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Post by MauLoaM0M on Sept 5, 2017 8:47:45 GMT -6
Yogurt I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how you're feeling
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Post by Yogurt on Sept 17, 2017 16:28:08 GMT -6
I'm in my feels. My husband is going to the great American beer fest from Oct 4-8, which is right when my next predicted fw is. I saw this in my predicted cycles a few months ago and my h and I talked about it and he was all, "you'll definitely be pregnant by then!" And then the wedding I went to last weekend that I was also "definitely" going to be pregnant at.
My h is actually spiralling a bit that he is the problem. We went to the hospital a few weeks ago for something and at his follow up his doc found a mass or inflamation/hard spot in his abdomen and the doc was all, "could be nothing, could be cancer". So now my h is like, spiraling that his junk doesn't work because he has cancer. Which seems like a reach, but bad shit happens all the time to people, so who knows. It feels selfish to feel sad about ttc when my h has his own health shit going on that should take the front seat to having a baby.
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Post by catspajamas2 on Sept 23, 2017 2:59:39 GMT -6
Lurker jumping in Yogurt I'm sorry you and your DH are going through that. I hope you get some answers soon on his health. Your feelings about TTC are normal and I would feel the same.
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Post by catspajamas2 on Sept 23, 2017 3:05:11 GMT -6
DH and I are TTC and I am amazed how quickly I become batty about it. It makes me mad at DH that he isn't more invested. i stopped BCP over the summer and have not yet had a period, not even withdrawal bleeding so my mind is spinning and I have nothing to track or count. I have never had irregular periods before BCP so I'm hoping this will just take some more time to sort itself out. In the meantime I'm trying to calm down and it isn't working.
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Post by bearfootzcontinued on Sept 26, 2017 12:25:56 GMT -6
You know how people just need to mind their own uterus?
In addition to hearing about my niece's unplanned pregnancy most of the weekend these were the following comments from the past week: 1. Coworker went on a rant about how her daughter's ex is expecting with his gf and he's 36, which is WAY too old to start over. I'm 37, and yes, she's a bitch. 2. Hinted to my sister that we're ttc and she said I'm crazy for having kids so far apart in age (my twins are 8). Um, well first of all had things gone as planned they wouldn't be that far apart in age but that didn't work out- and second, my sister is 20+ years older than me so thanks for thinking I shouldn't have been born. Yes, I understand that I might be lugging a baby carrier to baseball games, but I'm really ok with that. 3. While holding my baby nephew, two separate family friends commented that I look like I'm ready for more but obviously that ship has sailed. Oh.
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Post by fancynewbeesly on Sept 30, 2017 6:05:22 GMT -6
Thank you yogurt so much for the post.
TTC1, was easy. It took three cycles. Now, 6 year later we are TFAS. With TFAS I got pregnant within 3 cycles again, but ended in an early MC. Now, I just finished cycle #2 and am in the TWW. It is hard as anything. We are now older 37 & 36; Reese is asking for a sibling constantly. i mean it is only the second cycle, but I hate the feelings I get with it. Plus, with Reese's health and the early MC; it is seriously like "why the hell can't our family catch a break and SOMETHING be easy?????"
ugh.
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Post by notmoose on Sept 30, 2017 7:26:38 GMT -6
fancynewbeesly I'm sorry for your loss and the accompanying feelings. Big hugs
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Post by Yogurt on Oct 1, 2017 15:58:19 GMT -6
Hugs fancynewbeesly I'm sorry that you're in your feels. Anyone would be. With Reese having had health issues and the mc, I'd be feeling like wtf, universe! Hugs
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Post by Bluebird on Oct 2, 2017 12:45:59 GMT -6
Yogurt, I have a brewery client who will be on a panel at that festival - sounds like a good time! One of my good friends told me this weekend she is due in Feb. I'm so happy for her, but I'm also feeling a bit sorry for myself. On now to cycle 11 (15 if you include the NTNP months), but who's counting, right?
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Post by fancynewbeesly on Oct 2, 2017 19:52:36 GMT -6
Hugs fancynewbeesly I'm sorry that you're in your feels. Anyone would be. With Reese having had health issues and the mc, I'd be feeling like wtf, universe! Hugs That is pretty much exactly how DH and I feel. WTF World, can't something just be easy for once!!!!
