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Post by Bumblebee on Sept 3, 2024 14:43:20 GMT -6
I’ll say what others probably won’t and probably won’t agree with It got not fun here for a while. It was like everyone had to have the same opinion or there was a fight. I missed the times before where we could have conversations and not agree and it not get ugly. I’m sure others will say I’m part of the problem and maybe I am because I got tired of sitting back and saying nothing. It could also just be I guess we are growing I popped in here in June to chat about Summer House and you jumped down my throat when I couldn't pick your avatar out of a lineup. So yeah, look in the mirror. |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 3, 2024 14:54:03 GMT -6
I’ll say what others probably won’t and probably won’t agree with It got not fun here for a while. It was like everyone had to have the same opinion or there was a fight. I missed the times before where we could have conversations and not agree and it not get ugly. I’m sure others will say I’m part of the problem and maybe I am because I got tired of sitting back and saying nothing. It could also just be I guess we are growing I popped in here in June to chat about Summer House and you jumped down my throat when I couldn't pick your avatar out of a lineup. So yeah, look in the mirror. Cool You know that’s not what happened but I’m always glad to see you |
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Post by McBenny on Sept 3, 2024 15:51:17 GMT -6
I’ll say what others probably won’t and probably won’t agree with It got not fun here for a while. It was like everyone had to have the same opinion or there was a fight. I missed the times before where we could have conversations and not agree and it not get ugly. I’m sure others will say I’m part of the problem and maybe I am because I got tired of sitting back and saying nothing. It could also just be I guess we are growing I am not saying this is not your experience, I am only speaking of mine... I think the complete opposite. It started out for me very nasty. We had a lot of trolls. We had a lot of mean girls who wanted to rule the court aka Twatley. We would have knock out drag outs multiple times a week. From my perspective it appeared as though once we got along or grew tired of arguing our same positions, people posted less. Maybe my perception is so opposite of yours because you didn't start saying how you felt until the latter years. (I am only repeating what you said not any judgment from my part). |
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Post by McBenny on Sept 3, 2024 15:53:34 GMT -6
I’ll say what others probably won’t and probably won’t agree with It got not fun here for a while. It was like everyone had to have the same opinion or there was a fight. I missed the times before where we could have conversations and not agree and it not get ugly. I’m sure others will say I’m part of the problem and maybe I am because I got tired of sitting back and saying nothing. It could also just be I guess we are growing I popped in here in June to chat about Summer House and you jumped down my throat when I couldn't pick your avatar out of a lineup. So yeah, look in the mirror. WTF?! Who are you? |
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Post by icedcoffee on Sept 3, 2024 15:58:38 GMT -6
My kids getting older do have some impact on what I post. I don't feel I should share some of their stuff when they're at an age to be online themselves. So the parenting portions of things that used to be at least some of our topics- I mostly skip right over that now. I'm also guilty of not posting as much anymore. When there's not many new things happening here, I waste time other places. (Also guilty of too much time on Reddit!) Life genuinely is more busy these days too so there's just not as much time in general to be online. I agree with your first paragraph for sure! There have been times I've typed and deleted cuz it just feels weird to share some things or ask questions about my older kids. I'm not sure they'd like it, even though no one knows me or us. So that has also changed for me in that aspect |
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Post by McBenny on Sept 3, 2024 16:22:37 GMT -6
My kids getting older do have some impact on what I post. I don't feel I should share some of their stuff when they're at an age to be online themselves. So the parenting portions of things that used to be at least some of our topics- I mostly skip right over that now. I'm also guilty of not posting as much anymore. When there's not many new things happening here, I waste time other places. (Also guilty of too much time on Reddit!) Life genuinely is more busy these days too so there's just not as much time in general to be online. I agree with your first paragraph for sure! There have been times I've typed and deleted cuz it just feels weird to share some things or ask questions about my older kids. I'm not sure they'd like it, even though no one knows me or us. So that has also changed for me in that aspect I guess for me it doesn't have an impact cause I long ago stopped sharing shit about my kids not due to their age (as none of you know them) but due to people throwing shit in my face or trying to crap on my kids later. |
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Post by icedcoffee on Sept 3, 2024 16:26:01 GMT -6
I agree with your first paragraph for sure! There have been times I've typed and deleted cuz it just feels weird to share some things or ask questions about my older kids. I'm not sure they'd like it, even though no one knows me or us. So that has also changed for me in that aspect I guess for me it doesn't have an impact cause I long ago stopped sharing shit about my kids not due to their age (as none of you know them) but due to people throwing shit in my face or trying to crap on my kids later. That's awful! |
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Post by Eagles on Sept 3, 2024 16:40:13 GMT -6
I just don't have much to say. It's been a weird year health wise, so I mainly lie on the couch and watch TV. Which is why I now participate in the Bravo thread.
