UO/TFFC

[McBenny]

I have a wave in my immediate friend/acquaintance group of people diagnosing themselves with either ADHD or autism. But then using these diagnoses to excuse their bad or rude behaviors.

One example would be the interrupting people thing - "Well it's my ADHD."

The shit is annoying. If you know you have a diagnosis then you should be on the look out and proactive about your "behaviors" you say come from it.

Plainly - I should not have to deal with your shit or excuse your bad behavior. Just say sorry and move on.

[STP]

Aug 1, 2024 11:03:15 GMT -6 overboard said:

Aug 1, 2024 10:31:15 GMT -6 SweetPotato said:

It took me literally reading it spelled out to get “trad wife” is short for traditional.

Like - I could have given a detailed description of a trad wife but had no idea why that’s what they are called.

It took me longer than it should have to get , la.

OMG thank you.

I was like "is this an insult...wait those are Dems...OHHHH."

[STP]

ponyhairs is not at all inappropriate.

Yes 7 months, but you also dealt with all the time leading up to that.

You're a woman with natural needs, and please release any guilt about that.

[MelanieCarmichael]

How scary, treeofheaven, and I'm glad you are okay.

[MelanieCarmichael]

You are not the least bit a hypocrite, STP, as I know you did not make this decision lightly and you are taking thoughtful, safe, and legal steps to protect yourself and your family.

[bobyn]

Aug 1, 2024 10:18:22 GMT -6 beatch said:

I like living alone, having my own space, but it definitely made me realize I'm not as introverted as I thought I was! I WFH so I've found I need to fill my calendar so I get more interaction than I am getting at work.

FFFC...I was seeing a guy I really liked up until about a month ago. He's 39, I'm 42, he wants kids and I'm not sure. We broke up about a month ago but he hit me up this week and I'll probably bang him again next week when he's back in town. Ya girl is horny.

Online dating guys...it's wild. It's a women's game because the apps are flooded with men but I wouldn't consider 0.05% of them. I'm absolutely not going to entertain a man that won't add to my life, and there's a lot of people just putting their baggage out there. I also need to figure out a way to make money helping men get better photos for the apps. Because the amount of car selfies and dirty mirror selfies...yikes on bikes y'all.

Allllllll the car selfies! I go through my friend's dating profiles and matches to give my unsolicited opinions, but my gosh. These men need serious help.

[Eagles]

Aug 1, 2024 10:16:30 GMT -6 STP said:

I used to think I couldn't shoot someone, and that was the big reason I felt dead set against a firearm.

But frankly, without detail, if this person broke into my home...I would and could. It won't happen, they aren't that far gone I don't think. But now that I know what they are capable of and what they have done, I also know reason/discussion wouldn't get us to safety.

Also I want to be clear, we're fine. This person is NOT coming to my house. I'm not the focus of their ire or issue. They are not in this state or region. I have no reason to believe it would ever escalate to that point right now. But I am afraid of them, and in order to have access to other people I love in the situation, I also have to know it could bring this person unbidden into my orbit in the future. And I don't want to be starting this process then. Hopefully by then this will have calmed down, cooler heads, all that jazz and this will become moot.

You're taking the necessary steps to protect your family in a worst case scenario. The best case is the gun stays safely locked away for years and years and you don't have to think about it.

[Sweetjane]

Aug 1, 2024 11:15:19 GMT -6 McBenny said:

Aug 1, 2024 9:56:38 GMT -6 overboard said:

I love this trend. It’s far overdue. I’m so sick of seeing the dozens of Stanley’s with all the accessories, fridge hauls where people decant all of the products into different containers, and the junk finds on Amazon and temu.

I love using everything I have until it’s literally falling apart and then finding another use for it.

People who generally decant and keep up with their products tend to have less waste. They can see what they have and what they don't and buy accordingly.

Decanting does not mean they are not using what they have.

True. Every time I take the last bit of pretzels, granola, trail mix etc and put it into a mason jar it's gone. As soon as they see it it'sike it's brand new.

Same thing with milk and OJ, if you put them into a smaller container they have less air exposure and last longer.

[Eagles]

I'm so sorry that happened to you, treeofheaven.

[Eagles]

Aug 1, 2024 10:18:22 GMT -6 beatch said:

I like living alone, having my own space, but it definitely made me realize I'm not as introverted as I thought I was! I WFH so I've found I need to fill my calendar so I get more interaction than I am getting at work.

FFFC...I was seeing a guy I really liked up until about a month ago. He's 39, I'm 42, he wants kids and I'm not sure. We broke up about a month ago but he hit me up this week and I'll probably bang him again next week when he's back in town. Ya girl is horny.

