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Post by enchanted on Sept 6, 2024 16:24:11 GMT -6
And truly, I feel like this isn't being an old person. It's not that I don't understand how to use them. I just don't want five hundred apps on my phone all connected to some form of my financial information.
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Post by Eagles on Sept 6, 2024 16:33:47 GMT -6
And truly, I feel like this isn't being an old person. It's not that I don't understand how to use them. I just don't want five hundred apps on my phone all connected to some form of my financial information. I also don't love paying with my phone. Sorry, take my credit card. I'm still annoyed by the chips and miss swiping. Brb gotta go join AARP. |
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Post by McBenny on Sept 6, 2024 16:35:58 GMT -6
Oh here’s one. My kid is in class with a kid from her third grade class who was her bestie until she decided she wasn’t and totally ditched her. DD started the year with letting the past be past and assuming people grow and change between third and sixth. Well, the girl has started to openly target my exceedingly sweet child. For example, a whole lunchtime rant about how her pet peeve is “people who are too polite” citing things that she WATCHED my kid do and then denying it was about her. Asking her why she farted in the middle of a silent classroom. Making fun of her clothes (which by the way was cute AF as if that matters anyway) and laughing at her. All while pretending to be her friend. And I am not proud of the feelings I have felt toward a child. I think my kiddo is navigating it well, but my rage. My rage. I am sure she is handling it better than I would. I would have my child tell her that her obsession with me let's everyone know how insecure she actually is about her own appearance. And walk off. Maybe throw in a "keep my name out your mouth bitch." |
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Post by McBenny on Sept 6, 2024 16:38:15 GMT -6
We are not Michelle Obama though in our house most of the time. We do not always go high when others go low Yes dd knows that people have things going on and that is usually why they act out but that doesn’t mean we have to sit and take it either Oh yeah we are not of the Michelle Obamas here either, LOL. My kids know, I will go to the earth's crust. Lower mantle even. |
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Post by goldenbird on Sept 6, 2024 16:40:24 GMT -6
I really hate small talk. Me too. I'm a huge introvert with social anxiety disorder so small talk is my nemesis. |
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Post by McBenny on Sept 6, 2024 16:43:17 GMT -6
The problem I’m currently having with DS is that he doesn’t understand gentle teasing. I think some of it is because he doesn’t have a sibling and randomly a lot of the kids in his grade have older siblings. So they are hanging out and these kids talk to him how their siblings talk to them and he cries bully at the slightest teasing. Obviously I take bullying very seriously but when he describes the situation I’m thinking “this is just teasing”. I try to talk to him about his part in the interaction (like what happened before they said the thing that upset you) and half the time it’s just back and forth and then one part offends him. It’s tough because I want him to get a little tougher skin but I don’t want him to turn into a jerk. Like be sensitive but also take a joke. I’m sure he’ll get there but the frequent cries of so and so is bullying me is a bit exhausting. I think gentle teasing is bullshit and an excuse. It could also be that I am an only child. However, I have managed to live a long life without teasing others about things. Don't talk to me like you would your sibling. Save that for your sibling if that is your family dynamic. to your point, if they are a friend and they see that teasing him upsets or offends him, a friend would stop. At minimum a friend should see, you can't play with so and so like that. He doesn't like it. JMO |
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Post by McBenny on Sept 6, 2024 16:49:50 GMT -6
It’s really hard to teach how to stand up for yourself without being an asshole back. I did tell her that if the “friend” asks why she has been avoiding her, she should say, “because you’re not nice to me, and I don’t like to talk to people who aren’t nice to me.” And walk away. And if the friend pursues it, to say, “you know what I’m talking about,” because she will definitely deny it. And then to say, “I don’t want to get into it with you because I just don’t care. We don’t have to be friends.” And just keep saying those same things. And if she has to work with her or whatever, call out her bad behavior in the moment with, “please don’t talk to me like that.” Or “that was really rude. Stop.” this is where I often split with the board, if someone was an asshole to you, there is nothing wrong with being an asshole back. You didn't start it. You can end it though. People often mess with the ones they feel they can. That's the whole point. Sometimes you have to show people that you are not the one. If you come this way be ready for a response. Period. |
