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Post by Betweenthelines on Aug 3, 2017 4:01:12 GMT -6
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Post by Betweenthelines on Aug 3, 2017 4:01:24 GMT -6
easternshoregirl , crispy chicken carnitas were AMAZING. Everyone basically licked their plates clean. My #1 fave IP meal so far. Recipe please? Need to make sure I have it! littlespicejar.com/crispy-chicken-carnitas/And from the IP thread over on GD Guys, the crispy chicken carnitas were fucking delicious. I can't stop thinking about the leftovers that I'm probably going to dig into later. I topped them with a fresh mango-jalapeno salsa that my dad made from mangoes he brought home from FL. So so so so good together. DW mango salsa It went perfectly with the chicken.
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Post by mommabakes on Aug 3, 2017 4:17:32 GMT -6
That looks delicious BetweenthelinesSo ready for the weekend! This week is dragging by! Henry is adjusting so well to his bed. He hasn't gotten out of it at all all week. Now if I could stop having to pee motn, I could actually get some good sleep!
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Post by Betweenthelines on Aug 3, 2017 4:42:11 GMT -6
TL;DR ahead. PDQ. I might poof later.
So.. a recruiter contacted mh yesterday. For a job with a very.. VERY significant pay increase. But the commute would be longer than his commute now and it's most likely to be a 9-5 type job which would mean we'd probably not see much of him- well the kids, at least.
He's not happy where we live currently and he's increasingly getting fed up with his current job. He wants a nice house that doesn't need a lot of work to make it "home" (our current situation). For the most part, I am happy here because family is close, the kids have a huge yard to play in, they are happy, and they're in one of the best school districts. But the more I think of it, my happiness of living here mainly involves the kids.
He's mentioned that he's tossing around the idea of accepting the job if it were offered to him. And he keeps mentioning moving back to the city. I'd lose all help from my family if we move, but moving could potentially make mh happy, which would lift a lot of stress I currently have, but could add other stressors. He's depressed. And location and job have pretty much everything to do with it.
So now I'm trying to find new neighborhoods outside of the city that might be better than moving directly back IN the city.
Idk, I'm not even sure what I'm looking for here, just needed to get it out because it's been sitting all night and idk what to do now.
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Post by armpants on Aug 3, 2017 5:15:01 GMT -6
I'm going to try to do the water test and cook rice in the IP tonight. I figure if I can do the water test shortly after getting home then t5ere should be time for it to cool down in time to cook rice.
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Post by armpants on Aug 3, 2017 5:18:15 GMT -6
Betweenthelines would that mean less commute time for you as well? Such a hard decision, but it sounds like your H is pretty unhappy. Hugs and booze while you ponder.
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Post by armpants on Aug 3, 2017 5:21:22 GMT -6
I woke up at 3 with stomach issues. I got a little more sleep, but I'm tired and my stomach is sore this morning. Plus M was smacking me and the dog thinking it was funny, so there were tears and tantrums when I corrected him. I just want to go back to bed 😣
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Post by coconutbacon on Aug 3, 2017 5:29:57 GMT -6
@betweenthrlines, if you move into the city, come hang out with me!
You could move to one of the further out neighborhoods in Brooklyn or Queens, or even the Bronx— there are some areas that feel more suburban.
Or someplace like Bronxville or something else in Westchester that's a super close commute in.
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Post by Betweenthelines on Aug 3, 2017 5:30:48 GMT -6
Betweenthelines would that mean less commute time for you as well? Such a hard decision, but it sounds like your H is pretty unhappy. Hugs and booze while you ponder. Not necessarily. Right now my commute is a little less than an hour each way, but its FREE. I do not pay to ride the train. If we move west of where I work and I commute via mass transit still, it will add subway (more $) and potentially more time, OR I would drive to work which could potentially lessen the commute slightly, but add $$ for gas, traffic, and stress because driving in and around NYC/Brooklyn is the worssttt.
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Post by fierymama on Aug 3, 2017 5:31:16 GMT -6
Betweenthelines - Is there a middle ground you can find. Something that will still require a commute, just not as long, but also not be a terrible distance from family? I wouldn't want to move into a city if I have gotten used to being outside of one, especially with kids.
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Post by Betweenthelines on Aug 3, 2017 5:31:43 GMT -6
@betweenthrlines, if you move into the city, come hang out with me! You could move to one of the further out neighborhoods in Brooklyn or Queens, or even the Bronx— there are some areas that feel more suburban. Or someplace like Bronxville or something else in Westchester that's a super close commute in. OK, so this is the only pro I have on my pros & cons list right now. ETA - we tried Bay Ridge, and I hated it. Absolutely hated it. IDK if I'll really like living anywhere in Brooklyn if it isn't our original starting point (Windsor Terrace).
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Post by Betweenthelines on Aug 3, 2017 5:33:05 GMT -6
fierymama , we both grew up and lived the majority of our lives in suburbs. We only moved into the city 6 years ago before we got married. H got a taste of it and loved it. I did too, until we had kids. It changed it for me, and made it less enjoyable. I'm trying to find somewhere that is outside of the city, maybe even more north, "upstate" if you will, like coconutbacon , mentioned. I'm just at such a loss. ETA - there really isn't much of a middle ground with regards to family. Anywhere we go is going to be further away from them since we are currently pretty far east on the Island.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Aug 3, 2017 5:33:35 GMT -6
girlonabike is a BAMF! Crazy story! Another rough night but we are all alive. Going to take lunch to a friend with a 3 week old today! armpants the more you use it the easier it gets! I even made something without a recipe my first week. It is intimidating to start but easy to get the hang of!
