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Post by cdnfarmgirl on Aug 23, 2017 20:55:29 GMT -6
I seriously overdid it today. I'm so sore everywhere. Currently soaking in the tub hoping my muscles relax a bit. I imagine waking tomorrow is going to be hard.
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Post by clucky on Aug 23, 2017 21:25:32 GMT -6
pootsen and quinn I honestly think that when we find our, we won't share with people anyway, especially random curious people in Target. We would want the boys to meet their sibling before I hear any crap from the ILs too. ETA: This baby will get their own going home outfit, blanket, and a personalized onesie. good plan. After we had our 3rd everyone was waiting in the hall but no one was allowed in until the older boys met their brother. We will do the same this time around as well. No one has ever been in the waiting room for any of our deliveries and only my parents stopped by to feed my husband with DS1. They wait until we call them. And even then only my parents and MIL come by. FIL is a bit awkward and typically doesn't meet new baby until a week or two. H has brothers and they meet baby once we are home, BIL2's GF may drag him to the hospital, if not, she just comes. My siblings live a flight away. So they meet baby when they come visit, but we FaceTime my sister from the hospital and my brother prefers the text. It is actually quite nice and we can actually spend some time with baby just the 3 of us.
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Post by blabbermouth on Aug 23, 2017 21:31:27 GMT -6
clucky, that sounds like a nice way to do it! I will call my parents when I go to the hospital, but they won't come until the baby arrives. I never really go visit at the hospital unless I'm specifically invited, even when it's siblings. I was just telling my friend today I will specifically call people and ask them to come visit because I'm always super awkward when other people have babies and don't want to intrude etc. I just cleaned the bathtub and painted my toenails. Score two for the pregnant lady.
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Post by thatgolfb on Aug 23, 2017 21:44:03 GMT -6
blabbermouth I am super impressed you painted your toenails! I... Cannot do that at this point. Lol. I think we are outside the norm when it comes to people in the hospital. We had a lot of visitors with DD. When I was in labor, my parents, sister, and ILs all came in and out, and I was fine with it. When it came time to push, everyone went to the waiting room, and waited to meet baby. Same went for my sister. And things will be slightly different now with DD. It would be great if she could meet the baby first, but logistically it probably won't work out that way, and I don't really care. We will have visitors for a week or two, and then have time to bond as a family. I think I am on the breezy end of the spectrum, for sure, but it also helps that I have the least intrusive family ever. If they are asked to step back, they absolutely would.
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Post by blabbermouth on Aug 23, 2017 21:58:20 GMT -6
thatgolfb, it wasn't my most graceful work, but it seemed to work okay if I crossed my foot over my opposite knee! I figure this is the last time though.
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Post by beefinch on Aug 24, 2017 2:38:06 GMT -6
See in the UK it isn't remotely normal to wait in the waiting area for news of when the baby is born.
Like you go to hospital to have the baby and only have the 2 birthing partners with you, and that's it. You can have visitors in the time slots during the day, but there isn't an area where you can even wait to see the baby right after its born.
If my MIL and everyone turned up to wait for me to give birth they would be sent away lol. The delivery unit is very secure and you can only go in once you've been vetted lol (who are you seeing, let me check with them, how are you related etc etc)
It all depends on how long I'm in hospital if I want visitors or not, if I'm in and out, which I hope to be, then cool, we will go straight home so DS can meet DD (my dad will be having DS) and then a day or so later MIL and SIL can come and see her.
If we are in hospital for a couple of days then my dad will bring DS up to see us, only children that are siblings of the baby are allowed to come into the delivery ward. And then I will decide if I want MIL and SIL to come up quickly, I might do just to get their visit over and done with so they don't bug us as soon as we are home to come see her. SIL will just be a dickhead and turn up even if we say look give us a couple days to breathe.
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Post by cnf on Aug 24, 2017 3:50:19 GMT -6
We were there for three days between my water breaking and E being born so we had a ton of visitors which I didn't mind. What I did mind was the visitors during the hour recovery. H called both sets of parents in a panic when everything went to shit and I was rushed out for an emergency csection. He and MIL were in the recovery room with baby already when I was brought in. Typically the rule in recovery is only two people/visitors per new mom, but it was 430am and we were the only ones there so let in both sets of our parents. I hadn't slept in over 30 hours, was completely doped out of my mind on narcotics, and had just had major emergency surgery. I just wanted to hold my baby and instead everyone else was passing her around. I'm very salty about that and will tell the nurses very explicitly that recovery time is for H and I only this time. Zero visitors for a minimum of the first hour. That's my biggest regret about DD's birth.
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Post by cnf on Aug 24, 2017 3:52:54 GMT -6
Also, my back and hips are in SO MUCH pain from moving furniture in my room yesterday. I'm going to have to recruit help today to finish that up. And I've been up since 230am thanks to pregsomnia followed by an almost 2 hour screaming fit by DD. And today is all the boring stuff for PD like code of conduct. I have no idea how I will survive.
