addymac
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Post by addymac on Apr 14, 2021 20:49:01 GMT -6
Damn, McB- you just made me cry. Bruce, you too with this last post. 💛💛💛
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Post by babybean on Apr 14, 2021 20:52:51 GMT -6
We love youuuu.
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Tlex
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Post by Tlex on Apr 14, 2021 20:53:42 GMT -6
McBenny, thinking of your family and your BIL. Wishing him comfort and coziness.
Wishing that roommate of yours all the comfort and coziness in her new home by May 31st at the very latest.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Apr 14, 2021 20:56:30 GMT -6
McBenny, thinking of your family and your BIL. Wishing him comfort and coziness. Wishing that roommate of yours all the comfort and coziness in her new home by May 31st at the very latest. girl I gave her a glowing recommendation. I also wrote in that she has clean record. Kept paying despite pandemic 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Tlex
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Post by Tlex on Apr 14, 2021 20:57:31 GMT -6
McBenny, thinking of your family and your BIL. Wishing him comfort and coziness. Wishing that roommate of yours all the comfort and coziness in her new home by May 31st at the very latest. girl I gave her a glowing recommendation. I also wrote in that she has clean record. Kept paying despite pandemic 🤣🤣🤣🤣 “Sure to be a long term tenant!”
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pobre
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Post by pobre on Apr 14, 2021 21:18:19 GMT -6
McBenny can you add some stuff to that list for your family that might be a nice distraction? Or even just add gift cards. Not sure if that’s possible. I’d love to do something for you and YH and kids specifically. Maybe a bottle of Moët for when your roommate moves out? 😂
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cp3
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Post by cp3 on Apr 14, 2021 21:26:28 GMT -6
I'm so sorry about your BIL McBenny. It sounds like you are taking great care of him and I'm glad he had a good today. There isn't much left on your Amazon list. Like others have asked, is there anything you can add for you and your family that will help all of you through this? You guys are doing such a great job taking care of him so let us help take care of of guys. You all are in my thoughts.
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sudsy
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Post by sudsy on Apr 15, 2021 4:38:49 GMT -6
I know so much has already been sent your way, but if there is anything you need in the coming weeks, I’m happy to help. Hang in there, girl.
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Post by readyornot on Apr 15, 2021 6:07:50 GMT -6
You carry so so much all of the time, McBenny. I hope you can find a few moments to just breath & release the stress. Sending you prayers for comfort & strength 💛
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Post by Sweetjane on Apr 15, 2021 6:15:02 GMT -6
McBenny, you want to use a cream not a lotion for him. (you probably already know this from dealing with your kids' eczema). I use Cetaphil cream that comes in a jar. it is amazing. I have very very dry skin and as soon as I slather it on me I feel so soft and my skin feels hydrated. (cream comes in jars, lotions come in pumps, USUALLY) My other favorite used to be Queen Helene cocoa butter. It comes in a tub and looks like butter it’s so thick.
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Post by ladybrienne on Apr 15, 2021 6:39:17 GMT -6
Sending you love and strength McBenny. I am here if you need anything <3
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sewfi2
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Post by sewfi2 on Apr 15, 2021 6:41:22 GMT -6
McBenny , I have a friend whose husband can only drink his nutrients. They usually get a big pack of coupons (3-5 off per 6 pack) from his doctor and I think the company has sent them some as well? Also, since your bil likes bubble baths, he might like the Dr. Teal's cbd foaming bath. It has sativa hemp oil in it (and some other essential oils) for his skin.
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🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊
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Post by 🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊 on Apr 15, 2021 8:25:38 GMT -6
McBenny can you add some stuff to that list for your family that might be a nice distraction? Or even just add gift cards. Not sure if that’s possible. I’d love to do something for you and YH and kids specifically. Maybe a bottle of Moët for when your roommate moves out? 😂 I’m going to Texas to save her room and get tipsy
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🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊
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Post by 🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊 on Apr 15, 2021 8:27:13 GMT -6
McBenny, you want to use a cream not a lotion for him. (you probably already know this from dealing with your kids' eczema). I use Cetaphil cream that comes in a jar. it is amazing. I have very very dry skin and as soon as I slather it on me I feel so soft and my skin feels hydrated. (cream comes in jars, lotions come in pumps, USUALLY) My other favorite used to be Queen Helene cocoa butter. It comes in a tub and looks like butter it’s so thick. You mean well but baby Queen Helene will leave you ashy AF.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2021 8:29:55 GMT -6
I’m just catching up but sending love and strength your way.
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Post by Sweetjane on Apr 15, 2021 8:35:59 GMT -6
My other favorite used to be Queen Helene cocoa butter. It comes in a tub and looks like butter it’s so thick. You mean well but baby Queen Helene will leave you ashy AF. What?? So sorry😬 It was good for my feet/legs years ago. Thanks for LMK
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🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊
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Post by 🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊 on Apr 15, 2021 8:37:57 GMT -6
You mean well but baby Queen Helene will leave you ashy AF. What?? So sorry😬 It was good for my feet/legs years ago. Thanks for LMK It’s ok for lighter complexion folks. But it left me ashy as all hell. It’s just like water to me. I need to send you some body butters now. Once you go body butter, you never go back.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Apr 18, 2021 10:46:09 GMT -6
Today is one week later than my initial post on this topic. I've been better this week mentally.
I know BIL is comfortable. He loves his heating blanket. He was really cold the other night and this really helped he said. He loves his new socks and says he has to rub his feet together to make sure he's in socks cause they're so comfy.