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Post by McBenny on Sept 6, 2024 16:52:28 GMT -6
Apps! I toyed with trading my vehicle in and was asking about remote start. It's an app. To get one on key fob it had to be after market. I want no more apps. Too many things on my phone already! Every dang thing is an app. So many fucking apps. I've pretty much stopped eating all fast food, not for health reasons, but because of all the damn apps. To not spend an arm and a leg, you have to have one for each individual place. Pass. Yes, I'm aware I sound like an old person. Get off my lawn! I don't have food apps on my phone. I mean you can still get coupons and all the things without having an app on your phone. I am sure you know this or ? |
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Post by enchanted on Sept 6, 2024 16:55:01 GMT -6
McBenny I do, but I never really planned on fastfood. It was a spur of the moment thing or a day turned to shit thing so I wouldn't have coupons. Or while traveling and coupons only work at certain locations and I'm too lazy to go search for specific locations. It's easier to just not eat it.
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Post by kbw on Sept 6, 2024 19:30:33 GMT -6
I struggle with DS1. He has no filter it feels like and no matter how many times I’m like you might think what you just said is a joke but someone else might not. I feel like I’m the one raising the asshole/bully.
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Post by Eagles on Sept 6, 2024 20:24:04 GMT -6
Oh here’s one. My kid is in class with a kid from her third grade class who was her bestie until she decided she wasn’t and totally ditched her. DD started the year with letting the past be past and assuming people grow and change between third and sixth. Well, the girl has started to openly target my exceedingly sweet child. For example, a whole lunchtime rant about how her pet peeve is “people who are too polite” citing things that she WATCHED my kid do and then denying it was about her. Asking her why she farted in the middle of a silent classroom. Making fun of her clothes (which by the way was cute AF as if that matters anyway) and laughing at her. All while pretending to be her friend. And I am not proud of the feelings I have felt toward a child. I think my kiddo is navigating it well, but my rage. My rage. I am sure she is handling it better than I would. I would have my child tell her that her obsession with me let's everyone know how insecure she actually is about her own appearance. And walk off. Maybe throw in a "keep my name out your mouth bitch." See I don't have kids but my first reaction was "I'll fight a kid." My oldest niece had a girl in her K class who was "not very nice" and I told my sister I wanted the mom's number and address. My first instinct is always confrontation when it comes to my girls. |
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Post by Eagles on Sept 6, 2024 20:27:02 GMT -6
McBenny I do, but I never really planned on fastfood. It was a spur of the moment thing or a day turned to shit thing so I wouldn't have coupons. Or while traveling and coupons only work at certain locations and I'm too lazy to go search for specific locations. It's easier to just not eat it. H has Wawa, chick fil a, Five Guys, and Dunkin. Sir what are you doing. Just order there like a normal person. |
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Post by pobre on Sept 6, 2024 21:22:34 GMT -6
We are not Michelle Obama though in our house most of the time. We do not always go high when others go low Yes dd knows that people have things going on and that is usually why they act out but that doesn’t mean we have to sit and take it either Oh yeah we are not of the Michelle Obamas here either, LOL. My kids know, I will go to the earth's crust. Lower mantle even. We all know. |
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Post by Sweetjane on Sept 7, 2024 8:29:04 GMT -6
I am sure she is handling it better than I would. I would have my child tell her that her obsession with me let's everyone know how insecure she actually is about her own appearance. And walk off. Maybe throw in a "keep my name out your mouth bitch." See I don't have kids but my first reaction was "I'll fight a kid." My oldest niece had a girl in her K class who was "not very nice" and I told my sister I wanted the mom's number and address. My first instinct is always confrontation when it comes to my girls. This is the beautiful part of being an aunt, you get to pop off whenever needed. Your nieces are lucky to have you in their corner. *im an only child and missed out on this |
