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Post by wineallthetime on Sept 19, 2017 5:04:34 GMT -6
I haven't decided if I'll invite daycare friends. C has a lot of friends in our neighborhood and kids of our friends. He wants to invite a few from daycare, but if we invite some do we have to invite all??
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Post by klong11 on Sept 19, 2017 7:39:55 GMT -6
wineallthetime, I need to ask Cadence's teacher about this. I may have to do an email invite since Cadence doesn't want to invite everyone. I may just be able to put them in cubbies without non-invited parents seeing, though.
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Post by chrisy01 on Sept 19, 2017 7:54:29 GMT -6
Two of the preschools we are looking at mentioned if we throw a party we should invite all or none. They don't want anyone to feel left out.
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Post by klong11 on Sept 19, 2017 8:04:29 GMT -6
chrisy01 , that is my concern. They all talk now about their parties and oh are you going to so and so's party, so I may have to just get email addresses and do evites instead ETA: I realize this doesn't end up being an "invite the whole class" thing, but at least then the kids don't really know about the parties until they happen.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Sept 19, 2017 8:11:29 GMT -6
I haven't decided if I'll invite daycare friends. C has a lot of friends in our neighborhood and kids of our friends. He wants to invite a few from daycare, but if we invite some do we have to invite all?? H's school doesn't allow passing out invitations at school. Can you get an address list of his classmates and mail invites to the ones you want?
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Post by Cher on Sept 19, 2017 8:15:21 GMT -6
We're doing what we did last year. We're going to have it at a bar. Mexican or BBQ food, booze for the adults, a magician for the kids. C1 wants a Batman theme so we will work in some superhero stuff. He wants to invite a few friends from class. I don't know if they have an all or nothing rule but I'm not paying for a whole class and their parents. I'm on a picture sharing group with his class that has parents' email addresses, so I will email evites directly to the parents of people he wants to invite.
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Post by cagoldi on Sept 19, 2017 9:11:08 GMT -6
Dude told me he wants a Baby Octopus and Baby Wildebeest party.
My kid is weird, guise.
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Post by klong11 on Sept 19, 2017 9:12:08 GMT -6
Dude told me he wants a Baby Octopus and Baby Wildebeest party. My kid is weird, guise. I have a friend who threw her 3 year old a blue cat party. It was what he wanted. So everything was blue, everyone got cat ears to wear. Super cute.
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Post by SweetPotato on Sept 19, 2017 9:28:57 GMT -6
All M says is that he wants a round elephant (shocker!!) cake
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Post by guster on Sept 19, 2017 9:30:29 GMT -6
Dude told me he wants a Baby Octopus and Baby Wildebeest party. My kid is weird, guise. I have a friend who threw her 3 year old a blue cat party. It was what he wanted. So everything was blue, everyone got cat ears to wear. Super cute. I love that!
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Post by wineallthetime on Sept 19, 2017 9:46:33 GMT -6
I haven't decided if I'll invite daycare friends. C has a lot of friends in our neighborhood and kids of our friends. He wants to invite a few from daycare, but if we invite some do we have to invite all?? H's school doesn't allow passing out invitations at school. Can you get an address list of his classmates and mail invites to the ones you want? Ours does allow it and C has requested to put them in his friends mailboxes like some friends have done. I'm just trying to decide if I want to invite a few from there or none.
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Post by inthekitty on Sept 19, 2017 9:48:05 GMT -6
wineallthetime, I know I'm often in the minority on this, but I'm firmly a big no on the necessity to invite all. I have done it in the past because Maddie's preschool class was small, but I won't do it again. People have in their minds that all the kids are talking about the party and others are feeling left out and that's just not the case for this age, when they are older, yes maybe, but this age no. Going to a party doesn't even depend so much on an invite as it does if the parent has freedom in their schedule to take the kid. I've had people not RSVP and show up with siblings. I've had people RSVP and not show. I'd much rather reach out directly to 2-3 parents if I can get their contact info and go from there. I mean, of course don't go the obvious asshole route and invite 75% of the kids, but if you're inviting a couple just try to get their contact info and don't expect the school to give out the invites to a select few. Also, if my kids are ever upset by that as long as they didn't get shafted and regularly play with a kid and they weren't invited, I'd tell them that "Joey invited his close friends, you don't normally play with Joey so that's why you weren't invited." It's a lesson everyone has to learn eventually. I find the invite all practice exhausting honestly. I hate attending random kid parties for people I don't know, but my general policy is if my kid gets an invite as long as we have time in our schedule we'll go because I know the fear of having no one show up for your kid's party. There have definitely been a few times I was glad I chaperoned the kids to a party because there were hardly any kids there. But there have been other times when the place was like a madhouse and there was 20 kids there and the guest of honor clearly wasn't that interested in my kid's attendance and it was a waste of an afternoon for me.