Online dating guys...it's wild. It's a women's game because the apps are flooded with men but I wouldn't consider 0.05% of them. I'm absolutely not going to entertain a man that won't add to my life, and there's a lot of people just putting their baggage out there. I also need to figure out a way to make money helping men get better photos for the apps. Because the amount of car selfies and dirty mirror selfies...yikes on bikes y'all.

First, get that dick, girl. Then send him on his way.

Second, are you judging my car selfies? Because I know I take a lot of them. Tell me if I'm a weirdo, you're supposed to be my friend!

[beatch]

Aug 1, 2024 13:33:37 GMT -6 Eagles said:

Aug 1, 2024 10:18:22 GMT -6 beatch said:

I like living alone, having my own space, but it definitely made me realize I'm not as introverted as I thought I was! I WFH so I've found I need to fill my calendar so I get more interaction than I am getting at work.

FFFC...I was seeing a guy I really liked up until about a month ago. He's 39, I'm 42, he wants kids and I'm not sure. We broke up about a month ago but he hit me up this week and I'll probably bang him again next week when he's back in town. Ya girl is horny.

Online dating guys...it's wild. It's a women's game because the apps are flooded with men but I wouldn't consider 0.05% of them. I'm absolutely not going to entertain a man that won't add to my life, and there's a lot of people just putting their baggage out there. I also need to figure out a way to make money helping men get better photos for the apps. Because the amount of car selfies and dirty mirror selfies...yikes on bikes y'all.

First, get that dick, girl. Then send him on his way.

Second, are you judging my car selfies? Because I know I take a lot of them. Tell me if I'm a weirdo, you're supposed to be my friend!

Girl, you're not on a dating app! And men's car selfies are AWFUL. Usually taken super close to their face and with an upward angle so you can see the...chins. It's truly astounding they take that photo and are like, "Yeah...this is THE ONE that's gonna land me a hook-up!"

[Eagles]

Aug 1, 2024 13:44:44 GMT -6 beatch said:

Aug 1, 2024 13:33:37 GMT -6 Eagles said:

First, get that dick, girl. Then send him on his way.

Second, are you judging my car selfies? Because I know I take a lot of them. Tell me if I'm a weirdo, you're supposed to be my friend!

Girl, you're not on a dating app! And men's car selfies are AWFUL. Usually taken super close to their face and with an upward angle so you can see the...chins. It's truly astounding they take that photo and are like, "Yeah...this is THE ONE that's gonna land me a hook-up!"

Stop I'm dead at the chins 🤣

I do love seeing you live your best single life. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband, but I live vicariously through my single friends. Maybe a confession.

[bobyn]

Aug 1, 2024 14:01:44 GMT -6 Eagles said:

Aug 1, 2024 13:44:44 GMT -6 beatch said:

Girl, you're not on a dating app! And men's car selfies are AWFUL. Usually taken super close to their face and with an upward angle so you can see the...chins. It's truly astounding they take that photo and are like, "Yeah...this is THE ONE that's gonna land me a hook-up!"

Stop I'm dead at the chins 🤣

I do love seeing you live your best single life. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband, but I live vicariously through my single friends. Maybe a confession.

Same, but I also don't envy my single friends. It is a very different dating landscape now than what I was in, long long ago...

[Eagles]

Aug 1, 2024 15:24:28 GMT -6 bobyn said:

Aug 1, 2024 14:01:44 GMT -6 Eagles said:

Stop I'm dead at the chins 🤣

I do love seeing you live your best single life. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband, but I live vicariously through my single friends. Maybe a confession.

Same, but I also don't envy my single friends. It is a very different dating landscape now than what I was in, long long ago...

I don’t know if I'd want to date. I'd probably just go through another hoe phase. Like reliving my 20s, but with less blackout drunk nights and more money.

[beatch]

Aug 1, 2024 14:01:44 GMT -6 Eagles said:

Aug 1, 2024 13:44:44 GMT -6 beatch said:

Girl, you're not on a dating app! And men's car selfies are AWFUL. Usually taken super close to their face and with an upward angle so you can see the...chins. It's truly astounding they take that photo and are like, "Yeah...this is THE ONE that's gonna land me a hook-up!"

Stop I'm dead at the chins 🤣

I do love seeing you live your best single life. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband, but I live vicariously through my single friends. Maybe a confession.

Girl come out and see me sometime! We will have the BEST time! Portland is so much fun!

[beatch]

Aug 1, 2024 15:24:28 GMT -6 bobyn said:

Aug 1, 2024 14:01:44 GMT -6 Eagles said:

Stop I'm dead at the chins 🤣

I do love seeing you live your best single life. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband, but I live vicariously through my single friends. Maybe a confession.

Same, but I also don't envy my single friends. It is a very different dating landscape now than what I was in, long long ago...

I've found a few gems but definitely at an odd age to be single. I don't have kids, and most of the men my age have kids, and I don't want to be a stepmom to young children. Then the guys in their late thirties want kids. Which I could be open to but I'm 42, so...

