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Post by beepers on Jan 7, 2023 22:11:44 GMT -6
I remember the seating arrangement thing from the Pride and Prejudice movie. Seemed like a snooty aristocratic thing. Like spouses that don’t share bedrooms and have “arrangements” where it’s ok to sleep with others because it was all arranged for power/wealth etc anyway.
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Post by beepers on Jan 7, 2023 22:11:44 GMT -6
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Post by STP on Jan 7, 2023 23:57:11 GMT -6
In the Kira knightly pride and prejudice, lady Cathrine gets mad at Mr….whatever his name was…gif sitting next to his wife.
So yeah, some dumb etiquette thing.
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Post by STP on Jan 7, 2023 23:57:20 GMT -6
I remember the seating arrangement thing from the Pride and Prejudice movie. Seemed like a snooty aristocratic thing. Like spouses that don’t share bedrooms and have “arrangements” where it’s ok to sleep with others because it was all arranged for power/wealth etc anyway. Ope |
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Post by STP on Jan 7, 2023 23:58:14 GMT -6
It’s bad form to announce something about you at someone else’s event.
That feels obvious.
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Post by mb3 on Jan 8, 2023 0:19:28 GMT -6
Regarding the “baby brain” comment, the article I read said that at the meeting of the four Kate herself told Meghan “we aren’t close enough for you to talk about my hormones”. Which quite frankly, is far kinder and more clear than what I’d have said if someone blamed my behavior on baby brain and hormones”. Harry then said he explained that’s how Meghan talks to all her friends and then Will pointed his finger and said she was rude.
Obviously something could be left out, but if that’s the way Harry is telling the story it’s…really not great. I wouldn’t care if that’s how someone talked to all their friends- if I’m not okay with it that’s not going to make me feel any better. I’d still find it not okay.
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Post by Radley on Jan 8, 2023 5:25:08 GMT -6
I think we’re ignoring that this isn’t just your cousin telling people she is pregnant on your wedding day (which some people do consider rude), but this is the literal Prince telling people this on your wedding day. Like come on. We all know that was going to overshadow her day. And it did. I’m sure Megan and Harry were being very “omg we’re pregnant and excited and this is important” and that was probably the extent of their thinking. But even if he just told two other princes and their wives? I don’t know- they’re not in awe of him for having the prince title. I mean, he is just the spare prince (sarcasm in that last line). I wasn’t thinking they would care he was a prince (the other two princes) and rather everyone else would. There were rumors really quickly after the wedding that she was pregnant and that they had told people at the wedding. So it definitely didn’t remain hush hush. Plus Harry knows that at least his dad (idk if he knew at this point that William does to the same extent) utilizes the press and he told him about Meghan’s pregnancy the day of his cousin’s wedding anyway. Idk. I don’t think it was some evil plan to upstage his cousin. I just think it was kinda rude and thoughtless. |
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Post by Eagles on Jan 8, 2023 7:42:09 GMT -6
I remember the seating arrangement thing from the Pride and Prejudice movie. Seemed like a snooty aristocratic thing. Like spouses that don’t share bedrooms and have “arrangements” where it’s ok to sleep with others because it was all arranged for power/wealth etc anyway. Ope I love my separate bedroom life and I talk to my husband every day so if we aren't seated next to each other at a wedding I don't care*, I'll talk shit with him on the way home. *unless I don't know anyone else at my table, but even then I just...utilize the power of small talk. |
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Post by Eagles on Jan 8, 2023 7:46:17 GMT -6
Honestly I'm going to need Harry to come out and say "we tried to tell them about the pregnancy before the wedding but they refused to see us or take our phone calls so this was the only chance we had" before I go down that rabbit hole of conjecture.
My sister told me that she was pregnant with her first via text. And we talk almost every day.
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Post by frlcb on Jan 8, 2023 7:52:59 GMT -6
As long as they didn't do a gender reveal or walk around showing every table ultrasound pictures at the wedding I wouldn't care if someone told their family members they were pregnant at my wedding. I was so self involved that day that I wouldn't even have noticed to be honest.