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Post by wineallthetime on Sept 19, 2017 9:58:11 GMT -6
inthekitty, thank you! You just confirmed what I was feeling.
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Post by Sunny41 on Sept 19, 2017 10:07:12 GMT -6
I think we're just going to do something at the park. Whatever theme he settles on and throw in a piñata, food, decorations, call it a day. Last year was his big party, I'm not going all out for all the kids every year. I was thinking about a park party too before I thought of bounce house rental. I really don't want to clean the house!
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Post by Sunny41 on Sept 19, 2017 10:12:00 GMT -6
Dude told me he wants a Baby Octopus and Baby Wildebeest party. My kid is weird, guise. I love it!
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Post by Sunny41 on Sept 19, 2017 10:15:08 GMT -6
wedding I think that is a good time to get the invites out. Honestly the longer I have to rsvp the more likely I am to not do it. With less time I usually know what I am doing that day and I can say yes or no. It will also be early enough that people won't have committed to halloween stuff.
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Post by tallb on Sept 19, 2017 13:46:01 GMT -6
I'm annoyed with js new class. There are 18 kids in it! And I don't know a lot of them. And one has a bday 2 days before j and the mom says she likes to do a brunch the Sunday after Thanksgiving. And he has a good friend with a birthday the week before. So chances are we will have completing parties. Maybe I'll just invite the friends he likes since there are so many siblings...plus my neice and nephew will come and we have other friends. Blerg.
I just looked at this fancy new indoor playspace. $25 per extra kid over the 12 included😨. I'm hoping a fire station pulls through, but I'm starting to give up hope..I am currently resorting to Facebook messaging them.
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Post by wedding on Sept 19, 2017 16:27:59 GMT -6
I forgot about the sibling situation. That could sway me to skip it this year to be honest. C has 28 in his class and I don't have contact info on most. They have a strict no invites in cubbies if all aren't invited so I don't know how I would exclude some. The Y does 20 and that would be a safe bet with inviting 28, but not if siblings come.
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Post by wineallthetime on Sept 19, 2017 16:46:40 GMT -6
So C got invited to a party at a bowling alley. Can we bring L? Obviously we wouldn't have her bowl or anything. I can take him alone, but I was hoping to have MH there to talk to since I have never met these parents and have no clue if any other kids from daycare are even going (and I still wouldn't know them anyway).
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Post by peachsmama on Sept 19, 2017 17:45:03 GMT -6
So C got invited to a party at a bowling alley. Can we bring L? Obviously we wouldn't have her bowl or anything. I can take him alone, but I was hoping to have MH there to talk to since I have never met these parents and have no clue if any other kids from daycare are even going (and I still wouldn't know them anyway). I would. She's not bowling and doesn't eat enough to affect food.
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Post by yummeecookee on Sept 19, 2017 17:52:21 GMT -6
So C got invited to a party at a bowling alley. Can we bring L? Obviously we wouldn't have her bowl or anything. I can take him alone, but I was hoping to have MH there to talk to since I have never met these parents and have no clue if any other kids from daycare are even going (and I still wouldn't know them anyway). I think bowling alley is ok if she's not bowling or eating. I know some places can be strict about how many people due to fire code and such, but that wouldn't be the case here.
