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Post by radiantfate on Aug 22, 2017 14:12:00 GMT -6
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Post by radiantfate on Aug 22, 2017 14:13:34 GMT -6
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Risscaboobs
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Post by Risscaboobs on Aug 22, 2017 14:59:58 GMT -6
Hugs all around.
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Post by ajm on Aug 22, 2017 15:51:48 GMT -6
Hugs to everyone. It's so hard. We haven't been trying long for a second but it took almost 9 months with our first. It's such a bittersweet feeling watching others around you getting pregnant, especially some so easily. I don't have the feelings like I did last time yet, but I remember getting so angry when others were getting pregnant so easily. It's so hard. And notmoose and robot, I'm sorry for your recent losses. That has to make our BMB so hard lately. ❤
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Post by robot on Aug 22, 2017 15:58:20 GMT -6
Thank you all for the love. Hugs for everyone. Apologies for not responding more individually. We're on vacation. 2 more pregnancy announcements have popped up on my FB feed in the last day so I'm just day drinking mostly.
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Post by notmoose on Aug 22, 2017 20:17:47 GMT -6
Thank you for the hugs. Sorry for your loss radiantfateI am seeing my sister on Friday, for the first time since my miscarriage. She is 23 weeks pregnant. Idk how I'm going to feel then, but right now I feel anxious, jealous, and angry (not at her). Anger seems to he my most common emotion in regards to ttc/loss.
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Post by Risscaboobs on Aug 23, 2017 5:53:06 GMT -6
Thank you for the hugs. Sorry for your loss radiantfateI am seeing my sister on Friday, for the first time since my miscarriage. She is 23 weeks pregnant. Idk how I'm going to feel then, but right now I feel anxious, jealous, and angry (not at her). Anger seems to he my most common emotion in regards to ttc/loss. I think it's completely normal to feel that way. It isn't fair that this happened to you. I'm sorry again. Big hugs. I hope Friday isn't too painful.
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Post by blackcat on Aug 23, 2017 8:19:09 GMT -6
((Hugs)) to all. I'm having some major feels about TTC and my cycle this week. We have been "not preventing" since January and actively TTC #3 since about March. My cycles are jacked up. I had pretty normal cycles until April and then I had a fucking 75 day cycle from April 21 to July 4. I'm now in the mist of another long cycle and today marks day 50 with no sign of O or baby. I'm sick of not knowing what is going on with my body. I'm meeting with my family practitioner tomorrow to discuss what is going on and how to get my hormones to do something. I'm thinking I'll probably go on the pill for a few months and back burner TTC until late fall, but I don't know if that is the best solution. Also, I just found out my little sister is pregnant. She just got married in June (and didn't have sex before the wedding ) so she would have get preg on her first or second cycle of TTC. I have fees about that that I need to sort out. I'm extremely happy for her, don't get me wrong, she loves kids and will be a great mom. I'm just struggling with it being so easy for her and not so easy for me this time around.
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Post by notmoose on Aug 23, 2017 11:32:54 GMT -6
Thank you for the hugs. Sorry for your loss radiantfateI am seeing my sister on Friday, for the first time since my miscarriage. She is 23 weeks pregnant. Idk how I'm going to feel then, but right now I feel anxious, jealous, and angry (not at her). Anger seems to he my most common emotion in regards to ttc/loss. I think it's completely normal to feel that way. It isn't fair that this happened to you. I'm sorry again. Big hugs. I hope Friday isn't too painful. Thank you. I'm hoping if I do feel emotional or shut down she will understand. My mom will be there, so I think she'll be a good buffer.
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Post by notmoose on Aug 23, 2017 12:12:20 GMT -6
blackcat big hugs. I had some long cycles and pretty short LP while ttc and it was so frustrating. I hope you get some answers and a solution at your appt.
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Post by Yogurt on Aug 23, 2017 16:54:28 GMT -6
I just wanted to send love to everyone. I am on a Facebook page from my baby month board and I just scroll on past so much because I don't want to hear people complaining about morning sickness or see their bump pics.
