Bookshelves
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Generally at a 2
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Post by Bookshelves on Apr 13, 2021 11:04:49 GMT -6
Keeping him and all of your family in my prayers.
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overboard
Sapphire
Dull normal
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Post by overboard on Apr 13, 2021 11:10:16 GMT -6
Is he getting enough water/drinking enough? My MIL counted on those nutritional shakes a lot.
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McBenny
Unicorn
#sickomode
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Post by McBenny on Apr 13, 2021 17:16:21 GMT -6
Today was a much better day.
He was sick as a dog all day yesterday. Vomiting and diarrhea and couldn't hold anything down.
Today he got up and took a bath early morning and put on fresh clothes. MH changed his sheets and we are washing all his stuff now.
He also has an appetite today. He was already telling me he wants fried fish later on.
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McBenny
Unicorn
#sickomode
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Post by McBenny on Apr 13, 2021 17:16:52 GMT -6
Is he getting enough water/drinking enough? My MIL counted on those nutritional shakes a lot. He came home from hospital with one ensure. I am going to ask him about them and buy him more if he wants.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2021 17:23:16 GMT -6
Is he getting enough water/drinking enough? My MIL counted on those nutritional shakes a lot. He came home from hospital with one ensure. I am going to ask him about them and buy him more if he wants. You should ask Medicaid/insurance before paying out of pocket
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McBenny
Unicorn
#sickomode
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Post by McBenny on Apr 13, 2021 17:24:16 GMT -6
He came home from hospital with one ensure. I am going to ask him about them and buy him more if he wants. You should ask Medicaid/insurance before paying out of pocket Thanks for the reminder
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loony
Emerald
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Post by loony on Apr 13, 2021 17:56:21 GMT -6
McBenny - you are an amazing human. I have been so busy that I’m just catching up on this and I can’t log into Amazon on my phone, but there are only like 2 items left! PM me if there are any specific needs that haven’t been filled and when I’m back on my computer I would love to help. Blessings to you. You give of yourself so much.
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AmyG
Ruby
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Post by AmyG on Apr 13, 2021 17:58:12 GMT -6
You should ask Medicaid/insurance before paying out of pocket Thanks for the reminder Ask them medicaid about all things he needs that are slightly medical related and they should pay. Will need to be "prescribed" by his primary dr and that brings you back to he needs medicaid thru your state and they will assign a primary doc who will need all his records
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Post by lucilleaustero on Apr 13, 2021 18:08:30 GMT -6
Is he getting enough water/drinking enough? My MIL counted on those nutritional shakes a lot. He came home from hospital with one ensure. I am going to ask him about them and buy him more if he wants. This will likely be covered by insurance with a script.
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Post by oceanblue on Apr 13, 2021 18:10:58 GMT -6
Ok another question. Forgive me my ignorance on this but his skin. It's very dry and crispy looking. Anyone recommend anything other than lotion? MH makes him bubble baths which bil loves and MH puts some of the Dr Teal bath oil in there. He said he comes out softer. Just wondering if anyone else has any secrets? This cream works great for super dry cracked hands. I don’t see any reason why you couldn’t use it elsewhere also. Its rich so a little goes a long way. It also feels soothing so that might be nice if the dry skin is painful for him. www.ulta.com/bloody-knuckles-hand-repair-balm?productId=xlsImpprod16171035For feet, this works great applied after soaking in the tub. It’s kind of greasy FYI, but makes a big difference after a couple days use. www.target.com/p/kerasal-intensive-foot-repair-ointment-1oz/-/A-24015007#lnk=sametabA thin layer of Aquaphor Healing Ointment after a bath works nice on places that tend to get dry like elbows, knees, bottoms of feet, etc.
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McBenny
Unicorn
#sickomode
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Post by McBenny on Apr 13, 2021 20:30:13 GMT -6
His skin even looks better today. I don't even know. He looked like shit yesterday. Today he has an appetite too. Now he's tucked into bed for the night and watching a movie.