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Post by coconutbacon on Aug 3, 2017 5:34:47 GMT -6
Sorry for the rough morning armpants. I hope you feel better as the day unfolds.
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Post by Betweenthelines on Aug 3, 2017 5:35:45 GMT -6
easternshoregirl, I agree. girlonabike, that story was crazy. I feel like if I were in your shoes, I'd probably do the same thing (obviously if I were a LEO) I must admit, I am not good with it comes to people with road rage. If the kids aren't in the car, I'm the one that does the slowing down if they're on my ass, or box them in if they're weaving lanes and shit.
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Post by Betweenthelines on Aug 3, 2017 5:37:36 GMT -6
I woke up at 3 with stomach issues. I got a little more sleep, but I'm tired and my stomach is sore this morning. Plus M was smacking me and the dog thinking it was funny, so there were tears and tantrums when I corrected him. I just want to go back to bed 😣 Could it be something you ate? Something with gluten in it? Either way, I hope you feel better!
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Post by easternshoregirl on Aug 3, 2017 5:38:04 GMT -6
Betweenthelines that is really tough. My DH would totally prefer to live in the city but I can't stand it. I feel claustrophobic there. I love visiting/traveling in cities but can't do it long term. We also have the same situation of lots of help with family where we are and I do think DH sees the value in that at least.
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Post by jess213 on Aug 3, 2017 5:42:11 GMT -6
Betweenthelines that's so tricky. Is your H going to take the interview and see how it goes? I agree with coconutbacon about looking north of the city...New Rochelle or even Larchmont? Though I-95 can get pretty congested...I hope you can figure something out that works for everyone!
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Post by Betweenthelines on Aug 3, 2017 5:42:29 GMT -6
easternshoregirl, H is hard to read when it comes to having all the family around, honestly. He appreciates all the help so much, but he's the type of person that also wouldn't mind turning his property into a compound and not see anyone ever. We have family VERY close, my parents live next door, my uncle on the other side, godfather across the street, his parents 15 minutes away, and just family everywhere. He doesn't like them all so close. Which, I get. But the help we get from them all outweighs the proximity because for the most part, everyone respects our privacy and it's not like people are just walking into our house at all times and shit.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Aug 3, 2017 5:43:43 GMT -6
And Betweenthelines if you need ideas for what to do with your leftovers I did nachos with our pork carnitas leftovers which were awesome!
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Post by jess213 on Aug 3, 2017 5:45:25 GMT -6
Also Queens! We have friends who live in Rego Park and I think it's the cutest Betweenthelines
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Post by Betweenthelines on Aug 3, 2017 5:45:35 GMT -6
Betweenthelines that's so tricky. Is your H going to take the interview and see how it goes? I agree with coconutbacon about looking north of the city...New Rochelle or even Larchmont? Though I-95 can get pretty congested...I hope you can figure something out that works for everyone! He's strongly considering it. He can do the interview and still turn it down if it's doesn't seem like it's the fit, which I think is fine. I just feel like he's jumping into something without thinking everything out because his job right now is stressful. His boss takes care of him, and it's just this current job he's running that is literally running him into the ground. But it's temporary- The job is due to be complete in the next few weeks. But who's to say the next job isn't going to be just like this one.
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Aug 3, 2017 5:45:45 GMT -6
I skipped my anti-inflammatory last night - bad idea - neck is super tight and sore again.
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Post by Betweenthelines on Aug 3, 2017 5:46:17 GMT -6
Also, jess213, thanks for the neighborhood recs. I'm going to check them out on Zillow.
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Post by Betweenthelines on Aug 3, 2017 5:47:24 GMT -6
Maybe I should rename this thread and make a new randoms thread. Sorry to make it all about me. lol
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Post by coconutbacon on Aug 3, 2017 5:49:10 GMT -6
Good morning! I got myself up and to the gym for a spin class early this morning. It was just me and one other woman there, so it was like an almost private spin class. Kind of cool and slightly uncomfortable. It's a new class on the Y's schedule so I am going to try to keep going and hopefully more people will start showing up as well.
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Post by jedi on Aug 3, 2017 5:57:58 GMT -6
Betweenthelines hard decision. My two cents is that you would have a hard time being farther from family,
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Aug 3, 2017 5:58:18 GMT -6
omg girlonabike - that is some story! what a dumbass that dude was.
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Aug 3, 2017 5:59:12 GMT -6
Betweenthelines, super had decision on your plate right now. i think you need lots of discussion with your h about it. not having family near by to help with kids is hard. i have family near by and they don't help as much as your family does. it's hard.
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Post by jess213 on Aug 3, 2017 6:02:40 GMT -6
And re family not being close (and unable to help) who will likely bear that burden? This has to be a good move for both of you, you know?
Plus I have serious backyard envy over here, as I sit and look at our little postage stamp of grass 😂
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