If I do get pregnant I will be more aware of how those ttc may be feeling when I post. I'm definitely feeling triggered by like 75% of the posts there.
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Post by Risscaboobs on Aug 23, 2017 19:20:55 GMT -6
I just wanted to send love to everyone. I am on a Facebook page from my baby month board and I just scroll on past so much because I don't want to hear people complaining about morning sickness or see their bump pics. If I do get pregnant I will be more aware of how those ttc may be feeling when I post. I'm definitely feeling triggered by like 75% of the posts there. It is good that you'll be more aware in the future. That's something that getting KU easily doesn't grant you. So at least that's a good thing you'll be able to take away from this? Silver lining? I hope your BFP comes soon. Hugs.
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Post by Yogurt on Aug 23, 2017 23:51:53 GMT -6
Thank you for the hugs. Sorry for your loss radiantfateI am seeing my sister on Friday, for the first time since my miscarriage. She is 23 weeks pregnant. Idk how I'm going to feel then, but right now I feel anxious, jealous, and angry (not at her). Anger seems to he my most common emotion in regards to ttc/loss. This would be very hard for me. All your feels are completely reasonable. I hope you are able to enjoy the visit.
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Post by cara on Aug 24, 2017 8:57:26 GMT -6
I'm now 11DPO and just got a BFN. I know it was a little early to test but I couldn't help it. I was sure I was out before but now I'm pretty certain. I hate being on progesterone because it gives me all the symptoms of being pregnant when I'm not. It obviously also delays my period so I can't rely on signs of my period coming to rule it out either. Another friend of mine announced her pregnancy and I'm pretty sure one of my BFF's is going to announce it to me when we meet up in a couple of weeks. I'm just very low right now. I called my OB to set up an appointment and get an initial fertility consultation.
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Post by kam3100 on Aug 24, 2017 9:05:30 GMT -6
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Post by imapenguin on Aug 24, 2017 16:38:29 GMT -6
Hugs Risscaboobs. I had a chemical pregnancy the cycle before I got pregnant with DD. I've always felt so weird about it because a) I tested super early and was only "pregnant" for like 3 days before my period started pretty much right on time and b)I got pregnant with DD just a few weeks later. I have been super struggling with TFAS as well. We are in cycle 15 of really trying and a few more of NTNP. It's feeling very never gonna happen. I have just stated being honest with people when they ask because I want them to stop asking.
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Post by Risscaboobs on Aug 24, 2017 19:08:38 GMT -6
Hugs Risscaboobs. I had a chemical pregnancy the cycle before I got pregnant with DD. I've always felt so weird about it because a) I tested super early and was only "pregnant" for like 3 days before my period started pretty much right on time and b)I got pregnant with DD just a few weeks later. I have been super struggling with TFAS as well. We are in cycle 15 of really trying and a few more of NTNP. It's feeling very never gonna happen. I have just stated being honest with people when they ask because I want them to stop asking. so many hugs. People need to learn that those are not appropriate questions to ask!!
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Post by notmoose on Aug 24, 2017 20:00:46 GMT -6
Thank you for the hugs. Sorry for your loss radiantfateI am seeing my sister on Friday, for the first time since my miscarriage. She is 23 weeks pregnant. Idk how I'm going to feel then, but right now I feel anxious, jealous, and angry (not at her). Anger seems to he my most common emotion in regards to ttc/loss. This would be very hard for me. All your feels are completely reasonable. I hope you are able to enjoy the visit. I hope so too. My sister is beyond excited to see me too, so I hope I'll be okay or I'll feel guilty.
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Post by robot on Aug 24, 2017 20:41:12 GMT -6
cara Progesterone is rough. The symptoms are intense. I would have bet good money I was pregnant last cycle.
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Post by Yogurt on Sept 4, 2017 9:02:35 GMT -6
I think we are going to sit this cycle out because my husband has all kinds of excuses but I'm worried that he is changing his mind AGAIN about tfas.
