Countdown to 2024 week

[toebeans]

I'm at work today 7:30 - 5:00 but I only have 4 patients and 3 of them were done by 10:30. All my work is done so I'm getting started on trip planning. DS and I are going with my sister and her daughter to England this summer. My sister was really wishy washy about planning so I asked her if she just wanted me to plan it and she said yes so that will be my project between now and August! We'll have 9 full days there and the Taylor Swift concert is just shy of the halfway point (ds and I are not going to the concert).

[babybean]

The weather has been really mild this year. We had a bit of snow yesterday but it’s 6 degrees now and it’s pretty much all melted. Feels like early spring.

[overboard]

We had a nice Christmas. All gifts were appreciated but the luxury car driving experience went over extremely well. H kept saying no way. Now I’m ready to be back home.
angelashly what are you going to do different next year?

[overboard]

Oh. My son got me a crochet blocking board which I thought was very thoughtful and sweet.

[abs]

Dec 26, 2023 13:51:21 GMT -6 overboard said:

We had a nice Christmas. All gifts were appreciated but the luxury car driving experience went over extremely well. H kept saying no way. Now I’m ready to be back home.
angelashly what are you going to do different next year?

Oh. Where is this?? Great idea for my DH!

[overboard]

abs www.thextremexperience.com/ Houston dates are in March.

[jaygee]

We had such a lovely Christmas. There were a couple little annoying things my dad said but overall it was really nice. We played bingo in honor of my grandma and it was so cute to see the 5 and 98 year old playing together and helping each other. My cousin made chocolate cream pie and it was perfection. And we were all in bed by 10 pm. My kind of party.

[angelashly]

Dec 26, 2023 13:51:21 GMT -6 overboard said:

We had a nice Christmas. All gifts were appreciated but the luxury car driving experience went over extremely well. H kept saying no way. Now I’m ready to be back home.
angelashly what are you going to do different next year?

Gift giving is my love language and I put a lot of thought, effort and money into it. It gives me joy but I don’t see that same effort back to us ( and I’m not talking money because that isn’t an issue for me) so next year I will still find thoughtful gifts but I think I’ll spend my efforts more on dd and h and my little family.

[beepers]

I love sleeping in and with the combo of the holiday, MH being home today and accidentally leaving blackout curtains up (a toddler napped in our room yesterday) I slept until 10:30am. It was glorious and I obviously cannot have blackout curtains daily. But maybe for the summer?

[sweptaway]

After two days of hosting I am toast. BIL and SIL spent the night last night with their dog and we all slept like shit so we napped when they hit the road.

My car wouldn't start this morning and it's not the battery so H is going out to take a look. Wish us luck!

[sweptaway]

I will say we had a really nice Christmas and it was the first time in a long while I wasn't feeling too anxious about house guests.

[abs]

Dec 26, 2023 14:02:37 GMT -6 overboard said:

abs www.thextremexperience.com/ Houston dates are in March.

That’s so cool. Might line up well to be a good birthday gift!

[jaygee]

Poofed crappy drama

[angelashly]

Ugh jaygee that is rough

I’m glad you are maintaining your boundaries and keeping your relationships you want in place. Would making a report be worth it so if it does escalate you have a pattern established?

[kittyriot]

jaygee, i would report it, so you have something on file like @angelashy said. It’s harassement and while nothing more than a warning would come of it, it starts establishing his agression towards you, in particular.

[kittyriot]

We hosted our 32 person dinner yesterday. It was chaos but it’s done and went as well as I imagined. A few annoying moments but we got through it with a lot of love. There was a lot of crying, missing Grandma.

We are at the in-laws now, this is Christmas #3. Tomorrow will be #4 with my sister and her fam. They will be at our house the rest of the week.

[Pistol]

It was back to work for me today. I feel exhausted and drained. I think my period is on its way and I'm just all peopled out at this point.

[GhoatMonket]

Dec 26, 2023 15:34:44 GMT -6 Pistol said:

It was back to work for me today. I feel exhausted and drained. I think my period is on its way and I'm just all peopled out at this point.

There are 4 people in our office today. It's fantastic. 

I almost stayed home, but the dog would be more obnoxious than the people today. So office it is. 

[jaygee]

Dec 26, 2023 15:10:32 GMT -6 angelashly said:

Ugh jaygee that is rough

I’m glad you are maintaining your boundaries and keeping your relationships you want in place. Would making a report be worth it so if it does escalate you have a pattern established?

Thanks. I was very proud of my boundaries. Of course, I workshopped about 10 perfect responses in my head as I was falling asleep. But the best course is to block and protect my peace.

I did get a small amount of joy from the fact that none of us responded and that must have pissed him off so much.

I like the suggestion of filing a report. I definitely am a little nervous today.