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McBenny
Unicorn
#sickomode
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Post by McBenny on Apr 13, 2021 20:38:37 GMT -6
when she texted me her concerns and issues I told her it had nothing to do with us. She needs to keep her deadline. I brought up she can stay with her other friend. The one she said is her angel on earth. I cannot believe this woman has not vacated her room for a dying man. Just. Wow. back to this topic, I really done have the mental capacity to deal with her right now. I really can't. I just repeat may 31 and I don't say much else.
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klw
Opal
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Post by klw on Apr 13, 2021 21:20:33 GMT -6
Today was a much better day. He was sick as a dog all day yesterday. Vomiting and diarrhea and couldn't hold anything down. Today he got up and took a bath early morning and put on fresh clothes. MH changed his sheets and we are washing all his stuff now. He also has an appetite today. He was already telling me he wants fried fish later on. Do you think certain foods could be giving him the vomiting and diarrhea? My aunt would get sick if she ate real fatty or fried foods after she was real sick. She had to start bland and work up to them
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McBenny
Unicorn
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Post by McBenny on Apr 13, 2021 22:23:56 GMT -6
Today was a much better day. He was sick as a dog all day yesterday. Vomiting and diarrhea and couldn't hold anything down. Today he got up and took a bath early morning and put on fresh clothes. MH changed his sheets and we are washing all his stuff now. He also has an appetite today. He was already telling me he wants fried fish later on. Do you think certain foods could be giving him the vomiting and diarrhea? My aunt would get sick if she ate real fatty or fried foods after she was real sick. She had to start bland and work up to them No. There are days he eats the same thing and he's fine and he's sick. He had pancreatitis so who knows really. He feels it's the meds but they told MH he needs them for his liver. Today he ate more things and heavier and was not sick. Yesterday he didn't eat anything and was still sick. It's a crap shoot.
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gabbi
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Post by gabbi on Apr 13, 2021 23:22:10 GMT -6
Do you think certain foods could be giving him the vomiting and diarrhea? My aunt would get sick if she ate real fatty or fried foods after she was real sick. She had to start bland and work up to them No. There are days he eats the same thing and he's fine and he's sick. He had pancreatitis so who knows really. He feels it's the meds but they told MH he needs them for his liver. Today he ate more things and heavier and was not sick. Yesterday he didn't eat anything and was still sick. It's a crap shoot. Is he on lactulose for his Hepatic encephalopathy? That med makes you poop a ton to get rid of the toxins. Liver failure is horrible. You are such a good person for being there for him.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2021 4:34:17 GMT -6
Do you think certain foods could be giving him the vomiting and diarrhea? My aunt would get sick if she ate real fatty or fried foods after she was real sick. She had to start bland and work up to them No. There are days he eats the same thing and he's fine and he's sick. He had pancreatitis so who knows really. He feels it's the meds but they told MH he needs them for his liver. Today he ate more things and heavier and was not sick. Yesterday he didn't eat anything and was still sick. It's a crap shoot. Since the pancreas is part of the digestive system, I think that can be normal. The pancreas helps break things down and when it is failing I would think it can cause major digestive issues. Google says pancreatitis can lead to malnutrition, diarrhea, and weight loss. I wanted to Google since you said that because I know gall bladder issues can cause the same thing. But of course, disclaimer, not a doctor. But with my lack of medical degree, I bet it's his pancreas causing that.
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Dr. Grey
Amethyst
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Post by Dr. Grey on Apr 14, 2021 6:47:47 GMT -6
McBenny, I didn’t want to read and not comment. I don’t have any advice that hasn’t been given. Fyi, there isn’t much left on the wishlist if you can think of anything that y’all or your BIL need to add to it. Your family is in my thoughts.