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Post by bobyn on Sept 3, 2024 17:38:14 GMT -6
I popped in here in June to chat about Summer House and you jumped down my throat when I couldn't pick your avatar out of a lineup. So yeah, look in the mirror. WTF?! Who are you? They pop in occasionally to "contribute" and throw jabs at angelashly. Like clockwork. |
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Post by wasabi on Sept 3, 2024 18:59:40 GMT -6
I’ll say what others probably won’t and probably won’t agree with It got not fun here for a while. It was like everyone had to have the same opinion or there was a fight. I missed the times before where we could have conversations and not agree and it not get ugly. I’m sure others will say I’m part of the problem and maybe I am because I got tired of sitting back and saying nothing. It could also just be I guess we are growing I love you but when was there a time it wouldnt get ugly 😅 this part to me was wayyy worse back in the day |
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Post by GhoatMonket on Sept 3, 2024 19:29:12 GMT -6
when i have weird anxiety things i tend to hit reddit for real life experiences and not just dr google answers Health Anxiety board is my jam. I go through so much of it and a quick search always lands me on helpful threads. People there are great at using medical knowledge to calm your tits down. I'll add that to my scrolling list. |
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Post by lizblue on Sept 3, 2024 20:32:32 GMT -6
I’ll say what others probably won’t and probably won’t agree with It got not fun here for a while. It was like everyone had to have the same opinion or there was a fight. I missed the times before where we could have conversations and not agree and it not get ugly. I’m sure others will say I’m part of the problem and maybe I am because I got tired of sitting back and saying nothing. It could also just be I guess we are growing I love you but when was there a time it wouldnt get ugly 😅 this part to me was wayyy worse back in the day My appetite for drama is at an all time low. For me, in the past I would enjoy a good rumble and now I just don’t have the energy. I’m not saying it in a holier than thou way. More like a lazy and tired way. |
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Post by jaygee on Sept 3, 2024 20:50:33 GMT -6
I love you but when was there a time it wouldnt get ugly 😅 this part to me was wayyy worse back in the day My appetite for drama is at an all time low. For me, in the past I would enjoy a good rumble and now I just don’t have the energy. I’m not saying it in a holier than thou way. More like a lazy and tired way. All my energy is spent sparring with my child about basic hygiene habits. I did see a lady ditch a shopping cart in the middle of the lot the other day and it brought back (somewhat fond) memories. |
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Post by Yogurt on Sept 4, 2024 0:09:01 GMT -6
In Fall update news, I tried to sign my kindergarten son up for boy Scouts and it turns out there's no way to do so unless I'm willing to be a scout leader. So now I have to be a boy scout leader and a Girl scout leader. I went to the first meeting and all the other dads with kindergarten sons were just staring at me when I was asking if anybody else wanted to step up and lead. Wut? Like there's tons of other parents but they are strong arming the new ones into leading? That's dumb. There is only 4 kids so far so picture 3 dudes staring back at me 😒😅 |
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Post by sweptaway on Sept 4, 2024 6:38:18 GMT -6
My appetite for drama is at an all time low. For me, in the past I would enjoy a good rumble and now I just don’t have the energy. I’m not saying it in a holier than thou way. More like a lazy and tired way. All my energy is spent sparring with my child about basic hygiene habits. I did see a lady ditch a shopping cart in the middle of the lot the other day and it brought back (somewhat fond) memories. My child puts more energy into pretending to brush his teeth than it would take him to just brush his teeth. Why?!? |
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Post by sweptaway on Sept 4, 2024 6:38:38 GMT -6
Wut? Like there's tons of other parents but they are strong arming the new ones into leading? That's dumb. There is only 4 kids so far so picture 3 dudes staring back at me 😒😅 That's some bullshit. |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 4, 2024 6:54:43 GMT -6