I'm not in a rush to be coupled again, nor will I let anyone into my life that doesn't add to it. So I'm just trying to enjoy this time period, getting to know the area, being social and just...we'll see. I have a lot to offer so I'm not going to interrupt my peace for some dude isn't worth it.

[beatch]

Aug 1, 2024 15:30:33 GMT -6 Eagles said:

Aug 1, 2024 15:24:28 GMT -6 bobyn said:

Same, but I also don't envy my single friends. It is a very different dating landscape now than what I was in, long long ago...

I don’t know if I'd want to date. I'd probably just go through another hoe phase. Like reliving my 20s, but with less blackout drunk nights and more money.

I have definitely been having fun, I never really went through a hoe era, and I'm making up for lost time here. Had some ONS, learned how to sext and take a good p*ssy photo...it's honestly been fun and pretty reaffirming. Just have to be careful because well, even this dude who broke up with me is coming crawling back 🤣

A lot of people multi-date, I could easily have multiple dates per week but it's kind of a weird concept for me. I never dated, I just always quickly ended up in a relationship. It's a bit of a skill, trying to meet people and see if you connect but being ruthless with your standards and cutting things off.

There was another guy I was seeing who was literally PERFECT - wealthy, has kids but they're in high school, same sense of humor, and super kind as he's also been cheated on / gotten divorced so he knows what I'm going through. But like...I didn't want to rip his clothes off (and he was objectively hot). Attraction is so weird!

[Eagles]

Aug 1, 2024 15:33:39 GMT -6 beatch said:

Aug 1, 2024 14:01:44 GMT -6 Eagles said:

Stop I'm dead at the chins 🤣

I do love seeing you live your best single life. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband, but I live vicariously through my single friends. Maybe a confession.

Girl come out and see me sometime! We will have the BEST time! Portland is so much fun!

OMG yes! That would be amazing.

I'm also very proud of you for perfecting your snatch photography. I've never tried but it seems tricky.

[peachesncream]

I just very much feel like dating apps are not intended for my generation. I don't know what all the buttons mean. I tried Facebook dating, swiped the wrong way on accident, panicked, saw mutual friends, deleted the app within 10 minutes. I tried a Stir tonight and clicked like, couldn't tell what another button did, clicked it, and turns out, it means super like! So I liked and super liked his profile in the span of 5 seconds and I will go somewhere to die of embarrassment now TYVM.

[coconutbacon]

I grabbed a little basket of peppers from the farmers market that I thought were labeled “shishitos.” I roasted them for dinner, had one, and thought, “Oh! I got a spicy one! Nice.” I warned MH that there might be a few spicy ones in the bunch. He bit into one and immediately started coughing and hiccuping. Then he looked at the peppers more closely, and was like, “These are habaneros!” Sure enough, they were definitely green habaneros. They must have been next to the shishitos at the market and I hadn’t realized. I still enjoyed them!

[STP]

Aug 2, 2024 7:58:00 GMT -6 coconutbacon said:

I grabbed a little basket of peppers from the farmers market that I thought were labeled “shishitos.” I roasted them for dinner, had one, and thought, “Oh! I got a spicy one! Nice.” I warned MH that there might be a few spicy ones in the bunch. He bit into one and immediately started coughing and hiccuping. Then he looked at the peppers more closely, and was like, “These are habaneros!” Sure enough, they were definitely green habaneros. They must have been next to the shishitos at the market and I hadn’t realized. I still enjoyed them!

They're SO GOOD pickled. If you're looking to use them up. 

[spicysalmonroll]

beatch, Some men are so ridiculous. One of my best friends has never been married and she is a foster parent. So working full time, single income, 2 under 2 that aren't even hers, dealing with the nonsense of DCF and parental visits that always no-show and all that. She met a guy online recently early 40s separated but not legally divorced yet. He freaked out on her the other day because she "doesn't give him enough attention or affection". Like are you out of your mind fool? If you want to be the center of someone's world do not choose a woman with 2 foster kids who's getting no help from anyone!

[mothafuckinteatime]

Ive been having issues with some chronic digestive stuff and Dr suggested I try abdominal compression on a daily basis. She mentioned that shapewear is often enough to help, so I purchased a couple of options.

Today I put this thing on after my shower, and y’all, I don’t know if it was the steam in the bathroom or I’m that out of shape but I got it halfway up, got overwhelmed, and had to sit down for a break. I couldn’t get the thing unrolled/slid up in the right spots or get a good grip or I don’t know what. My H couldn’t stop laughing. It was so embarrassing. 😆

[piratecat]

Aug 2, 2024 7:58:00 GMT -6 coconutbacon said:

I grabbed a little basket of peppers from the farmers market that I thought were labeled “shishitos.” I roasted them for dinner, had one, and thought, “Oh! I got a spicy one! Nice.” I warned MH that there might be a few spicy ones in the bunch. He bit into one and immediately started coughing and hiccuping. Then he looked at the peppers more closely, and was like, “These are habaneros!” Sure enough, they were definitely green habaneros. They must have been next to the shishitos at the market and I hadn’t realized. I still enjoyed them!