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McBenny
Unicorn
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Post by McBenny on Apr 14, 2021 7:40:58 GMT -6
No. There are days he eats the same thing and he's fine and he's sick. He had pancreatitis so who knows really. He feels it's the meds but they told MH he needs them for his liver. Today he ate more things and heavier and was not sick. Yesterday he didn't eat anything and was still sick. It's a crap shoot. Is he on lactulose for his Hepatic encephalopathy? That med makes you poop a ton to get rid of the toxins. Liver failure is horrible. You are such a good person for being there for him. yes that's it. He hated it
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Post by greykitty on Apr 14, 2021 10:39:20 GMT -6
McBenny, Amazon tells me: Your package was left near the front door or porch. Hope the two sets arrived safely, and thank you for letting me participate. Please let me know if there are any issues and I'll take it up with Amazon. Thanks again.
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Post by peppapig on Apr 14, 2021 12:01:43 GMT -6
My heart hurts to read about the burdens and responsibilities you ladies are facing. The fact that you carry this, and still are the heart and soul of your families is truly a testament to your strength and bad-assness. I hope that - in showing patience and grace to others - you find remember to show some to yourself. Hugs to you, ladies. ETA: I'm sorry, this was meant for the Heavy Topics thread...I'll post in there, too. McBenny, I'm sorry you are going through this.
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Pizzaslut
Ruby
*it’s a joke. get some hobbies.
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Post by Pizzaslut on Apr 14, 2021 12:19:28 GMT -6
McBenny I'm sorry you are going through this and I'm sorry for your H and his brother. Is there anything more you need right now? Clothes, supplies, someone to come kick your roommate's ass? I have my Amazon Prime ready.
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McBenny
Unicorn
#sickomode
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Post by McBenny on Apr 14, 2021 20:13:58 GMT -6
Y'all thank you so much. It's amazing what some warm socks that's his does to the spirit. He loves the foot warmer. The blanket came today but he hasn't used it yet.
All the bedding from yesterday has to be washed now but I have one of those washable bed pads. Fresh sheets on there.
He is on better spirits. He was uncomfortable at first that money was spent on him. He told MH, "I don't know why your wife buying this stuff. I don't have any money." I told him, "don't worry about me BIL. If I didn't have it to spend I wouldn't have bought it." so he dropped that and just says thank you and smiles.
He's warm and toasty and comfy he says.
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Post by babybean on Apr 14, 2021 20:18:39 GMT -6
McBenny I'm sorry you are going through this and I'm sorry for your H and his brother. Is there anything more you need right now? Clothes, supplies, someone to come kick your roommate's ass? I have my Amazon Prime ready. I like that we all want to get together to beat up and toss out the roommate.
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McBenny
Unicorn
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Post by McBenny on Apr 14, 2021 20:20:05 GMT -6
Also based on the tips I got here from others. We're not doing bare skin or anything with the warmers. Socks on in the foot warmer and the heating blanket we will just put on top of something as needed.
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McBenny
Unicorn
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Post by McBenny on Apr 14, 2021 20:24:47 GMT -6
Today he has an appetite and he asked for fried fish. He gave today a good day rating.
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Post by miawallace on Apr 14, 2021 20:27:48 GMT -6
I’m so late. It’s been a week for me. Woof. But I’m sorry to hear about your brother in law. Thank you for setting up that list so we can help his needs and make things easier for you guys too.
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McBenny
Unicorn
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Post by McBenny on Apr 14, 2021 20:34:47 GMT -6
Thank you to some lurkers as well who sent notes and messages and well wishes. It means a lot. It really does.
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McBenny
Unicorn
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Post by McBenny on Apr 14, 2021 20:36:54 GMT -6
I don't want my BIL to be stressed about dying. I feel less stressed about all the things he doesn't have and that he needs. You all made that happen. I don't have the words to express how much that means to me. I want him to not worry and just watch his movies and feel safe and loved here. He deserves it. Thank you all again.
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McBenny
Unicorn
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Post by McBenny on Apr 14, 2021 20:39:35 GMT -6
I also learned (from you all) there is no getting this wrong on my side of it. I was flipping out Sunday worried about that. We are all doing our best and that's all we can do. ❤️
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brux
Diamond
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Post by brux on Apr 14, 2021 20:47:30 GMT -6
Death and dying is hard and it’s brand new to each person when it comes.
You’re doing so much good for your BIL. Your H is doing so much good for his brother. And your kids are learning what love really looks like.
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