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Mar 1, 2024 15:37:17 GMT -6
Post by melohdy on Mar 1, 2024 15:37:17 GMT -6
We get a fair amount of kids from the neighborhood fundraising for their various things. I really don't mind answering the door for them and wouldn't want to discourage them from coming by, especially because my kids do their own rounds up and down the street when fundraising for their things. Right but that's different? I suppose. But for years there have been people here saying they don't answer their door under any circumstances. Plus, as a kid, and now as an adult with kids who are fundraising, the guidance has always been not to knock on doors with "No Soliciting" signs.
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Mar 1, 2024 15:38:00 GMT -6
Post by sweptaway on Mar 1, 2024 15:38:00 GMT -6
DS is 11 and I've been trying to casually ramp up the serious subject talks. He's very not into it. How often is too often to pepper regular conversation with info about sex acts and opioids? i don’t know, but DS is 13 and we have very open and honest conversations with him. Fentanyl freaks me out and so I’m ok with talking about it a lot. We are going to get him trained to use Narcan soon just in case. The world feels so different now then it did when I was his age and trying to navigate it has been challenging to find the balance of being too much and not enough. I’m sure my mom probably said the same thing, but I definitely talk about it more than she did. H and I were just talking about Narcan this morning after I saw a video recommending parents of teens keep it on hand.
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Mar 1, 2024 15:39:51 GMT -6
Post by sweptaway on Mar 1, 2024 15:39:51 GMT -6
Right but that's different? I suppose. But for years there have been people here saying they don't answer their door under any circumstances. Plus, as a kid, and now as an adult with kids who are fundraising, the guidance has always been not to knock on doors with "No Soliciting" signs. You're overthinking this- if these are kids you know and who know you it's not an issue. I would for sure teach my kid not to knock on a no soliciting door if we didn't know the people though.
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Post by pobre on Mar 1, 2024 15:42:26 GMT -6
Most of those fundraisers are dumb anyway.
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Mar 1, 2024 15:43:27 GMT -6
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Post by jaygee on Mar 1, 2024 15:43:27 GMT -6
I told my kid about the Trump house I know of on our block and told him not to fuck with them and they probably have guns.
So, if I lived in a different type of area I probably wouldn’t advise my kid to knock on doors.
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Mar 1, 2024 15:43:42 GMT -6
Post by sweptaway on Mar 1, 2024 15:43:42 GMT -6
Most of those fundraisers are dumb anyway. I don't want terrible frozen cookie dough can I just hand you some cash??
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Mar 1, 2024 15:44:10 GMT -6
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Post by icedcoffee on Mar 1, 2024 15:44:10 GMT -6
It's rude to let your kid call another adult's phone from your (adult) phone to ask to go spend the night at that person's house right? This isn't a UO is it?
(Not family, that's different)
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Mar 1, 2024 15:45:12 GMT -6
Post by STP on Mar 1, 2024 15:45:12 GMT -6
Right but that's different? I suppose. But for years there have been people here saying they don't answer their door under any circumstances. Plus, as a kid, and now as an adult with kids who are fundraising, the guidance has always been not to knock on doors with "No Soliciting" signs. Politely, you're overthinking this to a weird degree.
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Mar 1, 2024 15:45:12 GMT -6
Post by sweptaway on Mar 1, 2024 15:45:12 GMT -6
It's rude to let your kid call another adult's phone from your (adult) phone to ask to go spend the night at that person's house right? This isn't a UO is it? (Not family, that's different) I always tell DS he can't invite himself over to other people's houses. I don't care whose phone he's using, haha. But often the children have schemed it up before hand
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Mar 1, 2024 15:46:06 GMT -6
Post by STP on Mar 1, 2024 15:46:06 GMT -6
It's rude to let your kid call another adult's phone from your (adult) phone to ask to go spend the night at that person's house right? This isn't a UO is it? (Not family, that's different) I mean, too many asterisks to answer that. I wouldn't care if my DD's three BFFs did, I can tell them no as easily as I do my kids if that's what the answer is. And their moms would to mine.
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Mar 1, 2024 15:46:10 GMT -6
Post by mapleme on Mar 1, 2024 15:46:10 GMT -6
DS is 11 and I've been trying to casually ramp up the serious subject talks. He's very not into it. How often is too often to pepper regular conversation with info about sex acts and opioids? I've just been leaning into it when the opportunity arises. Last night M (9) asked me about Ned from the Try Guys and why he was kicked out. I decided to lean in and say that he had sex with an employee (after explaining Ned's brand on the Try Guys). Then C (7) asked "what's sex?" Oh. Okay. So I gave a broad age-appropriate explanation and also went into why monogamy would have been the expectation in his marriage. I've also told M (different conversation) that she'll probably hear lots of things about sex and relationships at school and that some will be right and some will be wrong. So she can always ask me if she's not sure.