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Post by bebbysue on Oct 3, 2017 6:40:45 GMT -6
fancynewbeesly I'm so sorry for your loss I'm in the TWW right now too and I know how those feelings are. Hugs mama!
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Post by blackcat on Oct 3, 2017 12:13:20 GMT -6
Feelings. So many feelings. I the last month, mostly in the last week, there have been so many preg announcements on my social media. Like 5+ due in March and April. It makes me feel crappy. I'm not dealing with it well.
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Post by notmoose on Oct 4, 2017 9:15:02 GMT -6
Fuck TTC. Seriously it's such a mind fuck. I'm on CD 20 and still getting negative OPKs and weird temps. I'm trying not to jump to conclusions about not Oing AL, but dammit it's so frustrating.
I don't have high hopes for this cycle and am just generally feeling very pessimistic about ttc right now.
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Post by sammichcat on Oct 4, 2017 13:45:48 GMT -6
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Post by notmoose on Oct 4, 2017 19:24:30 GMT -6
This is extra special for being a supernatural gif. 😊
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Post by charliefox on Oct 7, 2017 20:48:56 GMT -6
So...back story: A friend of mine was due a few weeks after me, she had a wonderful pregnancy, worked out the whole time etc (I had HG) then she delivered on the early side, a week after DS was born. He labor was short and smooth and she brought her baby home asap, my labor was traumatic and my kid was still in the NICU a week after hers was born. I have a lot of feels about her pregnancy/labor, I think just because she was the only person I knew IRL that was due around me so a lot of comparisons were being made.
She just announced she's pregnant and due in April. Grrrrrrr, I fricken hate TTC. All the feels tonight.
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Post by Yogurt on Oct 7, 2017 21:33:52 GMT -6
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Post by Yogurt on Oct 7, 2017 21:37:20 GMT -6
Oh charliefox. That would be hard on me too. I'm sorry things were so rough on you the first time. And now this. Like, why? I am sorry you're struggling. Announcements get me too.
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Post by Yogurt on Oct 7, 2017 21:42:00 GMT -6
Went to see a friend today that I used to work for, and we were pregnant together when I had my first and she had her second. She was about 4 or 5 weeks ahead of me, but I had a preemie so we delivered within a day of each other and spent our time in the hospital visiting. It was nice and brought us close.
I don't see her often anymore and when I saw her today and this was us:
Her: I thought you'd be pregnant!
Me: Oh we've been trying for a while, etc... story from me about how I got preg so easy the first time but now it's just taken longer probably due to nursing
her: oh, that's so weird! I had a friend that that happened to and she could never get pregnant again! She tried for 4 years and she finally had to get ivf.
Me: blink, blink
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Post by catspajamas2 on Oct 8, 2017 4:11:34 GMT -6
I'm sorry charliefox, that would be hard for me too. Yogurt what the hell? She should teach a class on how to be the worst!
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Post by catspajamas2 on Oct 8, 2017 4:18:30 GMT -6
Well I'm back to feeling crazy again this morning (jk, I never stopped!). I am/was an avid runner and gym goer - 30 miles per week plus 2 HIIT/strength sessions with a trainer. I am now scared to work out after Dr googling the impact of high intensity exercise on TTC. Spiraling on how to cancel my PT without telling her the reason. I see her at my work gym and she will totally show up in my office if I just send an email saying I'm taking a break etc. I know I am over thinking this but I'm overthinking everything at this point so no shock there. On a positive note I finally got my period a couple weeks ago. Sorry for the word vomit.
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Post by charliefox on Oct 8, 2017 8:51:23 GMT -6
Yogurt wtaf? Some people just do not think before they speak. I really hope she realizes later what an ass she was.
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Post by notmoose on Oct 8, 2017 15:04:08 GMT -6
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Post by Yogurt on Oct 15, 2017 14:46:14 GMT -6
In my feels about weaning. I feel so bad trying to cut her off before she is ready. Like is it really that important that I ttc now that I need to put her through all these sad feelings?