I have stocked all his drinks and snacks. Again his appetite is hit or miss. He stopped taking the Lactulose for 3 days now and MH is nervous about it. I think it's not that serious but I don't say anything.
BIL fell the other night and it scared the shit out of me. I was able to flip him over. His walker was on top of him and all. I was shaken cause he had a wife beater on and he was skin and bones and I've never seen him like that before.
I think MH is slowly seeing that his best care has been with us. It is eye opening for me to see my BIL who always sacrificed for other people be left alone during this time. If I think of it too long it pisses me off.
Thank you for anything and everything that anyone sent. As little as it is, it might have brought a smile to someone. A comfort to a concern. I kept all the little notes and I read them when I am down. I'm crying less. Oh and someone even added planner stickers for me. 🥰
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brux
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Post by brux on Apr 18, 2021 11:02:41 GMT -6
McBenny have you been able to make any progress on either getting durable medical equipment (like a bed, rolling walker chair, etc) or home health (or hospice) care in your house? I know you have more professional experience in arranging resources like that than most, but can we help shake the trees to get services and gear into your house? When my mom was dying, the local ALS chapter was very helpful in lending us equipment to use in our home. And once my mom moved to in-home hospice, we had help getting comfort meds and devices that made everyone's life easier.
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auburn
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Post by auburn on Apr 18, 2021 11:15:12 GMT -6
Just sent some stuff your way. It’s not enough, but hopefully it makes things a bit easier.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Apr 18, 2021 11:17:08 GMT -6
McBenny have you been able to make any progress on either getting durable medical equipment (like a bed, rolling walker chair, etc) or home health (or hospice) care in your house? I know you have more professional experience in arranging resources like that than most, but can we help shake the trees to get services and gear into your house? When my mom was dying, the local ALS chapter was very helpful in lending us equipment to use in our home. And once my mom moved to in-home hospice, we had help getting comfort meds and devices that made everyone's life easier. I'm navigating medicaid right now. He has it for Louisiana but not Texas. It's been a lot of conflicting information back and forth from both of them actually. He is not close enough to death at this time for hospice. He has a rolling walker now. I'm dying for BFF to be gone cause we will move him downstairs and the bathroom is much closer to the room. He can get there in 2 steps. Also no carpet. I think the carpet tripped him. I have no clue. I only heard him fall.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Apr 18, 2021 11:18:13 GMT -6
I also don't want to forget any lurkers. I have gotten so many notes saying they're lurkers. Thank you. 🥰
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AmyG
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Post by AmyG on Apr 18, 2021 11:19:34 GMT -6
I will call and tell that person to move out immediately. I bet 45 others here will too. He needs the room more than she does
Navigating move from one states medicaid to a different states medicaid sucks. They are always looking at everything differently than each other.
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AmyG
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Post by AmyG on Apr 18, 2021 11:24:14 GMT -6
I said "that person" instead of bff Cause at this point if shes being like this Is she really still bff?
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Apr 18, 2021 11:33:32 GMT -6
I said "that person" instead of bff Cause at this point if shes being like this Is she really still bff? No, she's not.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2021 11:36:52 GMT -6
McBenny have you been able to make any progress on either getting durable medical equipment (like a bed, rolling walker chair, etc) or home health (or hospice) care in your house? I know you have more professional experience in arranging resources like that than most, but can we help shake the trees to get services and gear into your house? When my mom was dying, the local ALS chapter was very helpful in lending us equipment to use in our home. And once my mom moved to in-home hospice, we had help getting comfort meds and devices that made everyone's life easier. I'm navigating medicaid right now. He has it for Louisiana but not Texas. It's been a lot of conflicting information back and forth from both of them actually. He is not close enough to death at this time for hospice. He has a rolling walker now. I'm dying for BFF to be gone cause we will move him downstairs and the bathroom is much closer to the room. He can get there in 2 steps. Also no carpet. I think the carpet tripped him. I have no clue. I only heard him fall. If you plan on him staying long term with you some things you can ask Medicaid regarding coverage are: Hospital bed Hoyer lift Adult briefs Wet wipes Gloves Medicine cups These are some of the things one of my average consumers would use
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AmyG
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Post by AmyG on Apr 18, 2021 11:44:25 GMT -6
I said "that person" instead of bff Cause at this point if shes being like this Is she really still bff? No, she's not. I would bluntly tell her That you gave her a place to live when she really needed it. And now someone else thats family really needs that bedroom and bathroom. And family needs to comr first. And if she values what you did for her, then she should move mountains to allow you the literal room to do for him. A move out by the end of this month would be the best way she could "repay" you.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Apr 18, 2021 12:05:30 GMT -6
I would bluntly tell her That you gave her a place to live when she really needed it. And now someone else thats family really needs that bedroom and bathroom. And family needs to comr first. And if she values what you did for her, then she should move mountains to allow you the literal room to do for him. A move out by the end of this month would be the best way she could "repay" you. She has been approved for one apartment and one only. Many denials. I encouraged her to stay with her other friend. She said she wants to move one time. I can't kick her out in Texas. I have to evict so I'm kind of stuck on that regard.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Apr 18, 2021 12:07:01 GMT -6
I really don't have the mental capacity to deal with her right now. I really don't. She hides in her room all day and night at this point.
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Post by PandaWatch on Apr 18, 2021 12:15:27 GMT -6
I really don't have the mental capacity to deal with her right now. I really don't. She hides in her room all day and night at this point. This is totally understandable. You are juggling so much right now—logistically, mentally, emotionally. It’s smart to focus on what you can, and ignore the rest. Hugs ❤️
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