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Mar 1, 2024 15:46:56 GMT -6
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Post by jaygee on Mar 1, 2024 15:46:56 GMT -6
DS is 11 and I've been trying to casually ramp up the serious subject talks. He's very not into it. How often is too often to pepper regular conversation with info about sex acts and opioids? i don’t know, but DS is 13 and we have very open and honest conversations with him. Fentanyl freaks me out and so I’m ok with talking about it a lot. We are going to get him trained to use Narcan soon just in case. The world feels so different now then it did when I was his age and trying to navigate it has been challenging to find the balance of being too much and not enough. I’m sure my mom probably said the same thing, but I definitely talk about it more than she did. It’s so scary. There was just a death in my area related to fentanyl where the family made it very public (a prominent family in the tech industry) what happened in order to warn other teens and families.
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Mar 1, 2024 15:49:53 GMT -6
Post by STP on Mar 1, 2024 15:49:53 GMT -6
I feel like the door to door thing isn't as common anyway, no?
Like we just sell GS Cookies online and at the cookie booths. Same with popcorn when DS was in scouts.
Schools around here don't even do candy/gift wrapping fundraisers anymore. They do like "Culver's Night Out" or a deal with the local pizza place where they get part of the proceeds.
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Mar 1, 2024 15:50:42 GMT -6
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Post by jaygee on Mar 1, 2024 15:50:42 GMT -6
I was trying to tell DS this morning “you seem in a negative spiral” (working on redirecting him).
He wouldn’t get let me get past the “seem in” part because semen, hahaha semen.
He also asked me if I knew what semen was. Yeah, I’m pretty sure I read you the book with all the reproductive terms about 10 times. 🤦🏻♀️
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Mar 1, 2024 15:53:35 GMT -6
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Post by icedcoffee on Mar 1, 2024 15:53:35 GMT -6
The kid has their own phone, so the fact it was moms phone calling had me unprepared because I thought it was mom who is my friend, probably more of an acquaintance, calling me for something. The kid also can't take no for an answer so I think that's part of my annoyance, like you just wanted me to be the one to deal with telling your kid no instead of you. There were also no previous plans so this was out of the blue. I guess a heads up text or something would have been nice
(My annoyance is at the mom allowing this, not the kid to be clear)
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Mar 1, 2024 15:55:00 GMT -6
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Post by icedcoffee on Mar 1, 2024 15:55:00 GMT -6
I was trying to tell DS this morning “you seem in a negative spiral” (working on redirecting him). He wouldn’t get let me get past the “seem in” part because semen, hahaha semen. He also asked me if I knew what semen was. Yeah, I’m pretty sure I read you the book with all the reproductive terms about 10 times. 🤦🏻♀️ Omg I'm sorry but that made me chuckle
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Mar 1, 2024 15:57:10 GMT -6
Post by STP on Mar 1, 2024 15:57:10 GMT -6
The kid has their own phone, so the fact it was moms phone calling had me unprepared because I thought it was mom who is my friend, probably more of an acquaintance, calling me for something. The kid also can't take no for an answer so I think that's part of my annoyance, like you just wanted me to be the one to deal with telling your kid no instead of you. There were also no previous plans so this was out of the blue. I guess a heads up text or something would have been nice (My annoyance is at the mom allowing this, not the kid to be clear) This feels like a situation specific issue, not a general "it's rude when kids call."
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Mar 1, 2024 15:58:04 GMT -6
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Post by jaygee on Mar 1, 2024 15:58:04 GMT -6
I was trying to tell DS this morning “you seem in a negative spiral” (working on redirecting him). He wouldn’t get let me get past the “seem in” part because semen, hahaha semen. He also asked me if I knew what semen was. Yeah, I’m pretty sure I read you the book with all the reproductive terms about 10 times. 🤦🏻♀️ Omg I'm sorry but that made me chuckle The funniest part is I had not had my coffee yet and I could not figure out a rephrase. Like why didn’t I just say “you are in”
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Mar 1, 2024 16:00:20 GMT -6
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Post by jaygee on Mar 1, 2024 16:00:20 GMT -6
My kid and all his friends are obsessed with the number 69. I asked if he knew what it meant and he said one of the girls told them all it means sex. I didn’t correct him because I didn’t feel like having a position discussion with him. I’ll get to that later. Or maybe not.