My husband and I were dating and went to a wedding in the UK (where he is from). His best friend was marrying an American and he was in the wedding, and at the reception, where I knew not one soul, they put me at a separate table from him. I was so irritated because I thought it was because they were trying to set him up with the brides sister (which they actually had mentioned to him before we met), but maybe it was an etiquette thing, who knows. The bride also made a speech at the reception where she recounted how great her single days were, which was super weird. 18 years later we just got a Christmas card from them with a picture of the two of them on the front, which isn't strange except they have children. So maybe they are just odd all around.
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Post by bobyn on Jan 8, 2023 9:08:55 GMT -6
I'm laughing that I almost shared the same Pride and Prejudice anecdote re: husbands and wives not sitting together. We're all on the same page.
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Post by Eagles on Jan 8, 2023 9:27:52 GMT -6
I scandalized my family by not doing a wedding party table (let alone a head table) and seating them with their spouses/dates. My sister (MOH) was single at the time so I basically gave her a table with our mutual friends and cool cousins.
As long as they enjoyed the food and bar I didn't care who sat where.
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Post by coffeecake on Jan 8, 2023 9:55:37 GMT -6
On the flip side, on the day we told our families about our pregnancy loss, my SIL announced she and her BF were getting married. She basically said “Oh, sorry” about our loss and then excitedly said the wedding was going to be a destination wedding. In 3 weeks. And here are the details so you can book a flight and hotel! We did not attend and they were married for less than a year, so I let go of feeling guilty.
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Post by beatch on Jan 8, 2023 11:13:01 GMT -6
I scandalized my family by not doing a wedding party table (let alone a head table) and seating them with their spouses/dates. My sister (MOH) was single at the time so I basically gave her a table with our mutual friends and cool cousins. As long as they enjoyed the food and bar I didn't care who sat where. LOL we did a sweetheart table too and my mom was like, "Aren't you going to be lonely?" With my new husband???? I think we will be fine! Also as you know you barely have time to talk to each other anyway between all the interruptions and events. To this day my H is mad he never got to eat cake. |
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Post by STP on Jan 8, 2023 11:21:38 GMT -6
I would be unhappy if not seated by my H. But social anxiety.
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Post by Eagles on Jan 8, 2023 12:28:45 GMT -6
On the flip side, on the day we told our families about our pregnancy loss, my SIL announced she and her BF were getting married. She basically said “Oh, sorry” about our loss and then excitedly said the wedding was going to be a destination wedding. In 3 weeks. And here are the details so you can book a flight and hotel! We did not attend and they were married for less than a year, so I let go of feeling guilty. That is incredibly heartless of her. She's a dick. |
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Post by claudia on Jan 8, 2023 12:31:06 GMT -6
I think it to some degree goes back to my point the other day about all four of them being pampered, varying degrees of entitled individuals.
End of the day, their wedding and their choice. But at the same time, Will and Kate are probably way too used to people deflecting to their preferences even when the event isn’t about them. That’s on them. But at the same time, when hosting an event, why not honor someone’s strong preference if it doesn’t ruin some other plan of yours? None of this needs to be a relationship ender. And it seems like Harry now realizes how petty it is.
But also, had it stayed there, instead of the press wars and leaks, they likely would have moved on.