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Post by Risscaboobs on Sept 4, 2017 10:32:37 GMT -6
I think we are going to sit this cycle out because my husband has all kinds of excuses but I'm worried that he is changing his mind AGAIN about tfas. I am so sorry. I hope he isn't changing his mind. What are his reasonings?
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Post by Yogurt on Sept 4, 2017 10:46:45 GMT -6
I think we are going to sit this cycle out because my husband has all kinds of excuses but I'm worried that he is changing his mind AGAIN about tfas. I am so sorry. I hope he isn't changing his mind. What are his reasonings? Reasons for not wanting to tfas? He thinks it's irresponsible from an environmental standpoint. He was the one that initiated trying for our first, but he wants to be oad, but knows I want 2.
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Post by Risscaboobs on Sept 4, 2017 10:53:43 GMT -6
I am so sorry. I hope he isn't changing his mind. What are his reasonings? Reasons for not wanting to tfas? He thinks it's irresponsible from an environmental standpoint. He was the one that initiated trying for our first, but he wants to be oad, but knows I want 2. Ah. I see. Well if he already agreed to TFAS, it isn't fair of him to go back on his word. If he wants more time, that's one thing, I had to do that with MH too even though it SUCKED, but to just be like "never mind" isn't acceptable, imo.
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Post by Yogurt on Sept 4, 2017 11:05:30 GMT -6
Reasons for not wanting to tfas? He thinks it's irresponsible from an environmental standpoint. He was the one that initiated trying for our first, but he wants to be oad, but knows I want 2. Ah. I see. Well if he already agreed to TFAS, it isn't fair of him to go back on his word. If he wants more time, that's one thing, I had to do that with MH too even though it SUCKED, but to just be like "never mind" isn't acceptable, imo. He's gone back and forth more times than I can count and the toll on me emotionally is more than I can describe. Unfortunately, it's like it's all up to him and him giving it up when it counts.
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Post by notmoose on Sept 4, 2017 11:16:28 GMT -6
Ah. I see. Well if he already agreed to TFAS, it isn't fair of him to go back on his word. If he wants more time, that's one thing, I had to do that with MH too even though it SUCKED, but to just be like "never mind" isn't acceptable, imo. He's gone back and forth more times than I can count and the toll on me emotionally is more than I can describe. Unfortunately, it's like it's all up to him and him giving it up when it counts. This is... not okay. Have you had a serious talk about how this is affecting you when he does This? I would be so upset if he just kept going back and forth. I'm sorry, many hugs!
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Post by Yogurt on Sept 4, 2017 11:25:50 GMT -6
He's gone back and forth more times than I can count and the toll on me emotionally is more than I can describe. Unfortunately, it's like it's all up to him and him giving it up when it counts. This is... not okay. Have you had a serious talk about how this is affecting you when he does This? I would be so upset if he just kept going back and forth. I'm sorry, many hugs! We have. He thinks I'm being extra. People get pregnant all the time just having sex whenever, didn't you know? He hasn't said this time that he doesn't want to try anymore, but it's my fw and he isn't putting out. I feel like maybe he has changed his mind but doesnt want to deal with an argument about it, so he's just avoiding sex.
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Post by Yogurt on Sept 4, 2017 11:26:25 GMT -6
Or I'm just reading too much into it. Either way, it's my fw and we aren't doing it yet. He has about 24 hours and we can at least get in 1. I'm going to lower my expectations towards this whole process..
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Post by robot on Sept 4, 2017 12:13:44 GMT -6
Seeing the news about Will and Kate's pregnancy plastered everywhere is doing me in right now. Charlotte was born 2 weeks before my DD.
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Post by Speedy on Sept 4, 2017 12:22:04 GMT -6
Seeing the news about Will and Kate's pregnancy plastered everywhere is doing me in right now. Charlotte was born 2 weeks before my DD. So much this.
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Post by Yogurt on Sept 4, 2017 22:23:25 GMT -6
Seeing the news about Will and Kate's pregnancy plastered everywhere is doing me in right now. Charlotte was born 2 weeks before my DD. So much this. This was also me at the grocery store.
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