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Mar 1, 2024 16:01:12 GMT -6
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Post by icedcoffee on Mar 1, 2024 16:01:12 GMT -6
The kid has their own phone, so the fact it was moms phone calling had me unprepared because I thought it was mom who is my friend, probably more of an acquaintance, calling me for something. The kid also can't take no for an answer so I think that's part of my annoyance, like you just wanted me to be the one to deal with telling your kid no instead of you. There were also no previous plans so this was out of the blue. I guess a heads up text or something would have been nice (My annoyance is at the mom allowing this, not the kid to be clear) This feels like a situation specific issue, not a general "it's rude when kids call." Thats true.... I think I'm just grumpy and burnt out. It's been a long week
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Mar 1, 2024 16:25:11 GMT -6
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Post by angelashly on Mar 1, 2024 16:25:11 GMT -6
DS is 11 and I've been trying to casually ramp up the serious subject talks. He's very not into it. How often is too often to pepper regular conversation with info about sex acts and opioids? i don’t know, but DS is 13 and we have very open and honest conversations with him. Fentanyl freaks me out and so I’m ok with talking about it a lot. We are going to get him trained to use Narcan soon just in case. The world feels so different now then it did when I was his age and trying to navigate it has been challenging to find the balance of being too much and not enough. I’m sure my mom probably said the same thing, but I definitely talk about it more than she did. Yes we talk openly about drugs and drinking etc. My cousin tragically passed of an OD when dd was 8 and we were very open about why he passed. He was her favorite and we felt it would be good to be honest. Now at 13 we are very open with her on topics
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Mar 1, 2024 16:50:37 GMT -6
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Post by tookie on Mar 1, 2024 16:50:37 GMT -6
I was worn down enough by salesmen to put a no soliciting sign on my entryway. I hope it works for church folk too. it doesn’t 😂
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Mar 1, 2024 16:50:48 GMT -6
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Post by tater on Mar 1, 2024 16:50:48 GMT -6
😅😅😅 imagine the annoyance our parents dealt with when kids called the house phone to talk to us. Even before caller ID! Letting the answering machine screen phone calls! I'm cackling my mom still talks about trying to call the house from work for hours but she couldn’t get through because I was on the internet. She got so pissed one day she took the computer phone cord to work with her.
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Mar 1, 2024 17:00:57 GMT -6
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Post by icedcoffee on Mar 1, 2024 17:00:57 GMT -6
Well I guess I found a UO then lol. Maybe I'm just uptight but omg I can't imagine letting my kid use my cell phone to call another adult's cell phone to ask to go to their house. I'd be like just your own cell phone to call your friends cell phone??
I remember needing to call house phones but omg it was mortifying to talk to anyone's parents, even my close friends parents who I'd see often in person lol.
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Post by piratecat on Mar 1, 2024 18:20:17 GMT -6
I was trying to tell DS this morning “you seem in a negative spiral” (working on redirecting him). He wouldn’t get let me get past the “seem in” part because semen, hahaha semen. He also asked me if I knew what semen was. Yeah, I’m pretty sure I read you the book with all the reproductive terms about 10 times. 🤦🏻♀️ I guess that’s one way to get him out of a negative spiral?
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Post by kittyriot on Mar 1, 2024 18:38:50 GMT -6
i don’t know, but DS is 13 and we have very open and honest conversations with him. Fentanyl freaks me out and so I’m ok with talking about it a lot. We are going to get him trained to use Narcan soon just in case. The world feels so different now then it did when I was his age and trying to navigate it has been challenging to find the balance of being too much and not enough. I’m sure my mom probably said the same thing, but I definitely talk about it more than she did. It’s so scary. There was just a death in my area related to fentanyl where the family made it very public (a prominent family in the tech industry) what happened in order to warn other teens and families. The love tit was for the bravery that took.
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Mar 1, 2024 20:01:15 GMT -6
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Post by klw on Mar 1, 2024 20:01:15 GMT -6
Our library started doing automatic renewals. It’s not working for me because I am keeping books way longer than needed. Usually we are at the library every 2-3 weeks because we have books to return.
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Post by STP on Mar 1, 2024 21:57:02 GMT -6
I carry Narcan, we get it free through the county health dept.
No one deserves to die bc of their addiction, so if you can keep it on you, do it.
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Post by Pumpkinwest on Mar 1, 2024 22:56:51 GMT -6
I’m officially referring to tomorrow as my midlife crisis day. I have a hair appointment where i will be chopping it off and going as light as possible. Then I have an appointment to get my nose, helix, and two additional lobe piercings. I've been strongly considering getting my nose pierced, but I worry DH would think I've gone off the deep end... Omg DO IT! I got mine done 3ish years ago. Have not regretted it a day since and wish I had done it way before.
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Post by kittyriot on Mar 2, 2024 7:18:13 GMT -6
I've been strongly considering getting my nose pierced, but I worry DH would think I've gone off the deep end... Omg DO IT! I got mine done 3ish years ago. Have not regretted it a day since and wish I had done it way before. I had planned to do one last year but my H said it will just look like I’m having a midlife crisis. Boo to him. In the end I thought having a little knob inside my nose would drive me nuts. Also, I don’t remember you having a nose ring!! Off to look at pictures.
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