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Post by PandaWatch on Sept 7, 2024 9:35:23 GMT -6
We are not Michelle Obama though in our house most of the time. We do not always go high when others go low Yes dd knows that people have things going on and that is usually why they act out but that doesn’t mean we have to sit and take it either I am decidedly not Michelle Obama, but DD is. When a mean girl was talking about her behind her back in 6th grade and then apologized (because she got caught and the school intervened). DD forgave her and really did view it as water under the bridge. My confession is that I was absolutely the worst version of myself and basically told her the girl couldn’t be trusted and to not believe her apology. DD ignored me and because she transferred schools 6 months later for unrelated reasons, it’s a non issue. But man, I still hold a grudge against that girl. |
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Post by Eagles on Sept 7, 2024 10:58:50 GMT -6
See I don't have kids but my first reaction was "I'll fight a kid." My oldest niece had a girl in her K class who was "not very nice" and I told my sister I wanted the mom's number and address. My first instinct is always confrontation when it comes to my girls. This is the beautiful part of being an aunt, you get to pop off whenever needed. Your nieces are lucky to have you in their corner. *im an only child and missed out on this Thank you ♥️ I love those babies so much. |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 7, 2024 11:26:10 GMT -6
This is the beautiful part of being an aunt, you get to pop off whenever needed. Your nieces are lucky to have you in their corner. *im an only child and missed out on this Thank you ♥️ I love those babies so much. I found out my mom made a comment about my nieces and nephews and still haven’t talked to her even though my sister has. Those babies are my babies. I have a difficult relationship with her anyway but still |
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Post by newspapers on Sept 7, 2024 15:40:19 GMT -6
I’m sure this is not an unpopular opinion, but DD’s science teacher gave them an in class assignment on Friday with 15 minutes left in class. To do correctly (and it was graded) would take a kid 45 minutes-an hour. She made it due at 11:59 pm that same day! I think this is outrageous for sixth graders on a Friday, especially a holiday weekend. I just want y’all to be irritated with me. I hate this. Was a huge problem right after Covid when online work really became a thing. Parents pushed back and now district policy is weekend homework can’t be due until Sunday at 11:59 pm. I am coming to hate all this on line work in general. YouTube videos, slide shows to fill out, and online text books. Not sure how much learning is taking place. DD’s favorite classes now are Spanish and humanities because they are more project based. She’s over computers, too. I am so with you. I am like, paper and pencil math forever, lol. A kid shouldn’t be locked out of schoolwork because their Chromebook is down. |
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Post by newspapers on Sept 7, 2024 15:48:28 GMT -6
DD1 has every single middle school class and activity this year with her bestie, who isn’t always the nicest and doesn’t always make the best decisions. DD knows she will hear it at home up if she fucks around in class or is mean to anyone ( who isn’t already a known a hole, that is), but I’m still not thrilled. There’s nothing to be done at this point, so I’m just whining.
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Post by mapleme on Sept 7, 2024 17:16:54 GMT -6
Last year DD1 had a mean girl in her class. DD1 would tell me about the mean and hurtful things that this girl did and mentioned that it was a girl that she went to preschool with. So I knew who it was. DD1 did Girls on the Run with this girl, so I would see her at pickup and think unkind things. Like I would think about tripping her and I would marvel how this girl was buddy buddy with all of the adults and she seemed so nice, but clearly wasn't. That's some next level meanness to be that duplicitous in 4th grade. Then at elementary school graduation I saw the girl's name on the list of speakers and when her turn came to speak, a totally different girl stood up. Oh, it was the OTHER girl that DD1 went to preschool with. And she full on gives all of the mean-girl vibes. The other girl is genuinely a nice human being. I'm glad that I never tripped her.