[Yogurt]

Ugh jaygee that sounds like a lot ❤️

[angelashly]

Dec 26, 2023 16:06:21 GMT -6 jaygee said:

Dec 26, 2023 15:10:32 GMT -6 angelashly said:

Ugh jaygee that is rough

I’m glad you are maintaining your boundaries and keeping your relationships you want in place. Would making a report be worth it so if it does escalate you have a pattern established?

Thanks. I was very proud of my boundaries. Of course, I workshopped about 10 perfect responses in my head as I was falling asleep. But the best course is to block and protect my peace.

I did get a small amount of joy from the fact that none of us responded and that must have pissed him off so much.

I like the suggestion of filing a report. I definitely am a little nervous today.

Ignoring never fails to be the best thing when dealing with someone like that

[sweptaway]

jaygee I'm sorry and it must be so hard for your nephew especially. Setting and holding those boundaries takes a lot of work. How is your H feeling about everything?

I hope you had a peaceful day.

[jaygee]

Dec 26, 2023 16:33:23 GMT -6 sweptaway said:

jaygee I'm sorry and it must be so hard for your nephew especially. Setting and holding those boundaries takes a lot of work. How is your H feeling about everything?

I hope you had a peaceful day.

Luckily most of it goes over my nephews head but it won’t for long.

H is feeling just done with his mom and brother. They’ve been really shitty to him for a long time but I think he’s kept it mostly to himself since it was just directed at him. Now that BIL is involving me and talking badly about our kid, he’s done. He has made efforts to reconcile with them both this year and now too much damage is done. He’s also nervous about what his brother might do.

[thatgolfb]

Dec 26, 2023 10:49:50 GMT -6 hellosweetie said:

I'm not making a whole thread because I don't want to, but I'm engaged! Merry 2023 to me!

We are planning for early/mid 2024 and I want simple with just our kids but even that has been stressful and I'm feeling family pressures already.

I'm as surprised as anyone because I never thought I'd ever ever be married again. J is the sweetest kindest most caring human I could have asked for.

Omg I’m so happy for you!! You deserve it!

[dc2london]

Dec 26, 2023 16:06:21 GMT -6 jaygee said:

Dec 26, 2023 15:10:32 GMT -6 angelashly said:

Ugh jaygee that is rough

I’m glad you are maintaining your boundaries and keeping your relationships you want in place. Would making a report be worth it so if it does escalate you have a pattern established?

Thanks. I was very proud of my boundaries. Of course, I workshopped about 10 perfect responses in my head as I was falling asleep. But the best course is to block and protect my peace.

I did get a small amount of joy from the fact that none of us responded and that must have pissed him off so much.

I like the suggestion of filing a report. I definitely am a little nervous today.

When I need to remember how to self advocate, but also protect my peace, i do my best to channel you.
I'm so sorry that he is being a jerk, and I have full confidence that you will handle this in a way that leaves you and your household happy and healthy.

[Eagles]

Dec 26, 2023 10:49:50 GMT -6 hellosweetie said:

I'm not making a whole thread because I don't want to, but I'm engaged! Merry 2023 to me!

We are planning for early/mid 2024 and I want simple with just our kids but even that has been stressful and I'm feeling family pressures already.

I'm as surprised as anyone because I never thought I'd ever ever be married again. J is the sweetest kindest most caring human I could have asked for.

Congratulations!

[hellosweetie]

Ugh jaygee that's so tough. Third to making a report for the documentation. I'm so proud of you for the way you hold your ground and be the better person.

[jaygee]

Dec 26, 2023 19:11:24 GMT -6 dc2london said:

Dec 26, 2023 16:06:21 GMT -6 jaygee said:

Thanks. I was very proud of my boundaries. Of course, I workshopped about 10 perfect responses in my head as I was falling asleep. But the best course is to block and protect my peace.

I did get a small amount of joy from the fact that none of us responded and that must have pissed him off so much.

I like the suggestion of filing a report. I definitely am a little nervous today.

When I need to remember how to self advocate, but also protect my peace, i do my best to channel you.
I'm so sorry that he is being a jerk, and I have full confidence that you will handle this in a way that leaves you and your household happy and healthy.

Thank you. This means the world to me.

Thanks everyone for reading my story and making me feel safe and sane. I got a good workout in and I’m hunkered down with my little family and going to relax and laugh.

[jaygee]

I’m so incredibly happy for you hellosweetie. You deserve absolute happiness.

[dc2london]

Dec 26, 2023 20:14:38 GMT -6 jaygee said:

Dec 26, 2023 19:11:24 GMT -6 dc2london said:

When I need to remember how to self advocate, but also protect my peace, i do my best to channel you.
I'm so sorry that he is being a jerk, and I have full confidence that you will handle this in a way that leaves you and your household happy and healthy.

Thank you. This means the world to me.

Thanks everyone for reading my story and making me feel safe and sane. I got a good workout in and I’m hunkered down with my little family and going to relax and laugh.

Love you, friend

Also, I am going to be on your coast again soon!