I’ll say what others probably won’t and probably won’t agree with It got not fun here for a while. It was like everyone had to have the same opinion or there was a fight. I missed the times before where we could have conversations and not agree and it not get ugly. I’m sure others will say I’m part of the problem and maybe I am because I got tired of sitting back and saying nothing. It could also just be I guess we are growing I am not saying this is not your experience, I am only speaking of mine... I think the complete opposite. It started out for me very nasty. We had a lot of trolls. We had a lot of mean girls who wanted to rule the court aka Twatley. We would have knock out drag outs multiple times a week. From my perspective it appeared as though once we got along or grew tired of arguing our same positions, people posted less. Maybe my perception is so opposite of yours because you didn't start saying how you felt until the latter years. (I am only repeating what you said not any judgment from my part). I for sure can see this perspective because you are right we did have some mean girls. I think for me those mean girls were mean just to be mean but now it isn’t mean it’s more of a you don’t agree with me so I’m going to do xyz until you do. I for sure just found my voice around here |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 4, 2024 6:56:10 GMT -6
I’ll say what others probably won’t and probably won’t agree with It got not fun here for a while. It was like everyone had to have the same opinion or there was a fight. I missed the times before where we could have conversations and not agree and it not get ugly. I’m sure others will say I’m part of the problem and maybe I am because I got tired of sitting back and saying nothing. It could also just be I guess we are growing I love you but when was there a time it wouldnt get ugly 😅 this part to me was wayyy worse back in the day There was for sure time when we got rid of the main mean people where we could argue or do UO and yes there maybe some who argued it was different. |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 4, 2024 6:58:14 GMT -6
I’m not saying this board was always roses and gold but there was a shift after getting rid of some.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way but I don’t mind anymore if people like me so I don’t mind saying it
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Post by Rusty Red on Sept 4, 2024 7:24:23 GMT -6
Here I thought everyone was busy and productive and y'all were just busy playing games?? 😅 Don't you judge my bingo prowess. |
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Post by angelashly on Sept 4, 2024 7:25:55 GMT -6
And last thought I’m glad some of you don’t see mean girl things happening here but it for sure is it’s just that low key slick way
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Post by wasabi on Sept 4, 2024 7:49:48 GMT -6
And last thought I’m glad some of you don’t see mean girl things happening here but it for sure is it’s just that low key slick way I know you participate in other areas of the board that I don’t, so I probably don’t see as much as you see yourself. |
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Post by bobyn on Sept 4, 2024 7:52:10 GMT -6
All my energy is spent sparring with my child about basic hygiene habits. I did see a lady ditch a shopping cart in the middle of the lot the other day and it brought back (somewhat fond) memories. My child puts more energy into pretending to brush his teeth than it would take him to just brush his teeth. Why?!? Yes! And flossing and brushing with braces is even worse. But I think it's finally starting to click... |
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Post by STP on Sept 4, 2024 8:57:35 GMT -6
I feel like it's pretty obvious why a lot of us previously prolific posters have stepped way back, but I also don't feel like being invalidated so I'll just say it makes complete sense to me. If it doesn't, perhaps you weren't paying attention, IDK.
But I deeply appreciate all the support I've been given in this community, and hope that despite my less than endearing tendencies I offered some as well. So I check in, and sometimes share but the difference is I immediately regret sharing bc I'm then holding my breath and I go scarce to avoid it.