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Post by Eagles on Sept 8, 2024 7:00:03 GMT -6
I hate this. Was a huge problem right after Covid when online work really became a thing. Parents pushed back and now district policy is weekend homework can’t be due until Sunday at 11:59 pm. I am coming to hate all this on line work in general. YouTube videos, slide shows to fill out, and online text books. Not sure how much learning is taking place. DD’s favorite classes now are Spanish and humanities because they are more project based. She’s over computers, too. I am so with you. I am like, paper and pencil math forever, lol. A kid shouldn’t be locked out of schoolwork because their Chromebook is down. I still do pencil and paper math! Addition, subtraction, and multiplication. I don't usually need long division, but it's good to know that the 3rd grade skills are still there. |
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Post by abs on Sept 8, 2024 7:24:54 GMT -6
I am so with you. I am like, paper and pencil math forever, lol. A kid shouldn’t be locked out of schoolwork because their Chromebook is down. I still do pencil and paper math! Addition, subtraction, and multiplication. I don't usually need long division, but it's good to know that the 3rd grade skills are still there. I still do paper for just about everything. Math. Store lists. To do lists. Paper planners. Something about writing it down just makes me remember it better and think better. |
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Post by Eagles on Sept 8, 2024 9:26:56 GMT -6
I still do pencil and paper math! Addition, subtraction, and multiplication. I don't usually need long division, but it's good to know that the 3rd grade skills are still there. I still do paper for just about everything. Math. Store lists. To do lists. Paper planners. Something about writing it down just makes me remember it better and think better. Same. It's why I use a clipboard at weddings; I need to check things off and write notes in the margins. |
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Post by jaygee on Sept 8, 2024 10:16:10 GMT -6
Confession: I am now a dog stroller person.
Thinking it made it a little bit better I told H that I got it for free from a lady on buy nothing who only used it once. He said “so she used it once a realized how embarrassing it is?” lol
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Post by icedcoffee on Sept 8, 2024 12:46:26 GMT -6
Confession: I am now a dog stroller person. Thinking it made it a little bit better I told H that I got it for free from a lady on buy nothing who only used it once. He said “so she used it once a realized how embarrassing it is?” lol 🤣🤣 |
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Post by Sweetjane on Sept 8, 2024 13:34:45 GMT -6
Confession: I am now a dog stroller person. Thinking it made it a little bit better I told H that I got it for free from a lady on buy nothing who only used it once. He said “so she used it once a realized how embarrassing it is?” lol I see them every now! It's not embarrassing anymore. |
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Post by Sweetjane on Sept 8, 2024 13:36:09 GMT -6
I still do pencil and paper math! Addition, subtraction, and multiplication. I don't usually need long division, but it's good to know that the 3rd grade skills are still there. I still do paper for just about everything. Math. Store lists. To do lists. Paper planners. Something about writing it down just makes me remember it better and think better. Me too. Crossing things off a list physically removes it from my brain, so that helps clear my head. |
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Post by klw on Sept 8, 2024 15:05:17 GMT -6
I still do paper for just about everything. Math. Store lists. To do lists. Paper planners. Something about writing it down just makes me remember it better and think better. Me too. Crossing things off a list physically removes it from my brain, so that helps clear my head. Or writing down a task after it's done just so I can cross it off and feel more accomplished?  |
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Post by Eagles on Sept 8, 2024 16:04:16 GMT -6
Confession: I am now a dog stroller person. Thinking it made it a little bit better I told H that I got it for free from a lady on buy nothing who only used it once. He said “so she used it once a realized how embarrassing it is?” lol The laugh I just laughed |
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Post by Eagles on Sept 8, 2024 16:04:48 GMT -6
Me too. Crossing things off a list physically removes it from my brain, so that helps clear my head. Or writing down a task after it's done just so I can cross it off and feel more accomplished? Absolutely counts! |
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