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Post by snuff9861 on Aug 24, 2017 4:32:03 GMT -6
Hi! I haven't dropped off the face of the Earth. Buried under all he stuff for my new job.
+1 to no one in the delivery area except H. With DS my inlaws took over and I didn't even get to hold him for almost 2.5 hrs. With DD, they were stuck at home with DS. I'm a salty bitch about it to this day.
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Post by laurensc927 on Aug 24, 2017 5:10:56 GMT -6
cnf snuff9861 that's my fear with my MIL. I have no idea how things will go or what state I'll be in after birth. If I wake up to her holding the baby before me MH better be prepared to be reamed out. As of now my birth plan only includes no one is allowed in until I say so. I know my family won't intrude but Mil has already stated that 20 minutes is sufficient for her to have to wait once I've given birth. Um no I would like time to close my legs or come off the meds depending on how things go down.
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Post by AnnPerkins on Aug 24, 2017 7:11:00 GMT -6
With DD, basically my entire extended family and some close family friends were in the waiting room for most of the day. She was the first baby in awhile, and I'm sort of a favorite, and they have zero chill. I think they waited like 45 min before coming in after she was born. Most of my recovery time in the hospital was a revolving door of visitors.
We lived in a different state than everyone when DS was born and had few close friends. My mom was the only one to come to the hospital, and that was after he was born since she had to travel 10 hours to get here.
This time, my mom will come again, but I also have a lot more friends that I know will be itching to visit. It sounds like Nov-dec will be visitor-palooza at our house, which I don't mind.
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Post by AnnPerkins on Aug 24, 2017 7:11:22 GMT -6
About to go in for my 1 hour. So hungry!
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Post by grumpycat on Aug 24, 2017 7:18:48 GMT -6
Our hospital does a magic hour or something like that. Only the parents (and medical staff) are allowed in the delivery room for an hour after birth (barring any emergencies). I held ds the entire time and poor dh didn't get to hold him until my mom got there about an hour and half after DS was born.
They then move you to the mother-child part of the hospital. My in laws, mom, brother, and aunt visited us over the 2 or so days we were there.
DS was born in the early morning so it was just me and dh. This time around it will be just us again. My mom wouldn't be able to handle it/will be with ds and my in laws live 6 hours away.
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Post by laurensc927 on Aug 24, 2017 7:26:29 GMT -6
Any tips of getting baby to move? Movement has been sparse this morning and I don't want to call the OB till I've tried some things.
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Post by thatgolfb on Aug 24, 2017 7:32:12 GMT -6
cnf that sounds absolutely awful. My sister's team was great at making sure they had an hour skin to skin after her c section, and ample breastfeeding time, before visitors were let in. We also didn't hold him that first night.
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Post by thatgolfb on Aug 24, 2017 7:33:01 GMT -6
Any tips of getting baby to move? Movement has been sparse this morning and I don't want to call the OB till I've tried some things. Something sugary or cold water?
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Post by cdnfarmgirl on Aug 24, 2017 7:33:40 GMT -6
Any tips of getting baby to move? Movement has been sparse this morning and I don't want to call the OB till I've tried some things. Orange juice (or any juice) and lay on your left side. Usually does it for me eventually. Sometimes it takes longer.
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Post by doxiemama on Aug 24, 2017 7:38:13 GMT -6
clucky that is exactly how I felt. We chose to find out the sex because I wanted to prepare myself. I felt a twinge of sadness when I found out we were having our second boy, but only because I will never get to experience having/raising a girl (we are 99.9% sure we are done after this one). I mean, I still feel that way, but it doesn't take away from the love and excitement I have for this sweet little guy. Same for me. I'm thrilled about having brothers but still the tiniest bit sad that I will never get to have a baby girl. And I'm really glad I don't have to process those feelings during childbirth recovery.
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Post by doxiemama on Aug 24, 2017 7:39:13 GMT -6
Any tips of getting baby to move? Movement has been sparse this morning and I don't want to call the OB till I've tried some things. Sugar then lay down. Usually if I put pressure on my belly he'll poke back at some point, too.
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Post by grumpycat on Aug 24, 2017 7:40:44 GMT -6
laurensc927 let your nurses know that you don't want to have any visitors until X time after baby is born. I'd suggest until you move to the mother child room, if that's how your hospital is set up. Our hospital has a locked door to the labor and delivery unit. A nurse has to buzz you in after checking out all your credentials.
