big hugs, you will get through it, it's only temporary. Colic sucks believe me I know My appointment is on Thursday. I'm hoping they can give me some pointers as I'm just frustrated. I feel bad being frustrated though . I've heard 6 weeks is when fussiness and colic peak so hopefully that is true and things will start getting bettet..i know they won't go away. It's just hard because we have no family here to help us. Don't feel bad for being frustrated, your only human. The nonstop crying can be so exhausting. I hope your dr can offer some support and baby J starts to let up on the fussiness. M is pretty fussy too and it's hard. I'm hoping we are turning the corner too
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Post by addymac on Oct 1, 2017 9:00:44 GMT -6
king26 I'm so sorry. I know you have no family (we don't have anyone to help either) but do you think maybe finding a babysitter to take him for a few hours so you guys can either get some uninterrupted sleep or go out alone could be helpful for both of your mental health? You can get through this. You will get through this.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 1, 2017 13:05:47 GMT -6
Unmmm I started bleeding lightly a couple days ago, I will scream if this is AF??!! I thought maybe it was from the exam from my OB on Wednesday but I don't think I would still have spotting this many days after. FML
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Post by jexxa on Oct 1, 2017 13:19:49 GMT -6
Unmmm I started bleeding lightly a couple days ago, I will scream if this is AF??!! I thought maybe it was from the exam from my OB on Wednesday but I don't think I would still have spotting this many days after. FML I've heard that it's common for women to start bleeding again between 6-8 weeks. Something with hormones I think? It shouldn't last long though.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2017 13:34:26 GMT -6
Is anyone else pretty much exclusively breastfeeding? The only stash I have is for when I'm not there and I do not have much at the moment.
A has been wanting to nurse 24/7 the past two days and my supply has no chance to catch up. So last night he was so inconsolable at bedtime and had been cluster feeding for almost 3 hours that I had to defrost a bag and give it to him. I've tried to hold off nursing as much today, but he just escalates and won't calm down until he's on the boob. Any advice?
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Post by bsouls on Oct 1, 2017 13:59:09 GMT -6
When your child whimpers and makes noises while they sleep what do you Do. Do you get them up? Give them a paci? Rock them? I usually give j a paci and hit vibrate on his bassinet but that really only works for another 30 minutes or so. Babies are noises sleepers and move a lot. I let them go, unless it is a lot of noises all at once. Then, I give the pacifier if they want it and eyes closed. If they’ve been sleeping a few hours and eyes are open then I assume they’re waking up and ready to eat. Babies are really hard on relationships. We find talking about it and being aware helps. Do you use white noise? I can’t remember what you use. I would try straight white noise sound or an ocean sound - and, I play it really loud for R since she’s noisy and it helps me sleep, too.
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Post by bsouls on Oct 1, 2017 14:03:23 GMT -6
jt2378 I keep feeling like my period is going to start, but it hasn’t. I have extremely irregular, heavy cycles - it’s not uncommon for me to feel like it’s coming, but for it not. So, here I just keep waiting and hoping that the second baby will regulate me.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 1, 2017 14:28:17 GMT -6
Unmmm I started bleeding lightly a couple days ago, I will scream if this is AF??!! I thought maybe it was from the exam from my OB on Wednesday but I don't think I would still have spotting this many days after. FML I had light bleeding a little after six weeks and thought exactly the same!! But it went away the next day, so I think it was just leftover postpartum bleeding.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 1, 2017 20:01:44 GMT -6
Is anyone else pretty much exclusively breastfeeding? The only stash I have is for when I'm not there and I do not have much at the moment. A has been wanting to nurse 24/7 the past two days and my supply has no chance to catch up. So last night he was so inconsolable at bedtime and had been cluster feeding for almost 3 hours that I had to defrost a bag and give it to him. I've tried to hold off nursing as much today, but he just escalates and won't calm down until he's on the boob. Any advice? This has been M all day and night today. I'm so touched out right now and really hope she sleeps a decent stretch. The nonstop nursing like that should boost your supply although at the time they make you feel like they can't possibly be getting enough ugh. No advice really just commiseration, hang in there 😞
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Post by muscari on Oct 1, 2017 22:15:56 GMT -6
Am behind on this thread some -will catch up later!
As awesome as D slept last night, tonight is quite the opposite. Waiting for her to fall asleep again after 2 poops and 3 boobs. I think she is almost there - just hoping the hickups will stay away now.
Any if your babies get the hickups a lot? Any tricks to get them to stop quicker - or like prevent them altogether? She seems to mostly get them like 5 minutes after being put to bed which sucks cause it will wake her up and often refuses to go back to sleep unless she gets to comfort nurse some..paci isnt a working alternative..
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Post by muscari on Oct 1, 2017 22:17:26 GMT -6
I wish the MOTN sessions werent as long as they are... going 2h now. Yawns I am so tired!
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Post by muscari on Oct 1, 2017 22:26:46 GMT -6
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 2, 2017 4:41:25 GMT -6
@muscarj, yes, M gets the hiccups so much too! The only trick I know is nursing again, the sucking usually helps so I'm surprised the paci doesn't work for D. They do grow out of it though and it's definitely not as frequent down the road
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Post by muscari on Oct 2, 2017 8:15:21 GMT -6
@muscarj, yes, M gets the hiccups so much too! The only trick I know is nursing again, the sucking usually helps so I'm surprised the paci doesn't work for D. They do grow out of it though and it's definitely not as frequent down the road She usually is too frustrated to hold on to the paci I think. I did notice that putting her on the boob seemed to help so often use that ... 😊 glad to hear they does grow out of it! Eventually..
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Post by muscari on Oct 2, 2017 12:25:00 GMT -6
Is anyone else pretty much exclusively breastfeeding? The only stash I have is for when I'm not there and I do not have much at the moment. A has been wanting to nurse 24/7 the past two days and my supply has no chance to catch up. So last night he was so inconsolable at bedtime and had been cluster feeding for almost 3 hours that I had to defrost a bag and give it to him. I've tried to hold off nursing as much today, but he just escalates and won't calm down until he's on the boob. Any advice? I am pretty much exclusively breastfeeding as well. Am afraod I dont really havr any advice tho.. Some days I manage to pump and store for later but other days i don't get a chance due to D. wanting to be on the boob like all the time. It is so hit and miss. I did manage to freeze 6oz the other day and should be able to store another 4oz today but at this rate it will be a while till I have enough to cover a day away. All other stash so far got/gets used for bottles to supplement. Could it be A is going thru another growth spurt? Clustering could be cause of that and it should help your supply go up as well. I have been told and read there is no minimum time required of pause necessary between nursing sessions as milk will continue to be produced while nursing.. tho i will admit I wonder whether that is really the case as well. I know it is extremely exhausting and you don't get anything done besides nursing but maybe one or two days of relaxing in bed or on the couch and letting A nurse as often and as long as he wants may both help A feel more comfi and uo your supply as well. I don't know what it is called in English but we call ot "regeldagen" where baby is wanting to nurse a ton and it signals your boobs to make more milk to accommodate the higher demand. Not sure I explain well. But I did this the other day cause I felt my supply wasnt up to d s demand and I do feel it helped. Or maybe there is a LC you could consult with? Or check the website of la leche league for a free consult with one if their volunteers in your area?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2017 12:38:02 GMT -6
Thanks muscari. It could be a growth spurt, those are exhausting. Yesterday was the sane long nursing sessions and I didn't need to defrost more milk. So that is good. I also chose the wrong night to transition A from the RnP to the bassinet. Oh so tired.
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