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Post by angelashly on Sept 4, 2024 9:12:09 GMT -6
I feel like it's pretty obvious why a lot of us previously prolific posters have stepped way back, but I also don't feel like being invalidated so I'll just say it makes complete sense to me. If it doesn't, perhaps you weren't paying attention, IDK. But I deeply appreciate all the support I've been given in this community, and hope that despite my less that endearing tendencies I offered some as well. So I check in, and sometimes share but the difference is I immediately regret sharing bc I'm then holding my breath and I go scarce to avoid it. +1 to this. I’m here because I genuinely do like many here and I love talking about things people in my daily life don’t care about and just talking about nothing sometimes because the last 4 years have been taxingAF at home |
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Post by AmyG on Sept 4, 2024 9:54:14 GMT -6
Some of it that at first there was more people here with small kids and talking thru that often hard experience can be so uplifting. In a someone Someone else truly understands how taxing and also how fun the things about babies and then little kids is all about. And asking for advice on those topics was natural and fit in with others. The sub boards were active foe the babies and other topic boards were great too.
Also there was the take me away from it all uo and ffc and topics of all kinds to go along with it. Some snark and some mean but also some blunt you may have had nobody to talk to about or complain about to. So here fit that need too.
There weren't a lot of other "good" moms boards with the same personality at the time. Or that's how it seemed cause of the history of this board's travels thru the internet
But after the kids get older you don't come for the kid kind of questions as often. Like with babies it seems something new every hour but older kids it's something maybe once a week. There's a side of well we've already talked about the best "insert thing" so the number of replies to that goes down too.
You come up for air when they are like older kids and still hard as heck to raise them but in a totally different way.
So the board topic of interest changed and the existing sub boards are mostly unneeded or unused.
Without new blood things get slower and slower. But with new blood well they don't fit in. Idk how to deal with that part of it.
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Post by angelashly on Sept 4, 2024 9:56:57 GMT -6
I didn’t think we talked about actual parenting they much before
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Post by AmyG on Sept 4, 2024 9:57:24 GMT -6
I do laugh about reddit
Reddit is like old time message board where there's no bells and whistles. Nested replies and no you don't all converse thru gifs
There's all the topics you can think of.
There's influx of newer people all the time.
And it seems like there is not any true wrong questions cause there's probably a sub board/sub reddit for just that thing lol.
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Post by AmyG on Sept 4, 2024 9:58:33 GMT -6
I didn’t think we talked about actual parenting they much before Oh all the sub boards birth month boards did Which gave bodies to roast on general board on ffc. Lol And those topics of parenting babies is what got most people here to begin with in some way. |
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Post by thestranger on Sept 4, 2024 9:58:39 GMT -6
Some of it that at first there was more people here with small kids and talking thru that often hard experience can be so uplifting. In a someone Someone else truly understands how taxing and also how fun the things about babies and then little kids is all about. And asking for advice on those topics was natural and fit in with others. The sub boards were active foe the babies and other topic boards were great too. Also there was the take me away from it all uo and ffc and topics of all kinds to go along with it. Some snark and some mean but also some blunt you may have had nobody to talk to about or complain about to. So here fit that need too. There weren't a lot of other "good" moms boards with the same personality at the time. Or that's how it seemed cause of the history of this board's travels thru the internet But after the kids get older you don't come for the kid kind of questions as often. Like with babies it seems something new every hour but older kids it's something maybe once a week. There's a side of well we've already talked about the best "insert thing" so the number of replies to that goes down too. You come up for air when they are like older kids and still hard as heck to raise them but in a totally different way. So the board topic of interest changed and the existing sub boards are mostly unneeded or unused. Without new blood things get slower and slower. But with new blood well they don't fit in. Idk how to deal with that part of it. I do get most of this, I just thought since a lot of people had similar age children the topics would just grow with the kids? New blood is an issue, acceptance wasn’t easy for a lot, and I get why too, it just killed the bored. |
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