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Post by Eagles on Jan 8, 2023 12:31:40 GMT -6
I scandalized my family by not doing a wedding party table (let alone a head table) and seating them with their spouses/dates. My sister (MOH) was single at the time so I basically gave her a table with our mutual friends and cool cousins. As long as they enjoyed the food and bar I didn't care who sat where. LOL we did a sweetheart table too and my mom was like, "Aren't you going to be lonely?" With my new husband???? I think we will be fine! Also as you know you barely have time to talk to each other anyway between all the interruptions and events. To this day my H is mad he never got to eat cake. I make sure couples eat dinner but I don't know if any of them have ever gotten cake. There's no time! Even with quiet cake cuttings. I feel like we're always shuffling them off to final pics because the photographer is coming up on GTFO time. |
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Post by tinyjoys on Jan 8, 2023 12:45:50 GMT -6
I scandalized my family by not doing a wedding party table (let alone a head table) and seating them with their spouses/dates. My sister (MOH) was single at the time so I basically gave her a table with our mutual friends and cool cousins. As long as they enjoyed the food and bar I didn't care who sat where. LOL we did a sweetheart table too and my mom was like, "Aren't you going to be lonely?" With my new husband???? I think we will be fine! Also as you know you barely have time to talk to each other anyway between all the interruptions and events. To this day my H is mad he never got to eat cake. Our coordinator for our reception asked which cake we were most excited about at one of our final meetings & made sure he had two slices to go with forks and champagne for the end of the night when we left to have at the hotel. It was fantastic. |
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Post by MelanieCarmichael on Jan 8, 2023 13:04:10 GMT -6
I scandalized my family by not doing a wedding party table (let alone a head table) and seating them with their spouses/dates. My sister (MOH) was single at the time so I basically gave her a table with our mutual friends and cool cousins. As long as they enjoyed the food and bar I didn't care who sat where. LOL we did a sweetheart table too and my mom was like, "Aren't you going to be lonely?" With my new husband???? I think we will be fine! Also as you know you barely have time to talk to each other anyway between all the interruptions and events. To this day my H is mad he never got to eat cake. We did a sweetheart table, too, as we had zero desire to recreate the Last Supper and, more importantly, so couples could sit together. It was nice to be able to have a few minutes to eat and talk and heck yes we ate cake. |
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Post by sifl on Jan 8, 2023 13:52:00 GMT -6
The very first wedding I attended for my now H’s family he was in the wedding party and sat at the Last Supper table. I hardly knew my now ILs yet. For the first dance they made the paired up bridesmaids and groomsmen dance together. I was bewildered in so many ways.
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Post by tinyjoys on Jan 8, 2023 14:47:41 GMT -6
The very first wedding I attended for my now H’s family he was in the wedding party and sat at the Last Supper table. I hardly knew my now ILs yet. For the first dance they made the paired up bridesmaids and groomsmen dance together. I was bewildered in so many ways. ... This is almost every American wedding I've ever been to. |
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Post by Eagles on Jan 8, 2023 15:24:01 GMT -6
The very first wedding I attended for my now H’s family he was in the wedding party and sat at the Last Supper table. I hardly knew my now ILs yet. For the first dance they made the paired up bridesmaids and groomsmen dance together. I was bewildered in so many ways. This was definitely a thing in the 90s and early 2000s. |
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Post by sifl on Jan 8, 2023 15:29:27 GMT -6
The very first wedding I attended for my now H’s family he was in the wedding party and sat at the Last Supper table. I hardly knew my now ILs yet. For the first dance they made the paired up bridesmaids and groomsmen dance together. I was bewildered in so many ways. This was definitely a thing in the 90s and early 2000s. Yes this was early 2000s. I guess I hadn’t been to many weddings before that. Since then I’ve been to lots and never seen the bridal party dance again. |
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Post by Eagles on Jan 8, 2023 16:08:05 GMT -6
This was definitely a thing in the 90s and early 2000s. Yes this was early 2000s. I guess I hadn’t been to many weddings before that. Since then I’ve been to lots and never seen the bridal party dance again. I was in several weddings in that timeframe and it was always weird. |
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Post by Sweetjane on Jan 8, 2023 17:22:16 GMT -6
LOL we did a sweetheart table too and my mom was like, "Aren't you going to be lonely?" With my new husband???? I think we will be fine! Also as you know you barely have time to talk to each other anyway between all the interruptions and events. To this day my H is mad he never got to eat cake. Our coordinator for our reception asked which cake we were most excited about at one of our final meetings & made sure he had two slices to go with forks and champagne for the end of the night when we left to have at the hotel. It was fantastic. A good WC will have the caterer pack you up to go boxes of food and cake with real napkins and cutlery! |
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Post by beatch on Jan 8, 2023 17:45:36 GMT -6
Okay what the fuck pick a damn side Harry
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Post by Eagles on Jan 8, 2023 18:19:52 GMT -6
Our coordinator for our reception asked which cake we were most excited about at one of our final meetings & made sure he had two slices to go with forks and champagne for the end of the night when we left to have at the hotel. It was fantastic. A good WC will have the caterer pack you up to go boxes of food and cake with real napkins and cutlery! That's up to the caterer. |
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Post by Eagles on Jan 8, 2023 18:21:27 GMT -6
For those who said we need to seek out Harry talking about his book, I've seen a fucking commercial for 60 Minutes during every break in this game.
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Post by sifl on Jan 8, 2023 18:25:03 GMT -6
Okay what the fuck pick a damn side Harry Oof 😬 This is all very cringe |
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