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Post by laurensc927 on Aug 24, 2017 7:42:54 GMT -6
laurensc927 let your nurses know that you don't want to have any visitors until X time after baby is born. I'd suggest until you move to the mother child room, if that's how your hospital is set up. Our hospital has a locked door to the labor and delivery unit. A nurse has to buzz you in after checking out all your credentials. That's my plan to let them know so that they can keep people (mil) out. She's the only one I don't trust to respect my wishes. Hopefully she'll surprise me, MH's response to that was "who are you kidding" 😑
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Post by bethers on Aug 24, 2017 7:52:32 GMT -6
cnf snuff9861 that's my fear with my MIL. I have no idea how things will go or what state I'll be in after birth. If I wake up to her holding the baby before me MH better be prepared to be reamed out. As of now my birth plan only includes no one is allowed in until I say so. I know my family won't intrude but Mil has already stated that 20 minutes is sufficient for her to have to wait once I've given birth. Um no I would like time to close my legs or come off the meds depending on how things go down. We did our hospital tour this past weekend, and they have really strict protocols on who gets to come back and when - they require 60 minutes skin to skin/ family time. Hopefully if you explain your situation to the hospital, they will help keep her out. And your DH will need to be strong as well!
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Post by AnnPerkins on Aug 24, 2017 8:00:05 GMT -6
Some monster just brought in Chick Fil A while I starve over here in the corner. Well, now I know what I'm eating once I'm done.
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Post by bethers on Aug 24, 2017 9:54:11 GMT -6
I've just finished my glucose test (1 hour). Waiting for a bagel to soak up all that sugar/ help with the sugar crash.
Been absent this week - got hit with the stomach flu on Tuesday and have been exhausted since then.
It's starting to get real though. I start appointments every 2 weeks now. And nursery furniture arrives on Saturday!
Hope everyone else is feeling well!
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Post by cnf on Aug 24, 2017 9:59:51 GMT -6
cnf snuff9861 that's my fear with my MIL. I have no idea how things will go or what state I'll be in after birth. If I wake up to her holding the baby before me MH better be prepared to be reamed out. As of now my birth plan only includes no one is allowed in until I say so. I know my family won't intrude but Mil has already stated that 20 minutes is sufficient for her to have to wait once I've given birth. Um no I would like time to close my legs or come off the meds depending on how things go down. We did our hospital tour this past weekend, and they have really strict protocols on who gets to come back and when - they require 60 minutes skin to skin/ family time. Hopefully if you explain your situation to the hospital, they will help keep her out. And your DH will need to be strong as well! So does mine, typically. But we were the only ones in the recovery room and apparently H asked and they bent the rules for him. I have a doula this time so she's going yo play bad cop if it comes down to it. It also would have been different if things didn't implode at 3am. Had I had a vaginal birth we wouldn't have called parents until after skin to skin and breastfeeding. But H was left alone in the delivery room when I was taken and he panicked and called, so of course everyone rushed in.
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Post by grumpycat on Aug 24, 2017 10:14:53 GMT -6
Some monster just brought in Chick Fil A while I starve over here in the corner. Well, now I know what I'm eating once I'm done. What kind of asshole brings fast food into a waiting room of potentially pregnant and very hungry women?!
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Post by grumpycat on Aug 24, 2017 10:21:37 GMT -6
I bit my tongue the other day when I was leaving the OB's office after my 3 hour. There was a pregnant woman smoking, sitting on a bench that had a sign in front of it that said "no smoking." I had to remind myself that I am in Virginia and that people have guns here, but like COME ON. If you cannot quit while pregnant (which you should do, for that sweet innocent baby you are carrying), you could at least go sit somewhere that isn't 1. right in front of the door to the medical building and 2. somewhere where there isn't a NO SMOKING sign right in front of you. I do not appreciate having to walk by you in general and I really do not appreciate walking by you as a pregnant person.
I fully acknowledge that this is a hill of mine and a topic that I am more sensitive about, but I needed to get it out of my system. I do not mean to offend anyone. *rant over*
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Post by AnnPerkins on Aug 24, 2017 10:30:02 GMT -6
I bit my tongue the other day when I was leaving the OB's office after my 3 hour. There was a pregnant woman smoking, sitting on a bench that had a sign in front of it that said "no smoking." I had to remind myself that I am in Virginia and that people have guns here, but like COME ON. If you cannot quit while pregnant (which you should do, for that sweet innocent baby you are carrying), you could at least go sit somewhere that isn't 1. right in front of the door to the medical building and 2. somewhere where there isn't a NO SMOKING sign right in front of you. I do not appreciate having to walk by you in general and I really do not appreciate walking by you as a pregnant person. I fully acknowledge that this is a hill of mine and a topic that I am more sensitive about, but I needed to get it out of my system. I do not mean to offend anyone. *rant over* Smoking is gross at any level. Judge away.
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Post by AnnPerkins on Aug 24, 2017 10:31:36 GMT -6
I got a chicken biscuit and hash browns after my test and brought some stuff home for DS and DH, too. Thankfully, DS didn't finish all of his meal, because I should have gotten double for myself.
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Post by fancy on Aug 24, 2017 10:41:50 GMT -6
laurensc927, were you able to get that baby moving? Cold water usually works here. I sometimes wake up in the middle of the night and can't get back to sleep until I can get at least a kick or something out of him.
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