I'm getting heartburn just thinking about biting into a habanero thinking it was a shishito. I would have died.

[coconutbacon]

Aug 2, 2024 9:51:21 GMT -6 STP said:

Aug 2, 2024 7:58:00 GMT -6 coconutbacon said:

I grabbed a little basket of peppers from the farmers market that I thought were labeled “shishitos.” I roasted them for dinner, had one, and thought, “Oh! I got a spicy one! Nice.” I warned MH that there might be a few spicy ones in the bunch. He bit into one and immediately started coughing and hiccuping. Then he looked at the peppers more closely, and was like, “These are habaneros!” Sure enough, they were definitely green habaneros. They must have been next to the shishitos at the market and I hadn’t realized. I still enjoyed them!

They're SO GOOD pickled. If you're looking to use them up. 

Ooh! That sounds great! Thanks for the suggestion!

[Eagles]

Aug 2, 2024 10:26:41 GMT -6 mothafuckinteatime said:

Ive been having issues with some chronic digestive stuff and Dr suggested I try abdominal compression on a daily basis. She mentioned that shapewear is often enough to help, so I purchased a couple of options.

Today I put this thing on after my shower, and y’all, I don’t know if it was the steam in the bathroom or I’m that out of shape but I got it halfway up, got overwhelmed, and had to sit down for a break. I couldn’t get the thing unrolled/slid up in the right spots or get a good crib or I don’t know what. My H couldn’t stop laughing. It was so embarrassing. 😆

Something similar happened to me with a sports bra. I yelled for H to help me because I was stuck stuck and he was dying. I was like "help before I dislocate my shoulder motherfucker!"

Now I stand in front of a fan on the bathroom counter to get my tits fully dry.

[STP]

If you'll all recall, I reenacted the Ross From Friend's Leather Pants incident w/ a pair of legging at my GMIL's Christmas dinner thanks to an overly hot house and my thighs of glory.

When clothing betrays you, it's really something.

[Bluebird]

Last weekend, H and I were up visiting family and staying with SIL & BIL. I don’t particularly care for them, but H is trying hard to have a relationship with his sister, and we have agreed to always make time for DS to be with cousins.

Anyway, Saturday night they took us over to their neighbor’s to hang out with their friends, so here I am (on my birthday, no less!), at a complete stranger’s house, when the wife starts saying a bunch of racist shit. I give DH a look of panic, and he’s trying to redirect the conversation, and I end up just getting up and walking out under the guise of checking on the kids.

In the moment, I didn’t feel like I could speak up there in someone else’s home around family relationships that are already complicated to say what I really thought, and I confess that I’m really disappointed in myself. I just froze, and then I basically ran out. It’s been really bothering me ever since.

I need Mayor Pete to reach me how to calmly eviscerate people with my words. 🫤

[beatch]

Aug 2, 2024 11:11:32 GMT -6 Eagles said:

Aug 2, 2024 10:26:41 GMT -6 mothafuckinteatime said:

Ive been having issues with some chronic digestive stuff and Dr suggested I try abdominal compression on a daily basis. She mentioned that shapewear is often enough to help, so I purchased a couple of options.

Today I put this thing on after my shower, and y’all, I don’t know if it was the steam in the bathroom or I’m that out of shape but I got it halfway up, got overwhelmed, and had to sit down for a break. I couldn’t get the thing unrolled/slid up in the right spots or get a good crib or I don’t know what. My H couldn’t stop laughing. It was so embarrassing. 😆

Something similar happened to me with a sports bra. I yelled for H to help me because I was stuck stuck and he was dying. I was like "help before I dislocate my shoulder motherfucker!"

Now I stand in front of a fan on the bathroom counter to get my tits fully dry.

Getting a sports bra off should be an Olympic event. I have almost no boobs and it's HARD.

[Eagles]

Aug 2, 2024 11:48:30 GMT -6 beatch said:

Aug 2, 2024 11:11:32 GMT -6 Eagles said:

Something similar happened to me with a sports bra. I yelled for H to help me because I was stuck stuck and he was dying. I was like "help before I dislocate my shoulder motherfucker!"

Now I stand in front of a fan on the bathroom counter to get my tits fully dry.

Getting a sports bra off should be an Olympic event. I have almost no boobs and it's HARD.

This wasn't even getting it off, it was getting it on after I got out of the shower! But you reminded me that I pulled a muscle in my neck taking one off before. I'm a beautiful disaster.