I can get behind not nursing a 2 and a half year old on demand, like as we walk around Costco, and I know that she doesn't need to nurse all night long. She has been sleeping better for sure now that I have been nursing only at bedtime and then not until 8 hours later. But what if that still is not enough for me to get pregnant? I don't know if I can take the next step and wean her 100% even if that's what it's going to take to get pregnant. I might just keep trying each month, let her nurse at this reduced rate until she is ready to self wean and acknowledge that I'm 36, not 46 so in reality I still have some amount of fertile time left. I mean...how much longer could she really want to nurse for? Until she is 3? (Ugh that seems so far away)
Anyway I'm just thinking and typing. I don't know. I just feel so sad denying her something like nursing. I have the guilt. Especially when I remember how hard nursing was, it's making me sad to think of it ending in a way that feels so traumatic for us both. (Traumatic is too dramatic. Whatever is a less intense word for traumatic.)
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Post by notmoose on Oct 16, 2017 10:30:28 GMT -6
Yogurt I thought nursing might be impeding my ability to get pregnant. I reduced our amount but didn't fully wean. *TW* I got pregnant late may/early June and he weaned himself by late June. I did end up miscarrying in August, but I was able to conceive while bfing. Iirc you had raised prolactin levels? Did ypur Dr suggest weaning fully? This is a really personal decision and you'll have to decide if you/she are ready. If it helps, when ds fully weaned he was fine. He asked for it a couple times but besides that he was okay. He also started sleeping better. Eta: he turned 2 may 18
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Post by Yogurt on Oct 16, 2017 16:34:11 GMT -6
Yogurt I thought nursing might be impeding my ability to get pregnant. I reduced our amount but didn't fully wean. *TW* I got pregnant late may/early June and he weaned himself by late June. I did end up miscarrying in August, but I was able to conceive while bfing. Iirc you had raised prolactin levels? Did ypur Dr suggest weaning fully? This is a really personal decision and you'll have to decide if you/she are ready. If it helps, when ds fully weaned he was fine. He asked for it a couple times but besides that he was okay. He also started sleeping better. Eta: he turned 2 may 18 Yeah, my gyno suggested fully weaning. She is not ready. She begs (please boobs mama!), she negotiates (just boobs a couple minutes!), she works my emotions (I'm sorry mama!!) It's just unbearable to tell her no. I have gotten her to accept 2 times per day. We talk about how milk is for babies and she is a big kid. We talk about how mama can't give boobs and give her the baby brother or sister she asks for constantly. Ugh the whole thing just makes me sad.
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Post by nikkipal on Oct 16, 2017 17:01:34 GMT -6
Yogurt, I thought I'd mention that I had a lot of intense emotions when my nursing decreased-- like when she turned 1 and started eating more solids, and as I weaned more. My mood swings were really a lot, much more so than when I was post partum. I think just acknowledging the fact that the hormonal changes were affecting me helped. Anyway, I definitely sympathize with wanting a sibling for your child and it seems like everyone around you is successful and you're not. Good luck to you with your weaning journey and TTC.
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Post by notmoose on Oct 16, 2017 17:08:16 GMT -6
Yogurt could you try giving her a cup of milk and cuddling when she asks to nurse? Not quite the same, but it might appease her.
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Post by Yogurt on Oct 16, 2017 17:12:31 GMT -6
Yogurt could you try giving her a cup of milk and cuddling when she asks to nurse? Not quite the same, but it might appease her. I've tried and she throws a fit, but it's been a big change for her. I will keep trying to offer milk and cuddles and see if I can get her on board.
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Post by nikkipal on Nov 3, 2017 7:10:44 GMT -6
I know that this thread is a little bit dated, but I'm having some feelings and need to get them out. MH and I have been trying for a second for about a year, with a break in the middle when I had some health issues. He's been hesitant about having another-- partly bc I had a rough cs with our first and he's worried something would happen to me (though I was cleared by high risk OB to try again), and partly bc we have a lot going on in general. Despite his misgivings, we've been trying and my general understanding was that he was on board with some reservations.
I'm currently in my FW, and I guess he just doesn't want to keep trying for now? I know intellectually that it isn't fair for me to push him if it's not what he wants, but I'm feeling pretty down about it. I'm an only child and I really wanted to have a sibling for my DD. I'll be 36 soon, so time is something that worries me. Also, DD is 3.5, and I do think a lot about age gap as well. I know I need to talk this over with him in more depth, but I really just wanted to express my feelings here.
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