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Post by inthekitty on Sept 19, 2017 18:05:22 GMT -6
wineallthetime, I'd bring L. I don't have a problem if siblings come as long as I know the final number before the party, which I've had no clue 2 years in a row and ended up buying way too much food and favors. wedding, I don't blame you for wanting to forgo a big party due to the sibling situation though, the previous parties I've had for the girls have been at my house, so other than being cramped, an extra kid or two isn't a problem. But I think that's one of the biggest issues with the invite everyone philosophy. When you're paying $xx per child most people can't afford to have 20+ kids, and siblings often have to tag along. For me, if I had no other arrangements and had to bring both girls, if one wasn't invited I'd just pay for her to do the activity separate from the party...but people are rude and some wouldn't think of it--hence the absence of RSVPs. I don't know any of the other parents either. I've been trying to get the girls to tell me if there's 1-2 kids they like to play with and see if the schools come out with a directory in time because I'm burned out on parties at the house and no one showing. We just don't have a network of friends with kids. I have a small social group and they are childless. We've only got one solid social contact we've met through the girls and have playdates with. If we can't get contact info for other parents they might just have a "party" with that mutual friend at the trampoline park.
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Post by melaniesue on Sept 19, 2017 22:13:04 GMT -6
I don't get it when people bring siblings to parties (kids who would need to be paid for and are eating). I've been lucky and the last few parties for C people ask of its ok before the party. Most people have paid the place the party is at to include their extra kid in the activity before I have to pay at the end of the party. At his bday last year I put in the Evite that unfortunately siblings couldn't be accommodated.( bc I could only have 10 kids including Carter and each additional kid was $25. of course I left this part out of the Evite)
I'm not sure about the policy to invite all or none in Millie's class but there are only 12 kids and the only non class kids are two other kids so the whole class will be invited. I'm betting only about half will come.
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Post by tallb on Sept 20, 2017 11:43:35 GMT -6
So I heard back from the station close to me and they have a time open..of course it's $18 a kid. Blerg, the one across town is $150 suggested donation for 3 hours. They clearly know the market😡.
Since it will be about the same, would you rather go to a Little gym party and have kids worn out or fire station? Im also looking at a trolley museum that goes on a 20 min trolley ride.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Sept 20, 2017 12:08:13 GMT -6
So I heard back from the station close to me and they have a time open..of course it's $18 a kid. Blerg, the one across town is $150 suggested donation for 3 hours. They clearly know the market😡. Since it will be about the same, would you rather go to a Little gym party and have kids worn out or fire station? Im also looking at a trolley museum that goes on a 20 min trolley ride. What exactly would a fire station party consist of?
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Post by guster on Sept 20, 2017 12:10:58 GMT -6
Which is J's top choice, tallb?
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Post by nam2013 on Sept 20, 2017 12:21:37 GMT -6
I feel for all you girls. Over here birthdays are typically celebrated with family/family friends. Starting around 5yo kids have a separate birthday party with just friends from school, no parents. Most people apply the rule that you can invite as much kids as you age including yourself (so when you turn 5 you can invite 4 kids). Invites are often passed out at school. It can be hard when you don't get invited that often, I might need to think of another way when the time comes.
ETA a birthday party can be anything from decorating cupcakes and playing games at home to a fancy graffiti class.
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Post by tallb on Sept 20, 2017 12:49:26 GMT -6
So I heard back from the station close to me and they have a time open..of course it's $18 a kid. Blerg, the one across town is $150 suggested donation for 3 hours. They clearly know the market😡. Since it will be about the same, would you rather go to a Little gym party and have kids worn out or fire station? Im also looking at a trolley museum that goes on a 20 min trolley ride. What exactly would a fire station party consist of? Tour, sit on a truck, safety lesson, and then access to party room. Also includes goodie bags.
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Post by tallb on Sept 20, 2017 12:51:50 GMT -6
Which is J's top choice, tallb? I haven't mentioned since I didn't know about availability. He likes any party, so I'm not too worried. Right now he wants the air plane park party he just went to, which isn't happening bc of weather.
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Post by wedding on Sept 20, 2017 13:54:44 GMT -6
What exactly would a fire station party consist of? Tour, sit on a truck, safety lesson, and then access to party room. Also includes goodie bags. I assume going down the firepole is not part of it? That's all C would want to do. I would go for the kids gym.
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